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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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What is this horrible smelling discharge?
Q. I know it's really gross, but I have really vulgure smelling vaginal discharge. It's horrible, I can smell it all the time and I honestly feel like other people can smell it. I sent of a urine sample to the doctor and it came back with "no further ...
A. 18 August 2009: She never even said she was having sex or had a bf, but i agree with going to the doctor part and dont wear tght underwear... (read in full...)
If I'm on here asking, does that mean I don't like her enough to ask her out?
Q. Ok. I think I like a girl, but am not sure if I should ask her out! I have two schools of thought and not sure which to go with: 1) If I'm on here asking questions like this I can't like her enough and therefore as I already have doubts an...
A. 18 August 2009: Go with number two everyone has doubts relation ships can be long and get complicated give this girl a chance. its better to have butterflies in your stomach then three pints of ben & jerrys cause your sitting around lonely... (read in full...)
How can I stop the pain?
Q. I'm 15 I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years..we havnt had sex yet..I'm a virgin he's not...I'm ready 2 have sex with him..he's ready to..but I'm soo scared its gonna hurt...is there anything I could do to stop the pain?...
A. 18 August 2009: Your going to be scared the first time regardless of how old you are.
YOu can tell your bf to be gentle go slow use lots of lube ky
you should have some foreplay so your really aroused. If your in the mood the pain might not be so bad you need... (read in full...)
Is it odd for straight girl to watch gay men porn?
Q. Ok this is going to sound odd Im in my mid 20's and im not in the head place to be in a relationship right now so ive started to pleasure myself to porn (not alot but fairly frequently). I came across a gay porn site the other day and there was a ...
A. 18 August 2009: well str8 men watch lesbian porn or even girls that arent lesbians get it on, im gonna say its all good and that first bit of advice is retarted. Her slope isnt whats sippery if shes watching porn. who are you to anylyze if shes geting addicted.
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I'm married and hiding the fact from husband that I'm attracted to other women!
Q. I'm 40, married and have children. I don't feel any attraction to my husband anymore and I've been hiding the fact that I'm attracted to other women. I think I'd be happier with a woman, yet I've never had a relationship. My husband's first ...
A. 18 August 2009: i think you should tell your husband hes desserves the truth do you want to bring your children up in a house built on lies, plus when there older they will kno and under stand more. divorce is probably harder on older children they often feel they ... (read in full...)
Is making out with my sister incest?
Q. I could use advice. I was playing with my sister and we started to make out i kissed her and she didnt pull away or get mad.I kissed her more and touched her breast and began to suck them she was just wearing a tank top and tight shorts i began ...
A. 17 August 2009: Wikipedia says Incest is any sexual activity between relatives, it goes into more detail on all of that.
what you described i didn't think would be incest unless you actually had sex but heres the definition of sexual activity.
The term sexu... (read in full...)
My husband gives lifts home to a younger colleague when it's unncessary. Is something going on? Should I tell him to stop?
Q. My problem is that the other evening on a night out with my husbands works colleagues, he admitted to me that he sometimes gave a lift home to one of the office girls "as it is on the way home" now I was most surprised to hear this, as firstly it is ...
A. 17 August 2009: there may be nothing you can do try having sex with him more often you dont want to mess up is job by telling this girl hes a sex addict besides she could be turned on by that . telling him not to giver her a ride means hell find another ay he may ... (read in full...)
He says the age difference bugs him, but why doesn't he even try?
Q. Okay I grew up and I am a lot more mature and smarter when it comes to relationships and guys. And yet, I have a question and it has been bugging me for so long. I REALLY like this guy, he is smart and sweet and funny, all I want. I can talk to him ...
A. 17 August 2009: It can be weird having a younger girlfriend. A lot of people won't understand especially if she's still considered a minor. You can look at the many posts on this site condemning it. Don't try to make sense of this. No means no. I suspect there's ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, I want this 20-year-old to like me, is this OK??
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and theres this guy that i like but hes 20 and he always come over or we always text my uncle knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like this dude and we he always listens to my problems and ...
A. 17 August 2009: Hardly anyone in here has answered the qestion. I'm late on this but just because there's one stupid opinion after the next I'm gonna respond. You can't get in trouble for looking at an underage girl, as some have suggested. If that where the case... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to ask her?
Q. I've dropped a bollock! I was friends with a girl and I've asked her if we could ever be more than that. She said no but she also said that "maybe we shouldn't hang out as much" which basically means "get lost! I don't want to be your friend any ...
A. 17 August 2009: You weren't wrong to ask her, it's better than wondering, you should lose this woman, move on. Anything you do now will make you look desperate. She was not a good friend, or she would still want to be friends, at least, and care about your ... (read in full...)
How can I be more outgoing?
Q. im shy, quiet, and not very funny. i waanna be more outgoing and more funnny but im not reaally suure hoow to?hoow can i be more outgoing ?...
A. 17 August 2009: you are what you are i doubt you can change that, just live your life why do you want to be more outgoing being you has got you this far so dont change ... (read in full...)
Any experience with the effectiveness of prayer?
Q. I wonder if someone would share some of their experience with me, the effectiveness of praying... I'm not a religious man, yet, but I really would like to see, what God would tell me if I would ask him. Some people has beautiful stories, how pra...
A. 17 August 2009: seek and ye shall find i suggest you begin praying and make a connection with God. you should become saved as well. God is for us all if we choose. The act that you where born healthy could be a direct intervention by God. Its difficult to put exact ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity but how can I stop being nervouse?
Q. im nearly 15 and i havent lost my big V yet and my gf whants to have sex with me i want to do it too but im nevrous what can i do to not be nervous?...
A. 17 August 2009: Your probably gonna be nervous about your first time at any age.What you need to decide is if your ready is it something you want. Dont have sex to please some one else or becuse you think they will love you more. You dont need to rush you have... (read in full...)
Almost 21 and never had a boyfriend... will I ever find my true love?
Q. I have never had a boyfriend and I am turning 21 this year! To be honest, I am very worried now as I am already in the third year of my university life...... And I often gets depressed when I get questions about why i never have boyfriends before. ...
A. 17 August 2009: You might you might not there no gurantee, you could end up with ten kids or ten cats possibility and uncertainty is the spice of life.
Go with the flow enjoy the life you have theres a bunch of post from guys in here saying the same thing ahhh... (read in full...)
Teen porn
Q. So here it goes. My boyfriend and I don't live together, and we are both in our early twenties. Every once in a while I'll go over to his place and use his computer to check my facebook and myspace. His browser history pops up every time I start to ...
A. 17 August 2009: Hes a liar do you smell the BS its even steaming lol. drop this guy simply because hes a liar, But im 99.95% sure he looks at teen girls just like 99.95% of all the other men i had to deduct for the blind ones.
many Teenage girls dress sexy by... (read in full...)
We both think going down on each other is gross. What can we do?
Q. im dating a guy who was a virgin before i met him. we have basically done everything except oral on me. he tried oral on me once but didnt like it. he thinks its gross because of my natural scent. i told him there is nothing wrong but he insists its ...
A. 16 August 2009: This guy sounds like a vagina conisuer welll i would say tell your guy to eat better oh pinneapple for guys i heard makes it taste better not that i will ever no he can eat cans of pinneaple it migth work for girls to i dont kno maybe he could numb ... (read in full...)
He's become a 4plus beers a night kind of guy
Q. My boyfriend has always enjoyed a few bottles of beer after work and in evenings. But a few beer is turning into up to 4 a night. Me and his family are very worried that he is now alcohol dependant. What should we do - he wont admit that there is ...
A. 16 August 2009: it four beers depending on his size and weight and metabolism it could mean nothing . is his drinking affecting his work or family besides you worrying ids he violent.
If the nan is putting bread on the table and keeping a roof over your heads le... (read in full...)
I don't think I'll trust someone again
Q. I am 20 going to be 21 this year and have never had a boyfriend before. Actually, there were several guys who pursue me last time and I almost got into a relationship with a guy (J) this year april after dating for around 3 months. We agreed to keep ...
A. 16 August 2009: your gonna let this guy treachery ruin your chance at love and finding a good guy ? does that make sense? look guys lie people lie this guy has asked you 7 times he must really like you your just dating a trying things out just dont have sex with ... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 16 August 2009: Children can die they bleed and feel lonely they need love just like adults. 13 is considered consentual in some places and in others 8 yrs olds are routinely married off. Whats so bad about a 13 yr old having sex i agree there should be limits... (read in full...)
Is it a problem if my right breast is bigger than my left breast?
Q. please, is it a problem if my right breast is bigger than my left breast?...
A. 16 August 2009: did you just now figure this atleast you just have a breast lobsters have whole arm thats bigger then the other... (read in full...)
Feeling alone, when is a person at the bottom of the barrel?
Q. Sometimes in the past I have found myself in a situation of extreme loneliness. Like not being able to find a friend in the world:(. During those times I found slight comfort in reading or masturbating, but nothing really cured the desire to go out ...
A. 16 August 2009: AWww you no whats sweet theres a young lady who posted on here saying basically the same thing maybe you can find her and you two might hit it off.
after you join the millitary get shipped to a warzone i think being lonely will be the last of ... (read in full...)
Wife tied me up for bondage then proceeded to list all the things I did wrong, and no sex!
Q. hi aunty,I got married for 6 months now..2 nights back,we decided for bondage sex,so my wife tied me down to the bed with handcuffs..intially she teased me and kissed..once I was tied up properly and at her mercy..she slapped me..and then yelled at ...
A. 16 August 2009: This is why you shouldnt have women all over our money and beavers and moose. im guessing that cold canadian air is getting to you my northern brother because one your wife is smarter then you shes allready prepared for your revenge. chalk this up ... (read in full...)
Damage through prostate massage?
Q. Earlier this week, I gave myself a prostate massage. Since then, I have struggled to get an erection or even become aroused. Is it possible that I have somehow damaged myself? I've never felt like this before. My Penis feels sort of... not "numb"...
A. 16 August 2009: You said your penis is numb and your asking if you should go see a doctor i guess men always do think with there little head, even if the doc was my grandmother i would have been in the office yesterday. what are you waiting for my friend hurry ... (read in full...)
With friends like this....
Q. okay, so im seventeen and ive never actually had a boyfriend, i was more interested in my school work, i was interested in boys, but felt i was too young for a relationship.. etc :) well recently, me and this guy (dean) have been talking, alot. we ...
A. 16 August 2009: shes bull shting you hope* im guessing she thought it would be funny to tell you that. You should call her up and find out if she was serious or joking if shes joking and she doesn apologize after you tell her how she made you feel shes not a friend ... (read in full...)
Older women Vs younger... What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages?
Q. Datin older women, its a fad that's taking over under the radar more than you think. I love older women, between 28 and 39 is awesome, they just know more about what they want and either already have it or are very close to getting it. I have been ...
A. 16 August 2009: I think it depends where you are in your life i think young guys under 25 should date older women 25 and older instead of all the emotionally unstable immature teenage and barely legal ones that are posted up in the club with there fake ids.
Older... (read in full...)
I need help! My fiance won't go down on me, and I also want to please him more!
Q. I have a fiance that wont go down on me and I need my sex pleasures to be meant please help me out and also I want to please my man more How can I do that and in what positions. please help me...
A. 16 August 2009: sex101.com somthing like that check it out. staying in shape and looking as sexy you can will help... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be Bi?
Q. Is there anything wrong with being Bi? I think I am Bi, Bi-curious at the least... But people have assumed that I was a lesbian in the past and always took the piss out of me for it. Especially anyone who was religious would always be like "ewr... ...
A. 16 August 2009: Religiously i would say its wrong and a sin but sins can be forgiven and if your not religious then it doesn't matter. But i think a lesbian has a much better chance at getting into heaven then a wife beater. Depending on your religion you can... (read in full...)
Why would he say bad things about me?
Q. ok so i am so depresed because of a stupiimmature thing like ''whos the best kisser'' but i need help coz it's hurting my feelings... almost every guy i kiss always wants more and we can make out all day long and they seem to like it so much ...
A. 16 August 2009: AWWWW. maybe he meant your lips where dryyy use lots of lip gloss. Honestly i dont think guys care about kissing at least not on there lips.There just boys being jerks they will regret it. all the girls you treat bad in hs you wish you hadnt one ... (read in full...)
How big or not big do ladies like him to be?
Q. Yes this is a freaky question but I'm in the mood so here it goes, ladies, when it comes to the cut of a penis for you, what's your preference. Yea we got all these topics about "I'm too small" or "I'm too big", but not too much on " what she ...
A. 16 August 2009: anonymous, i dont think you under stood the question. The poster wants to kno what size women like or preffer it has nothing to do with ho much they like the guy.
Using your breast analogy this is what he meant, what size breast do guys preffer ... (read in full...)
We don't have sex anymore and I don't know why!
Q. Heres my story i bin with this guy for two years now and we do not have sex anymore i just dont get why im not ugly im thin im not loose what so ever im definetly not boring in bed i have done everything and when we use to have sex or id give head ...
A. 16 August 2009: Hes a jerk honestly i think you kno the answer to this , at your age any guy should be all over you you should be telling him you dont want the sex not craving it why have you been with this guy this long. it must be hard to find a guy in canada.
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My 15 year old Greek Tragedy
Q. I am 15 and i have fallen in love with my cousin. I went to France to visit family that i have never met. (i've never been overseas and i was going by myself) i stayed with my aunt. A and uncle J. and two cousins that i have met before because ...
A. 16 August 2009: I think if you like him go for it but how would you make sutch a relation ship work. everyone is always saying your to young or to old difrent people are ready at diffrent times the divorce rates are insane in the states and im pretty sure there ... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what to do about my family problems?
Q. I'm 15 years old and it feels like my family is falling apart. i have two older sisters - one is 18, one is 20, a younger sister who is 14 and a younger brother who is 9. my mum and dad are still together, but argue a lot. my mum spends most of her ...
A. 16 August 2009: where is she gonna go at 18 the only 18 yr old girls that have it all at 18 are pornstars i dont think she should leave the house but she could get a job to help out the 20 yr old to.
your sisters are two old for this nonsense you really dont need... (read in full...)
I don't want to live like this anymore but don't know what the alternative is?
Q. Could Somebody Please Help Me. I have been struggling with this issue for 2 years now and feel that despite trying to get help for my daughter and myself that there aren't any solutions and I feel that I cannot go on living like this anymore. ...
A. 16 August 2009: Get your daughter in to counseling now get away from that man try and get full custody get proof that hes a bad influence on her hell this post will probably due this is sad. if you want to save your daughter she needs counseling and to be away from ... (read in full...)
Ugly woman thinks I'm her b/f just because I'm nice to her!
Q. Dear Cupid, There is this girl that lives in the room and board house I'm at who is very attracted to me, but I can barely look at her because she's so ugly. To describe just how ugly she is, not only is she horribly overweight, but she looks li...
A. 16 August 2009: Go get your sister and pretend lke shes your gf and introduce her to this woman and say hey did you ever meet my gf... (read in full...)
Am I a stupid wife or just an untrusting wife?
Q. I recenty got suspicious of my husband. Normally following business trips over ten years he leaves me to unpack his case and now he empties it immediately and washes his dirty laundry that he never does laundry. Last week I was involved in a minor ...
A. 16 August 2009: Get a private investigator theres companies that specialize in this and get proof even in the face of proof people like this will still lie.... (read in full...)
Is my semen safe enough for my wife to consume?
Q. Am married man. My wife has fetish for oral sex.. she loves all time to sawllow my semen atleast 3-4 times in a week. as she like the taste and smell.. she often applies to her face and she believes its gives wonderful results on skind. what i...
A. 16 August 2009: wow yeah its safe dude its just salts and proteins, probably has alot of nutritional value not that i would eat any but ive heard people eat horse semen and camel in some cultures. semen creates life it defiantly wont hurt her if your healthy. ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to my now ex-boyfriend, but according to him I wasn't a virgin before him! What do you make of this?
Q. I had my 1st sex last year when I was 20 wid my ex-boyfriend. But according to him, I was not virgin. I actually didn't understand what he meant. As according to him, I didnt suffer any pain much, and everything went so smooth. I got a lil confused ...
A. 16 August 2009: This guy is a jerk, he just wanted you for your virginity he probably went and laughed about with his buddies. i cant under stand why guys do this maybe they feel taking a girls virginity and leaving them makes them more of a man. It doesnt it makes ... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 16 August 2009: I think its gross but its really popular in porn you shouldnt be degraded by it im thinking saliva is one of the best lubricants there is for this pourpose im pretty sure your guy cares about you and wouldnt want to make you feel degraded. its ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity and its totally forbidden! What do I do?
Q. well...i live in the middle east in a country where sex before marriage is a sin worst then killing i've been with my bf for almost 6 months and we already had sex nobody knows about it...not even my best friend i'm so affraid of telling anyone b...
A. 16 August 2009: You shouldnt enter a marriage on a lie if you ever slip up and he finds the truth things will be bad plus its just not rte. Your not a virgin any more and God knows the truth if you lie about it he may punish you lying is more of a sin then no... (read in full...)
Is money the most important thing in life?
Q. Is money important? my mum says i should marry someone only for money, and basically im confused because my dad thinks the total opposite(that you should marry for love and money dosn't matter, and you should do anything you want to do and be who ...
A. 16 August 2009: Love doesnt always last either and even if you love some one money issues can be a cause for divorce. I think it depends on your circumstances. I believe in devotion and duty when you marry some one its your duty to look out for there best intre... (read in full...)
What's going on between my old teacher and me?
Q. ok so just 2 days ago i saw my old science teacher who i had when i was in eighth grade. im really attracted to him and i know the feeling was mutual when he was my teacher. but i wonder if the feeling still is? Now I'm 17 and I believe he is 30 ...
A. 16 August 2009: awwww you sound so conflicted, the yearnings of the heart can be so demanding. Your almost 18 in some states 17 is legal so from a legal stand point this probably wouldnt have a problem getting with you. Socially it could be awkward your families ... (read in full...)
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