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writes:Hi i'm just your average guy and i am lucky enough to have an awesomely hot girlfriend. She is 23, a bit younger than me and we have been together for 18 months. Just recently we decided to go to the nude beach together. It was really beautiful and it was the first time we have been but i'm wondering what the etiquette is meant to be for a place like that?We found a nice spot and got undressed completely and went for a swim and played around with our ball. We then went in and put cream on each other etc and just lay in the sun. However, the next time we went for a swim, this old guy came in next to us and started a conversation, which was fine. He was really nice but then he wanted to join in our ball game and my girlfriend said ok. He was about 55 but in good shape and we threw the ball around with him and my gf at one end and me at the other. Gradually they came more playful and soon they were play-wrestling each other for the ball. This finished with me taking the ball and leaving the water and the two of them continuing swimming. Then he left and my gf came back and we kept tanning. Is this just how it is at the nude beach??? Reply to this Question |
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reader, q1605  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 I am with satindesire. He was invading her space and by proxy invading yours. Not to say i would go off on him, just be very direct in an indirect way. I guess passive aggressive.
A guy like this will push just this side of the boundary and draw you off side. He won't go far enough that you can make a stand and get pissed, which allows him to act offended if you get offended. Your girlfriend could have discouraged this but didn't. Did you ask her about it later. I would and as benignly as possible tell her it made you uncomfortable.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (5 May 2009):
 The only nude beach I know about is called Zipolite, in southern Mexico. I've never participated, but I have the feeling that there are boundaries, no touching. There's nothing wrong with nude beaches, I think people go there to enjoy the novelty rather than entice someone. I'm not sure. Touching would make me really uncomfortable, though.
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reader, TalkingHelps  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Sounds like he fancied your girlfriend
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (24 April 2009):
 I have been to several nude beaches and also nudist resorts and clubs and I have to concur with satindesire, touching is discouraged. Because we are nude and therefore more vulnerable touching is a big no-no. In fact, at one local resort a person was banned for life just for putting his arm around a woman who did not want the physical contact. Nudists are among the friendliest people on earth. It is very common for total strangers to come over and talk to you, want to play a game with you and be generally friendly. But to touch? No way! Because of the general publics misconception that nudity means sex and that we are all a bunch of sexual miscreants most nudists are very careful about following the rules. No staring. No touching. Always sit on a towel. Be courteous and polite. I am sorry you had this bad experience and I hope it does not taint you from trying nudism again.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (24 April 2009):
 I've been to various nude beaches and I've never had anyone try and make any kind of physical contact with me without permission.
Next time, if it bugs either of you, speak up.
Nude beaches are vastly different from clothed beaches, but physical contact is really discouraged, on most beaches, because it's just not polite to touch a naked or semi-naked person without permission.
It's totally normal for people to walk up and talk to you, the people at nude beaches are usually VERY friendly and sweet folks and if you go there regularly, you can make some truly awesome friends. Just make sure that if anyone tries to touch you or your girl and you're not comfortable, you speak up and say so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): if everyone had clothes on and he was acting that way aroud your girl, would it have been any less annoying. I say no. He was putting the moves on your girl. You should be upset.
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