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writes:A couple of months ago, my Mum lost her job, and we had to move into a flat, which only has 2 rooms. This means I'm now sharing a room with my sister whos a year younger than me. We each have a bed, but she will only sleep in mine, and it's really uncomfortable. I asked her to go back to her bed, but she got really upset, so I let her stay in mine. I don't want to get her in trouble, because she's my little sister, but I don't have any privacy. I don't know how to explain it to her, and if I tell my mum she might get in trouble. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 July 2010):
You should be proud that she wants to stay in your bed. WHY???
That means she loves you, trust you to protect her in a place where she feels afraid. Most brothers and sisters don't want to be in the same room, much less the same bed.
She didn't go to your mom to feel safe, she came to you. That says a lot.
Wait for her to fall asleep, then go to her bed. Or, go to her bed first, and let her fall asleep, then move back to yours.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (21 July 2010):
 You didn't mention how old she is. But I'm guessing whatever her age is, she is needing some nurturing. Chldren frequenly feel the trauma going on around; the loss of your mother's job and the change in living arrangments; it manifests itself in the form of fear. Right now, she seems to be afraid to sleep in her own bed. This is typical of kids who feel a little traumatized. So she is reaching out to the one person she feels the closest to - you. She just needs a little comfort. Why not read her a bedtime story, or spend some time talking to her about things that don't scare her. Like a summer when you guys did something fun. Give her something happy to think about so she will feel calm and centered. Once she begins to feel safe in the new flat she may eventually be strong enough to return to her own bed.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Why might your sister get in trouble over this? Maybe you need to tell your sister to go sleep in her own bed even if she gets upset. Stand on your grounds and don't let your sisters puppy eyes get to you.
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reader, Simi813  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 well..two ways either you talk to her about this or sleep on the couch for few days till shes okay with sleeping alone on her bed...or tell your mom there is no big issue after all brothers can do that right? and more over its for her own good..
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reader, ruby buttons +, writes (21 July 2010):
 If you are having difficutly telling your sister how you feel tell your mum that you need your privacy.
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