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Man over 20 with a teen?

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Question - (30 November 2011) 9 Answers - (Newest, 20 December 2011)
A male Canada age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am a 24 year old male and I was wondering is it illegal for me casually date a girl who's 17? Or just simply be good friends with her?

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A female reader, Katie7062 United States +, writes (20 December 2011):

im in the exact same boat. my boyfriend is 24 and im 17. we have almost been together for a year and we are waiting to have sex until i turn 18. we also reguarly talk about kids and marriage.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011):

I was 17 when I started dating a 25 year old whom I later married. ABUSIVE DINK! Divorced him. He also is a lazy arsed Dad. Get along better now but not so much to upset his insecure girlfriend whom he should just marry already.

So if any man came sniffing around my door, at that age, around my 17 year old- I'd kick him in his needy bluies.

Besides, my Teens are WAY too educated and self confident to even consider a man of that age to date. They even say from observation of peers, something is not right with the dude if he has to pick amonst young women, barely out of girlhood.

The stats support abuse of position/authority so much in Canada that its just not wise regardless.

Currently, the cut off age gap is 2 years for my 17 year old daughter, 4 years for my 19 year old daughter.

Consideration of dateworthy individuals Education, Career path, lifestyle, standards/vaules.

They just won't date anyone who is not in school or has a job, does not own a car or have access to one, and Dude must not drink, be non smoking, drug free, has no criminal record or even fines/tickets. No Gambling, no pornography.

Surprisingly Dad supports these rules of dating because he admits, he was a no good bum and got what he got when I left him.

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A female reader, Krislis United Kingdom +, writes (7 December 2011):

Sweety there is nothing wrong with dating a teenager at your age. Girls do mature faster then boys!!

If you want things to work dont force her to rush into a physical relationship and also maybe think of getting married to her so you make things more stable :)

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (1 December 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntas others have said it's not illegal where you live but I gotta be the MOMMY here and say "how do her parents feel about it?"

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 December 2011):

Honeypie agony auntWhy not take the time to get to know her? See if you have things in common before getting serious? And IF you two really click, the waiting til she is 18 for sex shouldn't be too hard. (nu pun intended).

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (1 December 2011):

C. Grant agony auntThe age of consent in Canada was raised to 16 years in 2008, provided there isn't an issue of authority. So -- legal, yes.

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A female reader, bluecow United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2011):

bluecow agony auntin the uk, the age of consent is 16, so it wouldnt be illegal.

However as a parent I would question your motives. I would much prefer a deep friendship whilst she is so young than anything more physical. It would allow her family to get to know you and build trust.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (1 December 2011):

The Realist agony auntLike it was said, it is only illegal if you are sexually active with her. Other than that there is no reason that you can't date her. My concern is that you say casually. She may fall for you much harder then you think and if you actually care about her you will watch out for this.

I'm 21 and just started seeing a girl who is 17 and things are great. It all depends on how much you two have in common.

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A female reader, blueskyday United States +, writes (1 December 2011):

it's only illegal if you get physical with her so just wait a year

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