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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I don't know if I can wait 3 years...
Q. I'm 17 years old and live in the UK. I met a friend online a year ago, he lives in saudi arabia and is the same age as me. we have been in a relationship for just under a year. i love him a lot and the feelings the same, but we are not going to meet ...
A. 10 March 2010: i wouldnt wait if i where you you hvnt met this guy he might be nothing like what you expect plus hes from suadi arabia they dont have a track record of treating women to good, 3 yrs isnt that long if the guy is really into you stay freinds and time ... (read in full...)
I kicked him out but he won't leave me alone!
Q. I kick my ex boyfriend out going on about a week ago. Sense I did that he calls everyday all day texing me all day and it drives me crazy !!!!! The problem is we didn't get alone and all we did was fuss while we were living together. He doesn't have ...
A. 10 March 2010: Interesting to bad you didnt give more backstory, if this guy depended on you so mutch why would he put himself in a position where you would kick him out, You didnt even say what he did besides not getting along and fussing lol hmm and you kiked ... (read in full...)
Does masturbating affect my sex life?
Q. Does masturbating effect my actual sex life??? I'm 15 and i started masturbating approx. 1 yr ago... ...
A. 10 March 2010: does it affect your actual sex life well to be honest only you can answer that, because my question would be well is it?... (read in full...)
Need help to break a barrier...
Q. I need help! I'm experienced with girls like kissing, talking, but not sex, when it comes to sex i know nothing about it, im an inexperienced virgin. Im a senior in high school and this is my last shot. I've known this girl since we were growing up, ...
A. 10 March 2010: Just tell her at the ball that she your GF tell her that its the law if you dance with some one at a jrotc ball it makes them your bf or gf, shes a girl shell beleive it if she tries to google it tell her its a new law.
well im just messing ... (read in full...)
Should I take my teenage daughter to a clinic to get birth control? There are no close females in her life and I am worried about her
Q. I am a single father of 3 teen age children, 1 daughter (16) and 2 sons (17) and (19). My daughter has been dating a boy from her school since late january. He seems like a nice enough of a guy but my sons call him a "player". A few nigths ago I ...
A. 10 March 2010: Whats so embarrassing about if she sold enough and mature enough to have sex then she should be able to handle a speech my mother told me all about this stuff back when i learned the difference between boys and girls, the problem now parents wait so ... (read in full...)
I honestly can't believe that he's trying to justify what he did and I feel like I can't help him.
Q. I'm at my wit's end. Last night, my husband got angry with me for asking him a question. I asked if it would be OK if my friend's husband drives me over to her house on Thursday. She is at home with her baby, so she can't really do it herself. He ...
A. 10 March 2010: WOW theres a reason women flee those countries if they can, i hope you have your passport handy and dont have kids, hopefully your from the americas or western Europe so you can get far away from this guy. You need to leave this guy before he ... (read in full...)
Crush on my second cousin.... so wrong but so right?
Q. I'm sure most have felt it..... you meet one of your 2nd..3rd cousins and before you realize hes your cousin you think hes cute, funny, and an all together good guy. Then the dreaded thing happens, turms out your related. I met my 2nd cousin back in ...
A. 10 March 2010: agree with marieclaire.
your young and hormones are raging this guy may be cute but he could turn out to be a jerk, is it worth just stick wth your bf and be happy ... (read in full...)
This marine is coming on to my woman!!!
Q. This guy that recently left for the marines told my girlfriend that he was in love with her and was going to come back for her and was going to write a book about her and all this other stuff. So I told her that it would be for the best to drop all ...
A. 10 March 2010: dude shes not worth the stress she left you before and you took her back are you a man or a mouse, let her go when this jar head comes back from war a psychopath and kills her then you will have the last laugh haha marines make the worst husbands or ... (read in full...)
Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse???
Q. Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse? That is, can a women still be a virgin after 'having sex' with another woman?...
A. 10 March 2010: It would depend on your definition of virgin there are many and they vary, In most cases lesbian sex would not count as loosing your virginity, The most widely accepted rule for for virginity for a female is never being penetrated by a penis , but ... (read in full...)
A follow up from my last dilemma.
Q. Hi, Following on from my last dilemma...for the past month we haven't even remotely touched on 'serious discussions'. We've been 'dating'..doing all the normal stuff like going to the seaside, going to the zoo and having meals. All very fun but...
A. 10 March 2010: wow umm your 25 or younger so A your to young for marriage B your to young for kids, as for the msg from the ex bf its your msg and none of his business really and he shouldnt be going through your stuff. He laughed it off casually im sure because ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want love, he just wants sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are both in our late 20's. One of my problems is that he wants to have sex all of the time but is not affectionate. His complaint is that our sex life has become boring. He wants to have ...
A. 22 February 2010: lol whateva... (read in full...)
I'm branded gay and I'm not!!!
Q. hi people.. so uh,we all have our good memories and bad memories. Being human we all made mistakes, sometimes a huge mistake right? So.. In 2006, i met a new friend, she's nice and all. We get along pretty well and I see her as a good friend,but ...
A. 22 February 2010: I think it was wrong to just ignore her because she was gay, she was 14 she might not even have been gay she may have really liked you but at that age a girl can still be figuring ou her sexuality.
you say you where her friend but you just com... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I want to get laid! Where can I find a girl?
Q. I just turned 20 and I'm still a virgin. I desperately need a girl in and out of the bedroom especially in the bedroom. I live in Boston. I don't go to school and I'm too young to go to the clubs or bars. i don't really know anyone that ...
A. 22 February 2010: i want to say dont spend money to get laid then second i want to say go with the prostitute option, your gonna end up spending a ton of money on potential girlfriends dinner movie etc that the prostitute will probably be the better you just pick the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want love, he just wants sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are both in our late 20's. One of my problems is that he wants to have sex all of the time but is not affectionate. His complaint is that our sex life has become boring. He wants to have ...
A. 20 February 2010: lol so why did you leave your last bf, I find the only completly satisfied women i kno are the ones dedicated solely to God, sadly us mortal men all fall short of the glory.
You could talk to him about this but the lovey dovey stuuf doesnt s... (read in full...)
Can I deal or stay with my jealous wife?
Q. my wife gets jealous every time she thinks im looking at a woman . the crazy part is that i will see her look a a girl or woman walking on even in her car and after she sees her she will look at me intell she passes to see if i look that way. what ...
A. 20 February 2010: you need to leave this woman shes nutttts!!! she got you arrested on domestic violence charges HMMPFF, i would have been kiked her to dah curb what are you waiting for,let her keep the you can come visit hell the kids will probably want to live with ... (read in full...)
My family is out of control ...
Q. Ok to be franc I'm peeved off with my entire family whom I do live with, my brother, dad and mother. Basicaly my father drinks way too much everynight and has really mad mood swings at times not physically but becomes nasty calling everyone...
A. 20 February 2010: you could use professional help, see if your family would be into counseling it shoudnt be so bad everyone is doing it these days. the truth is though they will only change if they want to. If your dad has a drinking problem he needs to seek help ... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: its the 90-10% rule he was getting something from this other woman you werent giving him he left 90% for 10%,but attraction is not just physical hes attracted to this girl for some reason and it may be easy for him to be with a physically ... (read in full...)
I feel neglected and stupid, I don't know what he wants from me?
Q. I have this friend in Afghanistan right now. I know he's been very busy and working hard. We talk on Facebook and recently added him on Skype. The other day he had poor connection on Facebook so he sent me a note on Skype telling me we should u...
A. 14 February 2010: if the connection s bad maybe hes just switcthing back and forth using what ever works best communcations may not always be so reliable. Give it time things will work out. He needs your friendship so stop worrying. And Your not stupid... (read in full...)
Why do I feel wempty and lost without male friends?
Q. I feel lost right now. I hate being the way that I am, but I have yet to figure out how to be different in my friendship patterns. My ex boyfriends end up being best friends. Of course, an exes are going to drift away after a while, even if it takes ...
A. 5 February 2010: why dont you just get a bf sounds like your just lonely for male companionship... (read in full...)
I'm considering getting my cartilage pierced and was wondering how it's done
Q. This has nothing whatsoever to do with relationships but I'm hoping someone can help anyway. I'm considering getting my cartilage pierced and was wondering how it's done, i.e. do they numb the ear first, use a needle or gun? And also with me being a ...
A. 5 February 2010: hmm you can get what ever one you want pierced i recomend both. as to how its done well i did both of my ears when i was 12 with a sewing needle and ice to numb it, one swole up got infected the hole closed i did it again and havnt had a problem ... (read in full...)
So many sizes o.O
Q. OK here is the deal. I want to make sure i have protection in case I ever go too far with a girl... but the thing is i have no clue what my "condom size" is. so I guess I could use some suggestions on how i should narrow my searching down. P.S....
A. 5 February 2010: YOU need to re check your measurements buddy, IF by grth you mean with well then you have an elaphant penis at 6.5 inches and no girl will ever have sex with you because it would be worst then giving birth.
You use the term "if i ever go to far w... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my girl's health during phone sex!
Q. Okay... im very concerned for my girlfriends safety.. We've been together a while, and have been having phone sex for about the past month. So here's why ive been concerned. 2 nights ago while having phone sex after she was happy with what i ...
A. 4 February 2010: sounds like an asthma attack lol well if you gotta go i guess over phone sex wouldnt be so bad she should get cheked but i doubt it serious if it was that bad she wouldnt keep doing it... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 4 February 2010: This could be a long complicated topic, Women are judged by the way the men of there race rates them, White men notoriously worshiped there women for centuries even enacting laws prohibiting men of other races to enter relation ships with them.
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My boyfriend posted a pic of his private parts on line.
Q. My boyfriend posted his privates online, as his messenger picture. I don't know if I can trust him again and this really hurts. We've been together for 2.5yrs,(Sept 15th 2007) and have a 18month old son, Joseph, and I am currently 16wks pregnant. ...
A. 4 February 2010: Its his penis and if msn doesnt have a problem with it its none of your business. I agree its kinda strange and a bit wierd but ive seen quite a few penis avatars I just hope thats the worst these guys are doing.
why he did it i dont kno but tell... (read in full...)
Why do guys keep falling for me???
Q. So, I have a problem with a few guys. That totally makes me sound like a slut, but I'm not. The first one is my ex. We had liked each other for years before we finally got together, and I was really happy while I was with him, which is rare. I'...
A. 4 February 2010: sounds like your a likable person thats a good thing you need to just let these guys kno your not ready for a relationship they cant help falling for ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body!
Q. Hey everyone i need advice and i would really appreciate it even though this is not a relationship qustion ...... I need advice on how to lose about 7 seven inches off of my waistline right now my measurements are 40ddd 36waist 44 bottom ive been ...
A. 28 January 2010: eat two carrots a day and drink water for a month and be sure to run two miles every day. If you start turning orange switch to brocoli and if you need some salt drink gatorade.... (read in full...)
Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 28 January 2010: OK great... (read in full...)
Why do men walk out on their families, and essentially erase them from their lives?
Q. Why do men walk out on their families, no warning, institute zero communication, zero financial support, etc. Blame the wife, even though they have been the unfaithful one and rarely ever sees the children, one day out of the blue daddy just didn't ...
A. 28 January 2010: WOW most men are like that i guess you kno most men anonymous poster.
I dont kno why he did this but if your married to this guy and have chilldren with him he still has responsibilities, try talking to him if that doesnt work take his ass to cour... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted that she cheated on me. How can I deal with this?
Q. I've been dating this girl since August, but recently she built up the courage to call me and tell me how back in November, she got very drunk and accidentally slept with this guy. She was all in tears about it, and she truly seemed like she was ...
A. 27 January 2010: look heres what you do, dont call her
dont answer her calls
stop saying your in love
ask another girl out
in fact ask several girls out your young live it up a little
dont tell your ex gf you love her
make your current cheating gf your ex gf
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My boyfriend buys porno mags and hides them but I don't understand!
Q. I was 17 when I fell for my brothers best friend. He was 25. He lived in Alabama and I lived in Michigan but he had come up to visit and that's when we got together. I moved to Alabama on my 18th birthday and I am now 21 years old and he is 28 ...
A. 27 January 2010: why did you put them in a bag you dont have the rite to throw them out so i hope you didnt,
with that said i will now say your bf is a jerk, and stupid theres to mutch free porn on the internet to waste money buying mags.
well i can tell you t... (read in full...)
Tried to hack my girlfriends hotmail and got locked out! how can I tell her?
Q. i tried to log onto my girlfriends hotmail and got the password wrong too many time and now she has to enter security questions and is going to know that i tried to hack her account. how can i say i did it by accident?...
A. 27 January 2010: dont say anything anyone could have done from any computer all they need is her screename lol ive been there done that dont tell her let her tell you then tell her someone probably tried hacking it. it happens all the time tell her she should make a ... (read in full...)
I seem to have lost my direction in life
Q. I'm truly stuck right now. I haven't handled myself well in the last year and I am scared to see how far I can go. I was doing pretty well for myself last year and then met a guy. We broke it off a half year into the relationship and he said and did ...
A. 27 January 2010: Wow this reads like the headlines from haiti full of hopelessness fear and dispare. I think you should see a professional, there may be some underlying reason your holding on to all this stuff.
Its interesting you mention not having a good rel... (read in full...)
I was caught in a compromising situation at midnight by the police
Q. me and my partner got caught with our tops off kissing in a car park at midnight by the police. I have never done anything like this and probs wont again. The police man took my name and done a check and then left...will that be the end of ...
A. 26 January 2010: LOL sounds kool if it was a police woman that would have been awsome i got stopped buy the hottest police wowman today seriously she must have been really bored i wasnt even driving just walking down the street drinking an ice tea. any way you will ... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?
Q. Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...
A. 26 January 2010: wow angz! i dont even kno what cunnilings means i guess i could use google but im not sure i want to kno... (read in full...)
I want my ex back in my life ...............
Q. I'm wondering whats up.My ex and I hung out. Everything was super good - no awkwardness, we laughed alot/flirted and yet nothing came of it.I thought atleast friends..but I havent heard from him much.Then I thought maybe he just wanted to fool ...
A. 26 January 2010: Drive over to his place knock on the door when he answers the door tell him everything you just posted in here, thats the only way youll get an answer for this problem but im sure you dont have the intestinal fortitude to do that... (read in full...)
I really like him a lot and want to make him like me back
Q. Ok , so , first of all , i just wanna thank this website and all the people that take the time and amswer questions!!! :) so this may take a bit of explaining , ;) theres this guy that ive had a thing for , for a realyy long time, and i never used...
A. 26 January 2010: wow, your making this so hard maybe its the cold air up there in Canada, i think people in warmer climates reproduce faster because their less shy i mean their used to everyone walking around half naked.
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this will probably be the hardest thin... (read in full...)
Do I worry too much about breast size?
Q. Moderator's Note: link to website removed. I recent found a site where some douche tries selling a PDF manual to convince a wife or girlfriend to get implants. I mean, not all guys are like that obviously, but do really most of them wish their pa...
A. 26 January 2010: Breast size is usually irrelevant when it comes down to basic attraction. Of course there may be some activities for which large breast would be preferred, but im gonna go out on a limb and say the average guy doesn't care i think most men if the ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to lose weight?
Q. i need help big time i weight about 140 and i need 2 lose weight my friends say im really pretty to the thing is tat im chubby and i dont know how to lose weight buy the summer cuz in the summer my sister i having her quenceyeta or how ever u spell ...
A. 24 January 2010: exercise to be honest thats the best way running swiming sit ups and push ups it wont be easy if your over weight to begine with becuse you have less energy strength and endurance starting out then a fit person.
you could diet and all that but... (read in full...)
Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 24 January 2010: LOL wow anonymous you should get an acount your funny, i think this question was meant for guys to answer but any waysss. interesting question no doubt i hope it recieves more answers, and dont be shy poster let us no what your guy said about it. ... (read in full...)
Scared to get an HIV test because if I test positive, my new guy will dump me!
Q. I am scared of getting an hiv test. Me and my boyfriend broke up for eight months and then I got a new boyfriend and slept with with out protection. I broke up with him because he was annoying. We only dated for two months. He has never been checked ...
A. 24 January 2010: If you gave him Hiv he might as well forgive you and stick with you any way its his fault he was a dumbass for not using protection or asking you to get tested, I dont see how people can have sex with each other wich is pretty disgusting the ... (read in full...)
Just a misunderstanding or worse?
Q. I've been together with my bf for about 2 years now. The last time I went to see him something happened that I can't stop thinking about. One night when we went to have sex I guess he decided he wanted to try anal. There was no talking about it ...
A. 20 January 2010: Damn hmmm your guy must be a breed of human called an Idiot,
he does have a point though, did you ever ask him to stop maybe he expected it to be painful and aslong as you didnt ask him to stop it ment it would be ok.
Im not trying to justify w... (read in full...)
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