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41-50,
*aramelicious
writes:Why my boyfriend like me on top during our sex? He is lacking of effort as to do some preliminaries not just jump into fucking. He does not want to kiss me all over my body specially my neck and back. I mean, he just touches my ears, neck, and run his fingers at my back but no kissing involved. We are living together and I don't get it. First, he will touch me, then, he wanted me to touch his penis and suck it. Finally, me on top. I feel bored because he cums quickly like 3-5 minutes??? Has anyone enjoy that kind of sex? if you're gonna ask me I am not enjoying it... I end up masturbating in the toilet afterwards lols. Please help. What should I do to feel the excitement and pleasure of sex.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 You suck him, but he doesn't eat you? That's not fair. You ride him cowgirl, but he won't ride you missionary or doggy? That's not fair. You keep going until he climaxes, but he doesn't make sure you climax? That's not fair.
If he loves you, he will care about your pleasure and satisfaction. Real love doesn't mean taking pleasure, it means sacrificing in order to make your partner happy. You've been giving up your needs to keep him happy, but now it's his turn. Talk to him, ask him to eat you, finger you, give you foreplay even without expecting ANYthing in return for his efforts, just because it makes you happy and it can be fun for him to serve. (And trust me, there is NOTHING in this world that gets me more turned on than watching the girl I'm with as she orgasms.)
If he simply will not spend any more time with you than is absolutely necessary to get his own climax, cut him off. It's clearly not doing anything for you, so if he doesn't care if you finish, why should you be available for him? It's a two way street.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 I agree with CaringGuy.You need to have a conversation with him. Tell him what you like and what you want. Explain that you are getting bored and want to shake things up.Ensure that you are not accusatory. Be matter of fact. And be open to hearing his input on how to improve things as well. This will encourage greater emotional intimacy in additon to improving your sexual chemistry.Then, practice makes perfect! ;-)Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2009):
You're a woman! Not his toy to play with. Tell him that you would like him to spend time on your body. There is no way you will enjoy sex unless he works hard. Get him him to work hard! You never know, he might even enjoy it! Have fun. xx
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