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writes:me and my girlfriend have been together for a couple of weeks and today, she undid my trousers but i wasn't ready. i've never had a sexual experince and i panicked. i got scared she'd judge my penis when it was small. i know it's a superficial thought but i stopped. we love each other very much. i need some confidence. :s my cock is 6 inches when erect and 3 when not.
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 Ah this is the problem alot of people have, 6 inches is the average size, so dont worry there. Only thing i can say is if your worried about it when its not erect (like i am :P) is make sure you get really turned on before any clothes come off, so your already erect, or atleast semi-erect, then theres no problem, thats what i do, easy enough to do, and you will enjoy the fooling around fully clothed before hand...obviously. Good luck and play safe.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (22 August 2007):
 Hi,
You may not like to hear this, but you are still so young, being uncomfortable in your first experience might be trying to tell you to slow down. Make sure that you know EVERYTHING about sexually transmitted disease, and how to prevent pregnancy before you go ahead. I have to point out to you too, that you can only lose your virginity once, are you really in the right place in time with this girl, is she the one for you? I'm not asking if you are going to marry her, but Would you marry if you were 25? Is that how you feel about her? What would you do if she were to become pregnant? Can you picture her as the mother of your children? Once your little swimmers are out there, regardless of condoms and the pill, they could result in a baby. Once they result in a baby, you might not have any say in whether or not that pregnancy results in a child. If any of this makes you nervous, it should. Sex is a big step. When you are ready, don't worry about your penis size. You have a perfectly normal penis size. I love what my husband said after reading "Penthouse Forum" - Where are these guys measuring from, 6 inches behind their butt?". Yes, there are penises of other lengths - but the average size IS - 6 inches. To be very frank, women care more about how a man touches them, how good they are with their hands and their lips. Most women do not have an orgasm by penis alone. These are all things that will come with time, practice and a patience and TRUSTED Lover. I am so happy that I can look back at my first kiss and my first sexual exerience as truly positive experiences. Those experiences are the beginning of your sex life. Don't be in such a hurry if it doesn't feel right.
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reader, penta  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Sometimes it can be sexy for a man to grow in your hand, knowing you did that to him [grin]. When she feels it soft she's not going to be thinking size, she's going to be thinking "how can I get this hard?" with a smile on her face. And you're a nice size, so don't worry. Knowing how to use it is much more important.
And don't be in such a hurry to know how to use it. A lot of the fun is in the learning. No one expects their partner to know everything, especially at your age.
The best relationships are ones where you and she can both ask, "how does this feel? Over to the left? Slower?" As long as there is fun and laughter involved, and you stop if someone says "ow," then you're going to enjoy the journey. Don't worry about getting there.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (21 August 2007):
 The first time is always scary hun. If you aren't ready for the "sex" part yet then tell your girlfriend. You can always build up some confidence between you with oral sex for a while first. I wouldn't worry about the size you are. It's how you use it that counts, and all you need is a bit of practise.
Just remember you are under age and your girlfriend may be aswell. Also have Safe Sex! There are too many teens having unsafe/unprotected sex. You can get STIs from oral sex aswell. :)
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