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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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How do I tell my boyfriend I shaved off my pubic hair?
Q. Ok, so about a week ago, I was shaving my bikini line, but I angled the razor wrong, and shaved off a patch of pubic hair that made my area, which is usually neat, trimmed, and proper looking, look stupid, so in an effort to try and fix it, I ended ...
A. 26 October 2011: Are you sure that he won't like it? I would just show him the next time you two are getting into things and see what his reaction is. Don't say anything, just let him find out on his own. People are pretty much split on their pubic hair preferences. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for foreign student staying in our home!
Q. I saw a post sort of like this. Im a 22 year old guy soon to be 23. My family gets foreign exchange students and we have for the last 2 years. This year we got 4 girls, one from spain, one from switzerland, one from korea, and one from france. ...
A. 25 October 2011: First thing, it is very good that you have an understanding of how young she is. It's not that you shouldn't feel this way it is that you shouldn't act on it. There is no reason you can't be her friend though and keep in touch with her. I mean there ... (read in full...)
Why does fiance want to put wedding rings on layaway when we have the money to buy them now?
Q. My fiance and I have been together going on 4 yrs. We are engaged for about 2 yrs. Wants to put the rings on layaway. We have the money to right now. The thing is I asked if we can. He simply answered we can but is just another bill coming to us. ...
A. 25 October 2011: Are you still tight for money even though you could afford them now? It seems to me that he is worried about the expenses of the whole thing which is a good thing because you don't want to come out married and broke. Just because you have the money ... (read in full...)
I need tips on gaining weight!
Q. please help me... i am a 19 year old female who is five feet tall and weighs 100 lbs, i recently had a son and i thought i would have gotten fatter but i didn't. people often times say that i look like around 15-16 and it makes me sad as i went thr...
A. 25 October 2011: Definitely stick with carbs but make sure to eat healthy and still try to stay away from fatty foods. You won't get any taller but gaining weight is possible. I recommend working out if you have time but stay away from cardio. Try weight training to ... (read in full...)
Am I experiencing normal side effects of the morning after pill?
Q. Hey, wow this is awkward even though it's online, lol. But here it goes long story short, a condom split on me and my partner about two/three weeks ago, I have the coil inserted but to be certain I didn't conceive a child, I went to my local cl...
A. 20 October 2011: It sounds typical of the morning after pill. Everyone has different reactions to the morning after pill. By next month you should be back on your regular cycle. If you still have concerns it would be best to see your doctor.... (read in full...)
Can too much be a bad thing?
Q. Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size" I have a much more inportant matter at hand... So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(...
A. 19 October 2011: Let her know that you are concerned but if she takes control and wants you to be that rough then it is her choice because she enjoys it and doesn't mind being a little sore after. She"ll be happy to know that care. ... (read in full...)
If both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?
Q. Hey so i was just wondering if both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?...
A. 19 October 2011: Basically the answer is no. It is possible to have an infection of some sort but an STI will not form out of no where from you two having sex. ... (read in full...)
Can too much be a bad thing?
Q. Hello, So I'm over the "is my penis size to small or, how do i know if its the right size" I have a much more inportant matter at hand... So here is the story, I'v been with my new girlfriend for about a year not and we have been having sex(...
A. 19 October 2011: When this is a problem you really have to be careful how far you go in. She isn't going to be able to get used to the size because it is most likely just hitting too far.
Try letting her be in control to see how far she is comfortable with. Hope... (read in full...)
Worried about girlfriends genital irritation
Q. Hello over there... I am very worried of my wife who of late told me that she is having an irritation on her genitals since last month! Most of the time that we have sex she may go dry and saliva comes to aid... My worry is ..is it the contraceptive ...
A. 18 October 2011: She does need to go see a doctor about this. It may be due to the fact that she is unable to provide enough lubrication for sex and the rubbing is causing the irritation. Saliva will work but it doesn't have the same lasting lubrication as she would ... (read in full...)
Not sure why I act so strange...
Q. I feel like I am a bully.I don't have a Facebook so I don't bully others online. I insult others in my head but I dont say it out loud all the time. I feel like I do it because I have no confidence and need to make myself feel better. I lie to ...
A. 18 October 2011: It sounds like you just want attention from these people and this is the easiest way for you to get it. Some people are naturally more hateful towards others. Even I have a tendency to be at times. You have to remind yourself that that is not how ... (read in full...)
He says his love is so pure that he cant even imagine me naked!
Q. Hey everyone, i need help. I am totally perplexed in this relationship of two years with this guy. He says that he loves me. I know that very well. I love him too. But i think, may be he loves me too much, far beyond my imagination. He is a nice...
A. 14 October 2011: It sounds like he has this idea of love for you but has no idea as to what he should to satisfy your concept of what love is. You can have respect for a person and still find them sexually attractive and imagine things about them. You say you ... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 13 October 2011: Well pretty much everything has already been said. If you can't love her then leave her so you both can get on with your lives. There are alot of things that I want to say to you but it won't do any good.
You have an unrealistic view of women. She ... (read in full...)
His post-steroid mood changes are getting to be ridiculous!
Q. My boyfriend does steroids and he has constant mood changes, they never end. (i didnt know until we had been dating for about 5 months) He just ended a cycle and its slowly getting worse. Can anyone give me advice? He has constant mood changes and ...
A. 13 October 2011: The steroids are going to make him very moody and proned to anger. As long as he continues these cycles he will be unstable. I recommend getting out of this when you have the chance. You can't predict what his body will do when he is coming down ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and my girlfriend's 25. Is that a big difference?
Q. Is this weird? My girlfriend is 3 years older than me. I'm 22 and she's 25. Is that a big difference or no? We have a good relationship and all (sex is great :P) but compared to all of my friends in relationships, the guy is older than the girl. ...
A. 12 October 2011: No that is not weird at all. It is true that on average girls will mature before guys which causes the tendencies for guys to date younger girls but that doesn't mean that your relationship won't work. Three years difference is next to nothing. All ... (read in full...)
No family support -- what do I do?
Q. Hi everyone, sorry if this is kinda of lengthy, but I'm from a very small town in South Carolina and am trying to figure out the best way to move to El Monte, California. I'm 16 and before everyone thinks I'm young and crazy, I have graduated high ...
A. 11 October 2011: Well you do have some support. My advice to you is follow your heart on this one. If you want to make the move then do it. I was worried until you said that you wanted to go to school out there and that you had a plan. The best way to deal with this ... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 9 October 2011: Jerks win because they never really care for anything in the first place. In the end the rest of the world wins though. Just delete him off fb and his number and forget about him. He is a jerk but that doesn't mean the next guy you meet will be and ... (read in full...)
My Dad asked me to tell a serious lie. I feel bad about that. Should I cut contact with him?
Q. Hey everyone so its been awhile since i have been on here but i could really use some help, so this morning my dad called me and he lives six hours away from me and i only see him once in a great while and he asked me if i could do a favor for him ...
A. 9 October 2011: It was wrong of him to get you to do this. I would never say something that bad has happened but for you to question whether to talk to him again is a bit extreme. When I read the question title I thought you would be covering up for an afair or ... (read in full...)
He NEVER will talk to me in public! Am I just his booty call? PS: he also has a girlfriend
Q. So, there's this guy. I really really like him, and he seems to like me back. But he NEVER talks to me in public. Only when its just me and him. He has this girlfriend that he claims to love. But when he's with me he says he doesn't even care...
A. 9 October 2011: You're a booty call and the reason he doesn't talk to you in public is because if someone he knew saw him he may then have to explain that one to his gf. That is the last situation he wants to be in.
Now I hope you know you are in the wrong for ... (read in full...)
Why do girls get so mad? Why don't girls forgive mistakes?
Q. why do girls hate you if you do one thing that makes them mad? i liked this girl a lot then i said something on facebook she didnt like and now we avoid each other and dont talk....
A. 9 October 2011: This usually happens when the relationship, friendship or more, isn't very strong. If I meet someone and within the first moments they do something I don't like I don't see the point in giving them a chance. It is a natural way to avoid taking the ... (read in full...)
What are the non-verbal clues that a person likes you?
Q. Ok just curious on the responses, for both guys and gals, what are some nonverbal ways to tell someone is interested in you...
A. 9 October 2011: I would have to say that the smile and the way your eyes look when both of your eyes meet. That can be a dead give away and tends to be the case in a bar setting when verbal comunication is limited.
Also gentle touches are a good signal alth... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to date a 17 year old? I'm 26
Q. Hi there. So basically I've got 2 questions here. 1/ I'm 26 and there's this girl I like but she's 17, would you think there is anything wrong with that? If not then read question 2. 2/ I've been talking to her for a few months now, but have never ...
A. 6 October 2011: I apoligize for that answer getting through. It was clearly useless and we try not to allow posts that attack the site users through. I removed the post so it would no longer be on your thread. ... (read in full...)
My husband has given me STIs!
Q. I have been treated three times for STI's in the past five months. My husband claims he knows nothing of it. I have not slept with anyone else except him. I now insist we use condoms and he complains its not proper for people in marriage. Should i ...
A. 6 October 2011: If you are just talking about an infection you have no grounds to even say you got it from him. Could it have been a yeast infection or something along those lines. I think you are jumping to conclusions here. Call your doctor and get the name of ... (read in full...)
My husband has given me STIs!
Q. I have been treated three times for STI's in the past five months. My husband claims he knows nothing of it. I have not slept with anyone else except him. I now insist we use condoms and he complains its not proper for people in marriage. Should i ...
A. 6 October 2011: Do you know what you were treated for if you don't mind me asking. Is it something that he can't cure and has unfortunately picked up from his past.
It is a really tough call to make only knowing that you got some sort of STI. Cheating is a poss... (read in full...)
He signed "all my love" but then I haven't heard from him since he's started uni!
Q. Okay, I haven't had a lot of experience at all when it comes to relationships, which may explain why I'm obsessing so much. Note: this is a typical teenage angst question so feel free to escape now while you can! you have been warned! Any way, ove...
A. 6 October 2011: The way I see it is you were a summer romance which I am not saying that because it is not summer anymore you're out of the picture. He is obviously very busy with his studies and keeping in touch with friends so it may be tough for him to give you ... (read in full...)
Is it common for guys to take pictures of a girl during intimate moments?
Q. This is pretty humiliating but i'd like to know peoples opinions. Me and a guy i was seeing were having sex then (without asking) he starts taking pictures of me! I was lying on the bed and he was standing and just started taking pictures while he...
A. 6 October 2011: I would never just start taking pictures of someone like that. There is a huge risk having those pictures in any form.
I would be for it if she wanted to take sexy pictures but I would never ask or want nude pictures to be taken. That is some... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to date a 17 year old? I'm 26
Q. Hi there. So basically I've got 2 questions here. 1/ I'm 26 and there's this girl I like but she's 17, would you think there is anything wrong with that? If not then read question 2. 2/ I've been talking to her for a few months now, but have never ...
A. 5 October 2011: I think that age gap is too large at the moment. As years go on it becomes less of a deal but right now she your worlds are very different. She may be mature enough and be interested but nine years is a lot.
I do know what you mean though. Righ... (read in full...)
Guys -- looks or personality?
Q. Hello all I have a question for the guys out there. Would you rather have a super hot woman with a pretty face and nice bod but dumb and needy. OR Would you rather have a sweetheart with a kind and generous heart but average looks and weight. ...
A. 4 October 2011: I would always go for the average cute girl with a great personality. To be honest most of the girls my friends say are drop dead gorgeous I only find them to be ok but nothing special. Everyone has their own specific tastes. Sometimes it is more ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my aunt (we are not blood related)
Q. I am in love with my aunt, we are not blood related and have had these feelings for her for a very long time. Sometimes and can't resist the urge and stare at her body or lightly touch her but she never stops me. This is not a passing feeling and I ...
A. 2 October 2011: Chances are she doesn't feel the same way and it will most likely be a very awkward conversation if you do bring it up. She probably thinks you are just close to her and is happy for it because she is married in. I know you say it isn't a passing ... (read in full...)
I can forgive and forget, but can he?
Q. I was with an ex for 4 years, we split up as we was arguing a lot at the time then he said he didn't love me anymore an to move on. I begged and begged for him to change his mind but nothing. So after so long of rejection I moved on, I didn't intend ...
A. 1 October 2011: It's perfectly fine for you to forgive and forget but don't you get the idea that he is only doing this because he knows you found someone else and are moving on. It is easy for the want to be there but will anything be different and will problems ... (read in full...)
After all this time and considering we fell out over something silly, would it be OK to try to reconnect again?
Q. Hi, I have just recently heard from one of my friends that my ex best friend misses me, I miss her too but its been 4 years since we last talked.. we fell out over something silly. I don't know how to approach the situation now in case she has a ne...
A. 27 September 2011: I say get back in touch with her. Especially if you two stopped talking over something that is so silly now. Why not send her a text, email or give her a call and just say that you miss her and want to know if she wants to get together sometime. I ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my math tutor, but don't know what to do!
Q. I'm 20 years old... Almost 3 years ago I was in high school. I was in last grade (in Greece we're giving exams to enter a university) and I needed a private tutor in maths... So I started having lessons with a guy 45-50 years old (his appearance is ...
A. 23 September 2011: I would give him a call and see if he can help you. If he is a math guy he may be limited in his statistics since they are two different fields although they seem so similar. It shouldn't be too awkward to call him to ask and maybe if he can't help ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my math tutor, but don't know what to do!
Q. I'm 20 years old... Almost 3 years ago I was in high school. I was in last grade (in Greece we're giving exams to enter a university) and I needed a private tutor in maths... So I started having lessons with a guy 45-50 years old (his appearance is ...
A. 22 September 2011: I think that if you get past wanting to be with him it would be good to have his help again. I say this because he has been good at helping you before and finding a new tutor for high level courses may be difficult. I would stick with him but you ... (read in full...)
More serious than "boyfriend", not engaged, what do you call it?
Q. I have a question about how to describe my relationship. My boyfriend and I are not yet engaged but are very committed to each other, to the point that we are planning on sharing a house shortly. "Boyfriend" no longer seems like the right word. ...
A. 22 September 2011: Thank you for the info. I does help to learn how other countries, even one so similar works. I do like the term significant other. ... (read in full...)
How to I get my friend's girlfriend to stop coming on to me?
Q. Hey guys, I'm really inexperienced in the whole male female dynamic kind of thing. I don't really know what's a sign of attraction from a girl. So I might as well tell you why I'm asking this. My friend's girlfriend, is like a really good ...
A. 22 September 2011: It sounds like she is flirting with you. I would tell her that you can't have her doing those things to you because you repect your friend and don't want him to get hurt over this. Tell her that is you both were single things would be different but ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my math tutor, but don't know what to do!
Q. I'm 20 years old... Almost 3 years ago I was in high school. I was in last grade (in Greece we're giving exams to enter a university) and I needed a private tutor in maths... So I started having lessons with a guy 45-50 years old (his appearance is ...
A. 22 September 2011: I think that this is a crush that has developed because he helped you trough a tough time. I am not saying he doesn't care for you but there is a good chance that you are miss reading his signals. If you were frustrated with math he may have been ... (read in full...)
More serious than "boyfriend", not engaged, what do you call it?
Q. I have a question about how to describe my relationship. My boyfriend and I are not yet engaged but are very committed to each other, to the point that we are planning on sharing a house shortly. "Boyfriend" no longer seems like the right word. ...
A. 22 September 2011: Technically once you start living together you could be called common law. I don't think that sounds too much better. I see why you want another term for your relationship and I think partner is ok but it might be best for you to introduce him as ... (read in full...)
Will my girlfriend remain like this forever?
Q. I am in a relationship with this beautiful girl for the last two years. Until recently my girlfriend and I would keep on fighting over little things . But three weeks back , she fell ill and remained ill for three days. All those three days, I ...
A. 22 September 2011: This is not a permanent change but even if you two argue and fight you have shown her that you really do care. As long as you show her that you care she will show this love to you and you two will be able to get through any problems you may have.
I... (read in full...)
I always make fun of girlfriend's class and stuffs...How should I get rid of this habit?
Q. Dear Cupid, I always make fun of my girlfriend’s class and her middle class dressing and stuffs . Actually she is from middle class and I am from extremely rich family and we are in a relationship for the last four years and will make it off...
A. 21 September 2011: You have a bad habit stuck with you. You are making her feel below you which is a huge problem in a relationship. She has most likely been brought up where you treat everyone equally while you are thinking that money puts you a head of her. If you ... (read in full...)
Is he really into this relationship?
Q. Going on 11 months- he doesn't show much emotion about us but he's very sweet, generous and affectionate - his love language us physical where mine is verbal. Talk about the future is never brought up by him. The only emotion I see about relati...
A. 20 September 2011: I think he may be feeling that it is still very early to be talking about the future so strongly. Eleven months is not exactly the a long time although it isn't a short time. Are you sure he wants the future that you are thinking of?
Try talk... (read in full...)
Where do I hide the condoms?
Q. My friends bought me some condoms (I have a new boyfriend- he's gorgeous and very sexy- they were joking around), but I want to hang onto them just in case anything does happen- better safe than sorry! Does anyone have any ideas as to where in my ro...
A. 20 September 2011: You could hide them at the bottom of your underwear drawer or somewhere under your bed. You are right that it is better to be prepared but I do see why you wouldn't want your parents to find them and think your having sex. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my partner? Found photos of his ex locked up
Q. Hi, i'v been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and have 4 children together. When we moved house my 4 year old at the time pulled an envelope out and inside were pictures of his ex. I questioned him he said he didn't now he still had them and he ...
A. 18 September 2011: I don't think this is an issue of trust. It sounds to me like it is more about your insecurity. I beleive that he has a right to save things from past relationships, to a point, without questioning his trust. You should talk to him about why he is ... (read in full...)
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