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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Just a misunderstanding or worse?
Q. I've been together with my bf for about 2 years now. The last time I went to see him something happened that I can't stop thinking about. One night when we went to have sex I guess he decided he wanted to try anal. There was no talking about it ...
A. 20 January 2010: Damn hmmm your guy must be a breed of human called an Idiot,
he does have a point though, did you ever ask him to stop maybe he expected it to be painful and aslong as you didnt ask him to stop it ment it would be ok.
Im not trying to justify w... (read in full...)
I got into a physical fight with my brother and now my boyfriend wants to beat the crap out of him.
Q. I am a 17 year old girl and well last night was a really bad night. My twin brother and me got in a physical fight. I was already really upset and he was just getting on my nerves because he was calling me names and saying stuff that was starting to ...
A. 20 January 2010: LOL WOW i kno im late but wow i gotta add my 2 cents,
I feel you deserved what you got, you hit him and got your ass kicked this is probably what happened to Rhianna.
you say he went to far maybe but you should ahve thought about all day before y... (read in full...)
I left school too early, now I want to know how to gain the qualifications I need
Q. hello readers i have decided that i would like to be a peditrician when i am older. but the thing is that i left school when i was 16 and i have no further education. i was wondering if anyone could help me in which qualifications i need to make i...
A. 18 January 2010: Congrats, well theres so mutch good advice in here. Any wya you can do seeking help is the first step. dont give up... (read in full...)
Caught my husband in affair and he left me pregnant and alone!
Q. I am 36 weeks pregnant with baby #2. We have been married for 5 1/2 years and already have a son who is almost 4. We were more like roommates than a married couple, but I never imagined he would be cheating on me. Man..I was wrong! He withheld ...
A. 18 January 2010: lol This is kind of funny i can see why this guy left you im not saying its rite but i think i can see why,any ways you have a ton of qestions no one can answer.
Will he regret it maybe but i think he will regret getting you pregnant more then any... (read in full...)
When I go to college I am scared that he will go looking somewhere else for sex.
Q. Hi..I am 17 years old and me and ny boyfriend are sexually active. Well the problem is that I am a senior and he is a sophomore. I got accepted to college and will be leaving this summer. This means I won't see him as much anymore and I am scared ...
A. 18 January 2010: Ughh honestly i think you should break up you need to be paying attention in UNI not dealing with a broken heart, I dont see this relation ship lasting. when will you be able to see him etc its up to you but i think its time for a just friends ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell him the pic on myspace is a fake
Q. My friend and I had a challenge. At first I wasn't going to do it but agreed that we wldnt do it for long. The challenge was to get a fake pic and post it on myspace and see if u could act fake. I hated doing it and secretly didn't add any friends ...
A. 18 January 2010: If hes trolling for girls on my space serves him rite tell him the truth and thats it hell get over it or not but who cares hes just some myspace dude... (read in full...)
I feel my life is a mess at the moment... help!
Q. Dear cupid, I'm sorry for the long post in advance, but i really need some help/advice. I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in 6 months and I would say i'm an average teenager as i've faced problems in my life, just like everybody else. I've been a litt...
A. 18 January 2010: Hello had to send this again i hit add before i was done
Well im sorry to hear your going through such a rough time.We all face difficulties in life but hope can get you through, in time things will improve,though it may seem like thiings ... (read in full...)
I feel my life is a mess at the moment... help!
Q. Dear cupid, I'm sorry for the long post in advance, but i really need some help/advice. I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in 6 months and I would say i'm an average teenager as i've faced problems in my life, just like everybody else. I've been a litt...
A. 18 January 2010: Well im sorry to hear your going through such a rough time.We all face difficulties in life but hope can get you through, in time things will improve,though it may seem like thiings havnt been going well for so long its really hasnt been you will ... (read in full...)
Will he be locked up for getting me pregnant?
Q. I'am 17 and pregnant by my boyfriend who is 23 and i want be 18 until feb.23.2010 this year can he get locked up even if i didnt want him to and my mother know's how old he is and she's okay with the age difference? ...
A. 17 January 2010: lol no they wouldnt waste the time besides depending on your state 17 may be old enough for consent. Its not a bigy dont worry about it the police really dont care about your love life.... (read in full...)
I need help to tell her how I feel!
Q. Ok first off I was drunk when I typed this I never share my feelings with anyone and waited till I was more sober to post it here it goes I have a friend, me and her met a few months ago, and all I can say is she is the most amazing girl I'v...
A. 17 January 2010: Think about it this way you only have one life sometimes its better to try and fail then live with regret. If you have feeling for this girl go for it what do you have to loose.... (read in full...)
Why is it that a girls virginity seems to be more important than a guy's?
Q. Something I've been wanting to know for ever is, why is it that a girls virginity seems to be more important than a guy's?...
A. 17 January 2010: There are many reasons for that, but from a purely biological standpoint i would have to say because if a man where to have sex with a woman and get her pregnant and she was a virgin then he would have no doubt to wether the chils was his or not.
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MY fella broke up with me, and I don't know what to do
Q. i was with my fella for over 3 months and we have known each other since we were 13, we got on like a house on fire, no disagreements nothing bad, he has had 2 bad relationships and he had to do as he was told all the time and had arguements 24 7 ...
A. 14 January 2010: WOW thats messed up yo, i think i kno how you feel though, 3 months down the drain, It really just makes you wonder how people can do things like that get you all caring about them then bam. I think its the devil he sent you this assasin got you all ... (read in full...)
What are the unspoken rules regarding sex?
Q. When you have sex, when do you normally finish? once the man has an orgasm or both? thanks...
A. 14 January 2010: Hmmm interesting if you can keep going after you have an orgasm go rte ahead. other then that try and make your girl hav eone as many times as you can if your good she might shake and have cunvultions. then you blast of to climax the whole event, ... (read in full...)
I'm miserable at home and I have no idea where to turn any more???
Q. hello, thank you in advance for reading my post. To start out with, i'm an 18 year old girl, senior in high school (I go to school for less than half a day), and I just recently lost my job a few weeks ago. I have no money saved up, im currently...
A. 14 January 2010: hey thats good things will start to look up for you just hang in there... (read in full...)
I want to hide the fact I lack social skills
Q. here is my situation. i'm 29 and i would say my experience with relationships is almost none. it's very fringy for me to open up. i would say i get deep into things rather than play the small talk game with people. i try but i don't feel comfortable ...
A. 14 January 2010: wow, dude i think your giving women way to much credit, you think there to pretty while they spend an hour getting dressed in the morning looking in the mirror hating themselves. My butts to big oh no more belly fat blah blah blah lol
You need to ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right or are they just all sluts?
Q. My friends all think a guy should last an hr in bed, but my bff and i dont. we were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my ...
A. 14 January 2010: lol good answers Pinktopaz nice thats funny, well im gonna have to agree an hour is along time in the sexin world, you tell your friends to do push ups for an hour straight then tell them to to it one handed then tell em to do claps then tell em to ... (read in full...)
Despite our 14 year age difference she wants to take it to the next level
Q. I guys I was trying to ask google for a answer to my heavy heart when I found this community. I met this girl on-line a while back. We became very good friends. And with time we got very close. When we met she was going through a crisis or ...
A. 14 January 2010: she had an eating disorder hmmm you kno what im not gonna even throw in a witty joke this time, dude your 33 with young im hoping quite attractive 18 yr old in love with you lol, go for it your worried about all theese little things look if i you ... (read in full...)
I am a lonely single girl, wanting to know where to go to meet straight singles
Q. I'm 26 and have never had a serious boyfriend. I've been on dates and for the first time, I casually dated a guy for 8 months! He did not want to commit, but I'd like to count this as something. I am cute, young, funny, smart, interesting, ...
A. 14 January 2010: Interesting its funny because i cant get a date because all the girls i happen to talk to are disgruntled bitter man haters that havnt gotten over the mistreatement from the last 6 jerks they dated and wont give me the time of day.
I agree wi... (read in full...)
Does he have male intimacy issues?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 2 months. He told me loved me on Christmas. Everything was going great, he was affectionate, sweet it was blissful Sunday 1/10 he broke up with me. Told me just didn't want to be with anymore that he wasn't ...
A. 14 January 2010: hmm male intimacy cycle? any ways why dont you call his mom maybe you he doesnt want to be with but you need closure. ... (read in full...)
I hate my body. Is my boyfriend lying when he says he likes it?
Q. i hate my body.... i dont feel like a woman and im 20 i have small breats and i dont feel like i will ever truly saisfted my boyfreind.one because i feel i dont look like one with my breats size.two because he likes to watch porn and the females he ...
A. 14 January 2010: LOL troubled to mutch oh man that was good lol wow a good laugh, the sound of her voice i never thought about that but man you really have a point, you do listen to it all the time but you in my experience it .just starts bluring togather into a ... (read in full...)
When it came down to it... why did he not do what he was dying to do?
Q. I started a fight with my bf ealier today, i felt bad. So to make it up to him I told him he could do a certain sexual act on me that for months and months i told him he couldn't b/c it just wasn't my cup of tea. Well I figured he'd just jump r...
A. 14 January 2010: Nice answers but i will say make up sex can be pretty good, but if your guy wanted to do some kind of strange thing with you and your not into it could def kill the vibe. Even though you told him he could do it he could tell you didnt want to i dont ... (read in full...)
I hope there's someone out there that will take time reading this?..I really like this boy!
Q. Hello I’m in a bad situation right now and I don’t have a clue what I should do. First off, I liked this guy for 7 months and I haven’t told him, basically I listened to this boy on advice because he did know the boy I like and I believed everyth...
A. 14 January 2010: Wow Lonnnnnnnnnnnggggg, lol ok. this iis really a problem for you has your young life turned all up side down. heres how to solve it, you wont like it but it will work.
Go find that boy and tell him what ever you need to tell him so you can get ... (read in full...)
Where can I find older men not interested in a sex based relationship?
Q. Any suggestions?? I am an 18 year old female, but am mostly attracted to men at least around twice my age. This is not a sexual desire for "more experienced" men, in fact sex doesn't really interest me. What I like is the maturity and life experien...
A. 14 January 2010: ummm maybe you should be looking into a retirement comunity, u want a sexless relationship with a man wow, women never cease to amaze me. ok do you realize its kinda hard to walk around with a penis between your legs and not want sex, its not there ... (read in full...)
Am I always going to feel guilty for cheating on him?
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend a few months ago shortly after starting uni, I told him almost immediately and we are working through it. My boyfriend seems to be handling it a lot better than me, he's already pretty much forgiven me, he says 'the worst ...
A. 14 January 2010: tell your boy friend how you feel maybe he will have some kind words to ease your woes, hes probably just glad you just cheated and didnt dump him lol i would have just dropped you off at the other guys place and told him shes all yours. look if ... (read in full...)
Could my man be in the closet?
Q. How do u know if your man is in the closet? (gay) I mean I don't want to think stuff like that, but he has sooo many male friends its ridiculous. I mean new people poppin up here and there. Yet, this newyears I don't think he invited none of these ...
A. 14 January 2010: hes probably a hustler, making that money, hes taking care of you rite so why do you care. lol and the sex thing you should be glad he doesnt want to half the women on here act like its such a big burden, I think you should just be satisfied i doubt ... (read in full...)
I'm miserable at home and I have no idea where to turn any more???
Q. hello, thank you in advance for reading my post. To start out with, i'm an 18 year old girl, senior in high school (I go to school for less than half a day), and I just recently lost my job a few weeks ago. I have no money saved up, im currently...
A. 14 January 2010: well first off this is definatly going to affect your life it is your life the saying goes your parents ruin the first half of your life and your chilldren ruin the second half.
You need to get out you have the internet as a resource, look onl... (read in full...)
What other means of ID can I use?
Q. hi this isnt a relationship question but i thought id ask anyway! i have lost my passport and provisional licence and have no other identification so i can get new ones i originally used my birth certificate but that has gone too, any ideas on what ...
A. 14 January 2010: you can get another birth pretty cheap there should be an organization that you can go through to get another one issued.
In the us you need seven forms of ID just to get a license atleast im my state they include social security card birth ce... (read in full...)
Wishing and hoping for a boy to love me for myself
Q. I just wish that i had a guy that love me for who i am and the way i look:( i cant stand a guy that is a cheater and a man whore. I have been cheated on and guys just like me cuz of my butt and my boobs. I just want someone who will care for me and ...
A. 13 January 2010: You do realise you havnt actually asked a question.but here goes Theres many levels of attraction and when all the levels add up you can end up with a relation ship, intially your butt and boobs will attract a guy because thats all they have to go ... (read in full...)
How can I meet nice, caring friends?
Q. I am having concerns with some friends of mine. My one friend only talks about herself. She never asks how I am or has any interest in my life. I sent her an e-mail saying Happy New Year and said I hope she was well. The return message was her ...
A. 13 January 2010: i dont kno join dearcupid i will be your friend, maybe you should tell theese girls how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after a break up. Any suggestions on how not to be so depressed?
Q. I am so heartbroken over a recent breakup with a girl i really loved. I broke it off before Christmas over some problems we had been having. About a month before we had a conversation about the relationship and she felt she needed more time to ...
A. 13 January 2010: you could try drinking ben and jerrys is a chick thing or you could pull all your money out the bank and count it that should make you feel better unless your broke. do they have a golden corral near you oh man let me tell you theres no cure for a ... (read in full...)
He's so in love with me he can't be with me?
Q. I'm almost twenty years old, I've never had a real relationship. The only guy that has shown interest in me my whole life has the unfortunate honor of having a nickname with "Icky" in it. I'm not attracted to him, I'm not sure if he knows it, but I ...
A. 13 January 2010: wow interesting, well meeting anybody anywhere is sketchy, im not sure whats a traditional way to meet since people have been meeting on the internet most of my life, but as you can see it doesnt matter where you meet the person can still turn out ... (read in full...)
Tried to finger a random girl then she told all her friends
Q. I was a nightclub recently and i was kissing a random girl and i was feeling extremly horny. I attempted to finger her but with no success. She told her friends and i am getting alot of stick about it. What should i do?...
A. 13 January 2010: hmm i would say just play the part, look are her freinds hot invite them for a date with your finger, you need to be a complete jerk about this, your being a nice guy ^%&% those &*^% be an ass hole trust me they will wish they never created the ... (read in full...)
I've never had a girlfriend, is that normal?
Q. Ive never had a girlfriend,is that normal?. I go to only boys school and really i havent spend much time meeting girls. With the last girl, i had a crush, she was maybe the most beutifull girl i have met, but she was not only beutifull, she was ...
A. 13 January 2010: Interesting, you lost to a girl that sux, any way
"I mean its possible to have a loving relationship with a girl you really like physically and personality like her"
I dont think your alone in this im pretty sure most people would agree that... (read in full...)
WIfe only wants sex in the dark or under the covers
Q. I have a problem that I'm at a standstill over: I've known my wife for 10 yrs; we've been married for 3 yrs. and I have only seen her vagina twice. I've talked to her very lovingly several times, without any success of a normal sexual relationship ...
A. 13 January 2010: get Clap on and while your about to do it and shes naked rip that covers off and clap, Your wife is wierd lol you need to take a peak down there and make sure its actually a vagina, wow, shes your wife you need to be a man tell her if she doesnt let ... (read in full...)
Phone dropped in toilet...
Q. This isn't really a relationship question but I gotta ask. My boyfriend was texting me one day, supposedly while he was using the restroom and he dropped his phone in the toilet(I know, nasty.) well, he got it to work, he used a hair dryer to dry it ...
A. 13 January 2010: see if he has insurance
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What should I do about these girls?
Q. well first of all if i get like something wrong she quite alot teases me about it and goes on about it even though half the time in lessons she doesn't know the answer to a simple question even though its written up on the board and we went over it ...
A. 13 January 2010: awww, this girl is a bully she probably hates her self and her only pleasure is harassing you , im not sure but did you say she was a friend, well if so shes not you need to stand up to this girl blast her get in her face about it dont hit her but ... (read in full...)
Brothers or Lovers?
Q. A few months ago I met a friend on the internet who introduced me to a friend of his. We started off as cyber brothers, and I won't bore you with the details but we're now very much in love and have even said that when he's 18 he wants to move over ...
A. 13 January 2010: Ummm this kind of stuff should be anonymous so i hope thats not your real name, I guess its to wierd to be real, any way your 16 write well teenagers are not known for rational thought, your a guy and you want to marry another guy in fve years, well ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting 6 years to find someone like him but worried about his employment
Q. I am divorced for six years and although I have dated a little, haven't found the right guy. I have recently met a wonderful man, who is really decent and honest and treats me very well and I know he really cares about me and vice versa. The ...
A. 13 January 2010: give it 18 months seewhat happens, he should go to school so he can get a better job hes old so it could be hard but with age comes wisdom so he should manage i would say go for it untill your gut tells you other wise... (read in full...)
What do men find really irrestible in women???
Q. Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you? Im not talking about attracting a guy so you can sleep together, but the kinda love where he wants to meet your parents. What do men find really irrestible in women??? please be honest,...
A. 12 January 2010: hmm yeah i think its possible to make some one fall in love with you, ive done it on many ocassions atleast i think it was me from a guy point a girl will fall in love wth you if you say and do the rte things, if your trying to make a guy fall in ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my social anxiety?
Q. How do I overcome my social anxiety? I started university in September and although I quite enjoy the course I feel incredibly lonely and cut off from people as I have trouble making friends. Since I finished school 4 years ago I've found that I h...
A. 12 January 2010: hhmm well i suggest a professional, You need to probably get help. What ever your problem s its probably to deep for you to solve on your own ... (read in full...)
Brother and sister playing footsie..too close?
Q. I had a concern and maybe it is not. We were watching a movie yesterday and my fiance was sitting with his sister on the coach. It just was alittle wierd for me they were all bunched up together and were playing footsies but it looked weird and I ...
A. 12 January 2010: lol this is great ... (read in full...)
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