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writes:So I became friends with an older women and I'm 19 and she is 49 and after being friends for a little over a year she asked me if I would ever consider w having a more romantic relationship. I said ok. Well we began to fall for each other earlier on. But I realize its a 30 year difference and that could be a problem I know all the down sides. I know all the upsides. But I don't know what to because I love her and she loves me. But she will have to give up her current life. Her husband, her kids and dissappoint ment. I love her and want to be w her. But I know its not a good idea cuz ill be 50 and she will be 80. I just need some advise what's best for her and what is best for me?
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reader, xanthic +, writes (11 July 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
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reader, BandR4ever +, writes (6 July 2010):
I know love is a powerful thing, but this can't happen. She has a husband and kids and it wouldn't be worth it to give it up for someone who is 30 years younge than her, and no offense but that would be kinda sick if you dated her, I don't see why age difference is a big thing if it's like 5 years or something but 3 years is a bit too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): dude the age is not a big problem, the problem is that she is married. If you are with her, think about what her children will think, first off they will probably hate you and their mother for the rest of their life, and they might think its ok to break off a marrige when something younger comes along. Marriage is a comeneintment and you don`t want to be the one to break it. Also you say you love her, if you truly love her you should be able to let her go so that her children can be raised by a mother and a father. Always remeber your actions do`nt only affect you but many many others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): It is good that you are considering your actions and the effects it will have on the lives of all involved.
You may desire a relationship with her, but you are giving her tacit approval to be dishonest in her current marriage. If there are problems in her marriage than she can leave him and you can be together. Otherwise you are in for plenty of drama.
It is a large age difference and unless you have an open relationship you may not be a father in the future. Things to consider.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): Ive been in a relationship with a woman who is 23 years older than me for 8 years. Im 45 years old and she looks as if she is my age. Love who you love and enjoy your time together.
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