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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Am I being unreasonable in this situation?
Q. Hi everyone, need some opinions on wether I am being unreasonable in this situation or not. Ok so I live at home with my mum step dad and younger sister, I go to my dads who lives at the other side of town once to twice a week. There is my dad step ...
A. 10 June 2012: My advice here is that you should keep your friends. They are more important than even years of a relationship because true friends will be there even if you treat them like crap over this boy and then things go bad. I've been there on that one ... (read in full...)
Dating and together for eight months now. How do I break this news to my father?
Q. im 16 and have been dating my bf (17). for 8 months now and i just found out and only me and my bf knows. i love him so much and he says he is gonna b there for me and i know he will but my question is ..... how do i tel my parents? i just know my ...
A. 10 June 2012: This sounds like a pregnancy question to me although it doesn't mention it anywhere. Why not invite your bf to have dinner with you and your parents. That generally shows that he is more then a friend. Then just bring him around more and more and ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in this situation?
Q. Hi everyone, need some opinions on wether I am being unreasonable in this situation or not. Ok so I live at home with my mum step dad and younger sister, I go to my dads who lives at the other side of town once to twice a week. There is my dad step ...
A. 10 June 2012: Since when does your bf or gf being sick mean that the other one isn't allowed to go out. That means that you should have no issue when you say you are going out with your friends then. You are not being unreasonable at all. Why is it that he is all ... (read in full...)
Is drinking too much pop bad?
Q. i am 16 and i drink a lot of pop...a lot of people say its bad to drink it,so i'm not sure if i should be drinking it...sometimes i have 1 or 2 cans a day...is that bad?...
A. 10 June 2012: Yes in excess it is horrible for you but a can a day isn't going to be a problem for you unless you have some sort of blood sugar problem. Stick to a can a day and drink other stuff too. ... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with women just for the sex?
Q. Will men really sleep with a girl if they don't fancy them? Not talking about beer goggles time when drunk. Stone cold sober, pre meditated chatting someone up in the expectation of having sex?...
A. 10 June 2012: Yes, women do this too. It's called a one night stand and it's purely for sex. ... (read in full...)
I think he likes me, what should I do next?
Q. I'm 14 and there is a guy I like. This guy is 14 and we have karate together and I think he likes me. He looks at me when I don't look at him but I catch him seeing me and I say what and he says nothing.we've hug 3x the 1st one and the last he ...
A. 10 June 2012: First off it's great that you take karate. It's a great way to meet people. I have been training for the last ten years and have my black belt in shotokan.
It sounds like he is interested in you so why not ask him if would want to spend some time... (read in full...)
How do I support my friend who just broke up?
Q. My friend had been with her boyfriend for 19 months before they split up, it was her first boyfriend so it's kind of hit her hard. How do i support her? Like, what do i say and do? Help will be appreciated, thanks ...
A. 3 June 2012: Just be there for her to talk to if she needs it. You can only offer advice if it is something that you have experienced. For the most part all the person needs is someone to talk to and take her mind off things. ... (read in full...)
Guys, how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook?
Q. This is a question for the guys.. how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook? just to ask if they had the right person? (am pretty sure it is the right person) Would it be a shock to see an ex after 17 years? I sent a messag...
A. 2 June 2012: He probably doesn't want anything to do with you. Chances are he has a family and a life that he doesn't want to complicate even by having you as a friend. I could see after a year or two but after 17 years unless you randomly run into them it is ... (read in full...)
How do you clear up a rumor?
Q. My friends always spread rumors about me, and tried to ruin my reputation.. made fake facebook accounts of me, and did everything they could. And it worked, now I am in grade 9, and the people in my gym class had spread a rumor that me and my frie...
A. 31 May 2012: The best way to clear this up is too ignore it and eventually people will stop because it is no longer entertaining to see your reaction to them talking about you.
Another approach only works if you have the right level of confidence and that is t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I want a baby
Q. I had sex unprotected while I was on birth-control an had my period a week later. Three weeks later I stopped my birth control because my bf and I want a baby. What are my chances of getting pregnant and would it be from the unprotected sex befo...
A. 31 May 2012: Once the pill wears off you will be able to get pregnant normally. It's hard to tell what your chances will be because every woman is different. As for the unprotected sex before your peroid there is no chance that time will result in you getting ... (read in full...)
Was it such a big deal that I lied to my b/f's mom about a job interview?
Q. Hello. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Just recently I was supposed to go to an interview for a retail department store, but I cancelled it because I was too lazy.. : Anyways my boyfriend's mom asked me how it went and...
A. 31 May 2012: I would be pissed that your excuse is because you were too lazy and you are trying to cover it up. It just shows your character to be something that he probably doesn't agree with. The last thing he wants is to be dating someone who just doesn't ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you like it when your significant other makes noises in bed?
Q. I guess this is a question mostly for men, but female input would be appreciated too, especially what your partners think. Basically - guys, do you like it when your significant other makes noises in bed? I'm not talking porn star scale, but when...
A. 29 May 2012: Yes little noises are a huge turn on and are also the easiest way to know that I am doing something right. ... (read in full...)
Bad sore throat after a bj
Q. My boyfriend is clean, and we know that for sure. Him and I had our first experience together, and I gave him a blow job. When I was doing it, all went well, except he started to push my head down a little farther, which resulted in me starting to ...
A. 27 May 2012: First thing I have to say is that I totally know how you feel about not being able to swallow pills. Well it definitely sounds like you may have some bruising. If he pushed in too far then it is very likely that the irritation will be enough to last ... (read in full...)
How should I trim my pubic hair?
Q. I'm 16 years old. How should I trim my pubic hair? Please help :)...
A. 27 May 2012: You can just shorten it with scissors then if you want to try a razor that would work. Just make sure you take your time with it because the skin is easily irritated. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hanging out with my nemesis
Q. well my boyfriend has been hanging out with my nemisis and talking and sitting by her instead of me. I gave him a note saying i dont like it and he said that he thought i wanted to break up. then after he comes and talks to me at school the next day ...
A. 27 May 2012: Ok, the fact that he just has become friends with her is a little odd. You would probably be happier with someone else who doesn't cause you this kind of emotional stress. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him to get new swimming trunks?
Q. My best friend and I go swimming all the time. We have a great time and have lots of fun, the only problem is his swim trunks. He has worn the same pair for years. They are white and have a black pattern down the leg. This was fine when the were new ...
A. 26 May 2012: Say to him that you think it is time for him to find another pair then go shopping and help him pick something out. It's not like you are putting him down, you just think that they are to worn out. ... (read in full...)
Will I find someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage?
Q. Hi, I am a Christian and I believe in no sex before marriage, however I don't know that I will ever find someone who feels the same and is also a virgin, are there any people like that out there??...
A. 26 May 2012: It's tough but if that is what you want then you have to just keep at it. There are people out there but you may have to change up where you meet people. You would be more likely to meet someone in a religious setting rather then a party for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hanging out with my nemesis
Q. well my boyfriend has been hanging out with my nemisis and talking and sitting by her instead of me. I gave him a note saying i dont like it and he said that he thought i wanted to break up. then after he comes and talks to me at school the next day ...
A. 26 May 2012: You can't control who he's friends with. If you can't deal with it then yes the realtionship is over. You are already having issues with this and it is obvious he knows what is going on but does not plan to do anything about it because there isn't ... (read in full...)
Casual relationship with friend/roommate has become more for me but I don't know how to tell her
Q. I'm in a situation that I am very confused and emotionally frustrated about. At the beginning of the year I moved in to an apartment with one of my best friends (who is female). For awhile things were going as a normal roommate situation would... ...
A. 26 May 2012: Here's what I would do; plan out a date for the two of you (something romantic) and see how she reacts to that. Once you explain that you would like to take her to dinner and such she will realize that you are asking her out on a date. Then that ... (read in full...)
Need advise on how to improve my resume, and job interview tips
Q. hey aunties, I really need help I'm 19 and currently looking for a job, I've send out resumes but never actually got an interview, I think mostly due to the fact that I don't have any experience ( not even volunteer job)although I speak four lan...
A. 26 May 2012: Your resume should be short and to the point focused on the specific job that you are applying for. This is why a general resume may not be the best idea. Think about what characteristics would be good for the job and then characterize yourself in ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my mom why she hates my boyfriend?
Q. Should i ask my mum why she hates my boyfriend? I’ve been him for 18 months however we were friends long before this, however she has never taken to him and is often rude to him and about him. She tells me not to get serious, accuses me of not ...
A. 25 May 2012: I would definitely call her out on this especially if you are getting serious with this guy and could see yourself with him for a long time and possibly getting married. ... (read in full...)
When she watches porn it makes me feel I am not satisfying her. Is this the likely truth?
Q. My wife chooses to watch a lot of porn and this upsets me, and as she knows this now she shuts screen down as soon as i come in the room. I tried to see if wants me to act like the pictures she watches,but she says no. Would her actions suggest she ...
A. 20 May 2012: This is the first situation I have heard of where it is the guy complaining about the woman's porn habits. Do you two have a healthy sex life? Most of the time men have more uncontrolable sex drive so they look for masturbation sources but it is ... (read in full...)
How can I stay strong in my belief and not hurt him or disappoint him? I don't want to have sex for 2-3 years till we are married
Q. I am 23 and my bf is 25. We are committed. But there is little uncertainty in getting married. We are quite close and it has become tough for us not to get physical. I mean, I personally want to wait until our marriage and I am unable to convince ...
A. 20 May 2012: Both of you have your decisions to make here. Neither is wrong or right but both people have to decide what lifestyle choice they can live with. Personally I know that I could not wait to marriage and don't beleive in it so it would be unfortunate ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as getting sex lessons?
Q. This is going to sound weird and bizzare but can you get sex lessons anyywhere? I'm not very cnfident in the bedroom and I'm currently single. but is there such thing as getting sex llessons like actal physical lessons but not prostitutes?...
A. 20 May 2012: There are sex therapists available who may be able to help you gather confidence and teach you new techniques. They would not be cheap but it is an option.
Another option may be to have a sex buddy such as a friend who is willing and who you woul... (read in full...)
How can I accept being ugly?
Q. Rather than continuously wishing and hoping to at least be average, even with working out, eating healthy, makeup and hair straightening, I want to finally just accept that I am ugly. The hope and trying keeps me from accepting it, because in t...
A. 11 May 2012: Accept nothing of the sort. You obviously take care of your body in more ways then one and although I can not form my own opinion based on your looks beauty is completely dependent on opinion.
For example friends and myself all have different tast... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still sends his ex-wife a Mother's Day card and gift card!
Q. Good day all I need objective opinions please! BF still sends his ex wife a mothers day card and gift card despite divorcing him for a new man, who she resides with. She dumps their daughter on day care and her parents do its not like she is mom of ...
A. 10 May 2012: She may not be mother of the year but he still respects the fact that she is the mother of his children. Would you rather the two of them fighting all the time and you having to deal with that.
You can argue respect both ways depending on who you ... (read in full...)
My voice is high-pitched and I want to know when it's going to break?
Q. I am fifteen an my voice is really high pitched, i cant talk very loudly or shout and i think people find it hard to understand me, I really want to know when my voice is going to break and if I should be worried as it is so high pitched. It the ...
A. 10 May 2012: It should happen within a year of so although I can't say for sure. Guys have a huge range of all of puberty which sucks for us guys. Just try and be as patient as possible and it will all work itself out.
You aren't the only one out there wher... (read in full...)
30 year age difference. How do I tell my parents?
Q. Am a 20 years young woman who is in love with a 50 years old man he wants us to get married as soon as possible,i don't no how to brake the news to my parents ....
A. 10 May 2012: I noticed something in your question. You refer to yourself as 20 years young and him as 50 years old. This leads me to believe that you know that he is old. It's tough for me to think of the relationship that you two would have. If you are sure ... (read in full...)
I told my girlfriend I am gay and don't know how to comfort her
Q. I just told my girlfriend that I am gay. It pretty much killed her and I feel like shit. I know I had to do it and it was the hardest thing that I have ever had to do. I stay with her to comfort her but I don't really know how or what to say. I keep ...
A. 10 May 2012: First off I applaud you for being true to yourself because that is the hardest part. Let her know that you still want to be part of her life but you had to tell her this to avoid leading her on.
Know matter when you told her it was going to be toug... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to make a 6 hour drive to see her graduate?
Q. Scenario: After meeting her through a friend at a salsa event, we connected through Facebook. I live about 6 hours way. I picked her up from her flight after New Years so she could take her week long course. I hosted her when she was back for a n...
A. 10 May 2012: I would definitely see what she thinks about this idea. Chances are it will be a family event and since you have not known her that long I could see it being a bit of an awkward situation even as just a friend.
It's nice that you want to be ther... (read in full...)
Why he is making a big deal over a missed call from me? We are friends!
Q. Hey Cupid, I have a question. I'm really good friends with this guy that I've known for a little over a year. We hang out and talk on the phone regularly. We haven't dated at all, except remain best friends and I'd like to keep it that way. Las...
A. 10 May 2012: I think he likes you and he doesn't want you to start seeing someone because that puts him further in the friend zone. If you have thought about dating him at all I would talk to him and see if he is interested. Either way I would bring it up that ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him alone to stop being desperate, or be always after him?
Q. Dear Cupid, My x said that he loves me I do too., but he keeps on flirting. Whenever I talk to him, he doesnt wanna talk, he seems like a bad mood, but whenver he's in a good mood he wanna talk and that gets annoying, so should I leave him alone to...
A. 10 May 2012: Well it does sound that he only wants you around some of the time. I would ignore him when he wants to talk to you a bit. Maybe then he will realize that if he wants you in his life it has to be more of a constant thing rather then just whenever he ... (read in full...)
Am I overly paranoid about guys?
Q. Am I overly paranoid about guys? I've met a lot of different people and made a lot of new friends in the past few months, but I've notice that I've become more "standoffish" towards some guys. Mainly when guys ask me random questions, I ask them...
A. 9 May 2012: I think that you are over reacting to these guys and it is most likely turning them off of you. Personal and random questions are just a way to try and make conversation with someone new. From what I see here these guys are hitting on you including ... (read in full...)
My Muslin parents are extremist and I'm not allowed to do anything!
Q. I need help. I have such extremist parents. I am a Muslim and I'm not allowed to do anything. I'm not allowed to go to my friend's houses. I'm not allowed to go to the park. I'm not allowed to go to town. I'm not allowed to go out. I'm not...
A. 8 May 2012: Try talking to your parents in the most adult way that you can that you are feeling like an outcast because you aren't able to be a kid like your friends at school. I wouldn't hide anything from them. Instead I would be very forward about what you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I can't stand their parenting style?
Q. I'm 25 yet my parents have always been overly strict, controlling and verbally abusive. I can't stand how they never want me to leave home even though I'm a grown adult. I've always done the right thing and been a A grade student. Yet I'm always ...
A. 8 May 2012: I would say time to move out and once that is done feel free to explain to them everything that they are doing wrong. Other then that the best thing you can do is explain to your siblings why it is wrong and to show them how to be better adults.
L... (read in full...)
I'm concerned over boyfriend's behavior when he knew I was grieving
Q. Dear all, Last week I returned home and dicovered my beloved cat had died in his sleep. I was heartbroken and still am but was also upset was my boyfriends reaction. I texted him to let him know and all he replied was I'm sorry hope you're ok. ...
A. 8 May 2012: The text sounded like he did care but I think you are overreacting here. I know pets are important but it's not like your parents died. He didn't ignore you but there is a good possibility that he was actually too busy to make it out to see you. ... (read in full...)
What is your opinion about what the wife should pay for after marriage?
Q. Dear cupid, I wanted your opinion on after a couple is married what is the wife, should the wife pay for? My Hubby to be wants me to pay the mortgage and he would pay for everything else ie taxes,food, insurance,pet care, car care,everything....
A. 8 May 2012: I would say 50-50 as best as possible but that doesn't mean that every bill is split in half. I would opt for where some bills are payed by each person. That deal sounds fair because on a monthly basis they will most likely be equal.
My stand poin... (read in full...)
Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?
Q. I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one ...
A. 8 May 2012: As long as you have given it enough thought and it is something that you want then I say you should do it. Your one guy friend may not like it but that shouldn't stop you. It is good that they won't be constantly visible. Any guy you meet will love ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and keeps asking me for naked pictures
Q. This guy I was talking to recently got out of a long term relationship and he has kids with this woman. A few months ago he decided to get back with her because he didn't want to pull his kids away from their mother. Since they got back together we ...
A. 6 May 2012: It sounds to me like he wants to have you both. I wouldn't reccomend even staying in touch with him if he keeps this up because you will get tossed right into all the family drama before you know it. ... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend email me this particular song? Is there a meaning behind this?
Q. Uhmm..hi,have you heard the song caribbean blue by big mountain? My ex boyfriend emailed me and he said he heard that song and immediately thought of me. I don't get it,i don't know what he's up to. ...
A. 3 May 2012: Well I gave the song a listening to and I would say that he still has feelings for you which is why the song made him think of you. He's thinking about what you two had together.
He may be looking to get back together with you. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is always with her friends!
Q. My girlfriend is always with her friends so I hardly ever get time alone with her what should I do??...
A. 2 May 2012: Let her know that you would like to spend more time with her but that you still know it is important for her to spend the time with her friends. ... (read in full...)
Neighbors are talking down about our family. Should I just overlook it?
Q. Hello, Like my family, I am educated, good-looking and working women with a good profile in an IT company (where sometimes i hv to work till late). My sis was also working in a 5 star hotel on a good profile. In addition to that we were all rounders...
A. 2 May 2012: From my experience with neighbours it is best not to even bother putting any time into dealing with those type of people. I have horrible neighbours so I choose not to deal with them at all. There are people on my street who I will stop to chat with ... (read in full...)
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