My boyfriend hurts when he gets and erection and we don't have sex, and bleeds when urinates
Q. My boyfriend says it hurts when he gets an erection and we don't have sex. Is this true? He also says it makes him "Pee" blood? Help please -Jenn...
A. 1 November 2007: Again, it is the kidney stones then that are making him 'pee blood' and having or not having sex will not change this. Having intercourse will not stop or aleviate the pain or blood. They are not even remotely related. If he tries to tell you they ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregant??
Q. Hi, I really need some help. My bf is my first seuxal partner, I have been intimate with my bf for about 10 months and we have always used condoms (i am not on any other birth control). Last night we had sex and i was really dry but we continue...
A. 25 October 2007: Good to hear it!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hurts when he gets and erection and we don't have sex, and bleeds when urinates
Q. My boyfriend says it hurts when he gets an erection and we don't have sex. Is this true? He also says it makes him "Pee" blood? Help please -Jenn...
A. 25 October 2007: Having an erection that does not end in orgasm can cause some mild 'pain' only if it is for a very extended time. A guy will not have pain with every erection that does not end in intercourse or orgasm or guys would be doubled over constantly as ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt again after three years?
Q. My Ex and I were in a long distance relationship, which we ended nearly three years ago. The break up was mostly mutual, and we agreed to a pseudo open relationship. We did see each other twice in the following two months, and I always thought we ...
A. 24 October 2007: You are suddenly feeling the loss like it is new because of this new girl. It wasnt so bad when it was a problem with him ~ he was unable to make time for you, he was too busy. But now that you find he can make time for someone else, someone he ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship and I don't know how to handle it
Q. Hi guys! I have been "dating" this guy I met online and we have been talking for just over a year now. He lives in the US and I live in Canada. I'm 28 and he is 23. We talk on webcam all the time and just recently we decided he would come to visit ...
A. 23 October 2007: I am glad to hear that you are being so sensible about this and have such a good head on your shoulders. It sounds to me like you have a really good game plan and things will work out for you one way or the other. Going into this open minded, but ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship and I don't know how to handle it
Q. Hi guys! I have been "dating" this guy I met online and we have been talking for just over a year now. He lives in the US and I live in Canada. I'm 28 and he is 23. We talk on webcam all the time and just recently we decided he would come to visit ...
A. 21 October 2007: I think you are right to be so cautious. It isnt a 'real' relationship! At least not yet. It makes me crazy when some people say how they are in love with someone that they have only spent a week or 2 with in person. Talking is not the same thing as ... (read in full...)
12, I haven't had a period in 5 months and worry I could be pregnant. Any advice?
Q. Hey Guys. I Hope You Can Help Me. I Am 12 And Im Gunna Turn 13 In Januaryy... I Started My Periods About 2 Years Ago...... But I Am Scared i Am Pregnant As I Had Sex About 5 Monthes Ago And I Havent Had A Period Since... I Have Tried Pregnancey Te...
A. 19 October 2007: If the tests keep coming back negative and you are not showing any sign or symptoms of pregnancy in 5 months, I would say that the chances of you being pregnant are very slim. The only way to know for sure would be to go to the doctor and get a ... (read in full...)
All my life I have suffered from Body Dysmorphic Disorder
Q. All my life I have suffered from Body Dysmorphic Disorder but i really want to change it now but i dont know how. Its a lot better than it used to be. I'm 22 now and still incredibly shy and quiet around new people and always worrying what they ...
A. 19 October 2007: What is body dysmorphic disorder? I have never heard of it.... (read in full...)
All my life I have suffered from Body Dysmorphic Disorder
Q. All my life I have suffered from Body Dysmorphic Disorder but i really want to change it now but i dont know how. Its a lot better than it used to be. I'm 22 now and still incredibly shy and quiet around new people and always worrying what they ...
A. 19 October 2007: What is body dysmorphic disorder? I have never heard of it.... (read in full...)
He jacked off earlier and told me during sex why he was taking so long. It made me angry!
Q. Recently my bf and i were having sex and he was taking a really long time... so I started to feel self-concsious that I was doing something wrong. Then he said "Don't worry... it's not your fault... I "jacked off" today." I was so mad and hurt by...
A. 19 October 2007: There is nothing digusting about masterbation and I agree wtih your boyfriend that you were being rather immature to get so upset by it. Most men masterbate daily, even if they have a partner. Masterbation is not about sex, relationships or ... (read in full...)
Does sex affect nursing?
Q. I had a normal delivery and my baby girl is now three months old. I'm breastfeeding her and have been advised to do for a year at least. Now my husband wants to have intercourse with me. He has the habit of squeezing and sucking my breasts and ...
A. 17 October 2007: Intercourse is not dangerous in the least when breastfeeding and whatever contraceptive you would use anyway will be just fine. As long as he is gentle and doesnt not hurt you or your breasts, perhaps by biting the nipple too hard, then you should ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with losing my babies and not push my fiance away??
Q. please help me I've been going through alot and really need some good advice as i cant stop hurting and cry. My fiance is very understanding and there for me but i know he is hurting too. I can't be there for him. I feel like i do try but i feel l...
A. 17 October 2007: I am so sorry. You have my absolute deepest sympathies. I had a miscarriage once and I cried for days and felt so lost and inadequate. I had wanted that baby so bad! Losing one baby is bad enough, but to lose a second one, and so soon, is terrible! ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to speed up labour??
Q. I'm just over nine months pregant. 2 days ago i had a small amount of clear fluid run down my leg, it's the 3rd time it's happened. I was wondering if theres anyway to speed up labour? People have suggested driving fast over a hill, and one lady ...
A. 17 October 2007: There are several things to TRY, but none of them are garaunteed to work. I, too, tried the castor oil, but it did not work for me. Castor oil is not dangerous at all so feel free to try it, but I do have to warn you, it tastes NASTY!!!!! I suggest ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregant??
Q. Hi, I really need some help. My bf is my first seuxal partner, I have been intimate with my bf for about 10 months and we have always used condoms (i am not on any other birth control). Last night we had sex and i was really dry but we continue...
A. 17 October 2007: Relax, Sweetie. The morning after pill will take care of it. I personally have never taken it but I can tell you that it is a short term high dose of birth control pills. It prevents an egg from implanting itself on the uterine wall and therefore ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity recently to the girl I love but I didn't make her orgasm. Am I bad at sex? How do I prevent myself from ejaculating so quickly?
Q. I suck at sex!!! I lost my virginity a week ago to this girl I love!!! It was brilliant! But... I didn't make her orgasm. I couldn't last long enough to anyway. Is this really bad? She's NEVER had an orgasm before in her life, not even made by ...
A. 4 October 2007: Basschick is right on. Very, very few women orgasm from pentrative sex alone. It is not that you are bad at sex, it is just the way women are. But concentrate on her first and THEN have intercourse and you will have it made. She will feel wonderful, ... (read in full...)
I cannot smell or taste due to my cold
Q. during the past few days i cannot smell or taste due to my cold. i am very worried and concerned about this, and i really want to get better and to gain back my 2 senses. please help and what should i do? this is really effecting my life....
A. 4 October 2007: You have a COLD! It is not the end of the planet! You just have to wait it out. I think you are being way over dramitic here.... (read in full...)
What is my new wife doing and why?
Q. i am 36 years old and have been married since may 07, my wife and i have been together for 4 1/2 years of which we have had some fantastic moments.she was divorced from her 1st husband back in 2006 and we have now bought a lovely home and are moving ...
A. 2 October 2007: Wait just a second here. You have been with her for 4 1/2 years, but she was only divorced a year ago? That means you were dating her when she was still married, right? Even if she had already filed for divorce and you started dating her when she ... (read in full...)
I told him I was falling in love and he said I didn't have to tell him, why? We stopped contact because of the distance and we both have partners now. What to do?
Q. I was having sex with a guy, we both have partners and have not seen each other for 2 years now, but I told him that "I was falling in love with him" and he said "you didnt have to tell me that" the thing is I dont know what he meant, instead of me ...
A. 2 October 2007: I dont mean to be mean, but you havent had contact with this guy in 2 years and you are worried about what he meant back then NOW? What does it really matter? The two of you have moved on and have new partners. What he said or meant 2 years ago ... (read in full...)
Am I investing too much in this thing with her?
Q. Dear ....., Please help me with my problem. I am a44 year old man in a dilemma. Just before Christmas last year my then relationship was ended. She had ended it numerous times in as many weeks, one day she would tell me she loved me...
A. 2 October 2007: You need to move on. Her marriage may be bad, but she is still in it. Unless she files for divorce she is taken. I really dont think you know her all that well and have only heard one side of it. You have only seen her for very short bursts of time ... (read in full...)
Anonymously received photos of me giving oral to my bf in a public place. We're worried...
Q. ok, this is a little embarassing im sorry. me and my boyfriend went on a day trip recently.when we arrived we parked the car in a quiet side street.we started kissing an one thing lead to another (i gave him oral sex) but there was nobodya around so ...
A. 2 October 2007: I think they were probably letting you know that you were not as private as you thought you were and that you had better behave better in the future. Lesson learned.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have an affair when we love each other?
Q. Help, I have not had any close relations with any male. I wanted to wait for the right man. Now I have fallen in love with my colleague who also loves me, he cares for me and is a very helpful person and we are close. I want to go all the way with ...
A. 2 October 2007: Short answer is YES, it is wrong. ... (read in full...)
Is something wrongwith me preffering blow-jobs of sex?
Q. Hello all. hope you can help with my question. i am 21 and my girlfriend is 20. i have been with my girlfriend fo a year now and at the beggining we had a very good sex life. but during the last 4 months i dont want sex i would rather have a bl...
A. 1 October 2007: You are getting very selfish. A blowjob is all about you and isnt really for her at all. Sex is about connecting with your partner and I think you have lost that connection and are just after the pure pleasure of a blowjob. Take a step back and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I could be pregnant! What do you think?
Q. hey every1, right, im a bit scared right now but im gunna start at the beginning. so, me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom about 2 weeks ago. im on the pill and have been for a couple of years and i take it everyday without fail. what i ...
A. 1 October 2007: The pill, especially if taken properly as you have, is an extremely effective birth control method all on its own. The chances of you getting pregnant are almost nill. The reason you use the condom as well is (1) for that extra insurance that just ... (read in full...)
Can I legally move out of state with my kids?
Q. I am thinking about moving to a different state with my children to "start over". The problem is that my husband and I are only separated, not divorced yet. He is abusive but I have never legally filed a complaint against him. Can I legally leave ...
A. 29 September 2007: Until custody is oficially decided by the courts or by legal agreement the courts veiw you to BOTH have equal custody of your children. Unless your soon to be ex agrees to the move (and what are the chances of that!) you could get in serious trouble ... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he want to tell his family about our wedding? He makes me feel like he was forced into this marriage!
Q. my boy friend(hubby) and i went to new york city hall to register for marriage more than a month ago. legally we're married, and we're hoping to have a formal make-up wedding next year when we're more financially stable. before we registered, i...
A. 20 September 2007: There seems to me to be a definate big problem here. Is he ashamed of you? Is there a racial, religeous, or nationality differance that he thinks his family wouldnt approve of? How long were you together before getting married? Marriage should be a ... (read in full...)
My ex says he will always be there for me. What does this mean?
Q. I need some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me almost 5 months ago because he says he's afraid of commitment, but we have still remained in some contact with each other, basically only through emails. He told me that he's dating someone else ...
A. 20 September 2007: I think he genuinely cares about you and still want to be connected to you even if not romantically. My boyfriend has remained frieds with many of his exes and will still go over and fix the leaky faucet of his ex that he broke up with 11 years ago! ... (read in full...)
Does she like me as much as I like her?
Q. I met the most amazing woman at a college party last saturday. I was slightly drunken, and I thought she was beautiful, so of course I flirted with her. I ended up finding out that she was completely sober, and was just the DD. Somehow I had ...
A. 20 September 2007: Seems to me she does! She has let you know she just got out of a painful relationship and her INTENTIONS were to wait a while before dating again. But when she said she 'wasnt opposed' to going out with you she was letting you know that she finds ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to have a sexual relationship with your teacher if you are 18??
Q. is it legal to have a sexual relationship with your teacher if you are 18?? ...
A. 20 September 2007: No. A teacher is in a position of trust and authority and it is illegal for him to have a relationship with you even if you are 18. ... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he want to tell his family about our wedding? He makes me feel like he was forced into this marriage!
Q. my boy friend(hubby) and i went to new york city hall to register for marriage more than a month ago. legally we're married, and we're hoping to have a formal make-up wedding next year when we're more financially stable. before we registered, i...
A. 20 September 2007: Are you sure you are even married? From what you wrote it sounds like you obtained your marriage licence, but did not actually have a marriage ceramony. If that is the case then you are not married. You would have had to stood before a judge in a ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with a man 20 yrs older than me. What will be our future?
Q. im 20 year girl. i have a boyfriend whose 40 years old. he is got married in novmber 2006.we have our relation from past 4 years.we stay in one house.our parents doenst know about it.we had sex several times.so what will be our future. i dont want ...
A. 20 September 2007: How can you be living with him? Doesnt he live with his wife? By the way, this is the wife he married less than a year ago and three years into a relationship with you? And he began a relationship with you when you were only 16 and and he was 36? ... (read in full...)
We had a perfect sex life at the start. How can we get that back again?
Q. my bf and i had a perfect sex life when we first met how do you get that back ? ...
A. 20 September 2007: The incredible passion and excitement of first being with a new partner is amazing and cant be retained or recreated. Sorry, but its true. But that doesnt mean that you cant have a wonderful, exciting, and fullfilling sexual relationship. Spice it ... (read in full...)
I think I have shaved my pubic hair too much because now I get ingrowing hairs. What can I do about it?
Q. I think I've shaved and plucked my pubic hairs too much because now i get a lot of ingrown hairs and i have to tear the top layer of skin with my nail to let get the hair out otherwise it will just keep growing. Is this dangerous if i do leave it ...
A. 20 September 2007: I sometimes get ingrown hairs, too. And it isnt confined to that intimate area, I get them on my legs, too. If you leave them be they will continue growing and curling under the skin wich can lead to pain or infection. Therefore I wouldnt just ... (read in full...)
I think I am in love with someone on this site but I have only 'spoken' to them once. Help!
Q. i think i'm in love with someone on this site. i know that sounds insane but everytime i read something they have written i think "omg this person is amazing, so understanding and everything i want". i've never even spoken to them apart from one ...
A. 20 September 2007: You arent in 'love' with this person. YOu are attracted to the person you think they may be. You dont know this person in real life and dont know how they really are. A persons character is defined not by what they SAY or BELIEVE, but by what they ... (read in full...)
My partner and I have sex w/ others, but we want a family one day. Am I crazy for doing this?
Q. I am a very sexual person..me and my boyfriend of 4 yrs like to engage in crazy sexual activities.we love eachother and are planning to have a family one day. Just last night I have let him have sex with another girl..he enjoyed it..it turned m...
A. 15 September 2007: No, you are not crazy. But you do need to be very careful. What you are engaging in is either swinging or polyamory. They are very differant from each other and you should really be very clear what it is you are doing and that you and your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Is removing pubic hair really all that important?
Q. I've always been slightly worried what boys would think about pubic hair when I'm ready to have sex, as I am about most things involving my first time. I've heard that they like it shaved. LOTS of boys do, the majority apprantly. I always thought...
A. 11 September 2007: All guys are differant. Mine personally does not like the completely shaved look as he feels it is womanly to have pubic hair. Shaving it all off makes you look like a little girl and he says he would feel like a pedofile doing it with a girl with ... (read in full...)
I get swollen and bleed when I have sex
Q. I am 15 and I have had sex 3 times. My first time wasn't painful as the penis wasn't big. My second time was so painful (he was very big) he had to stop and my vagina and clitorus swelled up and i bled a bit. My third time was a tiny bit less ...
A. 4 September 2007: Yes, absolutely your body is telling you it is not ready!! And having one night stands with 3 differant boys in quick succession is not healthy even when you are older. Take a step back from this self destructive behavior and give your body a break. ... (read in full...)
What seperates loving somebody and being in love with them??
Q. Ok, so i have been dating my bf for a little over 10 months now, not to mention 2 years before breaking up for a year. I know i love him but i am confused to whether i am 'in love with him'. I dont love him as just a friend because he means so much ...
A. 4 September 2007: Sometimes people confuse infatuation/attraction with love. In infatuation you may feel those butterflies and feel everything is 'magical', but that is only what opens us up to the POSSIBILITY of love happening. Then when those initial excited ... (read in full...)
He lives 300 miles away and we've never met but we're in love! Everyone tells me to finish it. Help!
Q. Im in a relationship with this 15 year old boy. He lives 300 miles away and we've never met but we've fallen in love. Ive tried so hard to say its over but i just cant! Its our 3rd time we've gone out so i think that we've something. Everyone tells ...
A. 4 September 2007: If you have never met than you are not 'in love' Love is something that takes time, lots and lots of time actually in each others presence doing things together rather than just talking about the things that you do separately. People can be who they ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity with a lad and I haven't bled. Does that mean there is a problem?
Q. Well ive just recently had sex with a lad i met and ive had sex with him 3 times but i did'nt bleed.Is this normal or have i got a problem ? ...
A. 4 September 2007: Not everyone bleeds. This does happen with MOST people, but not all. Your hymen may have already been broken from physical activity or you just may be lucky.... (read in full...)
This woman is claiming my husband has been cheating and fathered a child. What do you think?
Q. ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 3YEARS. LAST YEAR WE HAD A BIG ARGUEMENT BECAUSE HE WAS ACUSSING ME OF BEING AT A BAR TELLING PEOPLE THAT I WASNT MARRIED AND THAT WAS NOT TRUE. SO WE ENDED UP SEPERATING FOR 4 MONTHS. WE FINALLY GOT BACK ...
A. 4 September 2007: Dont post questions/answers all in caps. It is annoying and difficult to read. I wont even attempt it.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my mum to show me how to use a tampon?
Q. hello, just wondering, is it normal for my mum to want to show me how to use tampons ? i mean i was so embarssed about telling her i was even on my period, (she found blood stains in my pants so that's how she found out) and i am so scared. is this ...
A. 4 September 2007: yes, it is your moms job to show you these things. I know it is emnbarrassing, but it is not something you should go to friends about or try to figure out on your own. Your mom can answer all your questions about your changing body, sex and ... (read in full...)
Anal sex is painful for my wife but I like it. Advice please!
Q. Anal sex is painful for my wife but I like it. Is there any way to have anal sex without hurting my wife?...
A. 4 September 2007: I HATE and I mean HHHAAATTTEEE anal sex. I used to just dislike it, but my husband always liked it and even though it was painful to me and I didnt want to do it he would insist. I would tell him no over and over and he would tell me how much I (not ... (read in full...)
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