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writes: ive been married 6yrs and i love my husband to death but our sex life isnt what it use to be how do i get that back?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 Tons of ideas... But try to work on romance too, especially when you got your clothes on. Make sure you give him some big hot kisses when he leasts expects it. Dress up in sexy clothes and do the dishes, (if you have no kids) If you have kids, then wash dishes without bra or knickers. Watch movie stuff with sexy man chasing women (Sex & the City etc) Try and get back your inner vamp. Start wearing perfume, make up and get dressed up in the day. Have sex in the bath, have sex in the morning, have sex whenever it's not normal and boring. I always say, start having an affair with yourself.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ is great for sex positions and sex toys...
Try tying him up, have sex outside, have sex in a different room, just try something you've never tried before. Get mobile phone and send dirty messages, or phone him up at work and say naughty sexy stuff on the phone. Throw away tights and only wear stockings. Buy tons of sexy underwear and only wear that in your bedroom, unless you want to go nude. Take him swimming and play catchy-feely... get chocolate and pretend he's the cake your trying to spread icing on.
Make sex fun, new, exciting and importantly show the guy and yourself, a whole pile of love.
PS: If you got kids, then hire yourself a babysitter and have the whole night off where you pretend you are both young lovers who have just met.
PPPS: Go play in the snow, and then when he's cold, you can warm him up again. Also works in the sun with some cold water...
lol.. Use your imagination.
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reader, princesslonghair  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 I had to spice up our love life a little.
I learned about lite sensation, and light B.D.S.M.
Wow that is fun! Not pain, just rubber floggers, low temp wax,( not on any hairy parts)brushes, dull, dull, knifes.
Also roll playing is fun.
Go to a book store, and check out the sex, B.D.S.M. section. Just read a few, and see if anything sounds nice.
Also look on line for info, and products.
good luck my dear......
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reader, Itsjustflirting +, writes (30 December 2010):
 This is normal. It happens to lots of married couples. It's not your fault or his. Fortunatly there are some options.
Some people will tell you you can get counseling or read books to help "spice up your sex life" but honestly I think it's all a load of crap.
Try to make a date night. Pick a night of the week, and have a quickie on that night. Every week. Make it a normal thing. You don't miss it for ANYTHING. This will help get both of your juices flowing. Text or email him dirty texts or pictures or leave dirty voicemails on his phone.
Change it up. Meet for a lunch date. Try role playing. Get drunk together. Start taking care of yourself while you're sitting next to him on the couch. Step out of your shell.
Now one other thing, that I know I will get bashed for saying, but it worked VERY well for my wife and I. Start swinging! Bring in another woman or couple. If your man doesn't want to play, see if he would allow you to play alone. This worked wonders for us. It gave us new life. We have sex (better sex) more frequently when we are activly swinging than when we take a break and we are happier and less aggrevated. Now how can you say that hurts a relationship. Note...I said more happier! In general we are happier and fight SO much less.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (30 December 2010):
 If you have kids, send them to your mothers for the weekend, have some time out just for you two. Have a holiday, change of scenery. Watch a porn movie to spice it up a bit if you feel that you can. you don't have to give it all this every night, but set some time out now and again just for y ourselves to relax and enjoy each other. Everyone can go stale in a marriage when too many things get in the way, you just need to bring a little bit of something different in to it every so often.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 You could try taking him to a sex shop and seeing if there are any toys or activities that he would like to introduce into your sex life. It's amazing how one night of new excitement can really bring life back into the rest of sex for months to come.
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