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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: Hell yeha he meant it good for him stop being a homewrekker yu need to go find your own husband instead of weaving your web around someone elses. Women like you are just as bad and as much as fault as the men who are cheating you kno hes married. I ... (read in full...)
My married boss says he loves me, how can I forget him or should I give in?
Q. A year ago I started new job, my older boss Rob (Im 23 he is 44),started flirting with me like crazy. he asked me out to dinner and I said yes. We started hanging out and then things turned into more. In the beginning I thought nothing of it an...
A. 22 December 2009: He doesnt love you hes lusting after a younger chick what do you think will happen when your his wife age, Dont be that other women why the hell would you want to be with a guy that CHEATS what do you think he will do to you in time.
I just wro... (read in full...)
How does love work inside the brain?
Q. Hi-- I was wondering if anybody could send me a link or explanation of how love works inside the brain. What causes the joy? Butterflies? Electricity? Pain? I haven't really understood the sources I've found, and I'm just curious. The pa...
A. 22 December 2009: well if you dont understand this then thats good it means youve never been a drug addict.
I answer this question all the time when some grl comes on her talking about she wants to have a baby with an abusive guy because she lUUVS him.
This s ... (read in full...)
Age gap
Q. Im a nineteen year old male who has always been into girls my own age or older. Recently a girl of 15 has started flirting and asking to date. I know her pretty well and she isn't a typical teen - she has a very mature personality and doesn't look ...
A. 22 December 2009: If her parents dont mind go for it hell if they dont care if some 19 yr old is doinking ther eteenage daughter who are we to judge just dont break her heart and screw things up for the nice that she will be meeting in the next ten years. Teenage ... (read in full...)
How to have sex life with porn star boyfriend?
Q. There is a man I have been seeing for the past 5 months we are now boyfriend and girlfriend. I found out he was a porn actor on our third date. He has mention introduced everybody even people he has worked with and caught him in the act on the job ...
A. 22 December 2009: What is your question exactly if you want to use condoms tell him but i think by law pornstars have to get regularily tested and since thats their career there not gonna be screwing around with just anybody many of the actors have known each other ... (read in full...)
Tell me the psychology behind this type of behavior man?
Q. Hey! I met a guy about 11 months ago and from day 1 he came on very strong, telling me only after 2 weeks he felt love for me, he smothered me and completely lusted over me, this completely freaked me out understandably so i regected his effections ...
A. 22 December 2009: I agree with your friend hes proabably being mean because he likes you but he needs to gro up, but when he was being nice you werent into him. You kno i admit im mean to girls i like not all but certain ones I notice alot of women if they realise ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I think I'm ready for sex, and sometimes not! So confused!
Q. ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years (he's 18 and im 16) hes had sex but im still a virgin, i love him but im not sure if im ready some times i think i am and other times not so much.im confussed and need help please. ...
A. 22 December 2009: When your ready you will kno it will just happen oyu wont have to think about i suggest waiting untill that happens when your with the rite person it will... (read in full...)
I pushed her away because I thought I was HIV positive. I'm not, now I want her to know!
Q. Hello all, My situation is rather embarassing, but regardless, i'd like to know how people would handle it. I dated a very special girl for four years. Right before I dated her, I had an incident while on vacation in south east asia. I w...
A. 22 December 2009: maybe you dont have to tell her all that im all for truth but the truth is people cant handle the truth, You need to call her up and tell you kno youve been screwing up but you where dealing with something and then tell her all that loving stuff, ... (read in full...)
To scared of being hurt again to move on
Q. i was in a serious relationship of 6years with the father of my 2year old son then he decided to just move on with his life because i did not agree to move in with him and he knows that im a christian i cannot live with him because we not ...
A. 21 December 2009: hmm you had sex and a child out of wedlock and your worried about moving in with the babies father well im a chrisitan to and that was pretty stupid. your allready sleepng with him who cares if you live with him being a christian doesnt mean you ... (read in full...)
Should I move on if my ex slept with someone else?
Q. My ex and I broke up about two weeks ago after 2 years together. I think we both knew it was coming because he was increasingly distant and trying to be more independent (by blowing me off) and I was increasingly worrying and picking silly fights ...
A. 21 December 2009: This works both ways it happenes to guys to look you basically need closure if thats possble and your bold enough to seek it would sugest stop playing teenage games using facebook and just call him ask him what ever you need to ask him to eel ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my V-card to my cousin?
Q. the thing is is that i want to have sex ( lose my viginity to ) with my older cousin. he is only older than me by 2 years and we are very close. he shows me love and we kiss and he fingers me and once got close to having sex. i love my cousin ...
A. 21 December 2009: She can google the laws on first cousns and deathly theres no scentific fact provng that babies born form first cousin have any more chance of birth defect then any other baby. theres several articles on it and no one is sure when t comes to first ... (read in full...)
Will I fit into his circle of high class friends?
Q. i met a guy a couple of days ago. hes awesome hes the type i go for. im 22 i dnt like dating younger guys my age because i dont find them in my level. so therefore i always go for older guys. so about this guy i met he 55 years old and hes a doctor ...
A. 21 December 2009: well good luck your not stupid you seem like you know what you want and i hope things work out well for you. we cant help who we like and if they like us back its a blessing maybe this is yours... (read in full...)
Best Friend is blowing hot and cold!
Q. My best friend of 2 and half years told me he loved me a few weeks ago and i was very happy and told him how i felt about him in return. Later on in the conversation he then said he was unsure of his feelings for me and didn't want to say anym...
A. 21 December 2009: Teenage drama apparently is universal from Siberia to the savanna. This guy for some reason is confused out of his mind i dont kno what the problem is i dont kno enough about him or you, whatever it is you cant fix it hes not even letting you help, ... (read in full...)
Christmas/Anniversary gift ideas?
Q. Okay so Christmas is right around the corner and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Also two days after Christmas is our anniversary. I want to get him something that he will like but then something that is also romantic and cute. We have been ...
A. 21 December 2009: Oh well then get him a video game or a hat... (read in full...)
Is there a recipe to fall out of love?
Q. Why is it that no matter how many lovers you've had it is those who got away that stay with you so long. Is there a recipe to fall OUT of love with someone who will never come back?...
A. 21 December 2009: Time time and more time Women tend to love so easily and deeply i think its harder for them to fall out of love if thats even possible I think its hard the person has to do something so terrble that you end up just hating them so mutch theres no ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my sister's boyfriend's son?
Q. ok so heres the problem. theres this guy, who i have managed to really open upto and feel really strongly about. we have a great time when we are together, and im constantly craving his company, the thing is that we have actually slept toget...
A. 21 December 2009: Tell your sister to talk to her Bf and the bf can talk to his son all on your behalf... (read in full...)
Should I lose my V-card to my cousin?
Q. the thing is is that i want to have sex ( lose my viginity to ) with my older cousin. he is only older than me by 2 years and we are very close. he shows me love and we kiss and he fingers me and once got close to having sex. i love my cousin ...
A. 21 December 2009: My sisters oyur age she told me what a V- Card was i thought it was for a cell phone the first time i heard some one say they lost there v card and i was like that sucks cuse cell phones arent cheap and all your contacts are on it any way Your a ... (read in full...)
I want him so bad but he doesn't plz help :(
Q. My husband just can't get into the mood any more with me we have only been married for 7 months but b-cuz of my past and me being hypersexual (AKA nympho maniac), It just feel that because of our age difference (12 yrs) he want someone closer to ...
A. 21 December 2009: why do some guys have get all the luck where are the girls like you in my hemisphere Well its possible you hve worn him out. a guy can only do but so much but so often. try ermm just asking him what the deal is and maybe you could turn it down a ... (read in full...)
How does sex feel?
Q. How does sex feel for a guy, when i decide to have it with my girlfriend, it will be my first time. Like what does it feel like in the inside and in your mind...
A. 21 December 2009: Theese answers are great wow Gwwarm, "then you have to talk to her" rotfl. i like the factor of ten thing too
This will be interesting to hear from the female perspective... (read in full...)
How can I keep fear from preventing me from doing things?
Q. I let fear keep me from doing alot of things and sometimes things i enjoy. Im 15 and im in high school and i kinda wanna be on the football team but the boys that are on the football are the type of boys who like to talk about people and play around ...
A. 21 December 2009: no matter wher eyou go if theres people there there gonna talk about you or someone or something its life man. Try out for the team sho them what youve got if you dont try out for the team you will regret it the rest of your life in fact youll never ... (read in full...)
Will I fit into his circle of high class friends?
Q. i met a guy a couple of days ago. hes awesome hes the type i go for. im 22 i dnt like dating younger guys my age because i dont find them in my level. so therefore i always go for older guys. so about this guy i met he 55 years old and hes a doctor ...
A. 21 December 2009: theres always haters if you like this guy then so be it but what do you expect to come out of this relation ship. Hes to old for you Im saying that so later i can say i told you so.If you want to just have a fling fine but dont read to mutch into ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps cheating so what do I do?
Q. My husband keeps cheating on me He gives me large amounts of money take care of his kids and pay all my bills we have been married for 5 years and have 3 beautiful girls ages 4, 3, 2, I'm 24 and he's 28 He's never home I'm gettng tired of this and ...
A. 21 December 2009: Tough one you gotta play this smart though.
Ok so hes cheating but if he was home all the time he would probably drive you crazy any way and you would probably just nag him to death. He gives use large sums of money pays all the bills sounds like... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him out of obligation?
Q. My boyfriend is in the Army. We have been together on and off for about two years. I love him with all my heart. I am still rather young and in high school still. I dont want to make himsound bad but he has not been faithful to me. I could never ...
A. 21 December 2009: if your not happy and he hurts you then theres your answer whats the point of being with someone that makes you feel this way your young you dont have an obligation to any one but your self. look if you love this guy send him his dear john letter ... (read in full...)
Why the reason for women marrying at a younger age?
Q. in our society, when there is age difference between husband and wife, i notice 99% time husband is older. Statistics also say that women generally get married at younger age than men throughout the world. what do you think the reason for that?...
A. 21 December 2009: your not gonna like my answer.
Men like younger women it means there healthier and can produce babies longer and youth has a thing of attractiveness to it and men are all about the looks in most casses some just settle
men can produce chil... (read in full...)
Am I making a huge mistake?
Q. my ex and i were together for over 3 years and broke up over a year ago but noone did anything so wrong..no cheating or anything..just arguments over silly things i contacted him a year later leaving a v-mail and he called me back a few minutes la...
A. 21 December 2009: awww snff snff you kno some guy was on here complaining that the questions on here are trivial but there oh so important to the one who ask, and since i have nothing better to do because i quite drinking and its a blizzard out side. i will help you ... (read in full...)
Convincing my parents for a date.
Q. The guy I like has finally asked me out on a date. Now the only complication of things is with my parents. They're asian, so most who have asian parents are VERY strict. I'd basically have to beg for them to let me go to the mall, let alone with a ...
A. 21 December 2009: if shes to young to go on dates when should she start, you see this is a double edged sword in some societies the youth are reared up at a young age to kno what good quality partner will be. in others there just cast out at 18 and expected to make ... (read in full...)
Dating a girl but more interested in her mom!
Q. I have been going out with a girl just recently but i seem to be more in love with her mom fantasising about her whenever i get the chance... if i dump my girl i won't get to see her mom ever so what can i do HELP......
A. 21 December 2009: it just a fantasy all fantasies are not meant to become reality keep it in your head and your head in your nevermind all im sayng is why do you feel like you need to act on this have some self control your in charge of your mind body and self ok ... (read in full...)
How can guys think its ok to look at porn when they know it bothers their partner?
Q. Just out of curiosity, how can guys think it's alright to lie about porn and continue to look at it when it really bothers their partner? I've never had problems with this (and am not currently), and honestly I don't have problems with porn in ...
A. 21 December 2009: DoubleM thats a deep answer i never thought about that, so basically your saying theres more porn because theres more porn. kool well people do get addicted to it ive whinessed this. The poster what your describing sounds like an addiction its the ... (read in full...)
Did she want to make a move on me?
Q. Im a lesbian and i have a straight best frend. well yesterday i was over at her house and we were messing around like we usually do ( non-sexual). well she pushed me on her bed and got on top of me she staired at me with innocent eyes like she ...
A. 21 December 2009: You kids are something theese days i dont remember being that smart or knowing words like aroused as a kid, any way theres no way we can kno what she wanted im sure you will find out in time... (read in full...)
The majority of questions on here are so trivial
Q. I've been frequenting the site for quite a while now, and although I believe people can gain insightful advice and in its concept its great I've noticed of late how trivial the majority of questions are. This isn't a post to have ago at certain ...
A. 21 December 2009: Well to the troubled soul who post the question its not trivial its something thats really effecting the quality of their life. Not everyone is as wise as you, think back to your life ten years ago there where things going on that maybe if you had ... (read in full...)
What did he mean? Is he just looking for more work, or does he want to see me personally?
Q. Hi, I am in need of some advice from a male perspective! I wont bore everyone with a long story so basically I met this guy the other day after he came round to my house to carry out some work. From the moment I opened the door I thought "wow"! We ...
A. 21 December 2009: Interesting Honeslty im not sure im sutch a straight forward guy, i dont want to be waitng around for her to call me if she calls me and how often does the girl make the first call. if hes a sales man maybe he is just securing a customer he sounds ... (read in full...)
I smelled my sisters feet when I was younger, am I normal?
Q. (MOD NOTE: TITLE IS ORIGINAL POSTERS)Sexual thoughts and family Okay so I'm 17 and for about a year ive had "intrusive thoughts" where i picture sexual acts with basicly everyone i meet, even family members. I'm quite disgusted with myself and ...
A. 21 December 2009: HHHMMM. In my opinion normal is what you feel you can live with, if your doing something that your ashamed of and making you uncomfortable its not normal. but on that same note what you find normal others wont and theres a difference between normal ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want some privacy to masterbate?
Q. I'm 14 years old and in the ninth grade, and like most guys my age I masturbate what I guess would be pretty frequently (at least one time a day if not more). I'd rather not do it in the bathroom, I'm just more comfortable in my bedroom, but my mom ...
A. 21 December 2009: Yeah i been there parents get dumb about alot of stuff and they feel kids dont need any privacy cause there kids and all that bull. i would suggest try finding a time when your mom is not gonna be around she cant be around 24 seven im sure she ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has porn videos on his phone
Q. MOD NOTE: This is 2 posts that were incorporated into one. Hey wel im 20 n my bf of 2yrz is 23. We used to be so close,but i dnt kno wot hapend. Anyway my bf had been acting realy sus 4 a wile n afta proving to a friend that i wasnt paranoid...
A. 20 December 2009: sounds like he has an addiction i say that because if my girl found porn and i realised it made her feel like crap i would honestly dump it all id let her burn it, but your bf is choosing porn over a real girl thats an addiction. personally i think ... (read in full...)
I wasted all my christmas money for my old boyfriend now what to do for my new one?
Q. Okay well as everyone knows that Christmas is comming close. Only thing is I bought my ex a present and I gave Otto him to be nice and let him know I still cared blah blah but now i Llike this other guy and I have no money to spend on him cuz I ...
A. 20 December 2009: You where thinking of stealing shame. any way maybe you shouldnt buy him any thing when will you learn your lesson. alas your just a kid so lessons take time. heres what you do tell him your broke and dont have anymoney to buy him a christmas ... (read in full...)
How do deal with a friend who's changed?
Q. Over the last couple of weeks i think either me or my friend has changed. I just can't be around her for a long time and and she acts immature and mean. I can't say it too her face because everytime I try she say's hasn't. I don't know what to do or ...
A. 20 December 2009: maybe her BFs ways have rubbed off on her ive heard that in some situations people can take on the aura of there partner and become more like them. maybe its time you let her go, not to be to nosey but do you have a bf because im thinking maybe your ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my religious brother
Q. hello guys, I just want to talk to you about my trouble... I've fallen in love with my brother. he doesn't know anything and I can't tell him because he is very religious person... I don't know how did it happen... as far as I can rememb...
A. 20 December 2009: um well lets start of with this im gonna assume your a normal rational human being but the band of normal stretches so wide and thin im not sure whats normal any more. part of me wants to say you only live one life do what you want but the God in ... (read in full...)
She's a party girl and I found messages saying I was boring
Q. 32 yr old male here...long story short..been with a girl 9 mo now and i love her deeply..we have been having some issues about her liking to go out alot more than i do and where we are at in our relationship. i recently found an e-mail from her to ...
A. 20 December 2009: LOL @ older sister wow. actually i have to side with this guy the main reason is if you suspect somethings wrong in a reltionship you should seek out evidence to back up your hunch. Plenty of women on this site mention how the sniff though there ... (read in full...)
Sex life is a mess, do I leave?
Q. how to leave loveless and sexless,is that possible? I've been married for 6 year now,we hav 6 year girl.the first 2 year we had a very healthy relationship but 4 year was just a mess in sexcuall way,after we got married he wanted sex alway...
A. 20 December 2009: it def sounds like its time for you to move on you have been having an affair for 2 years and your husband hasnt noticed that means he doesnt care pack up get out and divorce him because your not in a marriage your just living with some guy... (read in full...)
His cousin raped me yet he blames me for him cheating on me
Q. i have no idea what to call this i am so confused and have been through alot u can say from my bf. the beginning was good he treated me very good up until he found out about my past. I had kept a dark secret from him. I was raped by his cousin b...
A. 20 December 2009: this guy comes from a family of jerks obviously. I guess he just cant handle it for some reason some guys cant handle things like this properly he shouldnt be lashing out agaisnt you this way how could getting raped possibly be your fault no matter ... (read in full...)
Christmas/Anniversary gift ideas?
Q. Okay so Christmas is right around the corner and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend. Also two days after Christmas is our anniversary. I want to get him something that he will like but then something that is also romantic and cute. We have been ...
A. 20 December 2009: Of course get him two diffrent presents there two seperate ocasions. Get him something practical and use full not something cute and romantic hes a guy he wont even think its cute and romantic hell just pretend to understand just not to hurt your ... (read in full...)
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