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writes:I am in love with my boyfriend. Absolutely. I know it's love because he does things that with my ex's was completely uncomfortable and irritating but with him... everything he says makes me feel good.Here is the issue, he has already said it to me, to which I told him that it was much too early in our relationship to say that.I know this hurt him, because he has had his heart broken to bits so many times, and now I feel like if I told him I loved him he'd either not believe me, OR (this one could possibly be the worse one) he would get unbareably clingy and well... I like a little room to breathe, ya know?Really, I just need opinions on this.
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reader, jake79  +, writes (26 August 2010):
tell the guy you really like him, but tell him you need space as well, you have to wear the pants. That means not returning phone calls sometimes, not agreeing to whatever he want's to do and if you tired tell him your tired, go home, watch tv, do whatever but don't return his phone call or text, or email when you know he keeps bugging for a response. Tell him you need your own time and space...if he becomes to clingy tell him...if he get's upset, big deal, not your problem, someone has to set some boundaries, and if you don't no one else will. and remember if it get's boring or becomes a drag, just dump him...look after yourself first and the guy second..and make sure youdon't discount your friends, they have to be a priority as well. guys come and go, friends stick together.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (25 August 2010):
 If it feels like the right time, tell him. Don't let how he feels pressure you into doing or saying anything before you're ready.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 If you love him, you should tell him. It's probably breaking his heart that you haven't said it back. If he becomes too clingy, just sit him down and let him know and he should back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been together one month and two weeks, he said it about three weeks in.
And I just worry about him being clingy because he is already showing dependency to me. Example, if he messages me and I don't reply within say two hours he gets ridiculously worried. With any other guy, I would have already dumped him for this, but I really love him so much I overlook it.
I just don't know. We have a date tomorrow and I kind of want to say it then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): You two are really young. And space is the best thing for the both of you. It's very healthy for your relationship. As hard as it sounds keep it that way for as long as you can, and with age, experience and maturity, you will see how serious the both of you really are about being in love. TRUST ME. Been there done that! Good luck!
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