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I don't know how to handle my step-dad without hurting anyone?

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Question - (10 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 9 September 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I dont know what to do, my step dad has just told me he has feelings for me.

I have no feeling for him, apart from him being my step dad .

What do i do , i dont want to tell my mum. She is in love with him.

I love her and dont want to hurt her by telling her. What do i do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009):

Say no - immediatley, and (my advice..), if you have a good relationship with her - TELL GRANDMA! She would be a real asset and support so you don't have to shoulder this yourself. She'll help you come to the right choice.

Also, don't fret about your mum. Once she processes what has happened (everyone needs time after a shock) she'll still love you and more than likely realise what a *** he is.

Good luck, and I hope you work this out. Hope my advice helps.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009):

i think you will hurt your mum even more by not telling her. she has invested so much in this man, hasn't she, so if he doesn't want her he should tell her.

i also think your step dad has an audacity to think he can have sex with his wife and her daughter , don't you think. he has no respect for you or even your mum. i think you both will be better of without him. please do not do anything with him. please keep your dignity and your respect and well done on loving your mum enough to know the difference between right and wrong. this man will destroy you and your mum if you let him continue in your lives. please put a stop to him. NOW. do not let him use you or your mum, no matter how "good"he seems. he overstepped the mark with you and he needs to be put in his place. by your mum.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009):

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Tell your mom. He is such a creep for doing this to both of you.

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A female reader, Char02 United States +, writes (10 August 2009):

Definitely tell your mother. You think that you would be hurting her by telling her, but he's hurting her by coming on to you, his wife's daughter. How long has he been your step-father?

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A female reader, Sweet-thing United Kingdom +, writes (10 August 2009):

Sweet-thing agony auntI just have one thing to say about this, Eeeewwww! You have to tell your Mom. It's the only way to keep things under control and make him accountable!!

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