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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Can't break up even though I know its best. Advice?
Q. I am coming here for help in a really hard time and need support/advice. My boyfriend and I have dated for 2 1/2 years and i found out he lied twice about going out to the bar and then went a third time and got a girls number there asking her...
A. 8 December 2011: Somethings you just have to do and worry later. If you stay with him it will most likely ruin the season for you and then there will just be more excuses.
When you see him just tell him you're breaking up with him and then leave. You don't need... (read in full...)
Vulgar bulgur
Q. Okay I know this is a rather silly question, but the other night my gf cooked this dish that I hated. She is a tender woman and so I haven't told her yet. The next day she said she was quite pleased with the flavor. Any tips on gently telling h...
A. 6 December 2011: I see why you are worried here. Start off by telling her that you really appreciated her cooking dinner for but the dish isn't something that you really enjoyed. She may be a little hurt by it but in the end it was just a meal. I think she will be ... (read in full...)
After 5 Years Why Hasn't He Proposed
Q. This is real simple. I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I moved out of state to be with him and its been me and him since 2006. I have never given him a reason to not trust me. I've never lied to him. I've never cheated on him. I go to ...
A. 6 December 2011: I think the relationship is where he wants it to be right now. Think about it from his perspective. He has you living with basically being a married couple without anything actually keeping him with you. So he has all of that so he probably doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my b/f about a random text I received from a guy who means nothing to me?
Q. hey I'm 26 and been with my boyfriend for 16 months. basically I received a really random text from a guy I know but not seen in years and we weren't close....just general at first...( I don't have his number so dsaid idnt know who it was at ...
A. 6 December 2011: I think you should tell him. Don't make it such a serious matter but just bring up that this random guy texted you from way back. If I was in your bf's position I would just laugh about it and let it go. By doing this it shows that you have nothing ... (read in full...)
Told his wife he's cheating.....was I wrong for telling?
Q. I Recently slept with a married man after talking to him daily for two months and him promising that he would leave his wife within the next 5 months and there is no love between them or sex..just friendship....I believed him and after a dinner date ...
A. 3 December 2011: In the end you do deserve some negativity here because you did sleep with a married man in the first place but over all no you shouldn't feel bad. You got caught in this guys trap which happens to more then would like to admit it. Doing the right ... (read in full...)
My period was missed, should I worry?
Q. This question may well sound abit dumb, but i am young and have no idea about female anatomany, not to mention i worry far to much so if you could tell me if this is normal or not it would be great. I have bas...
A. 3 December 2011: You are still at that age where your body is going though changes so missing a period is not uncommon. One missed at this point in your life is no reason to stress. If you miss your next one then it would be good just to see what a doctor has to say ... (read in full...)
Help needed getting over my ex-girlfriend
Q. Hey everyone, I've just been through a tough break up and I can't seem to get over this girl, I loved her so much has anyone got any ideas on how to get over her??...
A. 2 December 2011: I say the best way to get over a break up is to go out and live your life. Spend time with your friends and keep active to keep your mind off her. Also spending the time out and about really sets up the opertunity to meet someone new which really ... (read in full...)
Man over 20 with a teen?
Q. I am a 24 year old male and I was wondering is it illegal for me casually date a girl who's 17? Or just simply be good friends with her?...
A. 1 December 2011: Like it was said, it is only illegal if you are sexually active with her. Other than that there is no reason that you can't date her. My concern is that you say casually. She may fall for you much harder then you think and if you actually care about ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned! Am I butting into my boyfriend's life?
Q. okay so now my boyfriend isn't really talking to me and when we do talk it's for like 1 minute and most of the time we're just standing there until one of us says k got to go bye! and i also want to know if i'll seem untrustworthy if i ask him why ...
A. 29 November 2011: Sorry to hear that things didn't work out but now you never know who you will meet.
I got dumped over the summer and now I met such a great girl and things are going so well.
He probably had too many issues and to be honest they are things t... (read in full...)
Can my ex take me to court and get custody of our son?
Q. I need some advice. When I was four months pregnant I left my son's biological father because he forced himself on me sexually and used to hit me. After we split I tried to be civil with him for our son's sake. Well sometime later we got into a big ...
A. 25 November 2011: The short answer is yes he can. Since he is the biological father he will always have this option. My advice to you is keep a detailed log of all the stuff you hear from and and the dates and times he has abused you or has acted in a way that isn't ... (read in full...)
Good place for a first date?? Ideas?
Q. Just a quick question: Where would be a good place to take a girl on a first date? I'm from the UK, so would prefer to hear from British girls, but any suggestions from overseas would be very helpful too :) I know it seems like a stupid thing to ...
A. 24 November 2011: Personally I don't like the idea of a full meal on the first date because some people get nervous to eat infront of someone new. The cinema is a no because there is no opertunity for communication.
Think of something which gives you both some... (read in full...)
He acts like a complete jackass towards me but I cant let him go, help!
Q. Hello. What to do when your boyfriend of almost 3 years stops having sex with you, doesn't talk to you like that anymore, ignores your calls/texts, acts like he doesn't want you around, constantly lies about little simple things, rarely spends times ...
A. 24 November 2011: You may love him to death but in the end you have to love yourself and kick him to the curb. From the sounds of it you just need to drop him and never talk to him again. I know this is way easier to say then it is to do but I am sorry to say that ... (read in full...)
Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 24 November 2011: I think that it is more of a comparison thing going on. There is nothing wrong with being able to say someone of the same sex is attractive. It is just human nature to check out everyone around you and that doesn't mean you are bi-sexual. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date my 5th cousin?
Q. ok is it wrong for me to be dating my 5th cousin.i told my mom and she says that is my choice of who i date but is it wrong?...
A. 23 November 2011: 5th? I wouldn't even consider that a relative. If you two want to date then feel free too. You're more likely to randomly meet someone more related to you.
I must say though it is pretty neat that you can extend your family tree that far out. ... (read in full...)
I didn't like the message my b/f received on his phone
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and things are getting serious. He has asked me to move in with him at Christmas and we see each other every day. Everything is great but the problem is he works nights, he is a taxi driver, and in ...
A. 23 November 2011: I don't understand what you mean by "I'm about x". Maybe someone can clear that up for me.
As for him giving out his number like that it comes down to if you are going to be with him you have to trust him. I see why he does it. He has regulars that... (read in full...)
Could this be a sign of cheating?
Q. I am constantly flirting with my husband. I send him sexy text messages, I shower him with hugs and kisses. He very rarely sends any messages back to me, and I don't get the same affection in return. Is it possible that he is cheating on me?...
A. 17 November 2011: I think to call cheating so soon is a bit extreme. It sounds to me that he has issues showing affection which is actually a fairly common problem. Sit him down and talk to him about how you are feeling but don't mention cheating. Talk to him about ... (read in full...)
Met him online, love him, but he wants sex before marriage
Q. Gud evening , my question is . I met a guy online he live in abroad so since then we have been chatting on november 2011 he propose to me he said he's coming back next month and we will make love before marriage and am not ready to make love ...
A. 17 November 2011: You have to stand by the beliefs that make you happy. Personally I don't think this is an odd thing. I wouldn't marry someone who I didn't have sex with first and that is for my own personal beleifs.
This is where you have to choose your beli... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents about this guy?
Q. Okay so I'be been going out with this guy for a while and things are great we both like talking to each other and we get along fine. He's around my age which is nice but.. there's one thing. I havnt told my parents especially my dad.. we're waiting ...
A. 17 November 2011: Tell you parents as soon as possible. I started dating a girl who is 17 and met her parents right away to show them that I am a good guy.
If you try to hide this guy it won't matter if he is good to you or not, they won't be happy with the situ... (read in full...)
Is my FWB hinting that he wants more?
Q. Hi everyone, This isn't so much of a problem; it's more of a question. Me and this man have been having sex for 9 months. I thought we were fwbs. I asked him and he said "we are taking things slowly, which is good." I was just wondering what y...
A. 13 November 2011: It sounds to me that he wants to be with you. I'm not going to lie this is very rare but it does seem that he has feelings for you outside the the fwb.
I think you can see something with him too if you have him around your son like that.
I wou... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend less moody?
Q. The past few days my girlfriend is always in a bad mood. There will be times where she in a great mood, and then all of the sudden her mood just change into a bad mood. When she in a bad mood she just seem so dead. I have no experience on what to ...
A. 13 November 2011: Try little things like reminding her that you think she is beautiful and why you like her. Even if you can't be there a quick text or message saying something sweet can really help.
Most of the time there is no point giving a long winded spea... (read in full...)
Why didn't my ex wish me a "Happy Birthday!" this year?
Q. my birtday was yesterday and one of my good friends (he is also one of my exes and half a month ago it seemed like he would like me more) didn't send me birthday wishes. I don't think he forgot it because we know each other for 3 years and he was ...
A. 13 November 2011: He may not of thought anything of it. I am wondering how good of friends he thinks you are. He may be working on phase out of you which is basically just slowly talking to you less and less. This is quite common when another girl comes into his life ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated three times, is that reason to dump him?
Q. Hi there. I've gotten together with this guy about 2 weeks ago after we had been dating for 3 months. I found out he's cheating on me just three days after we got together and yet he's done it 3 times already. I'm really confused since he seems t...
A. 13 November 2011: Dump him right away. I say the first time he cheated gave you enough reason to dump him. Plus he is doing it right at the beginning of the relationship, not like it gets better the later in the relationship but it is just such a low thing to do when ... (read in full...)
An ex has approached me. Should I let my Bf sort this out?
Q. Okay so here is my problem.. i have a boyfriend of a month and nearly 2 weeks, but one of my ex's has started saying things to me. He is an ex from about two years ago. He was saying things like, "i used to get lost in your eyes" and "i cant stop ...
A. 12 November 2011: That sounds like a good plan to me. ... (read in full...)
An ex has approached me. Should I let my Bf sort this out?
Q. Okay so here is my problem.. i have a boyfriend of a month and nearly 2 weeks, but one of my ex's has started saying things to me. He is an ex from about two years ago. He was saying things like, "i used to get lost in your eyes" and "i cant stop ...
A. 12 November 2011: What you should do is make it clear who you want to be with. Your bf should not be going to confront your ex about this as it will most likely end in nothing getting solved.
Your ex may want many different things right now but what is impo... (read in full...)
I'm not gay but I'm falling for a tranny
Q. Ok, been dating this girl for 3 weeks now and we have decided to get intimate in a few days time. The thing is this 'girl' isn't actually a girl. She's a transsexual. She only told me this today. And I know what you may be thinking, how could I...
A. 9 November 2011: Ok, then that definitely means you have a tough choice to make. By the views you have expressed I think that she is probably best kept as a friend for you before the relationship goes to far and someone gets hurt. If you stay in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
I'm not gay but I'm falling for a tranny
Q. Ok, been dating this girl for 3 weeks now and we have decided to get intimate in a few days time. The thing is this 'girl' isn't actually a girl. She's a transsexual. She only told me this today. And I know what you may be thinking, how could I...
A. 8 November 2011: Well you will have a choice to make here because this is how she is and you don't know her intentions of whether she plans on going through with the sex change or not.
It's a tough choice and you are the only one who can make it. ... (read in full...)
Am I cursed? Is it karma?
Q. I have had some of the most unbelievable things happen to me for about 15 years now. Car flipping over and submerging into lake, several close call car wreck with injuries,cervical cancer, emergency brain surgery, seizure disorder and crohn's ...
A. 8 November 2011: I work with a lady who sounds just like you. She has been hit by a car, had cancer, was just electricuted and is still going strong. I don't think it is bad karma because you haven't done anything that I can tell to deserve it.
I think instead of w... (read in full...)
One for the guys: is sex with someone new still special when you've had previous partners?
Q. Gentlemen of DC, when you're in a relationship with someone new, is having sex with them still a special experience even if you've had previous girlfriends? Apologies if this comes across as a rather daft question - I'm feeling a bit insecure about ...
A. 8 November 2011: To me each first time you have with someone is just as special if not more now then losing my virginity. To be honest he may have more meaning to it then you think. He won't be all caught up in the fact that it is the first time so it leaves more ... (read in full...)
My hair was messy after grocery shopping and my husband automatically assumed I was cheating?
Q. So i went made groceries today and when I got back home my hair was a little messy (i wear clip on extensions and these are really old and ready to be disposed of) but when i got home my husband asked why is my hair messed up which made me mad ...
A. 8 November 2011: He seems to be very insecure about himself here. I hope he also at least lets it go easily but I think he needs a good talking to. Explain to him that these accusations are out of line and he shouldn't be making them if he truly trusted you. There ... (read in full...)
Dangers of Porn
Q. I was listening to the recent case of Vincent Tabak who killed his neighbour after he had watched violent porn, particularly of men placing their hands around woman's throats and tying them up in the boot of a car!!! So what did he do, he strangled ...
A. 8 November 2011: I think you are just beating a dead dog here. The fact is that everyone has the right to there own sexual fantasies and only you are less of person for looking down on those people. It's fine that you have your own opinion here but you seem to only ... (read in full...)
A 24 year old dating a 17 year old?
Q. I have a question about a 24 year old dating a 17 year old. I'm 24 and 7 months, and I do have a crush on a 17 year old highschooler. I'm wondering is it ok to get to know her and become close friends? I know I can't have sex, but would casual ...
A. 5 November 2011: Be honest with her and see how she responds to it. I am 21 now and I am seeing someone who is 17 and it is working out really well but you really have to be honest. It really is your job as the older one to make sure she is comfortable with anything ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my partner for my education?
Q. I have been with this girl for more than a year now, we met via post secondary and I am deeply in love with her. I feel like I want her to be my wife in the future. She has aspirations for med school which she is most likely getting in come next ...
A. 3 November 2011: It is a tough choice to make. Since you are thinking that you two are made for each other and I can tell you don't want to lose her then it might be best to take extra time with school and stay with her. Since she is also planning on being in school ... (read in full...)
Do you have any advice on how I can lose weight & begin eating healthy?
Q. Do you have any advice on how I can lose weight and begin eating healthy? I would like to get a head start on my New Years Resolution and begin to make changes in my life. My health is one of those changes. Any advice? Thanks. ...
A. 3 November 2011: The best advice I can give you is that you should plan a head. I am more of a muscle building work out person so I can't really give to much advice on what exercises you should do but a very important thing is plan in advance. At the beginning of ... (read in full...)
A good screen name?
Q. I need a good screen name .. I'm kinda like a closet emo, like people call me emo but I haven't admitted it. Any suggestions .. please no hate. And just for the record I am in no way a wannabe, trust me I know 1 who just copied me....
A. 3 November 2011: What kind of screen name are you looking for? Like what is it for? My thoughts are on something emotional with a darker twist.
Something like "Shadowedlove"
A screen name should represent something about yourself so it is really hard to pick som... (read in full...)
Should I leave my partner for my education?
Q. I have been with this girl for more than a year now, we met via post secondary and I am deeply in love with her. I feel like I want her to be my wife in the future. She has aspirations for med school which she is most likely getting in come next ...
A. 3 November 2011: Finish school. I hate to say this but you can't be sure that this relationship will last and in the end you have to cover your ass so that your life can stay on track first. If you can't do the long distance thing then tell her you love and keep in ... (read in full...)
How to play the player ?
Q. how do you play a player at his own game ..?but when u like the guy and trying not to show feelings ..when ur just pure (friends with benifits lol ). guys n women hu have or are players please to answer thanks...
A. 3 November 2011: Does he express that he is really into you two hooking up. If he is giving you signals that you are a pretty big hook up for him then just walk away and you have beaten him at his own game. You're not going to win him over or hurt him if you stick ... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: I would be upset because I wasn't there. She didn't do it with you in mind at all so it is considered cheating. I have done a threesome before and it worked for me but I would not be ok if anything happened if I wasn't there. Tell her how you feel ... (read in full...)
Dangers of Porn
Q. I was listening to the recent case of Vincent Tabak who killed his neighbour after he had watched violent porn, particularly of men placing their hands around woman's throats and tying them up in the boot of a car!!! So what did he do, he strangled ...
A. 2 November 2011: The thing is that people have the right to produce this form of adult entertainment and for some it is a fetish for them that should be accepted. Yes bad things happen and it is unfortunate but alot of couples have very healthy sex lives with this ... (read in full...)
Is recycling presents a bad thing? He has so many relatives and my finances are not great!
Q. With Christmas coming up in less than 8 weeks, my finances have never been more unstable. I'm 19 years old and a student; I used to work part-time, but haven't been able to find another job since my last one ended abruptly in August. I have about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I think that sounds like a nice idea. You will be the only one who knows anyway. Some things you don't re-gift like items that were given to you with some meaning behind them but if you happen to have them and have no plans in ever wearing them it ... (read in full...)
How to approach this girl?
Q. where i work is a supermarket, and i often go over there for lunch. For quite some time now i have been seeing this gorgeous girl over there, sometimes walking with her mate, sometimes on her own. We always make eye contact with each other, but the ...
A. 1 November 2011: I would say walk up to her and introduce yourself and and just make small talk at first such as how's your day going and see where she leads the conversation. The worst thing that she can do is become uninterested and it ends there but even then at ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I shaved off my pubic hair?
Q. Ok, so about a week ago, I was shaving my bikini line, but I angled the razor wrong, and shaved off a patch of pubic hair that made my area, which is usually neat, trimmed, and proper looking, look stupid, so in an effort to try and fix it, I ended ...
A. 26 October 2011: Are you sure that he won't like it? I would just show him the next time you two are getting into things and see what his reaction is. Don't say anything, just let him find out on his own. People are pretty much split on their pubic hair preferences. ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned! Am I butting into my boyfriend's life?
Q. okay so now my boyfriend isn't really talking to me and when we do talk it's for like 1 minute and most of the time we're just standing there until one of us says k got to go bye! and i also want to know if i'll seem untrustworthy if i ask him why ...
A. 25 February 2011: If you start asking him why he is with you is does give off insecurity within you which isn't good for the situation. You have to ask yourself instead why are you with him and should you bother continuing it.
If his brother is beating him up then... (read in full...)
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