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anonymous
writes:Are some people meant to be alone and unloved like me? I really do feel the old maid vibe. I have never had boyfriend not even for a week and I never been kissed either. Girls my age are married. Guys can get married to girls even if he knows her for a year.That won't be me I'll be single forver. I have never been kissed let alone a boyfreind, I figure any guy I like is way out of my league. Even a plain boring guy wouldn't ask me out, I am that terible.I do like guys but they DON'T LIKE ME THAT WAY NO MATTER THE EFFORT, I really feel I was meant to be an old single woman sitting in her rocking chair with grey hair and shawl beside the fire .Guys want to have very high standards of beauty and youth they want. Guys are like spoilt kids nothing keeps them happy.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I think that it would help you to have someone to talk to about this. I think that talking to a pastor or priest would do you good. We want to help but perhaps a website isn't the answer. There is always another option however.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): First of all... there is more than one type of man, so stop bloody generalising all of us as assholes.
Second of all... instead of wondering what it is aboyt a guy that makes you unattractive or just not likeable enough to date, how about you look within yourself and figure out the answer as to why you NEED to care what anyone thinks of you.
The sooner you do some soul-searching and learn that confidence is a deal-breaker, far more than looks... otherwise guys like Verne Troyer would NEVER get laid.
Flynn 24
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 You know what? If you are posting this question a million times, you must be really, really, really lonely. This repetitive posting is just another symptom of your "perpetually unloved" syndrome. Maybe this is the most exciting thing happening in your life - and it kind of sounds like it is.
When you get far enough into a funk, you give up hope for ever finding any shred of happiness. You get so used to being alone and depressed, it becomes a skill - it's what you're good at doing. Being miserable and alone.
If you really want to help yourself, next time you get the urge to post this again, do something else. Anything else. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just trying to encourage you to do something different in your life. Go to the zoo - who cares if you're by yourself? You won't find happiness or anyone who wants to be around you without being happy by yourself first. People are drawn to positivity. Who the heck wants to be dragged down by an eternal pessimist?
I feel for you, sister, I really do. But nobody here is going to make you feel any better about yourself, Dear Cupid does not replace a broken social life. You need to get out of the house. Force yourself. Join a book club or a class at community college. Only you can get your butt in gear and back in the social scene. You won't find happiness inside of your den in front of the computer.
Alright, I did my best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Babes, the aunts have suggested you go to your doctor, they have asked you to change your appearance, your life, they have asked you to do positive things to help yourself. They know your unhappy, but they can't help, if you want to be happy then you have to do something to help yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): well shower of mugs .you nothing about my life so don,t go juding me.and i am not ranting.you are.know its all
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): fair enough !!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 January 2009):
 That's just it, she isn't asking for help, she is just ranting about this, she never responds to the advice just reposts the rant over and over again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Can I just ask why you aunts are being so nasty to someone thats asking for help??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Sitting in a rocking chair in a shawl by the fire? In Australia? Are you kidding?
Same question yesterday, and probably the day before and the day before that.
Yep, she's baackkk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Is this the same lady...?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 I think people who believe they are meant to be alone and unloved will be just that.
I look over at my guy from time to time, and wonder how I wound up with such a generous, caring and basically great guy. I think it was because I try to be those things too.
And honey, I did myself the disservice of not keeping myself fit and healthy and got heavy. Now I'm back fighting fit and determined not to let that happen again.
Replace negativity with positive thoughts. Go do some yoga, it's wonderfully centering. Cut out the junk food, it's an assault on your body. Get the endorphins going, they are the best natural high. I get mine through exercise and chocolate. And I open my heart to people as well.
Stop the sweeping generalizations about people, especially guys. You'll never get anywhere if you've already made up your mind about how people are thinking.
Take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 January 2009):
She's baacckkk....
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