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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this girl on a train and we hit it off quite well. I took her number and asked her out for a date, quite specifically saying that iI want the first date to be in a nice restaurant. it went well. We also had coffee another time and were texting each other almost everyday. yesterday, out of the blue, she tells me that her parents were looking for a groom, arranged marriage style. I then asked her if she even knew that I liked her and she said no and that she doesn't like me that way and that she is sorry. Why would she do something like that. I mean, I she once even told me that she was embarrassed to talk to me on the phone, in front of her friends because they teased her. This is obviously over but isn't it a bit weird?
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reader, citadel  +, writes (13 November 2012):
She's sadly obligated through tradition, religion, culture.
You might like peanut butter cup cakes or basketball or your left eye might be .9 mm smaller than your right eye.
This is an "Arranged" marriage. It's not personal, which is the sad part. Feel sorry for her, be glad you didn't have to preform some mystical right of passage nor have to prove your worth. Be strong, move along.
Her problem is she likes you, but has to deny her feelings because of her family. Don't pursue this girl, there are millions of us, and many of us ride the train of freedom.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (13 November 2012):
 She seems steeped in old world culture. Maybe she was just using you for a good time. Maybe she just said those hurtful things to turn you off of her, so it would be easier for her to fulfill her parents wishes rather than her own. Whatever the reason I wouldn't call her anymore.
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