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writes:How do you tell when a guy is only in it for the sex? How can you tell? I just want some advise on things that guys might do if they are only in it for the sex. Reply to this Question
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reader, Crazylover  +, writes (31 December 2010):
I'm going through the same thing. And now that's we have had sex I'm afraid if I stop he won't want to stay in the relatioonship. I love this guy but I'm not sure if he loves me. So I'm going to leave him and see what he does. You should try it. If he loves you he will go after you. And that's when you set the rules down.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 December 2010):
 At your age - high school - I totally recommend waiting until University until you have sex. Most guys are trying to get laid in high school and aren't emotionally ready for any kind of relationship at all - maybe a large generalization, but true.
As embarrassing as it is to run into your hot crush after a heavy make out session; imagine seeing him in the halls every day after him seeing you naked.
In University, you aren't going to be bumping into the same people every minute - and they are generally a bit more mature. Just my opinion and experience...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): How to tell if he is only interested in sex...if he seems generally distracted in your prescence...can't remember conversations your shared or forgets key parts of your biography....also if he displays a lack of genuine curiousity...you end up moving the conversation along while he rarely asks you questions...if you feel you are more curious about him than he is about you.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (31 December 2010):
 Honestly every guy will act some what differently on how to get it. So the best way to find out is to tell him straight out that you dont plan to have sex with him until you get comfortable in whatever type relationship you have if he stays around then thats a good sign. Even if he stays, make him wait for it. If he waits you know he wants more
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): give it time because he won't be there at the end of it if he just wants sex. A month is normally a good test
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (30 December 2010):
 If he is only it it for the sex then he would generally not want to do the normal relationship things with you, such as a nice walk, and he will always want to push things further that just kissing and cuddling, such as wondering hands. After sex you may find that he may not want to hang around, then only return again when it suits him for more.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 He never wants to meet up and do anything else but have sex, he always talks about sex or your body, he never wants to have a regular conversation with, and he wont be interested in you or give you attention unless you press your boobs in his face. Basically. Beware of the "hunt" that is part of a certain game. In this game the man/boy will start by giving you attention not related to sex. However he will soon switch it into something sexual, for example ask you intimate questions and try and establish a connection between the two of you. For example ask you private things, secrets, and tell you his own secrets (often his secrets are made up). If a man is only into it for sex he will try to move to having sex fast. He will like to touch you, be physical a lot. If you do not give him sex he will soon stop giving you attention and move on to another woman.
A good player will be very charming and feel like good company, but do not be fooled, it's all practiced lines and a game. If he vanishes just as soon as he came then you know what it was he was after.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Generally you can tell if the guy is only in it for sex if he pushes for sex very early on in the relationship and that seems to be the only things he wants to do when you two are together.
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