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22 January 2011: When your in a relationship, either married or dating I think it is safe to say that equality in that relationship is a very good thing. I'm interested in seeing what everyone can come up with for equality points in a relationship. I'm not really ...
Lost puppy effect.
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7 September 2010: With a friend of mine going through a break up at the moment I have noticed the common behavior of her bf which I want to call the lost puppy effect. Some back ground on the situation is that she broke up with him and is moving on and going through ...
To break up or not to break up? That is the question.
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23 February 2010: This article is inspired by two friends of mine who are together in a relationship and its for all those men and women who think that they want to end their realationship but don't quite know yet. All relationships hit rocky patches where you have...
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Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 14 February 2011: Your welcome. I'm sure things will get right back on track sooner then you think. ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 12 February 2011: I'm sorry to hear this. If she isn't willing to be there for for then you need some closer on the matter and then cut her out completely so that you have a definite point tomove on from.
I think you should be very direct with her and tell her how ... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 1 February 2011: It sounds like she is back and forth with her own emotions. I don't really think that it is her fault but I do think that she wants to be with you as well as someone else. She doesn't seem to be intentionally playing games with you but it still ... (read in full...)
Threesome considerations and do's and don'ts.
Q. I just want to know things to consider and do's and don'ts when having a threesome. My wife and I are going to have one with another woman. My wife has gone there before but I never have. Always wanted to and now I have the chance. We have been ...
A. 21 December 2010: Good for you. It does show confidence in the relationship that you two have. ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 20 December 2010: Yes you need to have hope but you also need to know that you can do something about it. Just because you are a grandpa doesn't mean you have to slow down at all. Sex and love do not have to be connected but it makes it all the more special when they ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 19 December 2010: Now slow down there. You're not old yet and there is no point giving up. I think I see that you're talking about loving sexual relationships. The point of doing all of this is so you are in the position to meet the right woman. All you have to do is ... (read in full...)
Very disturbing behaviour from my son
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you can take the time to help! I have a ten year old son, and since he was born he's been the sweetest, smartest, and generous boy I've ever known and wanted. He did his homework every night and I've never had to ask him twice to ...
A. 17 December 2010: I reccomend him seeing a counseler asap. This kind of behaviour is what they say leads to serial killing and various kinds of abuse. The clothes may just be a phase but the murder plans and torturing animals is a really bad sign. Keep a close eye on ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend gets mad when I try to kiss her!
Q. i don't get my gf i try to kiss her and she gets mad. i get frustrated when she doesn't kiss me and i only try to kiss her a few times a week! i tell her i love and she either says "Suck my d**K" or dido or dildo to be funny but never an i love you ...
A. 17 December 2010: Then you should definitely move on. After that long she's not saying that she loves you becasue she doesn't. This is just a game for her and when the fun is over she'll leave. You need to find someone who is looking for a real relationship like you ... (read in full...)
Threesome considerations and do's and don'ts.
Q. I just want to know things to consider and do's and don'ts when having a threesome. My wife and I are going to have one with another woman. My wife has gone there before but I never have. Always wanted to and now I have the chance. We have been ...
A. 17 December 2010: My gf and I had a threesome not to long ago. The most important thing to do is to really discuss everything that could happen so that you two know how far you will let it go. Also remember to keep everyone involved equally. ... (read in full...)
In the hospital and my boyfriend was watching porn
Q. I am in hospital (pregnancy loss related) and had an overnight stay, whilst I was in overnight,I found out my partner masturbated to porn. I feel angry and emotional over this, am I over reacting? ...
A. 17 December 2010: Yes you are over reacting. I am thinking he has masturbated to porn a lot just never talked about it. It has nothing to do with you being away form him. Although it could be attributed to stress from worrying about you where he needed some external ... (read in full...)
I enjoy watching my boyfriend masturbate!
Q. I really enjoy watching my bf masturbate himself off. Is this weird?? ...
A. 17 December 2010: It's not weird at all. My gf and I have watched each other masturbate before. I think it is appealing because we want to see how the opposite sex is in some of their most intimate moments. ... (read in full...)
He told me I was pretty then he ran off?
Q. So i have liked this guy for awhile now. And my friends say he likes me but idk. I want other people advice too. This is what he USE TO DO he used to talk 2 me all the time and tease me. But then one day he said i think your pretty and then ran off. ...
A. 16 December 2010: It sounds to me that he really doesn't know how to start a relationship. What he is doing is kind of creepy so it's really up to you if you should even bother with him anymore. He could just be extremely nervous though so I would go and talk to him. ... (read in full...)
After having one night stands why does she wants to take it slow?
Q. why would a girl who has one night stands when she's single want to take it slow in a relationship? Seems to me that this girl is hotter for the guys she doesn't want to date... I don't get it....
A. 16 December 2010: The girl would want to take it slow to make sure that there is love formed before sex and not love of the sex. If sex comes first, like on a one night stand it is for pleasure and not love which does not form a good relationship. Introducing sex ... (read in full...)
How long before you should have sex?
Q. I have been with my boy friend for a few years and we havent had sex yet? How long would be a good time to be with someone before you have sex with them? ...
A. 16 December 2010: You can't really set a time line to these things. Either you two feel ready or you don't. My gf and I waited 9 months and it felt right when we did it. Generally I will say that you shouldn't in the first month or so that a couple is dating but ... (read in full...)
What happens if a man does not have sex for a very long time?
Q. What happens if a man does not have sex or ejaculate for a long time? (I had an active sex-life up until 7 months ago, but none since, will it stop working and will i get prostate cancer?....) ...
A. 16 December 2010: No you won't have any medical side effects, but you may feel more moody though. You won't experience blue balls either becasue the body recycles sperm and it is only when you get aroused often with no ejacualtion that it occurs. If you go from a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend gets mad when I try to kiss her!
Q. i don't get my gf i try to kiss her and she gets mad. i get frustrated when she doesn't kiss me and i only try to kiss her a few times a week! i tell her i love and she either says "Suck my d**K" or dido or dildo to be funny but never an i love you ...
A. 16 December 2010: It sounds like you two are on a completely different level of maturity. Usually it's the guy being immature. I'm confused what she even thinks of the relationship but I don't think that she is right for you. I would find someone more suited to what ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about going to school pregnant!
Q. im a 14 year old girl and im pregnant by my boyfriend of a year in a half. He is supporting me on everything but im so nervous to go to school by the time i get big. how do i handle the criticism of the kids in my school?...
A. 16 December 2010: Through my high school years I saw two girls get pregnant. Most people didn't say anything but the best thing you can do is not to be embarrassed by it. Don't walk around like your less of a person and that should keep their comments down.
Be prou... (read in full...)
Do high school guys llike asian girls?
Q. I'm a Freshman in highschool and this new guy moved to my school this year(also a freshman). He's 5'10 and I'm 5'2. Just thought that i should mention that i'm asian and not to sound full of myself but am NOT ugly. one question is do guy in high ...
A. 16 December 2010: It sounds like he likes you. The stares will give it away if they aren't creepy. other than that he'll smile, I would always give a cute smile and look to see if I would get one back.
I don't think that anyone would say anything to him if he date... (read in full...)
Could anyone help me out on a good colour that suits blonde/brown hair please?
Q. This is just a quick question really, I was just wondering on any one's opinion really.. I have Blonde and brown hair (Dark brown my natural hair on bottom, and blonde on top) I don't like to be a person that blends in with the crowd, i like to...
A. 16 December 2010: I think pink or a red would look good. I have only seen it once and it certainly caught my eye. A hot pink would be my pick. ... (read in full...)
Which one would you pick?
Q. This is jsut a curiousty question. Some of my friends were wondering would you marry a women who gave countless oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex if you coud pick one? what would it be?...
A. 15 December 2010: Easiest to deal with would be vaginal sex then blow jobs but there is something about anal sex that would bug me if she gave it to others but wasn't willing to in our relationship. There's just something very personal with trusting someone with anal ... (read in full...)
Which one would you pick?
Q. This is jsut a curiousty question. Some of my friends were wondering would you marry a women who gave countless oral sex, vaginal sex, or anal sex if you coud pick one? what would it be?...
A. 15 December 2010: If I could only pick one it would have to vaginal sex with someone who has a high sex drive although I do prefer someone who likes to warm up with oral. ... (read in full...)
Sex with a younger guy? but not just any younger guy!
Q. My story is this: I am currently divorced from my second marriage. My first marriage was over in 2003. And I had a son and daughter and my husband had a son and daughter. So basically I had a step son and step daughter for a little ovr 6 yea...
A. 15 December 2010: I think this is one of those things that is better kept as secret fun because your kids may not react well to this. It is probably just the excitement of the situation but I don't really think that you could see having an actual relationship with ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about leaving my husband if he doesn't stop looking at porn
Q. I have been married for 5 years now and my husband and I are both young only in our 20's and have 3 little girls I found his porn 6months into our marriage and we have had problems every since he says he's gonna quit and never does and now just gets ...
A. 13 December 2010: I beleive that you are only in the right if his porn habits have affected your relationship or sex life. If it has then you are right but if it hasn't then you two need to find a way to compromise on it. Say for instance that you would be ok about ... (read in full...)
When you cheat does it mean you really don't love your partner anymore?
Q. hi i just have a very simple question, i have been with my bf for 4 years now but i have recentley cheated on him for the first time ever and i am very confused about my feelings but i just wanted to know: when you cheat, does it really mean that ...
A. 13 December 2010: I don't think so at all. I think you cheat because there is something that you want to gain that you just don't feel like you have with your partner. You can love the person very much but feel like something sexual is missing so you cheat.
If you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection?
Q. Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection? I haven't had a period in 2 months and I never missed one in my life, I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative. Could there be a different reason why I have not had my period or was the ...
A. 13 December 2010: You could be pregnant but there is also a chance that if you are on the pill it will cause you to miss periods at some point, could be once a year or once a life time. It happened to my gf randomly but it would be best to check with your doctor on ... (read in full...)
Do you get more pimples when you don't have Sex?
Q. Do you get more Pimples when you dont have Sex?? Because i notice this big change in my face pores when i dont have Sex and then right after i do my face completly changes....
A. 13 December 2010: Now there isn't a direct conection but the physical activity of can be good for you skin as well there is a chemicel change in the brain that may have something to do with it. Also sex relieves stress so if you don't have sex your stress levels ... (read in full...)
Should I have allowed him to do this? I felt pressured into doing it!
Q. hey guys right if u read my other question it will be about my realtionship wiv my boyfriend but if you haven`t read it,its about me and my boy friend being alone and he tryed to pull my skirt up and i slapped him coz of it and we argued about it. ...
A. 13 December 2010: I did read and respond to your other question. Obviously there is part of you that wanted it to happen and part of you who didn't. My question to you is do you care about him and do you want to become sexual with him even though you two may not ... (read in full...)
How do I remove a hicky???
Q. How can I remove a hickey fast!??? It's between my neck and shoulder! I need an answer quicklyyy! please. ...
A. 11 December 2010: Try cover up and you can also try heating it up rubing it a bit and cooling it. That should break up the bruising and keep it away.
Or you can always tell people its a curling iron burn. ... (read in full...)
All I want is the keys back, why the silence from my ex?
Q. Hi everyone hope someone can help me with this. My ex girlfriend of 5 years dumped me with no specific reason no fighting arguing cheating etc... We were living 2 and half years together and when she left she forgot to leave spare keys for the hou...
A. 10 December 2010: It sounds like she has just forgotten about you and doesn't want contact at all. Her silence says to me that she is completely done with the relationship.
I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you, don't take her back because you can find some... (read in full...)
His former hookup is trying to worm her way in our relationship by suggesting a threesome!
Q. Sorry, this might be a little long. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months. There's this girl that he use to hook up with. They stopped talking about 6 months ago and about a month ago she texted him asking to hang out. He told her no that ...
A. 9 December 2010: You really can't just tell him to stop talking to her. I know that I would want to give this girl the respect of a response. Maybe it amuses him to hear all her sugestions. You have to trust him that he will not give in to her temptation and that he ... (read in full...)
I slapped my boyfriend for pulling up my skirt!
Q. heyy guys right yesterday me and my boyfriend was all alone at home and we were kissing and huggin and stuff like that then he pulled up my skirt and i slapped him and we argued and he called me jody{thats not my name} i am so anrgy wiv him i do...
A. 9 December 2010: I think you two need to sit down and talk about what this relationship is. He is obviously thinking that you two should be moving towards sexual things. So his move wasn't really uncalled for or wrong. Now it would be a different story if you had ... (read in full...)
I don't know who to date!
Q. now i like two guys thy r both sweet and half of my friends want me 2 date the one tht knows me the most and because hes the cutest. also cause we make a cute couple.thn the other half wants me to date the other guy. he knows me 2 but not like the ...
A. 9 December 2010: This isn't really enough info to go on but I am thinking that the first guy being cute, who knows you and cares about is the better guy to choose. Take a min to think about them and go with your gut feeing on this one.... (read in full...)
Is she strange or am I overreacting?
Q. hey is love really a bitch ?? i've been knowing this girl for quite a long time now, or do i, she asked me out, we dated, lasted 3 months, sex 2 weeks, then a day came, i snapped, she broke up. she dated my friend, then broke up, then another f...
A. 9 December 2010: First off good for you for quiting smoking, that will help in what ever relationship you find yourself in. I wouldn't say love is bitch but lust is and this girl is doing what I have definitely had done to me in the past. She is presenting herself ... (read in full...)
I noticed spotting since I started taking the birth control pill. How long did it last for you?
Q. Hi everyone! This is more a question for the women. I'm 19 and just started taking Loestrin 24, the birth control pill. One of the side effects is spotting which my gynocologist told me could happen. For me this brown spotting has been occurin...
A. 9 December 2010: When my gf started on birth control, I don't know which pill exactly she went through spotting for quite some time. Her sister as well which lasted about a month. This is due to the hormones reaching a new balance with in you. Make sure to check in ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like anal sex with women?
Q. Why do guys like anal sex with women? Is it because it feels different or a bit "dirty?"...
A. 9 December 2010: I think that it does have a kinky aspect to it but it is also the fact that it is much tighter, producing more friction. There is also the freedom of not being able to get pregnant which for some guys may make the experience alot better. ... (read in full...)
He prefers to look at porn rather than have sex with me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend got together when i was 16 and he was 17. We have now been together for just over 7 years and living together for 3 years. 6 months befor we moved in with each other the sex dried right up. I usually get sex once a week but i ...
A. 8 December 2010: For the most part I talk about porn as really not being the problem and that people over react with it. Here is a case where he obviously can't have both in his life. Porn is fine if it doesn't affect the relationship like it has here.
All I can ... (read in full...)
Everyone says it's not right we're dating because she's under 18?
Q. Hey everyone, So my girlfriend is 17 years old and i'm 19. Everyone keeps saying that it's not right for us to be dating because she is under 18. I don't think it's a big deal but I was wondering what you all think. So do you think it's okay or is ...
A. 8 December 2010: As far as I know sex is legal for the two of you so there is nothing wrong with the relationship there. I find it to be very common that a guy dates a younger girl and two years is nothing for an age difference. Don't listen to those people, all ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out, but her brother is always there! What should I do?
Q. Hello. For the last year or two I attended badminton training during summer break. In my first year there, I met a girl who seemed to connect pretty well with me. Then life happened, and I wasn't able to see her until around September of this...
A. 7 December 2010: Next time you get a chance to approach her just ask her nicely if you two could talk alone for a little bit because there is something that you want to ask her. That way while you two walk somewhere the excitement can build withtin her and it will ... (read in full...)
Guys, how do you feel when a woman encourages you?
Q. Guys, when a women tells you "you are strong", "you are smart", to encourage you. How does this feel? -Does it make you love her more, because she is loving you? -Does it give you strength?...
A. 7 December 2010: I would have to say that it really is a confidence boost but if you find out that it was a lie it hurts even more and lowers your self esteem below what it originally was. Also when you are in a relationship your partner saying these things tends to ... (read in full...)
Is this enough to suggest that she likes me?
Q. hi, i am 16 male, I'm not sure if a certain girl likes me or not, she tends to get close to me if were around eachother, she has admitted to me that she masturbates in the shower, and she texts me alot. Does she like me?...
A. 7 December 2010: I would say that she like you. Most girls wouldn't say something like that if they didn't. My gf and I talked about how we masturbate before we started dating so it does happen.
I am guessing that you want to know whether she would say yes if you ... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat?
Q. Im 20 years old have a baby and a wonderful husband. We've know each other for only 3 years but i have always felt he is the love of my life.. except for now im not sure anymore. 3 months ago i cheated on him and made out with another guy and since ...
A. 6 December 2010: You cheated because there was something missing in your relationship and the temptation was too great to resist. It's really not your fault as much as you make it out to be.
Throughout our lives we are always faced with the temptation to see if t... (read in full...)
How can a 13 year old girl flirt?
Q. I am absolutly head over heels in live with a tenth grade boy. But I'm only in eigth grade. He is perfect. He's funny, a gentleman, freespirited, and just all around amazing. Well I don't know how to lightly flirt. All I ever do is talk to him like ...
A. 6 December 2010: Just smile at him when you see him, he'll know what it means. When you talking to him get close to him but not right in his face, also next time you approach him gently rub his arm to get his attention. ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my hands from being hot and sweaty?
Q. Ok so basicly our school is doing social dance for p.e and my hands get all hot nd sweaty- how do i stop this :/ Thnx :) xxxx...
A. 6 December 2010: This is a tough one because it really is a phychological thing. It might be helpful to ask a pharmacist because I know there are products out there that treat this kind of sweating. I use one called drysol that is over the counter and although I use ... (read in full...)
While drunk I acted disrespectful to my boyfriends parents!
Q. lastnite i was told i had acted very disrepectfull to my bfs family cople that i did not know about it because i was to drunk to know what i had done...the couple are very nice sweet loving ppl i would never would do anything to disrespct that but i ...
A. 6 December 2010: Talk to them like an adult and say that you are sorry for the way you behaved and that if you could you would like to start over with them. Then show them the respectful person that you are.
An email would be perfect or and actual letter, anyt... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my sister-in-law!
Q. Hi I am 26 year old female and I am attracted to my sister in-law she is my sis in-law by my stepbrother we have a very close friendship and I never told her, but one day I had a dream about us messing around and I told her casually about it. ...
A. 5 December 2010: Although it may make an awkward situation in the family there is nothing that I find wrong with you persuing anything sexual with her. Take time to think about it and decide if the temptation is worth it. ... (read in full...)
How hard do you find it to say no?
Q. Just a quick question. How hard do you find it to say NO. This is just a general question. I have always been a yes man. And find it very very hard to say No. But just lately i have tried it and now people seem to think i am just being awkward. ...
A. 5 December 2010: I have never found it that difficult becasue if the person won't take no for an answer when I know they are pressuring me than I don't want them in my life.
Like it was said though, could you provide some sort of example here?... (read in full...)
After dating 2 years my boyfriend forgot how to spell my name?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. Well the other day he forgot how to spell my name. Its not even a long complicated name. It actually a common name. Does this mean that he's lost interest in me or that I'm not of ...
A. 5 December 2010: Please just let it go. I've been with my gf for almost 2 years and it has happened to me. My spelling isn't that great at all and I tried to do something fast. Now if he didn't remember your name that would be a problem. How often does he even spell ... (read in full...)
While drunk I acted disrespectful to my boyfriends parents!
Q. lastnite i was told i had acted very disrepectfull to my bfs family cople that i did not know about it because i was to drunk to know what i had done...the couple are very nice sweet loving ppl i would never would do anything to disrespct that but i ...
A. 5 December 2010: Ask your bf if you can get in touch with these people and apoligize. They will probably be very pleasantly surprised by this and it shows your bf that you do care.
We all make stupid mistakes when drinking but very few people would ever hold a grud... (read in full...)
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