What's my pregnancy risk from "dry sex"?
Q. Hi... I'm with the most amazing person- we have been together for over 2 years now,but we have never had sex (I want to be a virgin until my marriage). However what we do is usually called 'dry sex' - we touch each other and let our 'bits' touch...
A. 21 March 2009: I am glad to hear you have already listened to the other aunts advice and calmed down. I will just add one more aunt saying to you that your risk of pregnancy is slim to none. Unless he ejaculated directly on your vaginal opening the chances are ... (read in full...)
Guy's completely shaved pubic hair..opinions?
Q. Hey, pls How do girls feels when a guy completly shaved his purbic hair. Is it attractive to girls and i have been with 4girls now and each time we are about to have sex , they will ask me if i love them. So i want to know if it is a common ...
A. 16 March 2009: Everyone is differant when it comes to pubic hair. Some like it all natural, some trimmed and tidy, some like the full shaved look. Personally I think a completely shaved pube looks like a deranged elephant!
As for asking if you love them: most girl... (read in full...)
Is it normal - my boyfriend sleeping with his ex-girlfriends child she calls him dad!
Q. My boyfriend helps take care of his ex-girlfriend's daughter. The three of them lived together from the time the little girl was 6 until she was about 9 and she calls him dad. They hang out at least 3 or 4 times a week. She calls him all the time...
A. 14 March 2009: Ok, I am trying to guage the timeline here. They have known each other 5 years. They lived together 3. So they were probably together from the time the child was 5 and the child is now 10. Am I correct? Five years may not seem a long time to you, ... (read in full...)
Not use birth control pills?
Q. Someone told me that a person who hasn't had kids should not us birth control pills. is this true?...
A. 14 March 2009: completely absurd. You do not need to have first had a child to use the birth contorl pill. Many, many people who have never had children use the pill.... (read in full...)
Is she just sick or could she be pregnant?
Q. This is just an update about the whole pregnancy question of mines I guess that was like 3 weeks ago. I don't know how to update my posts so I'm writing this as a new one. My girlfriend started puking the night after the day we made love and i...
A. 13 March 2009: Ok, there are so many hokey things in this question. First off, when you DO get pregnant you do not start getting morning sickness the very day after conception. Second off, morning sickness does not cause you to vomit blood. Third off, if she went ... (read in full...)
He says he can only be with me from 6-10 to celebrate my birthday. Am I being unreasonable in wanting more?
Q. I reminded my boyfriend about my birthday just in case he forgot (it's my second birthday with him) and I know he has his son that day so I suggested we "party it in". This is a German tradition that involves celebrating the night before until at ...
A. 12 March 2009: He has plans at 10 at night with someone else? That does not sound acceptable to me! What are these plans he cant get out of?... (read in full...)
Views on virginity
Q. Hey, I was just wondering what age did people lose their virginity and having lost it at that age do you wish you had been younger/older when it happened? I'm not thinking of having sex or anything quite yet, I'm just curious :) Thanks x...
A. 2 March 2009: I was 16. The boy was lovely and I dont regret the person, but I sincerely regret not waiting longer. I wish I had been older. ... (read in full...)
Horny before period?
Q. most girls get super horny a few days before their period and during it. and i was wondering if there is anything that one can do so that they can control themselves? i hate being horny and i want to be able to control myself and not go to may man ...
A. 2 March 2009: I doubt that any women get so dang horney due to their period coming on that they will walk up to any man and stick his hand down her pants. Very few women, unless they are ill, like have a sex addiction, would be so out of control and horney.
But ... (read in full...)
3 years and can't get pregnant!
Q. Do you think something is wrong i have been trying to get pregnant for about 3years and nothing happen yet and im starting to worry that i cant and i wnat a baby so bad please haelp me out please....
A. 2 March 2009: You dont give us enough information to answer your question. How often do you have sex? Is it all with the same partner? I would presume that in the course of 3 years you would have gone to the gyno for a check up. Did he find anything unusual? I am ... (read in full...)
Is this diet safe?
Q. This is the new diet I want to try... One day eat 200 cals, the next 400, the next 600, and then 200 again and repeat the 3 day cycle over and over again. Also, to do half an hour of exercise 3 times a week. Will I lose weight by this and how much...
A. 2 March 2009: NO! Not a safe diet and you would be stupid to try it. Clear enough?... (read in full...)
Anal sex--does it hurt? Can I get pregnant?
Q. my boyfriend wants to have anal sex will it hurt can i get pregnant by having anal sex ...
A. 2 March 2009: For me it hurts A LOT and I HATE HATE HATE it. But no, you cannot get pregnant from it.... (read in full...)
What do women 'really' want?
Q. I've come to the realisation that when women talk about they want in men, the words cannot be trusted 100% - sure they may be some truth in what they say but not entirely or either not at all. Actions and behaviour prove the opposite. Women ten...
A. 26 February 2009: Sometimes what a women wants changes or is a reaction to past relationships. I had always gone for hightly intelligent, rather geeky and/or artistic guys who werent always the best looking but were fun, creative, adventurous and tender. I was in a ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I could still be pregnant?
Q. Ok so on february 16th, my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex. On february 18th i took the morning after pill. And now today i just got my period. It is right on schedule, neither early or late. Does this mean that i still might be pregnant...
A. 26 February 2009: Generally speaking getting your period is a sign of NOT being pregnant. You got your period, so why in the world would you take that as a sign that you could be pregnant?
Just because you had unprotected sex does not mean that your egg was fert... (read in full...)
I don't mind if I become pregnant but my fiance is not sold on the idea
Q. Hi everyone. I wonder if anyone can help me here? My fiance proposed to me at the weekend. That night, we consumated the engagement. We didn't realise, until I felt him cumming inside me, that the condom had split. He uses an ultra-thin make so it ...
A. 26 February 2009: There is a proper 'order' to things. That being get engaged, get married THEN get pregnant. I think that is what is bothering your fiancee. He would rather do things in the proper order. If you happen to accidentally be pregnant from this encounter ... (read in full...)
Is it logical to assume someone can do a 180 transformation on how they control their temper and resolve issues?
Q. A few months ago I met a girl via the internet. We talked quite a bit and found a very good connection from the get go. After about a month and change I took a trip to meet here. Overall things were great. Sex, chemistry, time spent together. I ...
A. 25 February 2009: At the very beginning of a relationship one is on their very best behaviour and you really dont get to know the 'real' them for quite a while. In a long distance relationship this problem is even more profound as one can be wonderful for short ... (read in full...)
How did you know your significant other was THE one?
Q. Hi, I'm wondering if anyone would like to share their story of when they found the person they wanted to spend the rest of their life with? How did you know? (whether you are still with that person or not it doesn't matter) I was talking t...
A. 20 February 2009: I just want to address this "I just knew he/she was the one the moment I laid eyes on him/her" This is called ATTRACTION. It is not love and you do not "know" you will marry them that instant. You feel ATTRACTED and therefore the POTENTIAL for ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be friends with a married man who is your ex of 13 years?
Q. Is it okay to talk to a married man who happens to be your ex 13 years ago? Its stricty friendship and platonic. We have no feelings for each other, but just want to be there for each other as friends. is that so wrong ..and his wifes knows of the ...
A. 20 February 2009: No, it is not wrong. It is actually very nice that you can remain friends. Keep everything above board in the full knowledge and view of his wife. In other words be above suspician.
From the wifes point of view, she may tolerate this, and on some... (read in full...)
How old were you when you first French-kissed?
Q. Ummm. I've never pulled ( kissed with tounges ) a guy, I'm 13... How old were YOU when you first did that... Am I too young? ...
A. 20 February 2009: I was 13. But it only the one time as the guy was too old for me and my parents said we couldnt date. I did not do it again until I was 15. Funnily enough, the guy who gave me my first kiss at 13 is the guy I am dating now, 20 something years later!... (read in full...)
Chance of pregnancy from this?
Q. If an underwear was ejaculated on with sperm then washed off with water and then a woman wears it, is there a chance she might get pregnant?...
A. 20 February 2009: No chance of pregnancy. ... (read in full...)
Would you take this as a sexual advance? Or is it a joke?
Q. If your husband forwarded an email to another woman (work colleague) called 'Track your partner. Careful!!' which shows a google earth type thing which gradually homes in on your postcode and shows two people in the back garden sh*gging, would you ...
A. 20 February 2009: Taken by itself I do not take this email as a sexual advance in the least. I do not think it would be sent to someone to try to get them interested in a sexual liason. If my boyfriend sent this email to another woman I would not be concerned at all. ... (read in full...)
I loved this married man, I don't understand why he replaced me?
Q. Hello Dear Friends, There is a situation that I have never understood in my life. Well, I have always found it very wrong that a girl goes out with a married man and I was convinced that I would never fall for a married man, but I did fall in love ...
A. 20 February 2009: Agree totally with Cian. He used you. He is scum. He even let you know at the time he was using you, but you didnt really listen. He said he wanted to keep it as just sex. He had no interest in you other than to satisfy his selfish sexual desires. ... (read in full...)
Masturbation and pregnancy?
Q. my bf told its not good for girls to mastrbate because it will give them problems later in pregnancy. is this true? thank you...
A. 20 February 2009: Completely untrue and utterly false. Masterbation before pregnancy will not harm future pregnancies and masterbation durring pregnancy will not harm the baby in the least. ... (read in full...)
Questions about breasts
Q. Hey. I got a couple of question about thing i like to talk about the least. Breasts. ok; 1. Do sore breasts ALWAYS indicate that you're about to get your period, or can they be sore from something else? 2. Do they get filled up with someth...
A. 20 February 2009: Breasts sometimes get sore from the hormones related to your period. Sometimes they get sore from other reasons. I have had sore breasts and never connected it to the reason why. Often you will get your period without any soreness at all.
No, they... (read in full...)
I love my teacher, and now he knows.Can I do anything with him?
Q. I have a big problem. I'm 14. I've fallen in love with my 35 year old geography teacher. I've liked him for a few months and last week I told him how I feel. I wrote it in a letter and got my friend to give it to him because she had his lesson next. ...
A. 17 February 2009: Love means caring more about the welfare and well being of the other person than your own, selfish wants and desires. If you really love this guy you will LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!! As you already stated BECAUSE OF YOU this guy could get fired or even go ... (read in full...)
What is the liklihood of the pregnancy test being positive?
Q. Hey DearCupid, I'm very worried. - I am on the contraceptive pill. I have 3 weeks on and 1 week off it. - In my pill-free week, my fiance and I were being intimate (NOT having sex), and he came on my breasts, and it dribbled down onto my th...
A. 6 February 2009: great! let us know!
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What is the liklihood of the pregnancy test being positive?
Q. Hey DearCupid, I'm very worried. - I am on the contraceptive pill. I have 3 weeks on and 1 week off it. - In my pill-free week, my fiance and I were being intimate (NOT having sex), and he came on my breasts, and it dribbled down onto my th...
A. 6 February 2009: Chances are slim to none. You were on the pill. Yes, it was your off week, but that does not mean that you were 'off' the pill. The pill has that built in off week on purpose and you continue to be protected for the entire month as long as you take ... (read in full...)
I want to try anal sex but my fiance says its disgusting
Q. I have been with my fiancee for just over two years and we are getting married soon. Everything is fine between us, we have a great sex life and we are not afraid to try new things to add some spice to the bedroom. However, one thing I would like to ...
A. 6 February 2009: I think you are being very selfish and disrespectful and should drop the subject right now and never bring it up again. She has given you a flat out no and that she thinks it is disgusting. How would you like it if she kept pressuring you to let her ... (read in full...)
Is my married guy going to stay with wife? pack up? Stay with me?
Q. I am 21 year old gal who has never been in a stable relationship up until i met this guy.We met in a public bus..exchanged numbers,joked over the phone...met severally.We enjoyed each others company,and what i loved most about him was his concern ...
A. 6 February 2009: Please clarify one thing. From your post it SOUNDS like he lives with you and communicates only by email with his wife? Is that correct? You really did not make that clear.
Generally speaking men will tell a 'honey' that their marriage isnt wor... (read in full...)
Valentine gift? Or moving too fast?
Q. hey i work in a restaurant full time and theres this girls shes 17 like me and we've knowing each other for like 6 months now but I recently got moved from the kitchen to waiter so i work with her now and we have realy got to know each other her ...
A. 6 February 2009: It is very sweet of you to want to get her a valentines gift, but as you are not actually in a relationship with her and she IS in a relationship with another guy you really should not go overboard. A card and a small token gift, like a fist sized ... (read in full...)
Custody battle awaits me
Q. well this isnt really a relationship question, im actually needing some advice on some custody issues. I have joint custody with my x husband of my two boys, one is 7 years old, the other 5. I am remarried now, he is getting married in march. H...
A. 6 February 2009: You are in for a tough battle ahead and I am sorry you have to go through this. It is completely unreasonable to split up the children and pretend that each having full custody of one child somehow is good for anyone involved, especially the ... (read in full...)
Doubts about a lasting relationship without christ...
Q. Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?...
A. 30 January 2009: Yes, absolutely, you can have long lasting and meaningful and wonderful fullfilling relationships without jesus in your life at all. Care to give us some more information so that we can help you better?... (read in full...)
He wants to fool around. Should this be ok?
Q. Is it wrong for my husband to feel no jealousy? A man at my work recently made it clear he would fool around if it was OK with me. I told my husband, and he said to (not do anything, but to) be nice to him, and not make him feel uncomfortable. ...
A. 30 January 2009: He is not feeling threatened by this man and completely trusts you! He told you to be nice and not embarrass the man. He did NOT tell you to fool around with him! Why should he be jealous that some guy finds his wife attractive? He is probably proud ... (read in full...)
Am I living in a fantasy land or does he still love me?
Q. This is going to be a book...but i will TRY to shorten this as best as possible. I met my ex when I was 15 years old and he was 16. We were each others first everything..first loves, first sexual experiences ect ect. He became a real part of my ...
A. 30 January 2009: People who we once loved always hold a special place in our hearts. They own just a tiny little corner way in the back. You were once very special to each other and so there is the concern, "is she doing well? not doing well?" that is just a ... (read in full...)
Have I advertised "I want sex ASAP" because I talked about birth control?
Q. To start off- I'm 19 and a virgin and my boyfriend is 25 and not. We were talking last night about contraception and I told him that I've just started the pill perscription to be on the safe side but want to use a condom as well. He was a bit odd ...
A. 30 January 2009: I think most guys who say they hate condoms are full of malarky. They dont like them mentally, but I doubt it really makes that big of a differance once they are inside of you. Condoms are really a must. They are the only thing that really protects ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his next baby mom.
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and I've been dating my boyfriend since Febuary 22 2008... and it's going on a year. Okay now we have had sex already but we don't have sex very often like maybe 2 times a month and he has a baby. Let me tell the story - ...
A. 30 January 2009: NO! NO! NO! Do NOT do this! Phew. Got that out of the way so now I can talk rationally.
The other posters have given you very good advice and I agree with them. I remember being 17 and with the boy I was certain I would be with forever. We also want... (read in full...)
Should I have to be the one to say "Yes I want you stop seeing other people"?
Q. I am currently in a non-exclusive relationship. I feel that I am not able to continue this way because I am falling for him and fear being hurt when he is with another girl. I told him this and he said that if I gave the word he would stop seeing ...
A. 30 January 2009: I wholeheartedly agree with Emily. Why on earth when he said to you "just say the word" did you not reply, "what word shall I say? Because I am ready right now!" Why would you walk away from the conversation without a reply or with a "I'll let you ... (read in full...)
I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends.
Q. Hi there, I have found out that my wife of 6 months kissed another man when on a night out with friends. I only found out as my 18 month old son was playing with her phone. I took the phone off him as I didn't want him to break it and found tha...
A. 30 January 2009: If you dont talk to her it will fester and grow and you will begin to imagine all sorts of awful things that probably arent true. Talk to her. Aproach her gently and non confrontationally. Dont start a conversation with "Did you kiss someone else?" ... (read in full...)
Questions about wedding etiquette...?
Q. Hello fellow agony aunts and uncles. I was wondering if you guys could answer me a small question? At a wedding, can it still be completely tradition and etiquette as if its a traditional church wedding - for example, is the bride still give...
A. 29 January 2009: Raven, this is your day and your wedding. While registry weddings tend to be less formal, if you want your father to give you away there will not be a 'wedding cop' standing at the door and telling you 'you are not allowed as this is not a formal ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want to have sex any more?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year. At first I wanted to have sex all the time and loved it. Now I don't feel like doing it that much and she thinks that I don't lover her. I do. What's with my decreased sex drive. ...
A. 29 January 2009: Part of it may just be that you are confortable and happy and not as driven to have sex anymore. When a relationship is new and exciting you cannot seem to get enough sex. But as it settles into love and normalcy that decreases. If you still find ... (read in full...)
Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down.
Q. Hi there, I'm new to this so hear I go. I'm 21, I have never had a girlfriend because of the way I look. I never had sex but that's not a big thing. Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down. Is there anything I can do....
A. 29 January 2009: It may be that you are going after the wrong girls, it may be the way you come accross. It is hard to tell with so little information. It also may be just that you have yet to 'come into your own'. When my boyfriend was your age he had some trouble ... (read in full...)
Advice needed--is this too soppy to send?
Q. Well basically this guy that i currently like is in the army and leavin on friday for germany. i do like him but want to send him a email because im not sure if i'll be able to talk to him before he goes on friday :(. please be honest, is this to ...
A. 28 January 2009: Ok, yes, this is a very nice sentiment, but you have not really written it very well. It sounds childish and aloof. I am going to rewrite what you have written and see if you like it any better:
I dont know if I will have time to talk to you prop... (read in full...)
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