My FWB says that he's not cheating on his girlfriend with me because apparently I'm not a service , I'm just a girl who he likes in lust

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am 19 years of age and now is in an affair with a man who is 29 who has a girlfriend he has been dating for 8 years. He says shes his best friend, with her he has a so called life , clean clothes to wear. But he is unsure if he wants/or is going to end up marrying her. He addmitts he likes me in the lustful ways. He says its only sex between us , that I must keep in mind at the end of the day he will go back to his girlfriend. However , he spends time to talk to me , shares things with me , sees me as a friend , cares , hold my hand , he treats me right apart from the face he is already in a relationship. I think its funny what we have now , we so call it ; friends with benefits , special friends as we don't just use each other for sex. I'm not and don't want to be a boyfriend stealer however deep down I know I want him all to myself. He says in his dictionary he has never cheated on his current girlfriend , (e.g ; paying for a service is not included as cheating) despite that he has mentioned paying me so there will be no complications. But now he is cheating on his gf , I'm not a service , I'm a girl who he likes in lust. Who he cares for and see as a friend , or is this all just guilt ? We enjoy each other companies , but at the end of the day he goes home to his girlfriend. If I tried .. Tried , I feel he will fall for me , but should I ? I hear about if he can do it with me , he can do it with someone else , but we're at the point that we are so open he can tell me he wants to have sex with another chick while I don't really mind ? I feel lost , confused or am I just crazy ?

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