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writes:okay this is gonna sound well bad but here goesi went to my brother's friend's wedding this sunday just gone, and my brothers other friend who i have just recently fancied was there, i got really drunk like really drunk and randomly he started coming onto me, n i came onto him back, i felt well happy but then coz we was at a hotel n he was best man we went back to his hotel room and had sexi dont really regret it but it feels kinda wrong nowim 16 n hes 31, but if my brother ever found out he would kill him then mei dunno what to dooo, and hes got a gf aswell so he cheated, im just all over the place atmdunno what to do :-(
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 The fact that you feel it was wrong means you DO regret it, and honestly, I would too had I been in that position. No 31 year old should be going after a teenage girl, let alone one that's had too much to drink. He took advantage of you, and was fully aware of it. I wouldn't be surprised if he's done this before to other young girls, and would do it again given the chance.
Although the other answers suggest you forget about what happened, I feel his actions shouldn't go without some form of consequence, and that those close to him (i.e. his girlfriend) have a right to know. Without any repercussions, it's likely he'll repeat this behaviour simply because he knows he can get away with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): He's 31, you are 16-17 and underage for drinking...
We call that rape.
In 20 years you will understand that it is rape.
You may have "consented" but were not in a proper frame of mind to consent. Under age, intoxicated, and a 31 year old man got involved with you.
Tell your brother. Likely that this isn't the first time this fellow has done this with an under age female.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (31 August 2010):
 How about you?? not tell anyone, oh my god, that is a hard one to figure out, what do you mean what should you do, you dont feel guilty, your ok with it, so what's the question? and whats so difficult to figure out? I guess im just lost!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Don't tell anyone. It really does no good. Every body gets hurt and the wedding gets ruined. Never get into a situation where you would get so drunk you couldn't think straight. He really doesn't deserve to be best man. I think the only thing you can do is get a pregnancy test and a health check.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Forget it ever happened and move on. Try to make better decisions in the future.
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reader, woeizmex +, writes (31 August 2010):
Do not think about it and forget about it. Well my friend is 18 and h had sex with a woman that is 38 and she has 2 kids but is divorced...He was drunk too and the next day it felt wrong for him too. But he just never talked about it or always ignored the subject. He just got over it. Don't think about it and it will go away. You didn't do anything wrong, u were drunk, if anything it's his fault he is the "grown up" one. So just ignore him and never talk to him again because i am sure that he will not just come to talk to u all happy(correct me if im wrong)
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