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My boyfriend is pressuring me into having sex with him but I know I'm not ready yet.

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Question - (15 June 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 June 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hiya my boyfriend is really pressuring me too have sex and im soooooo scared he goes, its what he wants i said what about what i want. he said "give me an answer yes or no" i said no and he started being all cold with me and i hate it when he is like that, he says its what he really wants and i would do anything for him im in love with him so i said okay to him but i dont want to have sex with him, im not ready mentally never mind physically. he asked me what my heart was saying and to be honest my heart saying yes and my brain saying no, and i consider myself an intelligant girl and i listen to my brain coz my heart gets me in2 trouble i may be wrong. im not even sure if he really likes me, im scared he may be using me. what do i do?

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A female reader, myp United States +, writes (16 June 2007):

myp agony auntIf you're not ready, then he needs to respect that and let you go at our own pace. If he cant do that then hes not even worth your time. A person who really loves their partner would never pressure them into sex. Just the fact that hes trying to make you feel guilty shows a level of immaturity that makes me think hes not ready for any kind of serious relationship, sexual or otherwise.

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (16 June 2007):

deejuliet agony auntI know this will be hard to do but you must stick to your guns and say no to sex. There is a very good chance you will lose this guy over this and if you do that will only show you that he really didnt care for you at all. A boy who truly loves his girl would NEVER pressure her to have sex before she is ready. It happened to me several times when I was your age. It was heartbreaking at the time, but later I was soooooo greatful I had said no. Many people regret having sex too young, but no one regrets waiting.

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