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writes:Hello seeking a little advise.. We meet six months ago via internet finally met in person with our children spent a week together. Because of the kids we kept our distance neither one of us telling of our feelings. I've hinted that I'm interested very discreet... We all got along as if you'd think we were actually a family. I was hugged three nights upon going to our separate rooms. When it came time for departing I was hugged and kissed on my cheek. I haven't a clue what this means. I'm unsure what to think. I know the man is a gentleman holding open doors pushing in my chair watching to see where I was among the crowds. And his smiling.. I think there's something just unsure. Theres distance between us but that wouldn't be an issue.. Just unsure of the last tight embrace and kiss on the cheek. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnonymous thanks for the input the children as in his two to my one... we were fine the vacation was in an extreme tourist area hotels where not close to one another we met each day at a certain times never the same and I took a cab upon my return to a different hotel only to wait awhile to hail another cab to my final destination. I wasn't born yesterday. The kids were introduced as we were friends nothing more nothing less. Correct people lie online however we've Skype, FaceTime, and spoke on the phone when time was conducive being deployed makes things complicated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie
Thank you for the input little difficult having met earlier being deployed. Since leave was approved we both agreed to meet. For now the distance unfortunately can't be controlled. As far as future distance will not be a complication. I stepped back because of the younger child involved considering the children haven't seen the father since November. I wanted quality time for them as well. We both have time. Hence the hinting.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 April 2017):
 WAY WAY too soon to include the kids in this courtship. Seriously. So you "talked" for 6 months online... THAT doesn't mean you know each other. It is not always easy to see the REAL person in written stuff whereas in person? You can get a much better "picture".
Do you live far from each other? Is that one of the issues as to why you haven't spent time together before?
If you do live far from each other... Is there a REAL chance that either of you want/can move?
If you can SPEND a week with this man and his KIDS why can't you talk to him about your feelings, hopes, and expectation?
Hinting is NOT useful in these situations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): So you went on a week's vacation with someone who you really only know from the internet and you brought your kids with you? Read that sentence. Does that really sound smart? You are very lucky that you and your kids are ok. Who cares what his feelings are I am more concerned about you and your kids safety.People lie online all the time.If you date someone your kids should not meet them for at least a year. Kids get attached what if you break up.That is why you wait a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDenizen
Via internet yes dating site.. Yes, I really do like the man and enjoy his company and the children as well. It would be hard to ask him how he sees things developing because as of now he's active duty I'm concerned adding more stress into his life. The tight embrace and kiss on the cheek has me questioning his feelings.. Thank you for your questions and input it's appreciated..
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (6 April 2017):
 When you say you met via internet, was that a dating site? You then say you spent a week together. That all looks like a prelude to something.
Perhaps you need to ask him how he sees things developing between you if indeed he does. That is of course if you want them to. You haven't really come clean about your feelings. Do you really like him or are you not sure?
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