My online boyfriend doesn't seem as keen as he used to be
Q. I met this man on the net, he promised me all what a lady will want. I trusted him. for more than 10 times he promised me but never fulfiled his promises. He hardly calls these days, when i call he complains of time difference (He is in New York ...
A. 30 June 2007: Honey, find a real man in the real world and forget about this fantasy man who doesnt really exist. He made all sorts of promises at first because it is so easy to do. I dont think he ever had any intention of following through. It is just a game. ... (read in full...)
I'm walking on eggshells with my online girlfriend
Q. hi, i met this woman online about a year ago, we have never met although we were suppose to in november, i have totaly fallen for her, i think that she has a partner or is married due to certain events that have happened, but she has always said she ...
A. 30 June 2007: I agree with Irish. This is a fantasy relationship with a fantasy woman. You havent fallen for her, you have fallen for a fantasy who may or may not even really exist. Her online persona may not even be what she is really like in 'real' life. A ... (read in full...)
Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening?
Q. Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening? I did drop a couple of hints as he is unable to attend the ceremony and thought he might do so last time I saw him but he did not and just dismissed it. He is very ...
A. 29 June 2007: Absolutely he should be buying your grandchild a gift and he should be reciprocating with other gifts as well. If your children give him birthday or christmas gifts then he should buy for them in return. It is probably not so much being a cheapskate ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my period has stopped. What should I do?
Q. I have never had sex so why havent i had my periods for nearly 3 months now why?...
A. 29 June 2007: This is a condition called amenorea ( aye men oh ree uh). There can be several things that cause amenorea. One could be you dont have enough body fat. If you are very thin and/or athletic your body fat percentage could be too low and your periods ... (read in full...)
She had another man's baby aborted and didn't tell me; now I don't trust her
Q. Hello, I am a young undergraduate of physics,I have been dating a girl since the past three years,before i met this girl she was in a relationship with another guy,of which she told me she has broken up with.But later this girl was sick in our y...
A. 28 June 2007: Perhaps I am misunderstanding your predicament. Your English is not very clear. From everyone elses posts they all seem to think your girlfriend had the abortion before she met you. If that is the case, then I agree with them that you need to let go ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont buy my car, but I think she should
Q. I recently suggested to my girlfriend that she could buy my car off me in about a year or so when she has passed her test. She hasn't even started learning yet. The car itself is in perfect condition and everyone who sees it wished they had a car ...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey, relax a little here! The fact that she doesnt want to buy your car is not a reflection on whether it is a great car or not! She may agree that it is a great car, it just isnt the car she wants! Let it be. If you keep harangueing her to buy your ... (read in full...)
He's a great friend to me, he's got a gf and I really like him! I'm scared of losing him.
Q. Hi, i've never rote up to one of these before so i hope you can understand my problem as i'n not to good at this and sorry if its so long. Well i am 23 and feel very lonely i havent really had many close friends at school and the ones i had i have ...
A. 28 June 2007: If he is in a serious relationship (or hoping to make it one)then, yes, his girlfriend has to come first. She must be number one. And if she doesnt like you and doesnt want to be with you then you shouldnt be around her. She may feel threatened by ... (read in full...)
Want to give my new gf flowers from our garden, would that make me seem cheap?
Q. Hi, sorry if this is a really odd question. hopefully going to meet my new girlfriend for the day sometime next week, and want to take some flowers for her. Was thinking of taking them from the family garden, which i thought might be nice, but at ...
A. 28 June 2007: No, it doesnt seem cheap at ALL! It seems sweet and romantic and absolutely lovely! Pick a beautiful bouquet and tie it with a pretty ribbon, wrap it in some nice tissue paper or put it in an inexpensive glass vase. If she cannot see the beauty of ... (read in full...)
Update: I want to go on holiday with my female friends and my gf doesn't like it.
Q. (@dearCupid: sorry if this question is the same, but something doesn't seem to work. I also could not make an update on my previous question. The computer didn't recognise me a the one who originally posted the question. So I do it this way.) Hi! ...
A. 28 June 2007: It may or may not have anything to do with their being female, but it sure doesnt help matters! If you were going off for a holiday with a bunch of guy friends or a mixed group she would probably still be hurt and angry. It is the point that you ... (read in full...)
My fiance says he'll dump me anytime he isn't getting his way
Q. what does one u do or should do when ur significant other sabotages the relationship to get it their way. i mean, my fiance threatens to break off the relationship when he doesn't get it his way, so i always give in for him. what can i do about ...
A. 26 June 2007: My ex-husband was the same way. He would threaten divorce when he wasnt getting enough sex, when I wouldnt give him moeny to run his business, when I wouldnt buy him the hot tub he wanted. He would call me names, belittle me, refuse to spend time ... (read in full...)
Do you think this online man loves me? Any views?
Q. Hello, i recently entered a marriage website then there was this man who used to contact me every day but i was not answering him cause for some reason i found him weird ,he kept on like that for 2 months.then he suddenly stopped. after sometime i...
A. 26 June 2007: NO, he doesnt love you, he doesnt even KNOW you! For 2 months he tried to contact you based soley on your profile and you refused to even speak to him. This means he likes your PROFILE, not that he likes YOU. You werent interested until you thought ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I was too big--now I am depressed and uncomfortable with him
Q. Hello, I am 27 years old. I have been through a lot the past year. I left my husband after 10 years. I lost my father, who was my rock. I lost almost everything me and my four kids owned. I have been in a new relationship for about 10 or 11 m...
A. 26 June 2007: 128 lbs is not fat. Especially after giving birth to four kids!! You should not feel bad about yourself whatsoever. Most women are not skinny little supermodels and to expect that we should be is unrealistic and unfair. You are not even considered ... (read in full...)
Anyone know a cure for dry mouth?
Q. this will sound completly stupid but what the hell. i have been suffering from a dry mouth recently and no matter ho wmuch i drink i cant get rid of it. i also think its affecting my kissing. any ideas how to rid it?...
A. 26 June 2007: Time to see a doctor. Dry mouth and excessive thirst can be signs of diabetes.... (read in full...)
Are you still a virgin if your hymen is broken without sex?
Q. If your hymen is broken some way other than sex, does it mean you're no longer a virgin? Does the term virgin mean only someone who's not had intercourse?...
A. 22 June 2007: A virgin is someone who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. The hymen is a SIGN of virginity, not the virginity itself. Sometimes the hymen is broken from other activities in which case virginity has not been affected.... (read in full...)
I want to watch my girlfriend have sex with my male friend
Q. Should I let my best mate sleep with my girlfriend while I watch? Hello everybody, My name is Jonathan. My girlfriend and I have been 8 years together and we're both 28 years old. For the past year or so I've been having this vivid fant...
A. 22 June 2007: You have to have a very strong relationship to successfully engage in this kind of activity. Yes, you are putting your whole relationship at risk and it may not work out. But there are a lot of people who still have successful relationships and are ... (read in full...)
Is going on holiday with him so soon after meeting a good idea?
Q. i have met a nice guy a few weeks ago and we talked about going away..i am in travel and have the contacts so i booked and arranged everything.he said that he would book and arrange the next holiday. when i mentioned this to my mum she started ...
A. 22 June 2007: Without knowing this young man, my first guess would be yes, he is taking advantage of you. You are in travel so he can get a very good deal. Who is paying? Are you splitting the costs? Is he paying? Are you? I am very wary of this situation.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be uncircumcised?
Q. I havent been circumsized. is this normal? I'm 15. kinda makes me think it is the problem why I don't hve confidence to have a gf. Help!...
A. 22 June 2007: Most men are circumcised, so you may feel a bit differant to be in the minority, but you certainly are normal! ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 22 June 2007: Sounds like a great idea to me! But seeing as we are from all over the planet, where would we all meet? Could get a bit 'spensive. HMMMMMMM.... (read in full...)
Is an online romance still considered cheating?
Q. Is it okay to talk to a guy online that you have really come to enjoy talking to everyday and you could possibly see yourself with when you already have a b/f?...
A. 21 June 2007: It definately feels good to know we are attractive and interesting to those of the opposite sex. It feeds the ego, the self confidence and just makes us feel good. That is why I said earlier that chatting and even a little flirting is ok. But once ... (read in full...)
Is an online romance still considered cheating?
Q. Is it okay to talk to a guy online that you have really come to enjoy talking to everyday and you could possibly see yourself with when you already have a b/f?...
A. 20 June 2007: This is cheating. Chatting with, even flirting with guys, online is ok, but you are having an emotional affair with this man. Does your boyfriend know about this chat friend? Does your online romance know you have a boyfriend? Unless you are being ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm 'betraying' the first guy by going out with the second, but then I feel as though it shouldn't matter 'cause (1st guy) is 6,000 miles away
Q. Hey there, just wondering if I could get some advice.. I don't quite know how to put this into words, but here goes... I've been talking to a guy online for about 3 years now, he's the sweetest, cutest guy I've ever spoken to, and recently we exch...
A. 20 June 2007: You are not betraying a guy, by wanting to have a real flesh and blood relationship. You havent met, have no plans to meet and there is no reason you should not date someone. Have you not dated at all in the past 3 years? However you should also be ... (read in full...)
I want a quickie!
Q. I'm wondering maybe from a woman's point of view, how would you like your boyfriend to initiate a quickie? I'm of course in the mood for sex but not always full blown naked intercourse with multiple positions. I'm sure she feels the same way so how ...
A. 20 June 2007: Quickies can be a wonderful thing! They are exciting, urgent,dangerous and (by definition)quick! When you have all the time in the world, in bed together, a quickie just isnt going to cut it, so dont even bring it up. A quickie is for the time when ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy online. How do I know it's not going to be a "pedo's trap" when I finally meet him?
Q. Ok here goes... I am going out with this guy i met online, thing is i havnet met him face 2 face and we have made plans for the future! am i crazy? is this guy for real? or am i falling for a peados trap? plz help me!!!...
A. 20 June 2007: There is no way you should ever go to meet this person by yourself. IF (and that is a big fat IF) you go to meet him you should go with other people, preferrably an adult. If this guy is legit, then it should not be a problem to have one of your ... (read in full...)
I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?
Q. I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?...
A. 19 June 2007: Absolutely not! You are way too young to even be thinking of this stuff yet.Lots of people look back on their first time and regret doing it too young, but nobody regrets waiting. Enjoy being young while you can. Why are you trying to be an adult ... (read in full...)
My wife has just gotten too darn fat to be attractive anymore
Q. I'm in my late 40's and have been married for nearly 26 years, most of which have been happy however my Wife has become increasingly overweight and put simply I no longer fancy her physically. She makes no serious attempt to lose weight and get fit ...
A. 19 June 2007: Putting on weight is normal as we age and generally I would say that if you love someone than size shouldnt matter. But in this case it does seem as if she has taken this to extremes and it is very unhealthy. Perhaps if you offered to do it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like a maid
Q. Hi. my boyfriend and i have been together for one year now even though we have been friends for close to ten years. The problem is that he he feels a woman place is in the kitchen. He does support my career aspiration but bluntly refuses to help ...
A. 19 June 2007: He is living in the dark ages when women were chattle, a mans property. A woman is not a man's property and she not only has the right, but she OUGHT to argue with a man when he does something wrong. She OUGHT to complain when he mistreats her. If ... (read in full...)
Am I being tricked by my ex?
Q. I broke up with my wife of 9yrs about 5yrs ago and met a lady on the internet. My ex wife made my life very difficult especially concerning contacts with the 3 children whose ages range from 5 to 10yrs. My girlfriend was very supportive and I do not ...
A. 19 June 2007: Wow! This is tough. I dont think she is necessarily trying to purposely trick you. I doubt that she has set out to trick you into falling in love with her to make you move close to her. I think, more likely that she intended to be flexable, but ... (read in full...)
Every guy I meet is a slimeball! Should I just lower my standards?
Q. I am on some on-line dating sites, and there is this guy who has asked me out on a date. However, he came across really slimey by mentioning my breasts rather than anything else about my profile. I sometimes wonder if I have had a complete sense ...
A. 19 June 2007: I know it is hard, but no, I dont think you should lower your standards. I know so many guys out there just dont deserve to be with a great woman like you, but somewhere out there there is a great guy and someday you will meet him. I know it all ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I am only 14?
Q. me and one of my really good guy friends have been talking about having sex..because we feel there is something between us...but i am only 14..should i consider having sex w/ him?...
A. 19 June 2007: No, sweetheart, you should not even consider having sex with him. You are way too young. Lots of people look back and regret having sex too early, but nobody looks back and regrets waiting.... (read in full...)
What are some complications that can arise from anal sex?
Q. What makes gay anal sex good? Some people say that its very sore and in some cases has its complications. What are the complications, and what do you do to make it good? I know this is graphic, or where could I find out about these things. Like ...
A. 18 June 2007: I really couldnt say what makes anal sex good as I have never had good anal sex. It has always been abominably awful and painful and I absolutely hate it.... (read in full...)
I like him but he keeps pressuring me for sex! Should I dump him?
Q. hey i am 13 years old and same with me boyfriend. on the very first night he kept asking me to do bj's with him and made me feel very uncomfortable. I confronted him about it and he said that he was sorry, but he keeps asking me to like take showers ...
A. 18 June 2007: Yes, my dear, break up with this lout who only wants you for sex. Chances are when you continue to deny him sex he will break up with you anyway, since that is the only reason he is interested anyway. Stick to your guns and wait for someone who ... (read in full...)
Both of us are ready for the next step and, I have no idea how. I understand the basic idea of sex but, I don't know how it is done.
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 16 year old girl in a committed relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half (he's 17 and my best friend). Everything is great, he loves me and I love him (and not the typical teenage love where you say I love you...
A. 18 June 2007: The best position for your first time is the standard missionary position. This is the one with the guy on top and you are facing each other. There should be plenty of foreplay so that you are lubricated and 'ready' and excited. This position is ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her abortion, and admitted to sleeping with another guy. But she wants me to marry her next week!
Q. I have been dating a girl for 2 years and living together with her for 1 year. We were engaged and things were going good for a while. Well she got pregnant about 6 months ago and told me she had a miscarrage. She later tells me she had an ...
A. 17 June 2007: Run. Run like your pants are on fire and dont look back. This girl has lied to you multiple times about very major issues and completely abused your trust. She aborted your child without your consent and cheated on you for a month. She was looking ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend's mother died today.... how do I comfort him?
Q. I left a message on here yesterday about my ex boyfriend leaving me a message about his mother dying. Well tonight he has just informed me that she died at dinnertime. What can i do now to comfort him?...
A. 17 June 2007: If you can find it in your heart to go visit him and give him a much needed shoulder to cry on I am sure he would appreciate it. ... (read in full...)
Break out your telepathic powers and help me out here, what should I do?
Q. Alright, then, I have a question. I know this girl locally; met her originally online. She's nearly four months pregnant, and trying to sort out her relationship with the father, who disappeared for a while when he found out she was pregnant and ...
A. 17 June 2007: I would say just to be her friend for now. Your glacial style probably is the best way to handle things for now. The fact that she is pregnant with another mans child screams 'proceed with caution' on your part. And as she has been abandoned by the ... (read in full...)
Why does she do this particular thing every time we make love?
Q. i have a girlfriend who likes to put her finger up my ass whenever she sucks me off. I don't say anything to her because i love her and don't want to split up with her over a little thing like this. But im not sure why she does it or if it means ...
A. 16 June 2007: She may have been with a man who liked that and so she continues to do it because she figures if he liked it you will too. If you have never said anything to her she may be assuming that you enjoy it. I doubt that it is anything she has a fetish ... (read in full...)
She wants to have sex with me but I don't feel ready yet, I'm 13 she's 15.
Q. Hello guys, I got great advice last time I needed help so I wondered if I could have some advice again. You know that gal I loved on line before, well she is down here at the moment and my mum is okay with it now but the thing is she wants to hav...
A. 16 June 2007: You are way too young to be even considering having sex. I dont want to get on a lecture with you about this, but I had to say it! Having sex with her will not give her a 'nice visit'. It will complicate your life beyond imagining! Yes, you should ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me into having sex with him but I know I'm not ready yet.
Q. hiya my boyfriend is really pressuring me too have sex and im soooooo scared he goes, its what he wants i said what about what i want. he said "give me an answer yes or no" i said no and he started being all cold with me and i hate it when he is ...
A. 16 June 2007: I know this will be hard to do but you must stick to your guns and say no to sex. There is a very good chance you will lose this guy over this and if you do that will only show you that he really didnt care for you at all. A boy who truly loves his ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex still carry my pic in his wallet?
Q. My ex and I have been broke up about 3 months. We broke up because I couldn't choose between my ex before him (6 year relationship) and him. We had magic though. Now it's over and he has someone new almost immediately after we broke up. My question ...
A. 16 June 2007: Just because we break up with someone does not necessarily mean we have no feelings towards them anymore. We dont all shut off like faucets. If he cared very deeply for you, he may still care now. If you saw the pic last night, does that mean that ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? Why do I all of a sudden feel this way for no reason?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 6 months. However, we have been good friends through college for the past four and a half years so the relationship might be new but to us it seems like its been forever. We practically live together ...
A. 16 June 2007: There may be a medical issue, but more likely there was some sort of mental catalyst for these feelings. Perhaps it was something small that at the moment bothered you but not enough to really focus on. Then overnight as it percolated it became much ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend has just told me over instant messenger, that his mother is dying.
Q. My ex boyfriend has just told me over instant messenger, that his mother is dying. How should i deal with this. I don't want to sound callous, but i didnt really understand why he felt the need to tell me. We haven't spoken for over a year. ...
A. 16 June 2007: He is reaching out to you in his pain because he still feels a connection to you and needs your sympathy and support. Often when something is bad in our life we turn back to old loves. It is hard to say really why. Maybe for some validation. I know ... (read in full...)
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