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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Should I try to go after this 20 years older than me guy?
Q. hi, i am sooo confused. I am a divorced female,25. i have never had a boyfriend, and the guy i had an arranged marriage with so far been the only guy in my life. i am totally over my past. now the problem is i like this older guy whose 45. good ...
A. 18 February 2011: Best of luck to you both. Good for you!... (read in full...)
While drunk I acted disrespectful to my boyfriends parents!
Q. lastnite i was told i had acted very disrepectfull to my bfs family cople that i did not know about it because i was to drunk to know what i had done...the couple are very nice sweet loving ppl i would never would do anything to disrespct that but i ...
A. 6 December 2010: Talk to them like an adult and say that you are sorry for the way you behaved and that if you could you would like to start over with them. Then show them the respectful person that you are.
An email would be perfect or and actual letter, anyt... (read in full...)
After dating 2 years my boyfriend forgot how to spell my name?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. Well the other day he forgot how to spell my name. Its not even a long complicated name. It actually a common name. Does this mean that he's lost interest in me or that I'm not of ...
A. 5 December 2010: Please just let it go. I've been with my gf for almost 2 years and it has happened to me. My spelling isn't that great at all and I tried to do something fast. Now if he didn't remember your name that would be a problem. How often does he even spell ... (read in full...)
While drunk I acted disrespectful to my boyfriends parents!
Q. lastnite i was told i had acted very disrepectfull to my bfs family cople that i did not know about it because i was to drunk to know what i had done...the couple are very nice sweet loving ppl i would never would do anything to disrespct that but i ...
A. 5 December 2010: Ask your bf if you can get in touch with these people and apoligize. They will probably be very pleasantly surprised by this and it shows your bf that you do care.
We all make stupid mistakes when drinking but very few people would ever hold a grud... (read in full...)
Is this a problem for sex?
Q. I can retract my foreskin only when my penis is flaccid (not erect). When it's erect i can only retract it like at the half of my glans. Will this be a problem?...
A. 5 December 2010: This could be a problem. A friend of mine had his torn because the girl wasn't wet enough and it could be pulled back enough. I think that if you work at it then it will stretch out but I don't know that for sure.
I would check with a doctor to b... (read in full...)
Is it true men get more out of casual sex than women?
Q. Is casual sex empty and meaningless or is that just something prudes say? Is it true that men get more out of casual sex than women do? Like, are men more able to enjoy something purely physical than a woman can? I've had plenty of sex in my ...
A. 5 December 2010: I think that it's true that women get less out of casual sex because there are few men out there who will be able to figure out what the woman likes in just one take. A man just doesn't take a whole lot of figuring out so he'll find the pleasure to ... (read in full...)
Should I try to go after this 20 years older than me guy?
Q. hi, i am sooo confused. I am a divorced female,25. i have never had a boyfriend, and the guy i had an arranged marriage with so far been the only guy in my life. i am totally over my past. now the problem is i like this older guy whose 45. good ...
A. 5 December 2010: You can't help who you have feelings for and although it is a huge age difference I know a couple with a slightly larger age gap but still around the same ages as you two and they seem really happy together. I say if you like him then it's worth it ... (read in full...)
Question regarding cum...
Q. How can i tell when i cum?...
A. 5 December 2010: You will know based on the feeling and the ejaculation. ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to give a guy a good blow job?
Q. Any tips on how to give a guy a good blow job? My bf and i have decided to try out oral sex...and i'm new at this so i am a bit nervous.......
A. 5 December 2010: Make sure to use your lips to cover you teeth and you can use your hand around the base which will be wet and slippery from the spit. Take it slow at first and build up a good rhythm. Don't take it deeper than you are comfortable with which is why ... (read in full...)
Is he just doing this to be nice?
Q. Hi there I need some advice. I've been friends with this guy for about six months or so. We've spent a great deal of time together and became very close. Most recently, we started to develop feelings for each other, and finally came out with it...
A. 5 December 2010: He wouldn't be doing this out of sympathy it would be too much to risk if he didn't really care about you. He will need some time though so I wouldn't try to rush anything. It's a big thing for him and I know it must be tough for you too. He'll make ... (read in full...)
Can upper classman date freshies?
Q. Okay so there is this really awsome, sweet, cute guy that I like alot. But there is one thing...he is a freshman. Im a sophomore. I know this may sound dumb, but when I asked my friends if they would date a freshman they alll said no...But I would, ...
A. 5 December 2010: A two year age difference is really small. What matters is how he acts because if he can fit in then chances are no one will ever even question his age. I know it does seem like a big deal when you both are in school but once one of you is out no ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my first and my last.
Q. Heeey, im quite young and have been in a relationship for nearly 5 months, we're both virgins, and i really do want too loose it too him and he wants too with me. Is it bad that i can actually picture a future with him? Getting married? Having kids? ...
A. 2 December 2010: Thats not bad at all, from what your age group says you are at the age where those things start to become reality. I hope he feels the same way but I want to be aware of something. If you lose it to him, as bad as it sounds, there is no gaurantee ... (read in full...)
That dreaded queefing!!!
Q. So I have this issue and I do not know who to go to because im REALLLLLLYYYY embarrassed. my boyfriend and I are seventeen and I have had sex before but I know that im still really "tight" because we have a hard time getting it in, and I dont know ...
A. 2 December 2010: It could be the angles at which he is entering you that is causing so much air to get in. My only suggestion to lessen it is to find positions to avoid it which may not be very fun to do. Maybe he has to stay in you more and not enter and exit so ... (read in full...)
How often should a couple speak throughout the day?
Q. What is considered the "norm" for how much a couple should speak throughout the day?...
A. 2 December 2010: I don't think that it has to do with how much the couple talks it's how deep the conversations are. I have friends who are a couple and text all day but it's just random stuff so I wouldn't consider that as much comunication as say an hour a day a ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if I take my friend up on his offer?
Q. Hey readers. I have a slight embarrassing problem that I need help with. I'm a lesbian and I've been going out with this girl for a week. The thing is that I feel the need to be spanked to stop me from losing my temper with people. I have a male ...
A. 2 December 2010: I wouldn't call it cheating, I mean you have no sexual interest in the guy and his intentions don't really matter. It sounds just like a friend thing as a reminder to you but I would make sure your gf knows that if she ever sees it. ... (read in full...)
So what do you think, am I gay?
Q. Well.. I think I'm gay and as the title says I don't wanna be. First of all I'm a virgin. The thing is, I do notice when a girl is beautiful but when it comes to watching porn, I get aroused faster when I watch gay porn, I have even had some ...
A. 2 December 2010: It sounds like you are more just curious in the same sex for now. Everyone goes through some sort of experimental phase in their lives. I wouldn't say that you are gay, you're just figuring yourself out right now. in time you'll know for sure. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me posting our pictures on Facebook!
Q. I'm Asian and I have an european boyfriend, we have been together for couple of years. He hates facebook and I like facebook. I have been away from home for 2 years and facebook help me to share things to my friend. Its the only way for me to ...
A. 2 December 2010: I think you need to respect that he doesn't want pictures of himself on the internet like that for what ever reason he has. That does not mean that you can't have your pics on the site, just not the ones with him. It's a compromise that I see ... (read in full...)
That dreaded queefing!!!
Q. So I have this issue and I do not know who to go to because im REALLLLLLYYYY embarrassed. my boyfriend and I are seventeen and I have had sex before but I know that im still really "tight" because we have a hard time getting it in, and I dont know ...
A. 1 December 2010: It's perfectly normal for this to happen. I doubt he will be grossed out or turned off by it. Just try to make a joke about it when it does happen like "you know it's your fault lol". That way he'll laugh and you two can carry on without you having ... (read in full...)
Can upper classman date freshies?
Q. Okay so there is this really awsome, sweet, cute guy that I like alot. But there is one thing...he is a freshman. Im a sophomore. I know this may sound dumb, but when I asked my friends if they would date a freshman they alll said no...But I would, ...
A. 1 December 2010: To my knowledge isn't that only a year apart? That age is so close, if you like him than you should date him and your friends can judge him for who he is not how old he is. I'm sure he is a great guy and that is why you like him, thats all that ... (read in full...)
A girl gave me prolonged eye contact. What does it mean?
Q. I caught this girl staring at me. She did not look away, and I got uncomfortable and I looked away. Her face was blank. It was for 5-6 seconds. She did not want to look away. Why would she do this?...
A. 29 November 2010: There are a couple of options here. One is that she may be into you and just couldn't look away as she thought of you. Two is that she may be staring at you because she thinks your weird and is trying to figure you out. I swear that one has happened ... (read in full...)
Is she using me to make her boyfriend upset?
Q. So im at playing in this tennis match when this girl comes up to me and asks me if im gonna play and I say yeah and ask her if she is. Then I lose my first match and she comes up to me and asks me if I won when I told her I lost she said oh well you ...
A. 29 November 2010: It sound like you are being used but that is a matter of opinion. If you don't dvelope feelings for her then you real aren't being used. Either way it seems she wants to make this guy jealous but I don't think it's her bf, he sounds like someone who ... (read in full...)
Do guys say cute stuff that they don't mean?
Q. So you know how everyone says, guys always say stuff they don't mean. Well I was wondering is that really true, cause now I'm starting to think sometimes when my boyfriend says cute stuff that maybe he doesn't mean it. I know this kinda sounds ...
A. 29 November 2010: I can't speak for him at all but I can tell you that when I say cute things I do mean them. This should show that there are guys out there who do mean it even though some do lie. If he says them at random times when there is no sexual favours ... (read in full...)
Can someone please translate this guy-speak?
Q. Hey, can any guys or girls reading this please translate some guy speak for me? I've been with my bf for 2 months. He showed me a text he sent to his female friend who he has known for years about a party they're going to next week. He'd tex...
A. 29 November 2010: This isn't a bad thing at all. From this I would say that he does really like you. Firstly you two haven't been together long enough for him to give this girl a really good example of the two of you, secondly and most importantly it was a text. This ... (read in full...)
Can anyone share relationships that have gone right?
Q. So I enjoy answering questions here on dearcupid when I have spare time. The thing is they are mostly about relationships gone wrong/problems/etc. I was wondering if people would post about relationships they are in or have been in where things ...
A. 29 November 2010: The answer to your question is a great deal of effort. Working with your partner and not just for yourself.
My gf and I have been together for around a year and a half and things are going really well. We have had some really rough times where I ... (read in full...)
Could this be a STD rash?
Q. I have a small purple bruise lookin rash on my penis I'm worried it's an STD me and my gf r each others first should I be worried or is it nothing?...
A. 28 November 2010: It sounds like nothing serious but there is no harm in getting it checked out if it doesn't fade in the time a bruise would usually take. This could be from friction from either her or your masturbation. It has happened to me so I really don't think ... (read in full...)
It just seems too good to be true!
Q. I don't know what exactly to think about my relationship. I'm absolutly in love with my boyfriend we have been together for 14 months happily. We both plan on getting married as soon as possiable. Then we plan to go college together to be ...
A. 28 November 2010: You're never too young to think that just remember that if it does ever end that life is not over. I know its terrible to think that but I would hate to see not knowing what to do if it ever did end.
To end on a more positive note though is that... (read in full...)
100 reasons why I love him, 90 down 10 to go!
Q. Ok so im dating right now, its been like 8 months and coming up is Christmas, im totally gonna like write him a book of 100 reasons why i love him but its not working out, i have no clue what to write, im at like reason 90 but cant think of anymore, ...
A. 26 November 2010: Definitely go for the really little things and if you don't want them to be how it ends then stick them somewhere in the middle. My gf did this for me and it was the really little things she noticed that I really liked.
Try something like that you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe, I believe him!
Q. i need help with my bf the other day he told me something and i asked if he was lieing but i didnt mean it intentionally,he went made saying why dont you ever believe me this happened yesterday and today he's been sending me horrible messages...
A. 26 November 2010: It sounds like he over reacted. I can only get a limited idea from your post but I think the best thing to do is explain what you really meant and tell him that you do beleive him.
Was it something that you were hoping him to be lieing about?... (read in full...)
My gf wants me to have a bigger penis, how do I handle this??
Q. I've got a question recently me and my gf had a talk about my penis and she says that she wants it thicker I asked her why and she said why not. I know that all those pills are scams aswell as mentioned exercises but is there any way to make it ...
A. 25 November 2010: Wow, that is terrible of her to say that. How would she like it if you said her breasts were lopsided? I would be pretty hurt by this.
The good news is that you are still at that stage where you can grow but I wouldn't expect anything major to happ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for them not to pay me even though I've worked every weekend for the past five weeks?
Q. Hi agony's :) im looking for abit of help/advice on my job problem. ok so i live in the UK and ive recently acquired a christmas temp job. they needed certain ID from me, i gave them my birth certificat (the small one - the only one i have) and ...
A. 25 November 2010: It is illegal for them not to pay you and I'm sure they will but the question is when. Anything to do with paper work will take time and things only slow down when it comes to this season. I would talk to your boss to find out what the company plans ... (read in full...)
Why are guys my age so simple but complex at the same time?
Q. Hi, i just need some advice or something that will help me understand.I'am 14 but some people mistake me for being 21.Anyways the guys at my school seem so closed minded about the people who they date.All of them have to date the girls that look ...
A. 25 November 2010: First of all I am going to say exactly why they pick the low apples. They are easy, plain and simple it's how they are popular now but that dies off almost right at grad or shortly after high school. The majority want the tipical slutty girl who ... (read in full...)
What cologne should I get my boyfriend for christmas?
Q. Not really a relationship question as such but something most people will have an opinion on I hope. I want to get my boyfriend some cologne as part of his xmas present, but I'm completely clueless when it's comes to male fragrance and was hoping ...
A. 24 November 2010: A friend of mine goes with Hugo Boss and always gets compliments for it. Your best bet is to smell them though because you want your man to smell like the scent you love. ... (read in full...)
Weight Gain due to Implanon!!
Q. This is sort of personal, but hey! About 10 months ago I got Implanon fitted in my arm, as I am in a relationship just over 2 years. I have noticed since I got it that I have put on a hell of alot of weight :/ .. I have read up about people not ...
A. 24 November 2010: Wow I did not know that sort of thing existed. My general advice would be to look into switching to another form of birth control. But because this one does sound alot easier and I'm sure you went through a whole process of choosing this one in the ... (read in full...)
Should I get mum and dad tattooed onto my inner wrist
Q. should i get my mum and dads name tattooed onto my inner wrist okay i was thinking mum on my right wrist and dad on my left do you think this will look okay ? or do you think it would look better with mummy and daddy ?...
A. 24 November 2010: I've gone for a tattoo myself and I would have to say that it is probably best for you to find a symbol to represent your parents. One it makes the meaning not so obvious and when your older not everyone has to know what you mean by it. You could do ... (read in full...)
I tend to get him turned on by accident!
Q. My boyfriend is a virgin and I tend to get him really turned on by accident. He gets turned on by me even kissing him. Well he has figured out things that I really like and I am afraid that things will go too far too soon. I have talked to him about ...
A. 23 November 2010: Just read your follow up. If you two are not planning to wait till marriage then this is the natural course of events. Don't try to set things to a time line. He wants it to be with someone special and that is a feeling not an amount of time spent ... (read in full...)
I want to make a sex tape!
Q. Would my boyfriend think its weird if i bring up us having sex an video tapeing it for us to watch some time? Also is it weird to watch your self have sex or will he think its weird watching it? Thanks....
A. 23 November 2010: Personally I think it is really hot but there are alot of issues that can come up. If you two ever broke up or were mad at each other it is so easy for something like that to get on the internet. I know you probably think that it wouldn't happen but ... (read in full...)
I tend to get him turned on by accident!
Q. My boyfriend is a virgin and I tend to get him really turned on by accident. He gets turned on by me even kissing him. Well he has figured out things that I really like and I am afraid that things will go too far too soon. I have talked to him about ...
A. 23 November 2010: First off I don't want this to sound anti religious or anything, I just want you to think about it. Ask yourself what are the real reasons why you two should restrain from each other. I'm not saying that you shouldn't wait but I am hoping that by ... (read in full...)
Love stricken crap
Q. "What infuriates me the most is how two people are supposed to be best friends go through so much crap within such a small space of time. Petty, pathetic, childish crap." Love-stricken crap. The worst thing about this is how, in theory, it...
A. 22 November 2010: Love comes in many forms and should be welcomed however it decides to show up in your life. People know this in theory but in actuality the people who struggle with this need someone there for them in the flesh. If I ever have that opertunity to be ... (read in full...)
2 years later and I want my ex back!
Q. I broke every single rule when my ex and I broke up 2 years ago. We were both young and in love and nieve, soo.... in other words we made mistakes and said stupid things to make eachother hurt. I've dated other guys since this, but... nothing has ...
A. 22 November 2010: I usually say that it is never a good idea to go back to ex's but I think it is what you truely want to do. You should talk to him about the idea of you two getting back together and see what he says. He may or may not want to though. If he does ... (read in full...)
I stopped eating meat but now I'm eating too much sugar!
Q. Hi,umm I have started this new diet about not eating meat anymore because I've heard about what they do to the animals(I've heard about how the animals are kept under very poor conditions and they inject steroids into them and things like that and ...
A. 22 November 2010: It sounds to me that you may be cutting out alot of nutrients and your body is trying to keep up your energy with the sugar. I don't know much about a vegetarian diet so I recommend looking online or seeing a nutritionist because I am thinking that ... (read in full...)
Is it terrible to stop liking someone because they are fat?
Q. Right, I like this girl but shes a bit fat. She's got a great personality and we get on great and she's a good laugh. I'm afraid to ask her out in case I will soon stop liking her because she's big and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I kinda fi...
A. 22 November 2010: Sometimes weight is a factor and its good that you are thinking of her in this matter. Its better to admit that you may not be attracted to a bigger girl then pretending you are like alot of people who try to cover up their thoughts.
Give it alot... (read in full...)
Its the opportunity of a life time for him, but I just cant be happy for him
Q. May seem far-fetched, but i do not have any reason to lie on here...I just need some honest, non-biased advice.. My boyfriend and I have been extremely happy together for a year and a half. We know that this is it, we have found who we want to b...
A. 21 November 2010: Your not over reacting at all. This is very tipical when someone, even the one you love is acheiving something that you yourself would want. It's a natural human reaction and although you feel that way I know you are capable of showing him that you ... (read in full...)
What do I do if another girl is in love with my guy?
Q. What do I do if another girl is in love with my boyfriend? They first became friends through class, but I know she likes him and he knows it too. He said he has no feelings for her and only sees her in class, but she texts him constantly and I am ...
A. 21 November 2010: There really isn't that much that you can. The best thing to do is though not to be the jealous gf although you do have a right to express some opinion about this other girl. If your bf doesn't feel like bothers you all that much it will take away ... (read in full...)
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