He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?
Q. Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...
A. 6 August 2008: Well, let us know. This is a very important issue and you are right, it does need to be resolved before you marry. Good luck!... (read in full...)
He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?
Q. Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...
A. 26 July 2008: Yes, absolutely you should be communicating. Like I said in my previous post ~ It is not about asking permission, it is about be courteous and considerate and, as you said, keeping each other in the loop. He is no longer single, with no one to ... (read in full...)
Will I grow any more? Can I do anything about it?
Q. I'm 17 is it too late to grow? I'm 5.9 and really wanna be a bit taller I've started the gym and go every week atleast. DO you think i will get any taller? My dads about 6.2 and my mum is about 5.1 ish :S Is there anything i can do b...
A. 24 July 2008: You may continue to grow for a few more years yet, but sorry, there is nothing you can do about it happening or not. It is up to your genetics, not up to you execising or not. Growth can be stunted if proper nutrition is not maintined in an extreme ... (read in full...)
He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?
Q. Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...
A. 24 July 2008: Dear Askoldersister,
In most cases I would wholeheartedly agree with you that a man should not be spending that kind of time, doing those kind of activities with a woman and not be including the girlfriend/wife. Dangerous indeed!! However in this... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's going to leave me because I can't satisfy him in bed!
Q. I think my boyfriends going to leave me because i don't satisfy him sexually. Basically, we have great sex and i usually get 2 or 3 orgasms. my boyfreinds circumsised so he can go on for ages (which is good) but he never gets one inside me and al...
A. 24 July 2008: I have to completely agree with Yos. The problem here is not you or your inability to satisfy him. The problem here is him and his inability to BE satisfied. Being circumcized has absolutely nothing to do with it. I have never in my life been with ... (read in full...)
I can't get pregnant and my husband acts like he doesn't care?
Q. My husband and I talked about the possibility of having another baby. Our financial situation isn't perfect, it never will be, but yes, money has been tight. Last year I went through cancer testing because of a 5 month long menstrual cycle and ...
A. 24 July 2008: Fertility treatments are expensive, intrusive and complicated. He may be intimadated, unconfortable or concerned about the costs. He may seem as though he doesnt care because he is afraid to show just how much he does care because that opens him up ... (read in full...)
Before we met, my BF was not working for 5 years, do I leave him until he finds a stable job?
Q. hi all my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now and before we wasnt dating he wasnt working for 5years , the thing is im worried i mean 5 years is long time to be out of work . hes 23 and im 27 ok not in a stable job but im working m...
A. 24 July 2008: I think we really need some more information to make a qualified judgement here. Has he been in school or in some other way trying to better his life? Is he collecting benefits from the gov as some here have suggested? How has he been supporting ... (read in full...)
He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?
Q. Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...
A. 24 July 2008: Yes, he should be communicating with you. It isnt that he needs your permission or that you are being possesive. It is about communication. The fact that he has been on his own for so long is the problem here. He is not used to being accountable to ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by porn. Am I normal?
Q. I get turned on by watching porn and reading kinky stories. I live with my boyfriend and we ahve a healthy sex life but I almost always have to fantasize about someone else or just being in a different environment to get turned on. At work, I go ...
A. 22 July 2008: It is normal to get turned on by porn, especially by stories for women. What is not normal, and therefore is cause for concern, is that you cannot seem to engage in sex without it. Sex should be gratifying in an of itself and be BETTER than porn. ... (read in full...)
My fiancee told me things about her past. I wonder..can I trust her, in the future?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and recently got engaged. There is no doubt that I love my fiance. There is however something that I have never shared with anyone and wanted to know what your advice would be. About two weeks after startting ...
A. 15 July 2008: Sorry it took so long to add to this after you answered my question. I forgot to follow up!
Her having an affair with a married man at any time bespeaks of her character and that is something you really need to seriously think about. But beca... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 13 July 2008: I, too, found a nasty bit of mail in my box from this young person (I hesitate to use the term 'lady' as I think she is anythin but). It stated ~Hun you may like geeks but a geek stole my boyfriend that i risked alot for. and sorry to tell you but ... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 11 July 2008: I happen to really like geeks and intelligence is a bigger turn on than a pretty face any day! Looks fade, but a great personality and intelligence never do. My boyfriend was crazy for a girl when he was 22 and she 18. She was 5'10", 120 lbs, with ... (read in full...)
What are my chances of having a 2nd set of twins with a different dad?
Q. Hey,any advice,comments or research greatly appreciated... Ok, I am nearly 30 years old and have had identical twin boys for my Ex who's dad is a non Identical twin, My fathers 1st cousin's are identical twins and I know theres twins far...
A. 24 June 2008: From what I have heard identical twins can come from either father or mothers side as the sperm and egg combine and then split. Which caused it to split? The egg or the sperm? Either!So identical twins would have to be in teh family history. However ... (read in full...)
My fiancee told me things about her past. I wonder..can I trust her, in the future?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship and recently got engaged. There is no doubt that I love my fiance. There is however something that I have never shared with anyone and wanted to know what your advice would be. About two weeks after startting ...
A. 24 June 2008: When did this affair happen? Before or after you met her? ... (read in full...)
I feel he loves me not my friend but she loves him and I don't want to lose either of them.
Q. i love my repeater in college and so does my friend, but i feel he loves me not her, i don't want to lose my friend or my love what can i do?...
A. 18 June 2008: Pardon me, but what is a 'repeater'? And are these two people dating at all or are you and your friend just interested in the same guy? And being interested or attracted to someone does not mean he loves you. Do not belittle the concept of love by ... (read in full...)
If a guy says he dumped his ex because SHE used him for sex, but he pressurises his new for sex, what does that tell you?
Q. If a guy tells you he hates "skanks" and "sluts", but he himself tries to sleep with every girl he goes out with on the first date, then how can he say that? If a guy says he dumped his ex gf because SHE used him for sex, but he puts pressure on his ...
A. 18 June 2008: All this says to me is that this is a man of low character. What he says and what he does are two differant things, and the way to judge a person is on what they DO. Stay away from this one. He is trouble and heartache just waiting to happen.... (read in full...)
Sex or money??
Q. ok, would you rather have a person that has good money that can support you but suck in bed OR have a person that pleasure you so good in bed that you can't help but be with them but they ask you once in a while if they could help you with a bill or ...
A. 17 June 2008: Why does either man need to be giving you money to help pay YOUR bills? You are responsible for your own bills, not them. The fact that one gives you lots of money and the other one only offers money every once in a while are both irrevelant. You ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her? If so how long?
Q. Ok there is this girl I met online as friends at first. Well she was married so no interest from me. Well we found out how much in common we got and she fell for me. One night she confesses her feelings and that her husband treats her like ...
A. 17 June 2008: Since you have never met her you have no idea as the the truth and verasity of anything she says. You dont know if her husband really treats her so badly or if she really is wonderful. She hasnt a clue if you will make her more happy than her ... (read in full...)
Have I made a mistake?
Q. A guy and I work at the same company different departments. Ok, he asked me out 2 years ago, I couldn't accept. So, we have been speaking in the hallways and I finally asked him out Monday and he said that if he wasn't working 2 jobs and going to ...
A. 17 June 2008: Ok, that makes a lot more sence. From your post it looked like you only waited 4 days, not a month. I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt and say it is just cause he is so busy. After all, working 2 jobs and going to school (and at least ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her? If so how long?
Q. Ok there is this girl I met online as friends at first. Well she was married so no interest from me. Well we found out how much in common we got and she fell for me. One night she confesses her feelings and that her husband treats her like ...
A. 13 June 2008: Have you ever met this woman in person or is it just an online friendship/romance? The answer to that question will highly influence my responce to your problem.... (read in full...)
Have I made a mistake?
Q. A guy and I work at the same company different departments. Ok, he asked me out 2 years ago, I couldn't accept. So, we have been speaking in the hallways and I finally asked him out Monday and he said that if he wasn't working 2 jobs and going to ...
A. 13 June 2008: Did I miss something here? You asked him out on Monday and gave him your phone numbers and told him to call and now 4 days later you are tired of waiting? You really didnt give him much of a chance did you?... (read in full...)
My Dad took care of me ok but I don't feel we have a bond
Q. I love my DAD some what. All my life he help me, gave me aplace to stay, and send me money when needed. He never live with me, i don't know to much about him, hes from Ga im from Va, he see me maybe every 3 or 4 years. I never met my family in Ga ...
A. 13 June 2008: Nor is money an adequate replacement for actual time spent together.... (read in full...)
My Dad took care of me ok but I don't feel we have a bond
Q. I love my DAD some what. All my life he help me, gave me aplace to stay, and send me money when needed. He never live with me, i don't know to much about him, hes from Ga im from Va, he see me maybe every 3 or 4 years. I never met my family in Ga ...
A. 13 June 2008: I know that what I am going to say really does not help you or answer your question. My boyfriend has an ex girlfriend who lives out of country. They never lived in the same town and broke up before she got married and had kids. Now though, since ... (read in full...)
Am I just being pathetic to be jealous when he says 'we' in referance to his ex?
Q. Is it wrong to feel annoyed if your boyfriend of 10 months (serious relationship, living together) says things like "us" and "we" regarding his ex wife. Let me explain. He left his ex-wife over 11 years ago. They have a boy aged 12. He needs a l...
A. 13 June 2008: You are hung up on the word "WE".Would you feel better if he had said "Alice and I are going to get him support." or "The teacher is going to back up Alice and me" It means the same thing! He and the child's mother are getting him support and doing ... (read in full...)
Is there really love at first sight?
Q. Is there realy such thing as love at first sight or is it just lust? Do men say they love you after a couple of dates just so they can sleep with you? Come on guys be honest have you ever done this?...
A. 12 June 2008: No, what you have is attraction or even lust at first site that if you are lucky enough DEVELOPES into love later. Since the feelings were there from the beginning you can call it 'love at first sight'. When the relationship fails or fizzles after a ... (read in full...)
Could you get pregnant through having sex during a period?
Q. i had my period on the 14th of may n i had sex on the 19th of may i thought i ened but i was still spotting i finally ened completely on the 2th..can i still get pregnant...
A. 12 June 2008: The chances of getting pregnant while on your period are VERY slim. Your period is the bodies way of discharging the DEAD egg and bloody support for it had it been fertilized. However, the sperm can live inside your uterus for several days after ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm a lesbian or Bi?
Q. I'm 15 and i go to a all girls school, there is this one girl who has a really short hair cut and i thought was guy, and since she looks like a guy i can't help but get all nervous when i see her, i think i have a crush on her. Does that mean I'm ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think that the fact that she looks like a guy is the reason you are feeling this way. You are in an all girl situation with no guys there to direct romatic attentions toward. Here is the only person that, at least physically, resembles a guy, so ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to marry my fiancee and keep things as they are with my boyfriend?
Q. I am not sure what i am doing anymore. I am due to get married very soon, but although i love him in a way, i am having an affair with another man. To make it all worse, it has been going on on and off for 8 years, the other man is married, and ...
A. 12 June 2008: Does your fiancee know about your boyfriend? If he does and he accepts the whole situation, then fine, go on with it. Otherwise, yes, it is wrong. It is dishonest and unfair. Your fiancee thinks he is getting a wife and partner, not a sister who ... (read in full...)
My family disapproves of my husband because of his race, now they want to come see our new baby!
Q. My family does not approve of my husband because he is another race. I married him anyways because I love him and he loves me. I just had a baby in April and now my family decides they want to talk to me and see the baby. I have said no because I am ...
A. 14 May 2008: Yes you should let them see the baby. This is your opportunity to fix everything and have your family back. They probably now regret their rejection of you and your husband because there is a new baby to love and they dont want to miss out. Let them ... (read in full...)
Who is my baby's father?
Q. I started my period on Oct 3. I had sex once on Oct 4 with a man. On Oct 10 I got back together with my ex. I'm now pregnant. Who is my baby's father?...
A. 14 May 2008: Chances are your boyfriend is the father. If you began mensus on the 3rd and had sex on the 4th (still bleeding I assume?) that was considered having sex on 'day 2' of your cycle. You ovulate about midcycle, 14 days before you begin to menstuate. So ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: I loved my husband with all my heart and married him with full intentions of being with him forever. For several years he treated me very well and we were happy. But over the years he developed mental illnesses that were not there when I married ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: I applaud you for wanting to save yourself for marriage. I wish more people felt that way and I hope my children do. However, you should not say that you WILL NOT EVER be with someone who does not live up to your same ideal. You can say that you ... (read in full...)
I moved to his country to save our marriage, it's very hard to manage since I don't know the language, what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, ok, i am in france with my husband for the last three months, he is french, anyhow, for the last three months i have not been working as i am trying to learn the language. However cant get work as you need fluent french for any type of ...
A. 15 April 2008: How did you meet your husband? Why was he in the UK and for how long? How long were you married before he moved back to France and was this a joint decision or his decision? Did you go with him right away, or was there a period of separation?
I... (read in full...)
Do guys mind if when you ruffle their hair?
Q. Hi, this may sound a little random but i was just wondering... do guys mind when you ruffle their hair or run your fingers through it? i was just fantasising about doing that to a guy i like today and thought, cos i'm a girl, if someone ruffled my ...
A. 11 April 2008: The answer probably is really individual, but in my experience guys LOVE it when you play with and run your fingers through their hair. My guy actually asks me to do it. But then again, I like it when my guy plays with my hair, too. You said you ... (read in full...)
Where do we go to for abortion advice?
Q. well me and my girlfriend had unprotected sed right and now abit ago right and no she keeps feeling sick and and pissing all the time bu shes on the pill as well so we just took a test the other day and it sed she wont but she ant cum on her period ...
A. 11 April 2008: If you write in English (proper spelling and punctuation) then I can answer you and give advice. But this unintelligable gobbledy gook is impossible to read or respond to.... (read in full...)
A "spirit medium" said my marriage will not work out, is this a load of nonsense, in your opinion?
Q. Hi everyone, this may sound like a silly question to most people. Myself and some friends of mine went to see a medium,(this is someone who can talk to people who passed away) i basicly just went out of interest, my main concern is that so far ...
A. 11 April 2008: It is a load of bunk. She has a 50/50 chance of being right here and it has nothing to do with psychic ability. If you stay together you will say that you are defying fate, or that it just hasnt happened ~yet. If you break up you will exclaim that ... (read in full...)
Is sex with someone while separated classified as cheating?
Q. is sex with someone while separated classified as cheating? i have been separated from my husband for 3 months and met a guy who i known from my past as a friend and colleague, he has a partner (but he has informed me that he no longer shared a bed ...
A. 11 April 2008: You were separated from your husband. Am I right to assume that the 2 of you were pursuing a divorce? If that is the case than I would not consider what you did cheating. You had effectively ended your marriage, but because of legal issues where not ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher that I love him?
Q. i dont know if i love my teacher, its probably just a crush but i cant stop thinking about him. i think he knows by now i like him, because i sent him an email and said i think you're amazing and the best teacher i've ever had, and then yesterday he ...
A. 11 April 2008: Even after all the people here have given you a definative answer of NO!NO!NO! without the tiniest margin of wavering you still are going to insist on carrying out on this? You dont love him at all. If you loved him you would care about ... (read in full...)
He wants me to cut my hair? I won't have a chance with him if I don't...so is he worth it?
Q. i need some advice, i've got this guy i really like him and we are going ot meet soon but he says i ain't got a chance unless i cut my hair i really like my long hair and dont wanna cut it but i dont wanna miss out on being with him do u think i...
A. 10 April 2008: This is a completely ridiculous demand and you would be stupid to go along with it. Do NOT cut your hair to satisfy a guy you dont even know!... (read in full...)
How long does you wait to have sex in a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone! I was wondering if any of you could tell me how long one should wait to have sex in a relationship. For those who are wondering it's been around 6 months and we're both virgins! thanks in advance!...
A. 10 April 2008: Personally I think that the younger you are and the more inexperienced you are, the longer you should wait. Before losing your virginity to anyone I think you should be with them for at least a year.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher that I love him?
Q. i dont know if i love my teacher, its probably just a crush but i cant stop thinking about him. i think he knows by now i like him, because i sent him an email and said i think you're amazing and the best teacher i've ever had, and then yesterday he ...
A. 10 April 2008: NO.... (read in full...)
My mother the tart! She's lied to my face and has a new sexy image- this has to be an affair!
Q. I think my mother is having an affair, I found txts and stuff on her phone and its awful and devestating to think of it. I love my parents and am very close to my dad so its killing me. I tried to confront her but she just yelled and then lied to my ...
A. 10 April 2008: I agree with maxsteel. Be there to support your Dad in this. Perhaps you could try to talk to your mom. Say, "Mom, I have noticed your wardrobe has really changed lately. Whats going on?" Then when she responds muse, "oh, cause I really thought it ... (read in full...)
I'm in my own private hell over a married man I never let into my life. Why does doing the right thing hurt so bad?
Q. I am married. I began to have feelings for another man who is also married. He approached me for a relationship but I said nothing, not wanting to hurt him but also not wanting him to know about my feelings. I just could not bring myself to betray ...
A. 10 April 2008: I think there have been some excellant answers on here, especially eddie and miss anonymous. I will not reiterate what they have said because they said it so well. I will only add this:
One reason that you are feeling so sad is that he has move... (read in full...)
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