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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Christmas/Anniversary gift ideas?
Q. Okay so Christmas is right around the corner and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Also two days after Christmas is our anniversary. I want to get him something that he will like but then something that is also romantic and cute. We have been ...
A. 21 December 2009: Oh well then get him a video game or a hat... (read in full...)
Christmas/Anniversary gift ideas?
Q. Okay so Christmas is right around the corner and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Also two days after Christmas is our anniversary. I want to get him something that he will like but then something that is also romantic and cute. We have been ...
A. 20 December 2009: Of course get him two diffrent presents there two seperate ocasions. Get him something practical and use full not something cute and romantic hes a guy he wont even think its cute and romantic hell just pretend to understand just not to hurt your ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex as a Christmas present!
Q. I'm 14 and I want to have sex for the first time with my boyfriend for a late Christmas present. I know where everything goes and the mechanics of it, but how do I go about beginning it, making myself horny so that I feel less self-conscious and I ...
A. 20 December 2009: I wont say dont have sex im just gonna say its a dumb idea. Maybe you should learn the mechanics of chilbirth or how to get rid of chlamydia. The reason i say this is because you may feel your old enough and ready to have sex but your 14 anything ... (read in full...)
My love for my best mate has gone to far!
Q. Hope you can help me out here, not only to get over this but also just give your opinion on why this has all happened and what he might feel. Im so depressed! I need help getting over one of my best mates, ive liked him for nearly 2 years however ...
A. 20 December 2009: ok im gonna suggest you rite this another hundred times untill your to tired to be depressed. i feel like i just read a book. look love comes and goes we cant always have the person of our dreams thats how life is you win some you loose some i want ... (read in full...)
Why did she switch on me after marriage?
Q. Ok before we got marryed we disscussed oral sex, it's my mind blowing moment or highlights my first sexual exp was going down on a girl so it thrills me .2 weeks after we get marryed she switch on me. Been marryed 1 1/2 yr I can count on one hand ...
A. 20 December 2009: HMM thats messed up she needs a hell of a good reason, there really isnt one unless maybe she doesnt like it. but im a little lost does she not want you to give her oral or does she not give you oral or both. I think she should do it whats her deal ... (read in full...)
What's my sexuality?
Q. so here's the deal: i'm a girl, i don't find my friends who are girls attractive in a sexual way or anything, i do with some guys. but i do fantasize about kissing and doing stuff with other girls and often picture them when masturbating. i've seen ...
A. 20 December 2009: at 13 i didnt kno what porn was but i was born before internet was invented,I suggest you just go with the flow see what plays out in time you will no exactly what you are. ... (read in full...)
Is my wife trying to push me away?
Q. Me and my wife have been together for almost 10 years now. We have four kids together. She is a stay at home mom and i usually work at least 5 days a week.. I know she gets tired. In the last 5 months she only had sex with me once. During it she ...
A. 20 December 2009: tell her you have to confess your having an affair and see how she responds if shes like ok then you kno you have a problem if she freaks out and starts crying and threatening divorce your good then just tell her your joking. Look man four kids ... (read in full...)
Will he divorce his wife for me?
Q. I met this guy at work and he was interested in me a lot bcuz he started talking to me and he told me he was in the process of a divorce. Little by little he mentioned to me several times that he loved me. I fell deeply in love with him and we would ...
A. 20 December 2009: I dont think you should be involved with a married man, your probably gonna get hurt if hes doing this to his current wife what do you think will happen when and if he marries you.My opinion break it off untill he breaks off his marriage. as for ... (read in full...)
What can I do to win her back?
Q. About 2 years ago I met an amazing girl at the hospital where I work. Both of us 23 and in nursing school. After working together for a couple months we began to develop a friendship at work and then outside of work when she asked me to hang out ...
A. 20 December 2009: give her her space stop pleading your love for her she may not be ready to settle down yet who knows women sigh there made from a rib what do you expect but yeah back off relax, im thinking theres another guy involved a cool hot bad boy that lays ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry a fat girl...
Q. i have been with the same guy for 4 years. he took everything from me. we are like night and day. he tells me he loves me but when we get into fights he calls me fat and tells me he will not have a fat wife. i am about 125 pounds and a little over 5 ...
A. 20 December 2009: LOL dont punch him in the face we have had enough chris brown and Rhiana scenarios for one year see i knew Rhiana started it. any way the thing is this guys a jerk if he doesnt want to marry a fat girl then he shouldnt want to sleep with one either ... (read in full...)
Will I have to wait until the baby is born to see who the father is?
Q. I have found out that I am pregnant. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years and we broke up in September, to help get over him I started dating someone else. While being with my new boyfriend I had a 1 night stand with my ex partner. I am now ...
A. 20 December 2009: hmm great question im pretty sure you can get a prenatal paternity test ask your DOC honestly i have no idea why i kno this... (read in full...)
Did I completely blow it with him?
Q. Hi everyone. My last day of college was this past tuesday. I graduated with my BA, complete siked I decided to go out for drinks with my friends. Well I didn't eat at all and i got really drunk. There was this guy there that i have had a crush on ...
A. 20 December 2009: You didnt blow it he should call soon hang in there, you could call him and ask him when are you guys gonna hang out. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on loneliness and relationships?
Q. Christmas is going and my boyfriend whome I am going off is hovering around. I am frightened to make plans as I feel he will let me know. We have a child together and the year of his birth my bf left me alone with the baby and my older children f...
A. 20 December 2009: well you have kids so theres some family dont neglect them because some guy broke your heart, I cant imagine christmas being cancelled as a kid that would have sent me into depression Halloween birthdays and CHRISTMAS are what a childs life revolve ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend thinks I'm cheating on her with supermodels!
Q. If i could get some advice on this it would be great, I met this great girl in a clothing store where she worked, I saw her in there through the window so i went in the store and talked to her originally to see if she wanted a better job but ..sh...
A. 20 December 2009: hmm this is a wild thought take her up on the sharing offer, maybe she will realize that shes the girl you really want and your not running around with other women. For instance say you could say its a fantasy of yours even if it isnt but say it is ... (read in full...)
How do I stop hating myself and become more confident?
Q. so hi... i really need help. i have horrible confidence problems. and i dont know how to become confident. like its becoming so bad that i think about killing myself. i feel worthless all of the time. and i am jealous of pretty much all of my feien...
A. 20 December 2009: Hi i lost $2000 cash the other day lost fell out of my sock thats where i keep it cuse i wont fit in a wallet hopefully some starving orphan found it, any way the point is bad things happen in life what ever happened to you to make you feel this way ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend but don't know if he likes me
Q. Okay. My problem is that I like one of my best guy friends named Larry. I don't know what to do or if he likes me.I mean, me and him talk a lot. and EVERY time we see each other we hug at least once. And sometimes, when I forget to give him a hug, ...
A. 20 December 2009: I think you should have some fun with this lifes to short to rush through it, I would suggest play a few games to see how he feels about you basically just be a teenage girl you could tell him a guy asked you out but your not sure what you should do ... (read in full...)
Any penis enlargements that work?
Q. Are there any affordable penis enlargement techniques that actually work? thanks...
A. 20 December 2009: LOL good question i was actually wondering that my self not that i need it but often times my add blocking software fails to get rid of those particular adds on certain particular websites and i was thinking what the hell kind of drug can morth a ... (read in full...)
How can I help my family through a troubled time?
Q. ok, so i know this might sound weird but,my family is not doing so great right now, and everybody knows the economy is bad, but i am trying to think of ways to earn some money to help my family out, but the problem is , Im only 14 and i cant get a ...
A. 20 December 2009: Thats cute. I kno 14 year olds with jobs but there all illegal aliens not that i care but its possible if you find some unscrupulous business person, i cant believe i spelled that rite with out spell check, any way i doubt you will be able to get a ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions before you have oral sex?
Q. I might eat out my girlfriend for the first time. This would be frist time for me doing it and first time for it being done to her. We have already masterbated one another, so we know we want to do this. What would be some helpful hints/precautions?...
A. 20 December 2009: You could try the sniff test if it smells like fish pass the dish okok ill be serious, make sure shes not having sex with anyone else number one next make sure she doesnt have herpes or anything down there she wasnt born with and is apart of her ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about breaking up with his girlfriend?
Q. So I met a guy on a dating site. We talked for like 12 hours on AIM the other day. I didn't find out til I was talking to him for a while that he was still in a relationship. His myspace said he was, but the dating site said he was single. He said ...
A. 20 December 2009: Hes probably not sure about you he make like you so he thinks but he hasnt actually met you yet if he has a gf atleast shes a sure thing. I suggest getting off his back about if he breaks up with her and you two dont hit it off he has no one. Dont ... (read in full...)
Will he ever come back?
Q. This has happened before. My boyfriend of 3 years has broken up with me again. This will be his third time. The first time it was when we first started dating.. No reason, Robert leaves me.. dates another girl.. Comes back.. The next year.. Robert ...
A. 20 December 2009: I agree with Dog. Your hanging on to this guy hoping he will change hoping he will change for you your wondering what these other girls have that you dont etc etc so mutch to think about. This guy is a jerk in every sense, Im sure your a wonderful ... (read in full...)
How can he have a new girfriend after I broke up with him?
Q. Okay well this is how everything works. Either yu agree with me or yu don't. Well I broke up with my boyfriend that I'm deeply in love with. But I made sure he knew that it was just a break like to get my thoughts together. Not forever. But after a ...
A. 20 December 2009: HMM well im a guy and i can tell you at 14 guys dont understand breaks, even as we get older we dont under stand women very well something gets lost in translation. The thing is your playing with this guys emotions im gonna tell you whats wrong, ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by a married man. How do I cope?
Q. I am married with 2 children and recently had an affair with married man who also has two children. It did not last long but the emotional impact ran very deep. I stupidly let myself get pregnant and everything blew up from there. Our spouses both ...
A. 20 December 2009: well why would you be handing over your newborn what is a guy gonna do with it he certainly cant feed it. Though your situation sounds grave its not so bad look at the bright side theres not a billion dollars and a couple of mansions at stake im ... (read in full...)
Am I masterbating right?
Q. I am 13 years old and i masturbate but i don't know whether im doing it right, and i have trouble getting aroused and in the mood for it. any tips for me on how to do it? how to get myself ready for it and pleasure myself properly? please help, ...
A. 20 December 2009: I could be wrong but i think the point of masturbating is because your allready aroused and need a release. ANY WAYS im not going to tell you but since you have internet access im sure you can use google to find what you need i would tell but it ... (read in full...)
Should we lose our virginity to each other?
Q. ok i have a question... my friend introduced me to a girl I fell in love with almost immediately and she wants to to take it to the next leveland have sex.... We have known each other for three years now and I want to. but my parents don't un...
A. 20 December 2009: AWW as badly as i want to tell you to go for it i really do im gonna do my older guy duty and tell you to think about maybe not doing it i dont kno how old you or the girl is but theres a thing called age of consent so basically its illegal to ... (read in full...)
Anti-Monogamy: why be faithful?
Q. What is so great about being true to your girl?I was in a situation where I had 2 girls within my grasp( both are awesome hot might add) and they live so seperately that they would never heve met.Perfect dual relationship conditions( i dnt call it ...
A. 20 December 2009: lol great question, i think its a personalmoral choice. In many societies its perfectly normal for a man to have more then one woman, most western societies are based on fundamental christian ideas so polygamy is not allowed and the practice mutual ... (read in full...)
Have I become her slave?
Q. Ladyfriend asks me to do favors for her. When we're at my house she wants me to provide cocktails, snacks, movies, clean bathroom, clean bed, etc. But the favors are growing in scope. Now she has me fixing her house,hanging cabinets, fixing ...
A. 20 December 2009: She may just like you and thats her way of keeping you around it could be a trick to get you to do all this stuff but doubt it.i would say try turning the tables if you like her and want a relationship with her find a way to bring that up. You ... (read in full...)
Would asking her if she has single friends be hurtful?
Q. there is this girl who i got her number, we hung out alot, really hit it off but a couple weeks into hanging out all the time she told me she couldnt see me anymore, only as friends......because she has a boyfriend. She has told me plenty of tim...
A. 20 December 2009: hmm I dont think it would be hurtfull to her but i think it would just be awkward it would make you look desperate, in my opinion. id suggest you find a girl with out her help ... (read in full...)
Truly confused!
Q. Hey whats up im 21 years old,and have been with my girlfriend who is 18 soon to be 19 for almost 2 years. She is amazing the most perfect, sweet and caring person in the world. We liked each other for years before we finally dated . We fight alot ...
A. 20 December 2009: Hmm theres alot of reasons your not gonna like any the best one is maybe she lost her phone, but as we progress the reason get worse. She could be seing some one else and doesnt want to face you to tell you, obviously she has made a conscience ... (read in full...)
Should I just go ahead and kiss her?
Q. i have a bestfriend, yes shes a girl too. ive known her for many years now. when we were younger we did stuff ( fingered eachother). we're way older now and dont even mention it. back then i wasnt attracted to her but now i am. im bi but no body ...
A. 20 December 2009: HMMM well the thing is she has a bf so if you approach her knowing that its like your a homewrekker basically would you want somebody coming in and stealing your girl. If your age is correct im gonna have to say your to young to be getting involved ... (read in full...)
Do other people get punished during sex?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex, he likes to spank me hard with his belt and he has even stuck a few pins in my bum as we are doing it. Do other people get punished the same way?...
A. 20 December 2009: UM that sounds painful if you dont mind i guess its ok i only see that kind of stuff in hardcore porn videos not that i have ever watched any ever. My thing is he may have some anger issues the pins thats a new one it might not be healthy for you in ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and had sex, is that bad?
Q. im 13 and i have sex is that bad for me?Please tell me if it is i want to quit.But i cant have kids i dont have a period yet. ...
A. 20 December 2009: You can still possibly get pregnant, having sex its self is not bad but that consequences can be. You can get a disease that cant be cured and can kill you or make your life really uncomfortable, you can get a bad reputation around your town or ... (read in full...)
How do I not let him suck me back in?
Q. Help! I just dumped the guy ive been dating for 6 months and ive never been more in love with someone! It started out so good, but after about a month he felt so "cold" He explained that he is kinda cold, and i wouldnt be hearing kind words al...
A. 20 December 2009: Maybe hes Bi polar or something, I suggest blocking his number deleting it from your phone. Walk away from him and dont look back. Stop saying you love this guy because theres obviously nothing to love about him you know what you have to.... (read in full...)
He emotionally hurt me so how do I get over that?
Q. he said no guy will go for me. that I'm sensitive, that he never cared about. me and that he could live without me. he made my cry. it is impossible for me to get over him.i am sensitive. it was just a crush but i thought we were friends. i was so ...
A. 19 December 2009: Great advice tracy i was just gonna say poison the jerk just kidding, well hes def a jerk i agree with tracy go prove him wrong just dont have a ton a rebound sex just see how many guys want to have sex with you when you see how many guys are into ... (read in full...)
My son has been deployed and I worry about what his girl will do while he is gone
Q. My son just turned 20 yrs old and has joined the army, while he was in high school he dated a girl called Jess, They dated for 2 years and during their senior year she cheated on him and they broke up. My son was heart broken from the break up and ...
A. 19 December 2009: well you seem to have a close relation ship with your son if hes smart enough to listen to you tell him not to marry this girl. OK tell him NOT TO MARRY!!. I hope he listens hes to young to get married, alot of young soldiers get married for some ... (read in full...)
Should I bring it up again? I told him I liked him but no response.
Q. anyway about a month ago i told this guy in one of my classes i have a crush on him.he never answered me he just walked away. he still talks to me and all but i dont know if i should bring up what i said and if i do so how. should i live it alone ...
A. 19 December 2009: well it seems he didnt kno how to take it girls mature a bit faster then boys if your age is correct im gonna say the boy is not really sure what to do about it he could either not like you or just have taken it as a compliment. telling someone you ... (read in full...)
Unrequited teacher crush has spiralled me into depression!
Q. I have been in love with my teacher for the past 2 years. Please don't sigh and raise your eyebrows and think "Oh not another pupil-teacher crush, she'll get over it it" and then move on because I desperately need some advice. It did only start o...
A. 19 December 2009: You might like this guy and feel in love but you really dont know him, what do you want from him a relationship to get married etc. He may seem nice and wonderful rite now but he could be a completely different person if you got to know him on ... (read in full...)
He has a fecal fetish!
Q. I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He ...
A. 19 December 2009: umm he needs to get over that tell him thats something he and you can go through life without. we all have things as crazy as they may be in life that we want to try but normal commonsense usually gets in the way. this guy needs to get over this ... (read in full...)
A conversation with a friend gives me more questions than answers!
Q. Hello, One of by best mates is a girl, we are very close. We finished school early today as it is the last day of term and we decided to go on a walk together. it was snowing so we had alot of fun. after a while of talking we randomly started ...
A. 19 December 2009: hmm i think you need to put the ball in her court, i suggest telling her she likes you she can then either deny it or admit it or she might say as a friend but then that means she likes you if you go to her and tell her you like her and she doesnt ... (read in full...)
I am also worried about my sister's influence on me...
Q. I am 20 and have recently moved from the country to to work in town.I have accommodation at my place of employment. My older sister works in the same town and stays in a commune. She is going out with a guy from work and introduced my to...
A. 19 December 2009: Just say no lol really you shouldnt be having sex if you have to ask this question one day a nice guy who will take his time will come into your life. you dont have to rush out and have sex just for the hell of it your sister is a freak im not ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the first time and not living up to expectations!
Q. Ok, so I've been dating this girl for two and a half months, and I think we're in love. Today she asked me to come over and to finger her, but I said I couldn't because I was too nervous. I know I shouldn't be, if we really are in love then she ...
A. 19 December 2009: just do it man if you dont in about ten yrs you will be regretting it just dont get her pregnant theres nothing to be nervous about other then that oh and her parents finding she said she wants you to then do it. it wikk get easier after the first ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is hinting about having sex, but I don't think I'm ready
Q. Today I hung out with my boyfriend and we got on to the topic of sex. We weren't even talking about anything like that before, but he randomly started the topic. He said that like everyone has done it from his school. I think that he was hinting ...
A. 19 December 2009: DONT DO IT... (read in full...)
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