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writes:Ok so my boyfriend has asked me to stay over at his, because he works late and likes to have a drink, but doesnt want to have to drive me home. Im very excited, but also a little worried. I dont know if hes expecting sex (but he wont be getting it!) But I expect we will sleep in the same bed. Also what do I bring?? I cant take a massive bag like I would for a girly sleepover, just some clothes, pj's and make up in a handbag so it looks discreet?Anything else I should know? I dont wanna do something stupid like hit him whilst im asleep :S it happens!Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone it was amazing :)
Although sleeping with someone does take some getting used too. Its a bit hot!
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (17 September 2009):
 "Im just worried about how I look in the morning!"
Speaking as a male, and sharing the opinion of several male friends: Girls look AMAZING in the morning. That crazy unbrushed hair, total lack of makeup, but naturally glowing skin in the morning... It's about the most attractive a girl gets, especially after having held her the night before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
we have been together just over 3 months now! Hes a little older than me, so more experienced and stuff, but im defo not sleeping with him until im ready.
Also I kinda have to stay over at his, because he works silly hours most days, and im at school, so the best time to see him is if he picks me up at 10.30, and then if he wants a beer or something at his house I feel bad if he needs to take me home and cant drink plus its late. (I cant drive yet!) We slept together in a tent... I guess thats a little different and there were others there, but still its not bad :)
Im just worried about how I look in the morning!
Thanks everyone!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (16 September 2009):
I just want to say, I'm so happy to hear that you're not planning to give him sex so easily!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Dont worry dear,
be normal and relax dont be over excited then everything will fall into place.
have a nice time ahead.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 September 2009):
 Well it is worth just having a chat with him, maybe over the phone or when you get round to his about sex and explain that you are not sure how he feels but you want to wait for whatever reason. It is best to talk to him before you do actually get in bed together because if he tries it on with you then you will be annoyed he is trying to take advantage of you and he will think you are rejecting him, so talking to him before will avoid any akwardness. If he loves you he will respect your decision to wait and when you do sleep in the same bed together (I'm pretty sure you will) then he will respect your boundaries and it will just be a nice evening.
As for what you should take - just take the minimum essentials in a big (ish) handbag. Take face wipes to take your make-up off, toothbrush etc, anything you need for your hair, change of underwear...all the usual stuff really. Your boyfriend wont really care what you take round - as long as you dont leave it there after you have left. He will prefer you to bring everything you need rather than you asking him "have you got this, have you got that". As for PJ's - they take up a bit of room so I would normally just take a t-shirt or PJ top and sleep in that with my underwear. That way you are not being overly sexy and your not having to carry too much stuff.
You seem to be over-thinking this, you are just staying at his for one night, there isnt really anything that can go wrong. You cant control yourself in your sleep either, so dont worry too much about that!
All you need is to make sure he knows where he stands with the sex side of things, you need to take the basics you need to get ready round with you and thats about it! There is nothing else to it - it is literally like a night in at your own house but you are just having to share a bed with someone! The only bad bit is sharing a bed - if you are not used to it then the chances are you will have a terrible nights sleep as it feels weird to share a bed with someone if you've never done it before! You have your own way of sleeping so changing it is the hard part - when I share a bed with a guy I get about 2 hours sleep tops because it is so uncomfortable!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, gunnerlil +, writes (16 September 2009):
Lol, awh. The first stage of the relationship is definitely the best isn't it?
How long have you been together? Is he a good guy? If you so really have nothing to worry about, he'll understand that you're not ready to have sex with him and I think he'll probably be expecting the big bag. My girlfriend use to bring like 3. If you're that worried about it just ask him what you should bring. Like I said, if he's a good guy he'll understand. I don't see that any of that would be a problem.
Hope this helped.
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reader, Johanna21 +, writes (16 September 2009):
 I'm not sure about this because I don't know your boyfriend, but it sounds as if his not wanting to drive you home is an excuse for him to get you where he wants-in his bed. Unless you're sure you want to be intimate with him, then I'd tell him to bring me home. If you sleep in the same bed something is bound to happen that you both may regret it.
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