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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Feel used and abused. My ex has been there as a friend which I am fine with. He has dated since us but said he has no girlfriend although his friends said that he does did. He was there for me when my father was dying, hospital, dinner, etc. He stayed over night slept with him But that was fine a few weeks ago. We have been talking almost daily since then. There was a meeting at his house, he invited me over, it lasted quite late, people had cocktails, and my drive home is long so I stayed over night. I said I knew he has a g/f he said he did not. I said I can not sleep with a friend and he made me believe it was more than that. He had really loved me I had a key to the house, he wanted me to move in, I left clothes there. There were no signs of another girl there except for some different shampoo. He said he had stayed in all last weekend that he was working alot and was exhausted which I do know is true. But anyway I stayed, he said he would plant things I liked in his garden and couldn't wait to see my new bikini. Well anyway I stayed and slept with him we have always had this great attraction. He is just a stubborn mule if you don't agree with him. But here is the clincher. A call comes in at 5 am - I just wanted to let you know that I got back the woman could hardly speak english . Well that was 2 nights ago he has never called. I had to talk to him to today on business he was sweet as pie. Left him a follow up message on his answering machine re business with the outcome but I had to add why don't you and your mate go to Salsa night should be fun. I am the biggest stupid ass or what. I never thought he would lie since he never did before but now I think he did. I feel like calling him and asking why he lied. Am I just fucking stupid? We are not youngsters and both have never been married, I feel stupid, used and abused. He still has some things of mine that every time I call for them he says fine but I never get them - feel like he likes me to call. I cant take this shit anymore HELP. And worse he knows I love him and I really think he loves me. I do know for a 100% fact that when we were together he never cheated so how can he cheat on her?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (18 July 2009):
 Well, even having these doubts about his honesty about a relationship with another woman you STILL slept with him. Then why should you feel used. You knew there was this chance he had someone else, yet you threw caution to the wind. You have only yourself to blame.
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