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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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He goes too quick and sometimes I just want sex!
Q. So my boyfriend cannot last during sex at all. I can tell if he kept going for like a good 15 minutes I would probably be able to finish and be satisfied, but he can only last about 30 seconds! He doesn't finish after 30 seconds, but we have to stop ...
A. 28 July 2009: He doesn't finish after 30 seconds, but we have to stop and take a quick (minute or so) break
Why do you have to take a break.
I was thinking you where describing premature ejaculation untill i read that line witch i dont understand
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I get wet before having sex, is there something wrong with me?
Q. im in a sexual relationship and my fella always comments on how wet i am down below before we have sex. he always mentions it and has also mentioned that he has had to use lube with some of his exes and never with me so im starting to wonder if ...
A. 28 July 2009: Are you the age you say you are cuse you should no this stuff by now.
Maybe your bf has been with some old cougars in the past or hes just exaggerating how naturally lubbed up you are at any rate your sex ed level seems to be a little lacking ... (read in full...)
He can't come!
Q. well my boy friend an i been togather for one month now an fron the time we net we been haveing sex every day an he never come not one time for the hold month we been have ing sex befor to be togather i have not had ...
A. 28 July 2009: Are you trying to have chilldren, if you dont want kids and he can still get hard and perform i dont see any problem if he cant ejaculate it means you wont get pregnant, but he should see a doctor becuse there could be a medical problem... (read in full...)
I feel like my life sucks! I'm down about it and don't know what to do
Q. ugh! i dont know why but my life absolutely sucks from every angle! For some reason i always get the worst of everything.Nothing good ever happens to me and i feel that im worthless. im 14 and i've never had a girlfriend. I feel that im ugly, an...
A. 28 July 2009: I don't believe in Karma and curses i believe in God and Jesus so as a christian i would say turn to them for guidance advice and uplifting. Its true not everyone is blessed with great looks or a genius IQ some are born into poverty some arent born ... (read in full...)
I use the term 'make love' and he uses 'f*ck'! What are your views on this?
Q. In need of some answers/advice my boyfriend and i have been together for more than two years . His made a few kinky suggestions b4 and we tried anal but never got any where as it really hurt and he promised not again will we try. Well just yester...
A. 28 July 2009: I think you need to talk to your bf about how you feel when in a relationship you have to compromise its a small sacrifice for him to say make love instead of the expletive. "what does he think i'm his skanky h*#" What makes you feel this way, T... (read in full...)
She's 17, nearly 18 and pregnant - we're so worried about her mother and brother's reaction!
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, Me and my partner had sex about a month ago and the condom split when using tingle durex condoms. My partner has been worried ever since and we decided to get a pregnancy test 4 days after we had sex. The test came back a...
A. 28 July 2009: Um have the the baby they can't kill you well, doubt they will, that would be illegal... (read in full...)
I don't think the day-after pill is an option! Is there anything I can do?
Q. hi well i recently had an abortion 2 weeks and 2 days ago to be exact, it was the hardest thing i have had to do but i couldnt keep it because i am a law student and cant get the time off to look after a baby at this point of time in my life.. ...
A. 25 July 2009: You should have taken the pill rite away or try celibacy it seems your going to just have to wait and find out... (read in full...)
My ex keeps being a bitch to me, What do I do ?
Q. It sounds stupid but I don't understand why she keeps being so rude and hurtful to me ? I mean she blocked me from msn but still talks to me through her friends. She once show me a picture of her and her boyfriend and she 2 months later told me her ...
A. 25 July 2009: Ask her why she wants to talk to you still after dumping you dont just run away from it sometimes you have to stand your ground be a man dont let this little girl put you through this... (read in full...)
He's a perfect gentlemen, only problem is he's 21 and I'm 16 going on 17!
Q. Hi. I really need some help here. i recently met this guy who seems perfect for me. we're both really into art and the outdoors, and he's a perfect gentleman. the only problem is, i'm 16 (about to be 17) and he's 21. i feel really iffy about this ...
A. 25 July 2009: Hi friend, THink about this do you really think you have a long term future with this guy or is it just a summer fling, puppy love etc because if it is in ten years you wont even remember this guys name or want to be with him. But if what you think ... (read in full...)
Question from a lady about something men always say to me
Q. I have a question that I would like the men to answer primarily (but ladies, too, if you have insight into my question). I am a thin lady, I will admit, but there is something that men say to me a lot that, quite frankly, I don't know how to take. ...
A. 25 July 2009: It seems like these men that say that to you are flirting, you may be more petite then average. You should take it as a compliment if you want to be bold come back with a witty remark to throw them off there game. As for looks i would have to say ... (read in full...)
I've been unfaithful and am unhappy!
Q. I have been with my husband for 9 years, married for one a half years. I have often had doubts as to whether I ought to have married him (I have had no other serious relationships and barely any boyfriends) and more recently I have been quite ...
A. 23 July 2009: People make mistakes we all do things we regret as a christian i have God to turn to faith helps. Tell your husband the truth thats the only way to end your guilt and even begin to solve these things in fact tell him basically what you wrote in here ... (read in full...)
I've been unfaithful and am unhappy!
Q. I have been with my husband for 9 years, married for one a half years. I have often had doubts as to whether I ought to have married him (I have had no other serious relationships and barely any boyfriends) and more recently I have been quite ...
A. 23 July 2009: People make mistakes we all do things we regret as a christian i have God to turn to faith helps. Tell your husband the truth thats the only way to end your guilt and even begin to solve these things in fact tell him basically what you wrote in here ... (read in full...)
How to help him get over me?
Q. My sister had a boyfriend from which she had a son who I love, my only and favorite nephew. They never loved each other and the relationship deteriorated fast and broke up. But he ended up falling in love with me, I liked him too so we had a ...
A. 23 July 2009: do you love him thats my question, how do you kno you dont have a future togather. The future is what you make it this guy really seems to care about you and love you if you love him you need to stop living in secret it wont be easy im sure, but you ... (read in full...)
What do I do? We both know how good we are for each other but we are not together!
Q. i fell in love with my best mate...told him how i feel...and he said the timing is wrong and wants to be friends. we became friends but more distant. still talk to each other. things always bring us back together when we spend time apart. in j...
A. 23 July 2009: Why do you have to get married you could try taking it slow move in together etc you say hes the one so go for it but i would suggest holding off the marriage thing for awhile.... (read in full...)
How can I make my penis bigger without pills?
Q. is there any way to make your dick bigger without pills or nothin that costs alot of money? like naturally really im fourteen and my dick is a litte over five inches hard two inches wide. is that normal size? if not how do you make it bigger? ...
A. 23 July 2009: Your 14 if you want to make it bigger without pills try something called puberty ... (read in full...)
If he likes me why isn't he speaking to me!!
Q. So me and this boy like each other We used to talk or actually text everyday Now it all stopped We would talk like once or maybe twice a week Recently I was talking to him through text and he asked me " I know this sounds wierd but do u still...
A. 23 July 2009: Theres only one person that can answer all those questions this boy. so ask him. the rest of us can just assume and guess... (read in full...)
17 and only find men over 40 attractive
Q. As you have probably seen from my last post I am in love with my teacher. But I only seem to be attracted to older men, I dont know why. I have never felt any affection to boys my age. Im 17 years old, im quite friendly to one guy who kissed me th...
A. 23 July 2009: Youll get over him or maybe you wont theres nothing wrong with fantasizing about your teacher do that all you want but just dont let your fantasy turn to reality, it wont work you and him can never have a future togather, when you turn 18 you may be ... (read in full...)
14 years old and seeking girl advice
Q. What do girls like in a guy? And what do they like to be told? How do you just go talk to them? What are you supposed to dress like? I gotta over one hundred dollar bottle of diesel and they go crazy over it and are attracted to me like a pack of ...
A. 23 July 2009: "I gotta over one hundred dollar bottle of diesel" What does that mean,what are you from Saudi Arabia trying to impress girls with oil.My advice to you is not to think to hard on this if a girl likes you she wont care what you look like how you act ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my fiance even though I'm pregnant?
Q. I thought I was going to marry my best friend, but now I feel like I am making a huge mistake by committing my life to my fiance. "John" and I were as close as any friends could be- we worked together, spent every day together and hung out in soci...
A. 23 July 2009: Im sorry for your plight you should try having some faith not in a man but a higher power. Have a talk with this guy lay it all out on the table how you feel your situation etc. This man may be going through his own emotional issues over your ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend started calling me names and being horrible?
Q. hey guys (: ive been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now, weve generally been really happy together although he is rather prone to mood swings (a couple of times we almost ended the relationship over them). recently we spent a week together...
A. 23 July 2009: This guy s a bum lose him you seem like a nice young woman there is a guy out there that will appreciate you and make you happy dont waste your time with one that wont you owe yourself better... (read in full...)
How do I get over this crush?
Q. I cannot get this guy Gary off my mind. I won't get into all the details, but there is no chance of us ever hooking up. He is a friend of mine. I can never wait to see him. I have sexual dreams about him and sometimes masturbate to the thought of us ...
A. 23 July 2009: Accept the fact that you cant be with him and dont make any advancements toward him theres nothing wrong with thinking about him and fantasizing about him just dont act on your desires but dont neglect to move on and make meaningful healthy ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend might have got caught masturbating through the phone by her parents! I'm nervous!
Q. Ok. well im somewhat young lets say in my early teens. i have known this real cute girl for a few months and today, she told me she was masturbating. she turned me on and i was having so much fun so was she. we were helping each other masturbate by ...
A. 23 July 2009: LOL GRIM is hilarious even if her parents found out who cares its not illegal albeit a bit embarassing hopefully they wont see any of the pictures you sent if you sent some that could be a problem and illegal your only real worry but the odds of you ... (read in full...)
The guy I had an affair with has been cheating on his current girlfriend, so I sent an anonymous email. Do you think he might finally have learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I had an affair with a guy that works with me.We were friends for 2 years,then we started to have sex for 1 year then we stopped. Now we are friends again for 2 years. His last girlfriend left him because he cheated on her. Then he cheated ...
A. 23 July 2009: What do we thnk about what exactly ? I think you should mind your business leave this man alone and cut him off, no need to feel guilty now it wont change the situation just move on stop chatting with this guy cut him out of your life and butt out ... (read in full...)
Why would he say he's happier when he's really not?
Q. My ex and I got together last night to watch a movie at the house.One thing lead to another and we had sex.He initiated it *he knew previously that I wouldnt be against/weird out cos of it or think we're together*.During - he seemed like he was ...
A. 23 July 2009: awww thats to bad you seem like a nice girl.. this guy of yours is an emotional wreck dont pay him any attention you cant help him he needs a professional, so dont drive yourself crazy worrying about it if you enjoy the sex with him fine stick to ... (read in full...)
What's with a guy when....
Q. Ok would like opinions from both guys and girl here please! :) Whats with a guy when... 1) he talks to your friends and starts converstaions with them on msn but doesnt with you! He only talks to you if you talk to him. 2) when he chose to s...
A. 23 July 2009: Hes just a boy leave hm alone dont get your head and heart strings all wound up over hm n ten years you wont remember his name or care go do something interesting with your young life ignore this guy if he wants to be friends fine but dont sweat it ... (read in full...)
I like him only as a friend. How do I let him down easy?
Q. Okay, I have a friend who likes me. I don't like him at all in that way. We're just friends. He has a girlfriend anyways. The other night, I was hanging out with him and two other people. He kept trying to sit closer to me. When he was as clos...
A. 23 July 2009: Why would you want to be friends with a guy who is wlling to cheat on his gf i feel he s interested in you sexually your a girl hes a guy for guys sex usually is not attached to a bunch of emotions and things its a simple thing thats probably all ... (read in full...)
He flirts on-line -- how do I make him stop??
Q. hey my boyfriend is 16 and im 5 months older than him weve been together a little less than 4 months i really like him he's told me he loves me weve met each others family and friends and were really happy together i can just be myself arou...
A. 23 July 2009: Doesnt sound serious hes just being a guy guys white lie to girls all the time telling them there beautfiul there not fat etc, he should ahve more respect for you but at 16 who knows what love is if this boy is treating you well and your otherwise ... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt during sex?
Q. When i have sex with my boyfriend sometimes it hurts internaly. Why does it hurt? But again often times it feel ok....
A. 23 July 2009: what she said but maybe you need to see a doc something could be wrong with your leadworks... (read in full...)
Is it really over between us?
Q. How long do breaks in a relationship last? My boyfriend and I of two years have just had a son together and all the extra stress that goes with it. We've been fighting more. And he wanted to break up so I packed my things then he changed to I need ...
A. 23 July 2009: wow thats terrible I think you need to figure out what your going to do for the long term this bf doesnt seem very responsible instead of putting his gf and his child out he should have gone to a hotel or a friends for his break is this the type of ... (read in full...)
Is what he's begun to say to me an idication that he now sees me as a potential g/f?
Q. Hi I have a male friend, who I am very close to. We talk every day, and I have been attracted to him for a very long time. Recently he has started making little slips in conversation, accidentally saying sexual things, or implying innuendo without...
A. 23 July 2009: hes trying to let you kno that he wants more then just a friend from you your a girl hes a guy he would have to be blind not to want to get in your pants freinds or not,if you like him reciprocate if not ignore him hell get the hint but try not to ... (read in full...)
She has feelings for a relative..its weird, right?
Q. I met this girl while on vacation 10months ago. She lives in Colorado and I live in Florida. We hit it off and had a great time. We have spoken everyday since we met. She has visited me twice since I have met her even though she has never flown on a ...
A. 23 July 2009: This girl seems to like you but shes confused by her emotions. I feel you should stand by her and be her friend if you care about her why abandon her shes only human after all shes entitled to be imperfect, let her work things out with her bf for ... (read in full...)
I need help before I destroy more lives!
Q. why am i such a pessimist it truly is awful being like this,im actualy an horrible person but i am quite good at fooling people especially women,i know that my ex girlfriend was good to me in loads of ways but i even turned her against ...
A. 23 July 2009: Seek therapy you could have a psychological condition not a big deal but you should get some sort of professional help, you only have one life dont waste it... (read in full...)
Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 23 July 2009: NONONO I beleve your comittng adultry you need to take any and all steps to work things out with your husband marriage counseling etc, if you find your still not compatible then divorce but if your just in any relationship for sex it wont last long ... (read in full...)
Is it their fault I have changed my life?
Q. i feel like im loosing my bestfriend because she keeps slying off with my "friend" *sophie* it breaks me everytime i see them together because there always talking and messing around and never let me join in on the fun - i have currently changed ...
A. 23 July 2009: wow, your going to change your self because of some one else, I can see if your the punisher and your whole famly was just wiped out by some guy but changing yourself s not the answer usually, your friend seems to have moved on your growing apart t ... (read in full...)
I just don't know why no one likes me. Can you help me?
Q. Why am i so lonely? I mean, I am 14 and I have never been kissed and have only ever had one gf but I dont understand because I think Im a nice guy and im quite sensitive but I just dont know why no one likes me! can u help me please??...
A. 23 July 2009: Girls dont like nice guys they like toughguys and jerks and assholes, The female mind is like a kaleidoscope full of pretty colors but insane They dont even kno what they want, girls wll tell you they want a nice sweet caring aka prince charming ... (read in full...)
Should I leave home to be with him?
Q. Two questions in one day, I'm on a roll. Okay, if you haven't read my earlier post, then you probably don't know that i had a misarriage. I had it a week and 1 day ago. My boyfriend's life isn't that great right now, his fathers an alocholi and ...
A. 23 July 2009: YOu dont seem to have a problem Whats your question really? You wrote "In the end, if he leaves, i'm going with him, with or without her permission." youve already made up your mind, but running away is illegal, your bf and any you stay with co... (read in full...)
My love for my bestfriend
Q. okay, well i have this girl bestfriend that ive known for about two years now. when i first met her, i was dating this other girl i thought i was in love with. during that time, i never really payed attention to my bestfriend yet. i never pai...
A. 23 July 2009: If you live long enough many people will come and go in your life when their there cherish them when there gone remember them. You seem like you desperately need someone in your life, constantly accepting people back in to your life that have let ... (read in full...)
What are the steps to dissolving a marriage?
Q. What are the steps to dissolving a marriage? Me and my husband have been in counseling, and the only thing that I have learned is I want out. I am stay at home mom with two children (ages 1 and 5). I am also a full time student. I don’t know how ...
A. 21 July 2009: You have chilldren you made the decision to bring them into this world so you have to make decisions with there best interest in mind, you seem so eager to leave your husband why is that has there been issues of infidelity etc, when you took your ... (read in full...)
I'm consumed by jealousy that my old boyfriend has married! Help me!
Q. really need some help i have tried to get help for this and my friends have been great listening to me but i still am in despair. i have recently finished a relationship with a guy which lasted 5 years. the last 4 were awful-i shudder no when i...
A. 21 July 2009: Go see a therapist.... (read in full...)
Help me unravel her intentions!
Q. Hi, I got out of a 3 year relationship about 2 months ago and have been doing fine being single, recently I came across a really cute girl and we hung out together twice, both times with a bunch of my friends. We have a fair bit in common and we...
A. 21 July 2009: What do you have to loose just ask her out she can either say yes or no. If she says no theres some 10 million women in canada im sure you will find another. Personally i would never ask one girl out i would ask three or four at a time always have ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text me or what?
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I just wait for him to text me because we haven't talked since thursday night. He knows that I like him and he showed all the signs that he was into me too. We've been on and off talking for about 2 years now. ...
A. 21 July 2009: LOL The guy still has his own life he may be busy just give it time if he likes you hell pursue you, maybe he doesnt want to come on to strong who knows we can ponder this forever, why dont you focus on you a bit more talk to other guys gve them ... (read in full...)
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