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Could I possibly be pregnant from this first relation?

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, I had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago, at age 29, with a friend of a friend I´ve met before. It was a one night stand, we used condom, but I was on my pill break (one day without the pill). On the next day, my period c...

A.   30 October 2008: Good!... (read in full...)

Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?

Q.   Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...

A.   23 October 2008: A little trim to make things neat might be ok, but personally I think shaved pubes on a man make him look like a deranged elephant! Just need to paint some little eyes on!... (read in full...)

If he wanted to stay friends why hasn't he called?

Q.   Hi everyone. Me ans my ex were together for 6 months but two weeks ago, we broke up. It was pretty mutual I guess, but he initiated it. He said that he didnt want us to hate each other and didnt wanna lose me as a friend and still wanted to hang ...

A.   23 October 2008: It has only been a week? Do you freak out if your other friends dont call you in a week? If you are only friends than you will not be talking to each other as frequently. And if you are friends than there is nothing wrong with you giving him a call ... (read in full...)

My parents arent supporting my decision to have this baby

Q.   please help me! im 15 and i am 38 weeks pregnant. my parents arn't supporting me at all and they are threatening to throw me out once the baby is born unless i have an abortion. my boyfriend died just after i became pregnant as he got ran over so ...

A.   23 October 2008: At 38 weeks you are waaaaaay past the time that you can get an abortion. You are carrying a full term baby. If it were born today it would not even be considered premature. Perhaps you meant that your parents will kick you out if you do not give up ... (read in full...)

Caught my husband doing my sister!

Q.   I left work early cause I didn't feel well. And I caught my husband doing my sister (now my pregnant sister who I'm not talking too). Here's a surprise he's drunk again. We also have a 3 week son who's very needy. I'm so upset I threw my wedding ...

A.   23 October 2008: How is it that you were going to work when your baby was only 3 weeks old? And special needs? Or when you stated he was 'very needy' did you just mean because he is a newborn and ALL newborns are very needy? Arent you on maternity leave? Your boby ... (read in full...)

He fantisizes about me when we are apart. Does that mean he only wants me for the sex?

Q.   hello, thanks for read my question, I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, I think we have a nice relationship and strong feelings for each other. He has a very high sexual energy, so do I, the sex between us is great, sometimes we do it for ...

A.   23 October 2008: Who would you prefer he fantasize about? The other aunties have it right on. YOU are the object of his desire. Isnt that a wonderful thing?... (read in full...)

Partner looks at freaky and/or gay porn. What gives?

Q.   I've been dating a great guy since the beginning of May. We get along very well and are currently living together. I have known from the start that he likes porn. I made an assumption that since he had been single for a while he looked at it to ...

A.   23 October 2008: Honey, I think you need to get out of this relationship. He is disrespecting you and has abnormal fetishes. His pressuring you to have anal sex is a HUGE red flag to me. My ex husband also was hugely into to anal sex wich I HATED!! He ended up ... (read in full...)

Can we continue to live together as a threesome?

Q.   I have been married for a few years now and recently i met a girl and she moved in with me and my wife, i have got children with my wife and after sitting down and talking for a long while we decided it would be best that we stay together but ...

A.   23 October 2008: Yes it is possible, but you will have a hard fight to keep it. There is the judgement of society to contend against as well as the natural jealousies and conflicts of the relationship ~ times 2! Actually you have 4 relationships here now. Yours and ... (read in full...)

In a polyamourus relationship and my female lover is pregnant!

Q.   I have been part of a Polyamourus relationship for 5 months now, my girlfriend is married to my best friend and I love her very much. Her husband is completely understanding as he has a girlfriend of his own, and we do nothing that he doesn't know ...

A.   23 October 2008: Polyamory is about honesty. What you really need to do is sit down with the two of them and talk. Congratulate them on the wonderful news and ask them how they feel about you continuing or not continuing in the capacity that you have been in. Tell ... (read in full...)

Is four months long enough?

Q.   i have been with a guy for nearly 4 months and im happy but he is asking about sex. im not sure if im ready and is 4 months long enough?? its just that everytime we're alone together we come so close to having it and i have to stop because im not ...

A.   23 October 2008: No, four months is not enough and since you are not feeling ready, then you are definately NOT ready. Do not allow him to pressure you into this. If he pressures you AT ALL then it is a HUGE red flag that he doesnt care about you very much. He may ... (read in full...)

Does she have an ulterior motive in wanting to marry me???

Q.   I have girl 8 years older than me and we are planning getting married but I don't know if she truly loves me because too many times she is only polite only when we are having sex and after she is just being much of herself and not doing the things ...

A.   17 October 2008: I am going to need some more information and clarification here. What do you mean that she is only polite when you are having sex? And please explain what you mean by 'she is being much of herself and not doing the things she says'. From the little ... (read in full...)

What does he mean by saying "we are together but we're not"?

Q.   Hi everyone Really need help here. I split with my boyfriend on Saturday just gone, his choice as he wants to go back to his ex and the mother of his 2 children after 8 months apart, it doesn't hurt that she was always phoning him, anyway we still...

A.   17 October 2008: I think he may mean that they are together for the sake of the kids, that they are together for appearances sake. But that their hearts are not in it and they are not romantically or physically involved. He is commited to her, but does not sleep ... (read in full...)

Sometimes when we're kissing he has his eyes closed, which is very odd to me.

Q.   I've been dating a guy for about four months now and I really care about him a lot. He tells me he loves me and I tell him I love him. He's eleven years older than me but I don't think that really matters. I love him. I do have a concern though. ...

A.   17 October 2008: Actually I think that you may be the odd one here. Lets see if we get a concensus, as I am the first one to answer, but I do believe that the vast majority of people close their eyes when they kiss! I think it would be rather unconfortable to be ... (read in full...)

How long do I need to wait until I bleed again?

Q.   i am a girl. i hve a bf with whom i had sex.when i had sex for the first time i bleeded. later i didnt. but now we broke up and i am engaged with someone else and i dont want him to know that i am not a virgin.so, after how much gap of time or perio...

A.   16 October 2008: I have to agree with Michelle. She put it all very well. Sorry about that, but virginity does not come back no matter how long you wait. That is why you need to be so careful about giving it up in the first place!... (read in full...)

I'm stuck with my abusive, dependant partner. Help!

Q.   Hi Iam a mother of 3 kids 2 daugters from previous marrage age 16 and 17 I was engage for 15 years I broke the engagement 6 months ago I have a son of 4 years with this man While I was still engage with him I met this man it's about 7 months ago he ...

A.   8 October 2008: Do not go back and consult a lawyer right away. Never go back to a man that you fear might kill you and your children!!! Talk to a lawyer about legally extricating yourself from this relationship. I know you are not married, but with the bussiness ... (read in full...)

Is this a definitive break-up or not?

Q.   My partner is 27 years older and we have been together almost 2 years. Until a few months ago everything seemed to be as perfect as life can be. We were so much in love we wanted to live and spend the rest of our lives together. But since 3 months ...

A.   8 October 2008: I think that yes, it is a break up. But he is having trouble letting go completely. And your easy availability just makes it more difficult. He knows he can have you back with a snap of his fingers. He likes being able to control you. Also, consider ... (read in full...)

I am attracted to a much older television personality. Is it ok to feel this way?

Q.   am a bit attracted towards older men rather than men of my age. It aint sexual thou', but lately i found out that i'm very much sexually attracted towards british television writer who was popular with the series Zoo quest(born on may 8th 1926) i ...

A.   8 October 2008: Of course it is ok. I dont think there is a woman alive who does not find Sean Connery attractive, be she 20 or 80 years old and everything in between! Just cause you are attracted to someone much older does not mean there is something wrong with ... (read in full...)

How to build a family if my husband is too focused on his son?

Q.   We started dating almost a year ago and are going to marry. i Love my future husband and have promised him that i will never leave him, because he has been much too scared that i could leave him like others did. I want to follow my words and stay ...

A.   8 October 2008: Wow! This seems very complex! Can I clarify a few points here? Your fiance's son lives in a differant country than you and your fiance? So he lives very far away? This makes going to see him very difficult and expensive, yes? Is it possible for you ... (read in full...)

Will the first time hurt?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time, since im a virgin im scared to know whether i will bleed or it will hurt as ive heard from my friends, im totally ready for sex just have my worries that it will hurt, does your ...

A.   8 October 2008: For the vast majority of people the answer is yes, it will hurt and yes, you will bleed. Everybody is differant though and some have reported very little pain or bleeding. For me, the first time was quite painful and I bled a bit. Intercourse ... (read in full...)

How should I clean 'down there'?

Q.   what's the proper way i should be cleaning /down there/?...

A.   18 September 2008: Just use a little soap and water when you bathe and that is it! As tremor stated it is a self cleaning organ and there is no need to go further than ordinary cleaning. Do not doushe, use special deoderants or anything. And do not fall into the hype ... (read in full...)

Any idea what this lump could be?

Q.   I have this hard bump on the inside of my vagina. Like, near the top, not near the opening. Near the clitoris I think. I am not sexually active and just want to know some ideas before I consult my doctor....

A.   18 September 2008: Littlesuziepie is right. But I will add this to the list of posibilities. You could have a blockage of the bartholyns (sp?)gland. This is the gland that creates lubrication in the vagina and sometimes can become blocked creating a lump or cyst. This ... (read in full...)

I have just found out my husband has never divorced his first wife.!

Q.   I just found out my husband of three years has been lying to me about everything possible, and the kicker, I just found out he never divorced his first wife. He got married in California the first time but we went to Las Vegas,Nevada and eloped.Is ...

A.   18 September 2008: You need to speak to an attourney right away!!! This is not a legal marriage, no. But you need to find out what your rights and options are. A good lawyer should be able to help you navigate this legal mess he has put you in. You need to protect ... (read in full...)

How many sex partners is too many??

Q.   I guess what I want to know is what is the average number of people someone my age (22) has been with? I know its different for everyone and Ill get answers saying whatever is right for me. Im just curious is all. I've been with 12, which I ...

A.   13 September 2008: When I was your age my number was at 6 and I thought that was waaaaay to high and was a bit ashamed. Now, 18 years later my number is 7.... (read in full...)

It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?

Q.   Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...

A.   13 September 2008: I think the last poster put it all very well. But I will add this: when we say it is how you use it we mean that you need to pay attention to the female. Her pleasure should be paramount to you. If your greatest concern is that she is pleasured, ... (read in full...)

I found out details about my boyfriend's ex that would shutter the perfect image he has of her - do you think I should tell him?

Q.   Dear Aunts, I am having a difficult time obsessing over a past love of my boyfriend's. I will call her Jane and him Jon. This is a woman he met about 18 years ago at a trade show. They were both involved with other people, she was engaged....

A.   12 September 2008: I did not start researching her with the intent of catching her in lies and deceptions. I actually started poking around because I thought all she said was true and wanted to watch videos of her dancing and such! I liked her very much and thought ... (read in full...)

How do we maintain the truth and reality here?

Q.   The site is fantastic. It makes me know the problems of real people. Answer to real people promlems and ask real people my problem. How do we mentain the reality and truth here?...

A.   28 August 2008: We have to trust a lot on this site that people will ask honest questions and will give honest, and helpful, answers. The moderators on this site all work very hard to try to make sure that fake questions, mean or unhelpful answers dont get posted. ... (read in full...)

I don't get the popularity of the doggy style position! Care to shed some light?

Q.   Hi, I don't know if this is in the right section What makes doggy style so enjoyable for people? Me and my boyfriend have tried it a few times, I personally don't like it because I find it too impersonal and it doesn't do anything for me...

A.   28 August 2008: It is just nice for a bit of variety. I wouldnt want to do it everyday, because as some have already mentioned the view and impersonality. Also, I feel I dont get to participate in the act as much then. All I can do is accept what is going on. I ... (read in full...)

Was this a 'sex on the first date' scenario? We knew each other online for months beforehand!

Q.   Say you're chatting with someone online for 3 months (webcam/phone aswell), all the while getting closer and closer, you know theres something there....theres a real spark, you have really enjoyed getting to know each other and decide its time to ...

A.   28 August 2008: Yes, you slept with him on the first date.... (read in full...)

Could I possibly be pregnant from this first relation?

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, I had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago, at age 29, with a friend of a friend I´ve met before. It was a one night stand, we used condom, but I was on my pill break (one day without the pill). On the next day, my period c...

A.   28 August 2008: Bleeding is not usually an indication of pregnancy, but of some other problem. You may be getting what is termed 'breakthrough' bleeding as a side effect of the pill or you may be suffering some other medical condition. In either case I think you ... (read in full...)

My current boyfriend is addicted to porn and that caused me to have a fling with my ex

Q.   i have been with my bf for about 2.5 years, recently I have caught on to his obsession with internet porn.Porn really doesnt bother me , we have even watched it together before, but he's sneaking around looking at this all the time(well he thinks ...

A.   28 August 2008: His looking at porn did not cause you to cheat. You did that all on your own and need to take responsibility for your own actions. You are only making excuses to justify your behaviour. I agree with the other posters, either leave him or make the ... (read in full...)

Why does he always close his eyes during sex?

Q.   my bf of three years always has his eyes closed durring sex,I don't get it . He also has an obsession with internet porn. ...

A.   28 August 2008: I really dont think you need to make a big deal out of this. I, and my boyfriend, often close our eyes during sex as a way to completely immerse ourselves in the pleasurable sensations we are feeling. It doesnt necessarily mean that he is ... (read in full...)

Am I being too traditional? How do I get him to commit?

Q.   I have a guy friend that I've known for about 3 years. We are both in our mid-twenties, so I feel kind of funny asking a dating question. I've had boyfriends before....anyway. In the past year, he has been the only guy I go out with on dates. ...

A.   28 August 2008: Ummmmm. It sounds to me as if you two ARE in a relationship. Not every guy feels the need to sit down and formally state "We are dating now", some just start doing it. He may have felt that the first time he asked you out you began 'dating'. The ... (read in full...)

He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?

Q.   Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...

A.   6 August 2008: Well, let us know. This is a very important issue and you are right, it does need to be resolved before you marry. Good luck!... (read in full...)

He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?

Q.   My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...

A.   31 July 2008: I disagree with the other posters. Just because he was into this before does NOT mean he is into it now or in the future. The big question to me is ~ Why did he stop? If he stopped because he found it to be dissatisfying or that it ruined his ... (read in full...)

Will losing my virginity help my self confidence?

Q.   I'm 16 in a few days. I always feel lonely and lost even if I have a girlfriend. I guess I just feel different from everyone else. Maybe it's a self-confidence thing. Does anyone think that losing my virginity will help this a little? I mean, I want ...

A.   31 July 2008: NO, losing your virginity will not help your confidence at all and at 16 you SHOULD have commitment issues! You are too young to be making a serious commitment to a young lady. So it is natural to feel this way and nothing at all to worry about. If ... (read in full...)

He talked me into sending him pictures of me in my underwear, I promised myself I wouldn't and I did. Now I feel stupid and used!!!

Q.   Hey. I know that when you read this you'll think Im stupid, naive and easily led, but I know this already and Im so full of regret at what Ive done. Basicly, I know a lad (we're friends), he is two years older than me. I knew I should stay away from ...

A.   31 July 2008: You know what you did was wrong so I am not going to berate you for it. The pic is out of your hands now and he can show it to whomever he wants, including posting it on the internet. If you sent it to his phone or computer you can tell him how ... (read in full...)

I adore my internet boyfriend, but now I'm worried that he's cheating.

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, Im in an internet relationship, He lives in America and im from the UK. We've been together 1 and a half year 1.7 on the 3rd. We've always spoke in the morning and at night but recently he said he wants space, and doesnt want ...

A.   31 July 2008: I agree with eyswideopen. You need to find a real boy to have a real relationship with rather than a fantasy relationship with someone on the other side of the planet. Being able to do things with someone (hugs and kisses as well as going to movies ... (read in full...)

Why do I keep thinking about him?

Q.   I met this young man he saw interest in me and wanted to know me more.I really liked him as well. Well we went out a few times we were really getting to know one another and growing fond of one another.He shared with me that he had friends one day ...

A.   31 July 2008: Why does the fact that a friend of his is pregnant have any bearing whatsoever on his romantic relationship with you? Is the child his? Then this person is a bit more than a friend, isnt she. Is he going to commit to this person and raise the child ... (read in full...)

Why does he masturbate, when I am available at any moment?

Q.   My boyfriend always masturbates and lies about it (because he knows it upsets me that he does it in the first place, but my question is.. why does he masturbate in the first place!? especially since i am ready and willing at any moment!! is it ...

A.   26 July 2008: Sex is about connecting with someone you love. Masterbation is about orgasm and self pleasure. He may be able to have sex with you any time he wants, but he does not want to treat you as a blow up doll. Sometimes a guy just needs to have an orgasm. ... (read in full...)

He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?

Q.   Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...

A.   26 July 2008: Yes, absolutely you should be communicating. Like I said in my previous post ~ It is not about asking permission, it is about be courteous and considerate and, as you said, keeping each other in the loop. He is no longer single, with no one to ... (read in full...)

What is "talking dirty"?

Q.   I have a rather odd question... When people say "talk dirty" (during sex), what does that really entail? Dirty as in gross? Could I get some examples? One of my exes once asked me to, but I had no idea what to say!...

A.   24 July 2008: Talking 'dirty' means getting sexually explicit or vulger. Personally I have never been very confortable doing it. I dont mind hearing it, but feel mostly like an idiot trying to do it. It feels forced and fake and silly. I tend to be very quiet ... (read in full...)

Will I grow any more? Can I do anything about it?

Q.   I'm 17 is it too late to grow? I'm 5.9 and really wanna be a bit taller I've started the gym and go every week atleast. DO you think i will get any taller? My dads about 6.2 and my mum is about 5.1 ish :S Is there anything i can do b...

A.   24 July 2008: You may continue to grow for a few more years yet, but sorry, there is nothing you can do about it happening or not. It is up to your genetics, not up to you execising or not. Growth can be stunted if proper nutrition is not maintined in an extreme ... (read in full...)

He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?

Q.   Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...

A.   24 July 2008: Dear Askoldersister, In most cases I would wholeheartedly agree with you that a man should not be spending that kind of time, doing those kind of activities with a woman and not be including the girlfriend/wife. Dangerous indeed!! However in this... (read in full...)

He doesn't come and tell me what he's doing. Should we communicate more?

Q.   Hi...when you are in a committed relationship, do you think you should tell each other if you will be to work late, leaving work early, coming home late, or if you're going out to eat with a friend/business aquaintances of the opposite sex? My man ...

A.   24 July 2008: Yes, he should be communicating with you. It isnt that he needs your permission or that you are being possesive. It is about communication. The fact that he has been on his own for so long is the problem here. He is not used to being accountable to ... (read in full...)

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