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writes:i am in a relationship with my 3rd cousin, am i incest? if i had a kid would it have a birth defect? also if im pregnant how should i tell our family?
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reader, dolla18  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Hi, no in my opinion it's not incest if it's with a cousin. (I myself am in a relationship with my 1st cousin, so i know how you feel i truly do) an in my opinion i think with it being your 3rd cousin then there is not much of a chance that it will affect any child you have, but if you are worried then seek help from your GP.
Good luck anonymous I hope it works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): i think in some states it's legal to marry your cousins.
to the person who is ranting about how wrong it is to get involved with any relative, i think you should be a little more open minded. some relatives are related soley by marriage you know. and in some cases the blood line stretches pretty far between two people. i myself find my 3rd cousins to be VERY attractive and i would date one of them at the drop of the hat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): 3rd cousin is pretty far out there. About the only thing to worry about is if you have a genetic defect in your family. The odds of it manifesting are higher in an incestous situation, might be good to have a genetic screening before having children, or you could adopt!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Well... A relationship with any relative is just not acceptable. There are many people in this world for you to love and be loved. DONT DO IT! IT IS WRONG! Third, Fourth.. it really dont matter. You are still related by blood, blood dont get thinner! As for birth defects, I'm no doctor but I have seen first hand the problems incest children face. Why do that to a child? Is'nt it hard enough just being a kid in our world today? Birth defects can happen to anyone at anytime for any reason, but why push it- Play with fire and you will eventually get burned!
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reader, thedavies +, writes (13 July 2007):
Ist cousins can marry in the UK but what the family would think of it I don't know, I would not go with my first cousin, 3rd deffo, so there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. good luck sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): I am having a relationship with my third cousin, Heidi is a wpc, and as such is very responsible, in my view we are just barley related, the fact is I have never loved anyone more than I love her, we have the same ambitions, morals and dreams and get on like a house on fire. Our family don't know as yet apart for her sister and she is just happy to see us so happy.Damn what people think is you want it to work it will work, it might be a shock to your family depending on how close your family are, but "THEY WILL GET USED TO THE IDEA" trust me, face you fears and live your dreams.Love and happieness to you.G x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I dont think it it incestuous. I think in a way it makes more sense to marry cousins as you are probably gonna have similar foundations and ways of doing things- more common goals. I'd love my child to marry my sis's kid as they are such a smart and intelligent being, I know they are respectful and have been raised right. And thats 1st cousins, so i definately see nothing wrong with 3rd cousins. And like Frank Kermit said anyone can have a disabled child I know people who have kids for complete strangers and they still had disabled kid. Love is love- so good luck to you and I really hope your baby is ok and that your family come round to the idea. Good luck and be blessed.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 In some parts of the world the closest relative you can marry is a first cousin. As a 3rd cousin, there does not seem to be an issue for law.
There IS a higher chance for birth defects. When I did my family tree, I found that birth defects happened more often in the family branches where cousins, and other distant relatives married.
Basically, would you be the first cousins to be married in your respective bloodlines? If so, you should be safer than 1st cousins.
Look at your current bloodlines to find common illnesses that are herititary. That will give you and idea of what to look out for as a minimum.
But you should also know that even with the increased risk, you could still end up having a child with an illness that has nothing to do with your bloodlines (just like everyone else that takes the risk of having children).
If you two have enough love and committment to make it work, go for it.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): nope its legal and its far back enough that i highly doubt weather anything would happen to the kid
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (29 June 2007):
Hi! If Adam and Eve's children married each other and they did Did God call it sin? NO,NO,No. This same God said "I change not". So if it wasn't a sin against God then, It isn't now. So no matter what the Law or people say, I for one will go by God's Word. Go to yahoo.com CNN.com-FindLaw Forum It should give you some helpful Info. I doubt that your child would have any birth defects,Being as he's your third cousin, As for your parents, Don't know what kind of mind-set they have. But me,If you were my daughter, I would be over joyed. And to Hell with what others might say. I can see you are in love, Hope you are PG, and wish you both all of the best. Come to think of it, We are not even sure that Adam didn't have children by his own children. And being as God does allow for a man to have more than one wife. So even if Adam took one, or more, of his daughters to wife. He wouldn't of been in sin anymore than you or your cousin will be if you marry.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I don't know aboout the States but over here you can marry your cousin legally. Its down to you and your 3rd cousin if you see it as incest.
The easiest way to tell your family your pregnant is to sit your mum and dad down first alone and tell them. You can tell others later but chat it through with your parents first :)
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