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writes:I have been married since 1997, have two girls age 10 and 8 and I have lost my libido for what seems like years. My husband has given up trying to have sex after being brushed off so many times. Anyone with advice or has the same problem? Please help?
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reader, kathy255  +, writes (26 September 2009):
I agree with sweet thing, but might I add if it is not emotional it may be physical. Are you on any medications some have side effects that cause loss of libido. Talk to your ob/gyn about it he can help if it is a physical problem. Also, weight gain can contribute to it. If you have gained some weight exercise can will kill two birds it helps your sex drive just exercising plus with weight loss you feel better and may want to do more with your husband.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (26 September 2009):
 When a woman loses interest in sex, I always think you should ask yourself these questions:
1. Do you still love him?
2. Do you find him attractive (not to be confused with love, or comfort)
3. Are you depressed for any reason?
once you know the answer to those questions, you will be able to pinpoint what's really going on and get help. Find a good therapist and talk to her about what the underlying problem really is. Good luck.
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reader, samurai girl +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Yes, I am going through the same thing. Are you depressed? Are you menopausal? Have you been checked by a gynecologist? Do you have any resentments toward your husband? If it's not physical, then it's psychological. Mine was and I got some meds (which killed my libido even more) but it put me in the frame of mind to work on my relationship problems, which then allowed me to entertain the idea of (and ultimately engage in) sex with my partner.If you don't address this, your husband will cheat and your physical intimacy, which DOES feed your emotional intimacy, will die forever.Get thee to the doctor. Good luck.
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