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writes:Please give me some effective ways to forget an ex?I have tried everything from listing down the bad things and the reasons why I have to move on.I also tried saving an SMS on my phone reminding me that past is past and there's nothing I can do about it anymore. That if he doesn't think of me, I should do the same too..I tried meeting new people, going out, having fun...the works..But before I go to sleep, I think about him and feel the bitterness that we are over.When I wake up, I feel depressed to remember again that we are over...I often wonder what he's doing, fantasize having sex with him. Reminiscing the past over and over...Can anyone give me their own techinique how they managed to forget their ex? maybe it will work for me too?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Time will heal, but delete the person from your life. Delete texts, emails, phone messages and numbers. Any last vestige is to be discarded no ifs ands or buts. All of it..GONE!
The best thing to do is make them insignificant.
The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference, for if you hate, it means you still care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): hello, well i went through the same as you, i thought it would never end. and to be honest i do not think there is a sure fire way of forgetting the ex.
your mind is set on tormenting you, and to change that you really need to make yourself think of something else whenever you think of him. its hard at first but if you stick with it you will retrain your mind, and believe me the sense of relief is worth every bit of effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I have never forgotten a former lover. There is no reason to and even if there were, it is impossible to forget her. There will always be lingering emotions for that person - a combination of bad and good and everything in between. Memories will always be there to remind you of the days and nights that were good, bad and everything in between.
There is no particular technique. To me, I was able to move on because my life did not revolve around my lover. Indeed, I was broken up in the first two to three weeks, but it was simply my mind reacting to the feeling of loss, coupled with residual anger, frustration and in some cases, even happiness and relief.
Having your life not revolve around your lover is one of the key reasons some people can move, while others cannot or take a long time to.
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