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How do I tell my ex I'm pregnant? Is it okay to write a letter?

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Question - (19 August 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I split up from my ex in February. It has taken 4 months for our solicitors to try to resolve our seperation and as yet it is not complete. Since February I have met an amazing new guy, unexpectedly I have become pregnant. We were obvioulsy shocked to start with but are now over the moon. We have not been able to tell anyone about the pregnancy as I was concerned my ex could make things difficult with the seperation. (I am buying our house from him)

I feel I should tell my ex I am pregnant as we live in a small town and news travels fast. I figure it is kinder to hear from me and not the local gossips.

It is ok to tell my ex by letter. I think the news will upset him quite alot. I can't wait much longer as I am starting to show but I can't bring myself to tell him face to face. What do you think I should do. Thanks very much. Ax

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A female reader, lisalovely United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2010):

Who is the baby's daddy… Your ex or your current boyfriend?

If the baby’s daddy is your ex- then he has the right to know that he is having a child and you should tell him in person.

If the baby's daddy is your current boyfriend then you do not have to feel obligated to inform your ex-lover that you are pregnant since it is none of his business.

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (20 August 2010):

xanthic agony auntIf it's not his baby, I don't see why it would be any of his business. If it is his, tell him in person.

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A female reader, FluffyPie United States +, writes (19 August 2010):

FluffyPie agony auntIf the baby is your ex's baby, just go personally and tell him, he's all the right to know about it.

If the baby is of your current partner, your ex has nothing to do with it. You should just forget about him and carry on with your life, without telling yourself that me might be upset. Just be happy with your life.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (19 August 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI don't know why it is any of his business. Does he know you are in a new relationship?

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A female reader, almc Canada +, writes (19 August 2010):

Who's baby is it? Your exs? Or the boyfriend you have now? If the baby is your exs, you need to tell him face to face! If its not his baby then a letter is fine, you guys have both moved on and he will understand that. Good luck.

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