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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I'm 15 and paranoid about certain things people say to me...
Q. hi im 15 and ive been picked on most of my childhood and it realy effects my mind when people call me gay and i know im straight but when im in bed i am paranoid about what people say about me nd i dnt act feminine or anything, i only masturbate to ...
A. 22 July 2010: people tease you because your an easy target not because what they say is true.. to be honest theres usually only one way to stop teasing.. personally if some kid called me gay i would kick their ass,,, in HS i didnt get teased mutch because kids ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I aren't very good at holding long conversations. How can I improve this?
Q. me and my boyfriend arent very good at holding long conversations and i dont know how to change that coz i dont want a relationship thats just physical...and isnt meaningful. how can i improve this?...
A. 18 July 2010: your teenagers thats what relationships consist of at your age the Physical.. you dont have bills kids or anything major going on in life school and your relationships are all you got i guess conversation can get a little dull... i would suggest ... (read in full...)
I'm not happy in my marriage!
Q. I am living in an unhappy marriage. We have been married for 10 years and have a beautiful little boy, who was born just before we got married. I guess my unhappiness began a couple of years after we got married. I was finishing school and he was ...
A. 18 July 2010: Leave the dush... (read in full...)
Age differences and what is acceptable?
Q. Hay I am just wondering, how big an age difference do you think is still acceptable? I know the whole "love has no boundries" thing but I can't help thinking that a 20 year age gap is just a little weird, it's like a 1 year old going out with a 21 y...
A. 17 July 2010:
when it comes to age i feel from 16 it shouldnt be more than fve yrs and 3 yrs for anything younger then that... after 18 it should be whatever the person feels they want..
and theres always exceptions. age makes a difference because people a... (read in full...)
How can I find a guy for me?
Q. I'm 19 and have never had a boyfriend. I know it's extremely young, but everyone else started dating at 13. I've gone on dates and hung out with guys, but nothing ever seems to work out. Either guys are interested in me and I'm not interested in ...
A. 17 July 2010: if you think your overweight guys will think your fat... so i would start buy loosing weight eating healthy and going to the gym not hard to do at all. men generally like a certain shape im not saying looking like that will net you a man but it will ... (read in full...)
I'm not happy in my marriage!
Q. I am living in an unhappy marriage. We have been married for 10 years and have a beautiful little boy, who was born just before we got married. I guess my unhappiness began a couple of years after we got married. I was finishing school and he was ...
A. 17 July 2010: tell hm exactly what you wrote in here..... then leave for a few weeks then send him a letter telling him you want a divorce... post marked from paris.... really dont see the problem hes a little older maybe his sex drive has gone down...
Or ma... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have decided to spice things up with a little competition
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over ten months and we have done most things (sexually) 'cept him on me (oral) and intercourse. (Just FYI, both 16) We're quite active sexually but we're not going to see each other for two weeks as we'...
A. 10 July 2010: wow lol so he gets your virginity if he wins... well whoes gonna be the judge... because all he has to do s say you didnt pleasure him very good walla he wins.. lol its so stupid.... look if you want to have sex with the turd just do it dont leave ... (read in full...)
I'm scared. Should I tell someone what happened?
Q. so i was at my friends house the other night. it was around 1:30 am or sometihng close to that time when i fell asleep on her couch. her brother and her cousin where in her brothers room when i passed out. i woke up at around 2:30 to the feeling of ...
A. 10 July 2010: hmmm wow this is hard even f you tell theres a chance no one would believe you... you could be alienated from your frends and family... n theory you should tell he groped you basically from what it sounds like... but even if you tell it would be ... (read in full...)
Why did I lose interest in pleasing my boyfriend?
Q. He's an amazing guy and I love him and I know he loves me. He still pleases me but when it's my turn I just feel like I'm getting lazy. I don't know why. I don't want to have oral with him but it's not because I'm replused by him. I love everything ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hmmm it could be a phase or maybe your bored,, has he brought it up... i would say if you love him so mutch just do it because you kno he will like it... once you start doing it you will get into it... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I'm lying about my virginity?
Q. I'm 16 and I've only had sex with two people; only a few close friends of mines know (which is only 2 people), but I regret having sex with them because neither one was my boyfriend (I'm not in a relationship at all) and I didn't love them; when ...
A. 9 July 2010: interesting... im going to say ts bad for two reasons one its bothering you so its bad good things dont weigh on your conscience and have you asking about it in forums...... secondly Lying and fornication are both sins in most religions but atleast ... (read in full...)
Am I doing wrong?
Q. hi i m 16 n i hve a bf, say his name is John.We hve been dating for 3 mnths.I know that he loves me a lot and even i love him a lot but neither does my nor his parents know that we are dating .I m sure my parents wont allow me to see him anymore if ...
A. 9 July 2010: parents can be pretty lame sometimes they have their own lame reasons not to want you to date its usually that they want to be controlling and have say over your life and what you do.. on the other hand they have some valid reasons not to want you ... (read in full...)
What should I say to my BF to keep us together?
Q. [OP original title] My bf and i have either split, or are splitting, or may split, I'm not entirely sure, he kicked me and said he didn't want to see me again, but that was after england lost and an extremely tough weekend of me nagging and us havi...
A. 8 July 2010: hmmm before you start drawing up blue prints and making plans and demanding this and that.. because what you just described sounds like your going to the coffee house to sign some cease fire treaty.. not get your man back....
First he kiked yo... (read in full...)
At what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why?
Q. Hey Guys: Just for curiosity's sake, at what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why? And for those of you married already, at what age did you tie the not? What made you want to get married and was it more about the person or about ...
A. 8 July 2010: HMm interesting well marriage has been on my mind for a awhile now that i think about it the first girl ever wanted to marry i was n 4th grade,, still remember her name.. but since then i met a girl when i was 18 Ive wanted to marry her since... ... (read in full...)
50 year old virgin
Q. Hi i just turned 49 this year and was with some friends when i realized that i was the only one without a family. In fact i have never had any real relationship before... the closest i got was in 98' when a work partner(also a good friend) moved ...
A. 8 July 2010: you could try being more aggressive pursue women younger then you by like 10 or 15 yrs.. love is something you cant really look for you just get lucky enough to find it... i dont think having a family is all that big of a deal your kids grow up to ... (read in full...)
Is this going anywhere, or did we hit a pothole?
Q. I have a long distance guy friend, and im in love with him -we've been talking every day and night for a year and half now, but he won't ask me out, and for whatever reason i can't figure it out, but here is the catch, we had sex, just twice, a...
A. 8 July 2010: hmmmm ok i have a friend in the same situation.. it seems like the guy isnt ready to commit hes keeping you on the back burner your his friend with benefits.... you might end up with this guy if you stick around... but it could be awhile...i would ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have a car and I have to drive him everywhere
Q. okay my situation is this I've been dating this guy Rigo for about a month.Well he lives like 15 minutes away from me.I have a car and he doesn't.So yea when we want to see eachother I have to drive to him.We went on dates and I had to pick him up ...
A. 8 July 2010: wow... so i should tell my gf i dont have a car then get chauffeured around.. oh but i dont have a gf..... (read in full...)
If you love someone as much as she says she does me, should she be knowingly hurting me?
Q. I had been dating a girl for about 2 years. A few weeks ago, she told me that she didn't want to be with me anymore because she wanted to go out and learn about her self, not date anyone exclusively right now, and "enjoy the single life". However, ...
A. 8 July 2010: forgettabout her... your a put on her strings wise up... (read in full...)
During sex wife called out ex-boyfriends name
Q. how can I trust my wife, during sex she call me one of his ex-boy friend name. can i trust her any more ...
A. 8 July 2010: Divorce... (read in full...)
Am I more than just his home help???
Q. he is 30yrs and we are close. i clean his house, wash his clothes even underwear. he gives me money and buys me presents. he even made a spare key 4 me so that i can go to his house at any time cause it is close 2 my home. he is single and ...
A. 18 June 2010: hmmm so if your from a wealthy family why are you cleaning some guys house.....
i would suggest taking it slow show him your interested with out saying it or coming on to strong im sure he likes you but he knows you well every personally since yo... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him? He goes through girls like it's his job!
Q. Im 16 years old. Me and my boyfriend of 4 months broke up not too long ago. He moved 100 miles away and he doesnt have a way to come see me. He goes through other girls like its his job. We talk on the phone all the time, he says he still loves me ...
A. 18 June 2010: UGHHHHH.... ok do this tell him to stop saying he loves.... because he doesnt... having an attachment to some one and love are too different things.....
both are you are to young to even be considering moving in togather and all this stuff...... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel more horny when in your period?
Q. Kind of awkward to ask this but I don't know who else to really go to. I'm 19 and I just wondering if it is normal to get more horny than NORMALLY during your period? Honestly, I can;t stop thinking about sex, and pretty much any other activity. If ...
A. 14 June 2010: WOW! good to kno hmmm its funny because ive had girls tell me they where on their period and im like why did you just tell me that and they say they dont kno and i kno women are supposed to be mean that time of the month but i notice in my case any ... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me!!! was she a virgin or she lied to me?? I'm really confused
Q. Allrite, im kinda freaking out right now.... I was a virgin until today... Supposedly my girlfriend was too and i really believed that. Right now I am VERY confused... We were gonna have sex soon because we were very comfortable wit each other and ...
A. 14 June 2010: LOL ok your going to get alot of not all girls bleed not all girls feel pain,,,, LOL I say go with your gut if you feel she lied she probably did,,, you could ask her if she masterbates or uses a dildo that could explain some things,,, but you gotta ... (read in full...)
Is my cousin a lesbian because of me?
Q. I am 25 years old male and my cousin is 24 years old female. When we were younger, (she was 9 years old and I was 10 years old), we started playing doctor that got out of hand. We started having different types of sexual intercourse (Vaginal ...
A. 13 June 2010: hmmm interesting very, ive heard of something very similiar to this exept they werent cousins they where slightly more closely related i dont judge but any way eventually the female became a lesbian. im thinking it could be because of that but i ... (read in full...)
Need help satisfying my boyfriend!
Q. my question is about and the fact im so bad at it and i have no idea what to do. i feel like i just lie there and try tomove to help my bf but it never seems towork and when im on top its disasterous! Everytime i move it just seems to fall ou...
A. 13 June 2010: its called free internet porn watch some... (read in full...)
My boyfriend picks on me all the time!
Q. i dont know what to do about my boyfriend, he picks on me constantly and accuses me of cheating alot. we have been together 3 years. from the start we have had so mnay problems, from him talking to other girls but never cheating and then me ending ...
A. 13 June 2010: and why are you with this guy oh let me guess cause you love him well so deal with it.
but to answer your question your bf picks on you because hes an insecure little jerk if you break up with him he will never get another gf ever.
but you... (read in full...)
Is it unrealistic for me to be waiting for that one special guy?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Dear Cupid, I'm 17, 18 in a few months. Never had a boyfriend. have however dated two guys unofficially, where we both liked each other and were looking to take it to the next level but were getting to know each oth...
A. 13 June 2010: "I do get approached when I go out but that doesn't interest me because I know that's not the way i'm going to meet someone."
Umm well how do you expect to meet someone the i notice with women s they tend to over thnk everything.
Look your you... (read in full...)
Why is porn bad?
Q. *OP's Original Title* This is more of a question for females. I watch porn and I hate that it upsets my girlfriend. I love her more then anything and try to be a good boyfriend in every way. I clean up after myself, I don't cook a lot but I pay for ...
A. 13 June 2010: Porn isnt bad the effects of watching it in front of someone who doesnt like t is bad.... (read in full...)
What do I do about my friend's husband who crosses boundaries?
Q. My old roommate and I still talk and have fun when we hang out together. She's married and right now her hubby is away on business, so I get to see her a little more. When her husband comes back in September she wants to have a "welcome back" party ...
A. 12 June 2010: hmm your a grown woman act like it if some guy is making you feel uncomfortable let him kno. he was being a jerk but you can probably get him to curtail his behavior just. and how come you dont have any guy friends what are you wating for you need ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my friend's husband who crosses boundaries?
Q. My old roommate and I still talk and have fun when we hang out together. She's married and right now her hubby is away on business, so I get to see her a little more. When her husband comes back in September she wants to have a "welcome back" party ...
A. 12 June 2010: hmm your a grown woman act like it if some guy is making you feel uncomfortable let him kno. he was being a jerk but you can probably get him to curtail his behavior just. and how come you dont have any guy friends what are you wating for you need ... (read in full...)
Help with working top during sex
Q. *OP's Original Title* Okay well I have been with my boyfirend for awhile....Love him alot..We have sex on the regular...Its jus that I know he likes when I get on top...But I don't really like to bcuz I dont really know how to work top....I only get...
A. 12 June 2010: POrn oh i mean an educational video im sure it will sho you what you need to know... (read in full...)
Why is porn bad?
Q. *OP's Original Title* This is more of a question for females. I watch porn and I hate that it upsets my girlfriend. I love her more then anything and try to be a good boyfriend in every way. I clean up after myself, I don't cook a lot but I pay for ...
A. 12 June 2010: Dude you can watch all the porn you want after your GF dumps you and your single.
Porn is as Bad as grabbing some radom chicks ass on the bus, one chick will probably have you arrested another might want to take you home. you wouldnt watch po... (read in full...)
Any advice for my first date?
Q. First date - what do most pplz do on first date - did you makeout or kiss at the end of it?...
A. 12 June 2010: HMM i just had a first date today it was wierd the date was great knda unexpected and unplaned but the enviroment kinda made it wierd , my date was pretty in a way but she wasnt really my type she was a 6 im nto 10s and she told alot of stories i ... (read in full...)
Why is the porn argument so one-sided?
Q. Why is it that when a woman is hurt by porn use it's always about why she should change herself to accept it and how it's her fault that it bothers her and how basically, it's all about the sacrifices she needs to make to accommodate him? Why is it ...
A. 12 June 2010: Theres alot of porn hating female sout there hmm maybe if they went to the gym toned up a bit got rid of that cellulite there man wouldnt be watching porn.... now thats what the jerk in me wants to say but the truth is women need to realize that ... (read in full...)
After years of friendship we slept together and now its all weird!
Q. I made a monumental mistake. I had sex with my best guy friend I mean we are talking years of a friendship! Immediately after it happened I broke down and cried I realized I wasn't crying because I regereted the act but the fact that our friendship ...
A. 11 June 2010: your frienship is onlychanged if you think its changed im sure he still wants to be your friend reach out your to old for this besides if your lucky you only live once so go for it... (read in full...)
I've told him what I want sexually but he won't do it!
Q. I am a 22 years old female I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and he has never made me orgasm. I can make myself come in seconds when I do it myself without anything. But I can't with him, he do it in a wrong way and I don't know how to ...
A. 11 June 2010: so break up with him. thats advice... (read in full...)
I'm depressed about my looks and my life, what can I do?
Q. I'm 16 and nearly a grown man and i having problems with myself. I put myself down all the time and its taken over my life making me sad. One reason is because i feel like i don't look good in the face, i feel like i look old and ugly and black and ...
A. 11 June 2010: do you look old because of a medical conditon or your just saying you look old because you thnk you look old. if its not a medical conditon dont worry about it means you have strong features in your genes as the other guys grow and get old youll ... (read in full...)
His porn makes me insecure!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and we just started having sex a couple of months ago. We were both virgins, and he made it clear to me that he masturbated a lot before me, which I have no problem with, all guys do. ...
A. 11 June 2010: i watch the women... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a suitable match.. I'm soon going to be 26!
Q. This one is interesting. I can't believe that there is this site who can remove the feeling of distress that I feel. I just woke up actually from a long nap and the first thought that came to my mind that damn, I am turning 26 on October and still I ...
A. 11 June 2010: sounds like youve been putting school first not a bad idea you dont have kids by a dead beat and your not trapped in some meaningless relationship. being singles not so bad the pursuit of happiness doesnt mean well actually find it. enjoy the good ... (read in full...)
I so confused of who I am, I'm sure I'm not gay but people say I might be bi!
Q. So heres the thing i have a gay friend pritty much tried for years to convince me im "bi" or maybe even "gay" i mean my n my friend goofed around and went skinny dipping but i couldint even stand the thought of looking and thier ass hell in ...
A. 11 June 2010: your gay friend is trying to drag you to the dark side. your not gay you like girls, get a new friend one thats not gay... (read in full...)
First love, broken hearts, cheating...how do I deal with all this??
Q. im only 13 years old.and i met a 14 year old (bradley) last year in september.oddly enough the way i met him was really weird. almost by fate, but i dont wanna drag in another story. but the first time i saw bradley.... i knew that there would be a ...
A. 11 June 2010: wierd tell katie to stop cheating on calvin. tell bradley you like him and you kno about everything according to katie, his side might be diffrent katie doesnt seem like a friend why would she sleep with a guy she knows you like. Stop worrying about ... (read in full...)
His low self-esteem is ruining our sex life!
Q. I've been with the same boyfriend for over a year. Over the past few months, our sex drive has steeply decline to where we barely kiss or even hug anymore. Tonight in talking about it he admitted that one of the reasons for this is because he do...
A. 11 June 2010: start going to the gym and dragg hist pot bellied behind with you... (read in full...)
Why is the porn argument so one-sided?
Q. Why is it that when a woman is hurt by porn use it's always about why she should change herself to accept it and how it's her fault that it bothers her and how basically, it's all about the sacrifices she needs to make to accommodate him? Why is it ...
A. 11 June 2010: most of the complaints Ive read on here are women saying their man watching porn makes them feel bad not wanted ETC.... ok thats not the mans fault. its his fault if his porn watching interferes with his husbandry duties ie paying the bills cutting ... (read in full...)
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