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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I don't want to be a stripper any more
Q. When I was 18, I went to jail for getting an ex beat up after he beat me up.. I put myself in a large debt with lawyers, fines, etc... I became a stripper and paid off my debts. After my parole ended I moved out to oklahoma to get away for while.. I ...
A. 7 January 2010: You say God is not all its going to take well surely if God can provide for the smallest insect he can for you ... (read in full...)
Should I deal with my abusive stepdad or leave home?
Q. Last night, while I was sitting on the couch with my mom and step dad, my step dad and i started arguing mildly. He started to raise his voice, and I asked him to stop, but he didn't, and kept raising his voice even more. He was really getting on my ...
A. 7 January 2010: I think you deserved it, why where you arguing with him, do you pay the bills. You challenged somebody in their house thats bigger and stronger then you that makes alot of sense.
Its time to move ok thats it your not even this guys kid. Your at ... (read in full...)
I need to get over my ex... but how???
Q. Bear with me, this may take a while. I'm a 21 year old female and up until two years ago I was a very logical, rational (some might say cold) person. I'd had one serious relationship with a guy I cared deeply about at the time, we were together a ...
A. 7 January 2010: sigh love is complicated look youll probably never get over this guy i still remeber the girl i had a crush on in 1st grade and oh how my little heart broke when she called me ugly and threw her legos at me, stop trying to get over him, you love him ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid being stuck in this town the rest of my life?
Q. Right now I'm in a situation I'm not too happy with- small town, alcoholic father, severely disabled brother, medical expenses, and not many friends for obvious reasons [can't bring them anywhere near the house!] Learning to drive is also a big ...
A. 7 January 2010: apply for a job someplace you wouldnt mind living, i dont kno where you are exept for the US somewhere but in the south east theres lots of jobs the weather is nice and its pretty close to the major fun zones Miami Atlantic city Atl Philly,
Clubs... (read in full...)
Winter relationships... Any thoughts?
Q. Many people say not to start a relationship in the winter months for many reasons, especially if you have just broken off from a previous relationship. As winter is the time when most people become depressed and sad and this makes them want to seek ...
A. 7 January 2010: so are you saying you actually want to get back with your ex ewww, but any way back to your post im thinking maybe there is something to this winter thing also if you think about it the intmate holidays are in winter thanksgiving to valentines day ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up one week ago. I am a weak and unconfident girl; Since I wanted him back, so I was doing some stupid things like calling, texting, etc. And then he said I was a " stalker." When he said that, it hurts me so so much. I ...
A. 7 January 2010: ok well you cant get your bf back now that said you need to get over him. Im not gonna tell you that you need to boost your confidence and self esteem for yours] self not for someone else because it wont do you any good you probably need counseling ... (read in full...)
Older boy, what are the rules?
Q. hey, This isn't that exciting, but I'm just fishing around for ideas really.. I'm 19, and I'm seeing this guy, who is 25. (this bit isn't a big deal. he's quite a young 25, i'm quite an old 19.. ) WE've both had long term relationship thi...
A. 7 January 2010: LOL at older people wow ouch well it is 2010 us 80s babies are relics sigh and i remember when we used to terrorize the neighboorhood on or big wheels. any ways just relax ok.
You dont need to worry about all this, your guy is 25 practica... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a stripper any more
Q. When I was 18, I went to jail for getting an ex beat up after he beat me up.. I put myself in a large debt with lawyers, fines, etc... I became a stripper and paid off my debts. After my parole ended I moved out to oklahoma to get away for while.. I ...
A. 7 January 2010: You need to look into finnacial aid and see what kind of scholarships and money you can get for school, you ever think about joining the millitary. It would get you out of your parents house plus you need to clean up your record, even with a degree ... (read in full...)
Pains and aches when in a sexual mood for too long...
Q. Just a quick question. I've recently been getting pains and aches near my lower stomach and balls. It only happens when being with my girlfriend when we're kissing and touching but not actually having physical sex or oral. It seems to be something ...
A. 7 January 2010: why do you even hve a gf? the whole point of having a gf is so this doesnt happen,... (read in full...)
Does he not care about me at all?
Q. my bf told me that he was entertaining his ex while i was at work wtf? he then said that she still has feelings after so long,after that he came to pick me up on work and was all jolly .then later that night he said he wanted have sex with her but ...
A. 7 January 2010: um why are you with this guy again, cuse hes really a jerk, heres what you do this will solve your problem you heard the song that the crab sings in little mermaid ~sha la la la just Ditch the BOY!... (read in full...)
Why do guys push the girls head down while she's giving him a blowjob?
Q. I have a question for guys. Why do you push a girls head farther down while they're giving you head? does it feel good or is it just like, there? My boyfriend does that (i've only given him head twice) and it makes me gag sometimes. and i heard a ...
A. 7 January 2010: ONly one person has actually answered this question and its a good answer the others where on a completly diffrent sheet all togather ... (read in full...)
Are my looks turning guys off?
Q. Ok so here it goes. i am twenty years old, 5'6, 110 lbs, have long brown hair and blue eyes. i also wear glasses. so what can i do to get a boyfriend? i've never had one and im beginning to think i will always be alone. any tips on how to get one? ...
A. 7 January 2010: PIK ME PIK ME, well more details would be helpful like A B or C cup things like that but any way maybe your really hot and guys are intimidated buy you. Maybe they assume you have a bf allready.Heres and idea if theres a single guy you like dont ... (read in full...)
Three months and he hasn't even attempted to make out with me...
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for three months. we were both each other's first kiss, so we're both fairly new to the whole kissing thing but i really want him to make out with me but he hasn't even tried. i think he's afraid he'll do it ...
A. 7 January 2010: ooo this is cute since i can sleep it has something to do with a big container of mountain dew i will try and help.
heres what you do go up to your guy tell him how hot and manly he is and lay a big wet kiss on him , lol
look its natural you ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents to let him visit for a few days?
Q. So I've been talking with this guy on the computer for a few weeks now. But I already feel like I've known him for so long already. I talk to him through IM, texting, and the website that I first met him on. I know that it's not maybe the smartest ...
A. 7 January 2010: well how old are you and how old is this guy and why cant this guy stay at a hotel, you can meet up with him at the mall get to kno him a little before you give him the keys to the front door. ok If i go buy your age your young a kid basically yeah ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend lying to me?
Q. Okay, so I have a situation where I can hardly ever trust my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years and I still findit hard to believe her. Sometimes she'll tell me she's busy at work, but then if I call her up 5 minutes later, I...
A. 31 December 2009: Shes young and bored with your boring relation ship.
thats all
break up with her, she has lost all respect for you, she doesnt take the relation ship serious there dozens of guys drooling over her so why should she, shes keeping her opti... (read in full...)
Leaving for the army! Should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of about 3 months told me an hour ago that he was leaving for the army in a few hours i dont know what to do he also asked me to marry him but im scared that he will get hurt im 15 and hes 19 anyone know what i should do? ...
A. 31 December 2009: I kno what you should do, Dont marry him your to damn young for one, youll hate your self and him if yu do, life will just suck in general. ok thats it tell him your not ready cause your not, just be a kid for a few more years... (read in full...)
If I'm bi... can he?
Q. i am a straight guy with bi tendancys... does that make me completly bi? i have made love to both man and woman and like it equaly. so why is it when i kik it with one of my guy friends i feel a strong pull twords this person then nrmal?? he is a ...
A. 31 December 2009: YOu made nasty with a guy so your Bi ... (read in full...)
I want to encurage my g/f to lose weight!
Q. Hello, I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years. We both grew heavier than we used to be. This year I was able to lose the weight I'd gained by changing my diet. I would like my girlfriend to lose weight and get back into the shape she used...
A. 31 December 2009: She 3O she can loose the weight if she wants too. It can be hard work but if she wants to do it she will explain to her the deal either she bites or she doesnt, good luck ... (read in full...)
It breaks my heart to see my parents apart!
Q. im 14 my parents are in a fight how do i help get them back together? My dad has a a does not think before he says and regrets it. My mom and dad have been together for 17 years now i i cant live without my mom and dad being together it just breaks ...
A. 31 December 2009: GET OVER IT your parents are not getting along it happens, when you get married have kids and the bills start piling your older no longer the hot couple you where in college.
Theres nothing you can do your parents dont want to be togather any more... (read in full...)
How can I be less predictable?
Q. Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...
A. 31 December 2009: thats just your chick being a bitch Look just keep being you if shes still sleeping with you your doing something rite dont let it get to you.
OK ok maybe she wants more excitment the routine has gotten stale. so spice it up bring another chick ho... (read in full...)
I have developed asthma and want to leave the military sooner than they are taking, any suggestions?
Q. Hello. Is there any one out there that can give me advice? Ive been in the millitary for five years now. I've developed asthma last year. The medical desission is taking to long and now they have me on deploying status. I currently have a temp pro...
A. 31 December 2009: HA those Green suits will take for ever lol why do you want to get out so bad do you have some amazing job lined up. the economy is shit unless your a middle eastern oil barron hell the Queen of england is probably driving a hybrid. any ways your ... (read in full...)
Stomach pains after prostate massage... Why?
Q. I did some experimenting on my body tonight. I was masturbating when I noticed a cylinder shaped object about 12cm long. I decided to use it on my prostate (you know what that involves) using oil as lubrication. It was a pretty amazing experience, ...
A. 31 December 2009: I think you need a doc not sure how you massage a prostate but or what it is exactly or where it is but it sounds like you shouldnt have been messing with it. if you need oil and tools to get to it thats God telling you dont (I wanna use the EF ... (read in full...)
My older bro want's to mess around...Help?
Q. Hi this is all a little weird for me, but I need some help. My older brother and I are really close, since we were little. But recently we have been talking and innocnetly I told him about a dream I had about him and thought he would just call me ...
A. 31 December 2009: How old is this clown, TELLLLLLL!
So what hell probably off him self but hes a little freak its his sister today then the neighbors dog or 4 yr old tomorrow if the dog is lucky.
LOok dont doooo it, Im a christian a terrible one but i b... (read in full...)
Can an unclebe attracted to his niece?
Q. surely not? can an uncle be attracted sexually to his niece? when i was with my partner(ex now} i had nagging gut feelings to the way he was around his niece.this is his sisters daughter by the way. shes 18 hes 42 and she was staying at her grans wh...
A. 31 December 2009: Yeah your rite. LOL just from what you describbed this neice sounds like 90% of the men on planet earths dream girl the rest like men or animals or , well it gets really awkward, Come on she was 18 blonde and bubbly im drooling.
Your bf has eyes... (read in full...)
How do I get my parents to compromise with a little freedom?
Q. my problem is having a boyfriend. My parents won't allow it. I'm 15 in my last year school, and he's my first boyfriend. I really like him, i usually don't pay attention to stuff like that, but i felt that he's different. He likes me for who i am...
A. 31 December 2009: you seem mature i waont say for your age because thats relative there 60 yr olds doing dumba$$ sh!t by mature i mean on the level of a rational intelligent human being.
Your parents are over protective but can you blame them look at this friggin ... (read in full...)
I immigrated to be closer to my mother, but its not working out
Q. HELP - I have a very serious problem which is depressing me. I have recently migrated to be with my mother who has retired to the caribbean. I have been here with my son now for about 3 months and it has been a living nightmare. My mother is not ...
A. 31 December 2009: You havnt said what you have done to improve your situation.
We get the point your mother is a B!tc#, ok now what are you gonna do about it well i would like to kno, I hope your next post goes something like this, "My mother came home back on her ... (read in full...)
Failure and weak men
Q. Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
A. 31 December 2009: Interesting Bridget but i take lack of self control as a weakness.
Im not saying women are blameless and they do not cheat but in my experience the majority of married cheaters are men.Men and women tend to cheat for different reasons, for men ... (read in full...)
What is the name of this game?
Q. ok so i played this game a few years ago and im hoping there are a few gamers out there that can tell me the name of this game i compleatly forget. ok so theres this chick that lives supposably in the furture and she travels ...
A. 23 December 2009: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Female_video_game_characters or
http://www.shinyshiny.tv/2007/04/top_ten_list_of.html
Those might help The game sounds like a final fantasy to me but i havnt played any of them i cant be sure,
Do you kno ... (read in full...)
No feeling during my first blowjob
Q. I just got my first blow job today, and for some reason when she went to do it i just couldn't feel it. it just felt like i was moving my wet hand on it. she wasn't sucking and she didn't want me to look the first time... could something be wrong ...
A. 23 December 2009: you managed to get your penis in a girls mouth yet you have to ask this question where are the girls like that in my woods, any way the answer is probabably no dont freak out. if it was your first time it was hopefully her frst time, she needs ... (read in full...)
He seems to like me but never actually answers my questions
Q. i like a guy. and he goes to my church.. every sunday he makes a point to invite me to sit with him.. well actually he ask if im coming in then leads me to a seat and then sits with me. he smile at me alot.. and we email back and forward.. but he ...
A. 23 December 2009: just play it buy ear he probably likes you just doesnt kno how to proceed. dont rush him into it when hes ready hell let you kno. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 10 years older, and my male friend called him a cradle robber!
Q. Earlier today, my boyfriend and my two best friends were hanging out at my house. My boyfriend was playing with my hair and watching my friend playing video games. My other friend was being very emo (aka emotional) and he wouldn't look or talk to ...
A. 23 December 2009: (I've known him since forever!).
thats why the guys been in love with you since you where in diapers and is pissed you want to be with grandpa over him Poor guy he handled this badly but damn at least oh man this is funny i mean wow i cant bel... (read in full...)
I had sex for the first time and am now worried I might be pregnant
Q. pleeeaaasse responde im so scared! i am 13 years old. i turn 14 in 5 days. i really like this guy who is not my boyfriend, he is 16 and is used to having sex a lot and says he really likes me and wont leave me and seems very different from the other ...
A. 23 December 2009: you can buy a home pregnancy kit there not expensive, your guy should buy it that will teach him a lesson. thats all you can do for now if you are pregnant you need to tell your parents dont worry it wont be so bad they might be pissed but they will ... (read in full...)
I immigrated to be closer to my mother, but its not working out
Q. HELP - I have a very serious problem which is depressing me. I have recently migrated to be with my mother who has retired to the caribbean. I have been here with my son now for about 3 months and it has been a living nightmare. My mother is not ...
A. 23 December 2009: LOL thats the reason for moving away from home why did you move back. you need to move out as soon as possble in the meantime id suggest avoiding her, i dont believe theres anything you can do or say to her that will matter shes old set in her ways ... (read in full...)
I don't want to do the same as the rest of my family
Q. I have a sister and a brother. We're all 16 (obviously, we're triplets). My mother is the cheer leading coach for our high school. My father is a football coach. I guess you could say I'm "the runt of the litter": I'm smaller, weaker, and I've...
A. 23 December 2009: What are your dreams, you should tell your parents that you can try and make them under stand maybe they will. Have a talk with them talk to your brother and sister im sure they will help you and support you they are you genetically lol. Things will ... (read in full...)
Can anyone offer any insight into my situation?
Q. So I ended things with my first boyfriend of not even two months (I was his first girlfriend also). Not officially, but I just started ignoring him because it was getting ridiculous. I could see that it was gonna get to the point of immature name ...
A. 22 December 2009: that has to be the longest post ever , It was kinda funny though i have no advice for you really this is just the craziest thing ive ever heard im sorry i got sutch a good laugh out of it, im glad you broke up with him. i admit i skipped ahead but i ... (read in full...)
G/f doesn't want sex and I do!
Q. Hey, Well I have a weird problem. Basically the last 7 months me and my GF have not had sex. We had a 4 month break in that 7 month, neither of us had sex (her because of lack of drive, me because I love her, but thats a different story) Anyway...
A. 22 December 2009: Leave her your not compatible with her she doesnt need sex and you do whats the point of having a gf you might aswell get a cardboard cut out of her... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents are trying to control my life
Q. Ok, this is going to be really long, so please bear with me. I'm 19 years old and still live at home. My parents don't want me to move out, therefore I was pretty much forced into going to the local college so I could live at home while I go to ...
A. 22 December 2009: well heres the other side of the fence, i answered a post from an 18 yr old girl who ran off with a 34 yr old guy far from home shes working and supporting him while he does nothing and because of his medical conditon her frequently mistreats her ... (read in full...)
She is too tight, how can we solve this?
Q. me and my gf have tried intercourse 5-6 times. my penis is not circumcized and I am her first sexual partner. I have had sex before, but this girl is just too tight. my penis penetrates just about an inch inside her and my foreskin is pushed back ...
A. 22 December 2009: wow i have no advice on this exept to say i never heard of a situation like this serously you learn something new everyday BAYBAY that was some serous tmi but never the less interesting to kno that theres a solution for this predicament, wait did ... (read in full...)
Please don't lecture me, I need advice on what I should do next!
Q. i have recently had unprotected sex several times within the past month or two. lately i have been feeling nauseous, tired for no reason at all, having weird food cravings, going to the bathroom more, and my breasts have been sore. i have had what i ...
A. 22 December 2009: Go see doc oc who knows what you piked up in the sea, better to take some pills and clear it up now before it gets bad, ANd if your just pregnant you will kno soon enough doublem you tell her to take the pill but she may not want to terminate the ... (read in full...)
Do girls like red headed guys?
Q. Hi im 20 year old guy,and im a natural red head, my question is do girls like red headed guys or do they find them a turn off?...
A. 22 December 2009: I pretty sure women arent that shallow think about it like this do you like red headed girls of course you do because lets face it theres more important things then hair color ... (read in full...)
Young girl with a big problem...
Q. I seriously need help. And I have absolutley nobody to talk to so if u could, tell me ur advice. I turned 18 and moved a state away from my whole family to be with a 34 year old man. Now, don't get me wrong, I love him with all of my heart. And I ...
A. 22 December 2009: Your parents failed you they need to be slapped i dont care if you where 18 when you left. after raising clothing feeding and sheltering my daughter for 18 years you could bet i would kill her before i let her run off with a psychpatient
The g... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: Hell yeha he meant it good for him stop being a homewrekker yu need to go find your own husband instead of weaving your web around someone elses. Women like you are just as bad and as much as fault as the men who are cheating you kno hes married. I ... (read in full...)
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