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female
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anonymous
writes:I had a very nice date last Friday with a man I met online. He bought my dinner, so I texted him the next day (Saturday) to say thank you and that I had a great time. In his text reply, he said we should get together again soon and after exchanging a couple more messages he suggested next Saturday. I agreed to Saturday, but it was getting late and I had to say goodnight (via text) before we agreed on a time and place. Should I call him to follow up on our conversation, since I'm the one who ended it? Should I wait to hear from him? I don't want to play games but I also don't want to seem too forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Wait for him to call. It could be either of you but most men like to do the chasing.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (15 September 2009):
 wait for him to call or you may start a pattern. If he really likes you he'll call. End of story. good luck.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 Oh - the other writers are right. It's only Monday. (Where did my internal calendar go?)
In this case I would just wait. Your "Thank you text" was fine, but no other contact from you until you hear from him.
If you don't hear from him by Thursday or Friday, make other plans.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 September 2009):
 If you agreed to meet him on Saturday, I'd wait for him to contact you, it's only Monday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): Definitely wait for his call! You already contacted him too quickly afterward. Don't be impatient. If there is any chance of having him, don't push him.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (14 September 2009):
There is nothing wrong with confirming a possible date.
Be friendly and light. You might need to know if you are free to accept an invitation to make other plans with your girlfriends.
If he doesn't respond by a reasonable time, go ahead and make plans. He can't expect an exciting and busy woman, such as you, to be on hold forever. Next time he will be sure to catch you before another offer comes.
;-)
Enjoy!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 September 2009):
 Call him up casually, start by saying you're sorry for having to go like that but it was just so late at night, then say that you're still interested in seeing him Saturday... where and when?It you don't sound like you're worried or anxious, just act casual and friendly, he'll understand. But if you wait for him to call, there's a chance that he might think you were using sleep as an excuse to dodge him. He may or may not call. And switching from texting to calling shouldn't be a problem if you act like it's nothing big.And on behalf of men everywhere, if you don't call him, he's going to be second-guessing himself anyway, unsure if you're really interested in him, so this will let him know gently that you still want that second date.
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