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What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?

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Question - (16 December 2010) 18 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, *aronon writes:

What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time?

(I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010):

38 is young! The fact that you think you're old or unnattractive because you're a grandfather makes me think you are in a low mood.

It is better to ejaculate for prostate health.

I would masturbate if you feel like it until you find a partner. This will reduce the build up of sexual tension/aggression and keep your prostate healthy. Masturbation will not dissipate your ability to have an erection or to have sex unless maybe you do it too close to having intercourse. Everyone is different.

You might want to go to a doctor and get yourself checked out if you're depressed or having erection problems.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (20 December 2010):

The Realist agony auntYes you need to have hope but you also need to know that you can do something about it. Just because you are a grandpa doesn't mean you have to slow down at all. Sex and love do not have to be connected but it makes it all the more special when they are. Most people won't have sex without love there first which is a good thing.

And you can't honestly beleive that you are unattractive to women. There are tons of women out there who will fall in love with you for who you are. The problem is that you have to go searching for love becasue the older you get the harder it is to meet people who would be interested.

Have you thought of a site like e-harmony. I know they sound cheesy but a couple I know met on there, got married and are very happy together.

Quiting smoking always makes things more difficult but good for you for quiting. That's something that a woman you want would find to be a good characteristic, the drive to better yourself. Try to keep yourself busy and focus on getting out in the world instead of sex first.

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A male reader, daronon United Kingdom +, writes (19 December 2010):

daronon is verified as being by the original poster of the question

.............ok, so you're saying 'have hope'?

....my original question has wandered of into the subject of love... for some reason i kinda equate sex and love together.... i mean they are kinda related?

...No, im not old yet, but i am a 38 year old grandad, which kinda makes me feel its all over now...... im not attractive to women, im ready for the scrapyard n that ......

.......i really have trouble concentrating on things and questions about sex and love are predominating my mind most times..... quite stressful especially as i just quit smoking aswell.

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A male reader, turbine India +, writes (19 December 2010):

That is why there is spirituality. You may find it unacceptable but when a person grows old he looks more graceful if he shifts towards spirituality. Sex could be there but with age there has to be a difference in the mindset.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (19 December 2010):

The Realist agony auntNow slow down there. You're not old yet and there is no point giving up. I think I see that you're talking about loving sexual relationships. The point of doing all of this is so you are in the position to meet the right woman. All you have to do is go out and look for one and it will all be fine. You don't want to slip away from this reality because you just don't find the love you want if you don't keep your head up and put yourself out there.

Even if it doesn't work the first or even the tenth it will if you don't give up. There is love out there it's just not right out in the open.

Don't give up and then no one will give up on you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010):

Calm down. It's sex not love.

What people are clearly saying is ejaculate wenyou can! And obviously it's best to do that with someone.

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A male reader, daronon United Kingdom +, writes (19 December 2010):

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....so whats the point in life when you get older and cant have sex? whats the EFFING point in paying bills, doing chores, working for a home etc..... if nobody loves or wants you? its canny shit now so i dont wanna be old... can anyone get me a gun?

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada + , writes (18 December 2010):

C. Grant agony auntI think the anon who said "don't lose any opportunity to have sex, if you can get it. Don't masturbate, find parteners to share the pleasure with you" was suggesting that there will come a time in your life where you're unable to share sex with a woman -- that age and infirmity will leave you unable and therefore regretting missed opportunities now. And that masturbation now will take the edge off and make you less likely to find a partner.

While I defer to the anon's age and experience, the fact that you've been single for seven months and rarely masturbate suggests to me that a sexual 'edge' is not what's keeping you from finding a partner. Yes, of course it's better to have a girl, to be in a fulfilling relationship. In the meantime, a bit of masturbation here and there has got to better than abusing alcohol and drugs. And no, masturbation in and of itself won't sap your vitality.

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A male reader, daronon United Kingdom +, writes (18 December 2010):

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.......well, im confused about the replies,,,, some say masturbation is good for health while other tells me don't waste my vitality.... i think i agree with the later... i dont want to be totally deflated in my old age, and incapable of having sex or making love..... however, because i have abstained for a few months now, i do feel irritable and sometimes angry and aggressive at times,,,and fear that if i don't get any action or stimulation,,, i will lose it thru lack of use!!!

now some people will say, sex is not necessary for survival and i wont want to have anymore children, but it is a pleasure, i dont like living without it now,,,, my life seems quite meaningless now that i dont have a partner, love or sex.... and i can't see much point in other aspects of life, (health, work, etc) if theres no pleasures at the end of the day,,,,, so it is very important for me to maintain my sexual side even if i been single for months..... part of me thinks i must use imagination and fantasy occasionaly to ensure it all still works, but another part says it is a waste, it should be kept for those intimate moments (if i should get so lucky!!!)

so I am still confused about my question?

more replies please!!!!

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A male reader, turbine India +, writes (16 December 2010):

You must masterbate as much as you can to keep up with your penile health. Gabrielle and Priyanka are absolutely right here. Or you'll have trouble in getting an erection sooner or later.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010):

From your age range, I would say you are still at your prime. so it is a pity to abstain from sex. Believe me, take it from a much older man. don't lose any opportunity to have sex, if you can get it. Don't masturbate, find parteners to share the pleasure with you. just don't waste your time coz the sexual activity years are short so don't waste them.

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A male reader, daronon United Kingdom +, writes (16 December 2010):

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....Thanks people for your replies, I asked the question and the answers are good, I do get anger and feel 'volotile' and irritable... I don't masturbate (maybe once or twice in past 7 months?)it explains things to me now, i have been taking drugs and consuming lots of alchohol to calm temper and irritablilty but now i can see that it is related to sex drive,so I must post a new question now... thanks.

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A female reader, priyanka92 India +, writes (16 December 2010):

priyanka92 agony auntsee what you can do is try masturbating because according to medical facts the lesser the times one ejaculates the higher the chances of ones getting prostate cancer,

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (16 December 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntNothing so serious, but regular ejaculation is recommended.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada + , writes (16 December 2010):

C. Grant agony auntThe most recent medical stuff I've seen says that the more frequently you ejaculate, the lower the risk of prostate cancer. If you're not in a sexual relationship, that suggests you should masturbate.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010):

angry, moody, more "volatile" and wet dreams.?

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (16 December 2010):

The Realist agony auntNo you won't have any medical side effects, but you may feel more moody though. You won't experience blue balls either becasue the body recycles sperm and it is only when you get aroused often with no ejacualtion that it occurs. If you go from a good amount of sex to none and don't masturbate I can almost gaurantee you will be more prone to anger but other than that it will work the same when ever you start again.

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A female reader, DanceInTheDark Canada +, writes (16 December 2010):

DanceInTheDark agony auntDoesn't have sex? Nothing. Doesn't ejaculate? Wet dreams.

that's about it.

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