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writes:I want to know what happens in relationships. I have been with my boy friend for three and a half years. In the beginning he was willing to take me places and he said really nice things to me.My boy friend takes a lot of pain medicine for his shoulder, he claims that the pain makes him crabby. I think the pain meds figure in the picture.So my question is when the relationship has gone down hill, he complains about everything. He no longer acts loving, or says I love you. He is crabby all of the time. No matter how hard I try he is always angry about something. He never wants to go any where. His ideal life is sitting in his easy chair.So should I just break it off ? I have tried to discuss the relationship with him and he becomes angry. He threw a temper and broke my tea pot. He claimed I threw away an o ring. He later found the o ring. He said the fit was necessary to establish boundaries. The boundaries are that I can't throw any thing away. He is a pack rat. I clean his house, I still have my own house.I guess just typing this makes me see that I should wish his well and move on.Thanks for listening.
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reader, CrazyCowboy +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Thats a tough one. It all depends on how much pain he is really in, if he is on the right meds/hooked on them or if he's just being an ass. But keep in mind that depression can manifest as pain and pain can cause depression.
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reader, JustKalie1010  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 I think you should probably break up with him. or at least talk to him, before. Maybe tell him that your thinking about breaking up, and see if he makes a change. if not, its time to move on. He isn't giving you any happiness anymore, and you spend more time trying to figure out what's wrong, then actually having the relationship.
Hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): move on before he dumps you its only a matter of time,everything you said i experienced with my ex and then he dumped me soon after an it still hurts deep inside because i still love him like crazy
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Well since you figured it out yourself I don't have anything to say except I hope he can find his way to being a better person because it is obvious that you still care about him. Those break ups are always the hardest but in the end you have to happy before anyone else in your life.
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