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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I think my boyfriend is hinting about having sex, but I don't think I'm ready
Q. Today I hung out with my boyfriend and we got on to the topic of sex. We weren't even talking about anything like that before, but he randomly started the topic. He said that like everyone has done it from his school. I think that he was hinting ...
A. 19 December 2009: DONT DO IT... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance and pursue the high school jock?
Q. I am a gay junior in high school and i have a huge crush on this senior guy in one of my classes. anyways... i started liking this guy when i noticed him more in my class. he is soo cool and sooo nice :) ive only talked to him about twice but i...
A. 19 December 2009: Sounds like you allready know him well let me see if im a straight guy and a gay guy came up to me theres a few things he could say and walk away with his spirit still inside his body, him introducing me to his sister for one. look i suggest you ask ... (read in full...)
They wont let us see each any more!!
Q. Okay so, I've been in my relationship for 1 year and 2 months so far. We've gone through a lot and overcome it all. The fact we didnt see each other after we met for 5 months, was because we had to get each other's parents to like us, and the fact ...
A. 19 December 2009: how old are you exactly any way i way i kind of got a little lossed i cant believe kids have so mutch drama now adays well i guess my space and sexting doesnt help. i would suggest waiting untill your 18. Or you could just go to his house and talk ... (read in full...)
Married a few months only and husband puts me down
Q. hi i just got married a few months back and my husband was very kind to me then. but know we just had our first son and he know 5 months of age. my husband makes me feel real bad. he makes bad remarks about my weight. i gained fifty pounds with the ...
A. 19 December 2009: Have you tried talking to your husband or if its to difficult to talk you can write him a letter. Im a guy and and honestly it annoys the crap out of me when a woman whines and complains and acts like my mother. The weight issue is a big issue for ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to be a loser forever?
Q. sorry its long I am a quieter gay female in my mid-late 30s, have a very small circle of straight friends who i see occasioanally, my closest friend is the only one who knows im gay, which is fine, shes 150% straight but Ok with me being n...
A. 19 December 2009: theres hundreds of books on getting people to like you can read them all and practice what they teach a popular book is titled how to make friends and influence people. I think you should give that a shot it cant hurt. the thing is this stuff is ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to not hate me anymore?
Q. theres this girl whose 12 and i am 13, well me and here use to get along real well like talked all night for days we even ran of thing to talk about(this was in the summer). we had a few fights and a wierd situation after i sayed i liked her, she ...
A. 19 December 2009: LOL thats funny wow kids these days lmao. sigh i remember the 80s it was a great era Russia was comunist the music was Hot Muscle cars still lined the streets and 12 year olds didnt have drama. You made a huge mistake you told a girl she looked ... (read in full...)
What do guys look for in potential girlfriends?
Q. I am 14 and a freshman in high school. I have a lot of guy and girl friends but no boyfriend and lately I have been questioning myself. Three of my closest friends recently got boyfriends and they are always talking about them. I feel so left out, ...
A. 19 December 2009: WOW your 5"11' at 14 and the 38D thing impressive that explains alot im going to have to suggest that guys are intimidated by you. what guys go for in HS they go for looks, and there's no real standard you cant help who you like one guy can think a ... (read in full...)
What to do about our break up?
Q. what do i do me and my boyfriend broke up we were supposed to get engaged this christmas. he though i was pregnant but i am not. i though i was but i was wrong so now i know i am not i am going on the pill he is mad because he wants a baby.but he ...
A. 19 December 2009: GOOD FOR YOU! hes a dead beat leave him and dont look back, if you had a kid this guy would probably leave you any way then you would be pregnant and alone. Africa is a great example of why you shouldnt have kids when you dont have a job or money, ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my husband's brother
Q. my husbands brother moved in with us after his divorce. he had no where to stay so i agreed to let him stay with us. i spent some time with him, while my husband was at work. I got to know him better, and acually got close with him, i find myself ...
A. 19 December 2009: tell your husband
its not the brothers fault your falling for him but it will be your fault if you dont do anything about it tell your husband he has to go he can stay with his mom or something do you really want to ruin your marriage and your fami... (read in full...)
I feel pathetic coming to the internet for advice but here is my story!
Q. hi... i feel really retarded and pathetic for coming to the internet for help but i honestly dont know what else to do. i guess i should start by saying im 19 and ive been "in love" with my best (guy) friend since my sophomore year of high sch...
A. 19 December 2009: you should talk to him either he will forgive you and move on and want a relationship with you or he wont, you ignored him for two years its hard to get over that.He needs to grow up and realize people make mistakes he missed out on you before but ... (read in full...)
I feel like the only time he wants to be alone with me is when he wants to have sex!
Q. My boyfriend is always playing games on his xbox live and him ad his friend are attached to the hip, the sit around all day playing xbox or somtimes they watch movies. I never get to spend alone time with him because I can never pull him away from ...
A. 18 December 2009: you need to talk to him mayb hes just getting in quality time before his friend leaves you should sit down and have an adult conversation with him if he wont make an effort then its probably time to move on... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to be consumed by the idea of having a threesome with my husband and another man?
Q. My husband and I have been happily married for 20 yrs. Recently I have had fantasies about having a threesome with him and one of his friends. I mentioned this to him and he loved the idea and asked which friend? It doesn't matter to me as long as ...
A. 18 December 2009: I dont think your crazy for wanting to do this its basically just a fantasy a primal urge maybe some things are not meant to be acted on, there has been post on here in the past of this type of thing and they usually say things werent the same with ... (read in full...)
This boy takes my breath away so what should I do about him?
Q. ok...SO iv'e been liking this boy for about 4-5months now and it's funny kuz when i first saw him....my brothers had already told me stuff he said about me like"MAN I LIKE YOUR SISTER" and shes kute and more stuff and it's like when i saw him for ...
A. 18 December 2009: why dont you start going on dates with and spend time togather... (read in full...)
Sharing a bed with my girlfriend has become a nightmare. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm having some real problems in bed with my girlfriend, but not in the way you would immediately think. Sharing a bed with her has become a total nightmare, specifically when we stay at her flat. I'm usually awoken at nights when she pulls m...
A. 18 December 2009: well i dont kno what a duvet is but im guessing if you get another one that could help some of your problem sounds like a biger bed and better mattres could help aswell. you can get an air matress and sleep on that when your at her place. suggest ... (read in full...)
How long does No Contact last?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help....
A. 18 December 2009: dont call forget him he broke up with you move on theres other guys and you have a life to live... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my social awkwardness?
Q. I was wondering what people talk about when they go to a bar. I just got back tonight and a swear I cleared out the place. I had nothing to say. It's weird some nights I am easy going and talkative and other nights I am so shy I can hardly speak. ...
A. 18 December 2009: I go to the bar with friends for food and drink, we usually talk about the events of the day and tell stories from the past and even if its not funny when your drunk everything is laughable, we also try hard to get each other drunk trying all kinds ... (read in full...)
Will I get him back?
Q. Ok,(I gotta give some background here) so I was with this guy, lets call him Bob for this, for 8 months. It was absolutely amazing. He changed my life. Literally. He loved me, I loved and still love him. It was a great relationship. We never really ...
A. 18 December 2009: thats strang it doesnt make since to me i guess you could just give him time but really i think your gonna have to move on for some reason he doesnt want to be with you any more people do strange things, maybe if you leave him alone he will realize ... (read in full...)
What is the legal age to buy condoms?
Q. how old u have 2 be 2 buy condoms my friend said 16 i said any age whats right?...
A. 17 December 2009: finding out the legal age to have sex doesnt answer the qestion any way if once you get out the womb you can start buying condoms and its easy to get free ones to but dont use a cheap brand cuse you might regret it.... (read in full...)
How do I get boys to like me in that way?
Q. I'm 14, nearly 15 and I've never even came close to having a boyfriend. Nearly all of my friends have had lots of boyfriends or at least their first kiss. Am I as behind as I feel? How do I get guys to like me in that way? I feel so slow in this ...
A. 17 December 2009: Theres nothing you can do to make them like you as you grow and develop more you will become more attractive and guys will start paying you more attention and then you might just wish they didnt. It miht seem like your the only one but your not not ... (read in full...)
I have a question for the guys???
Q. Ok im trying to keep my virginity so is there anything that i could do sexually that guys like to do without having intercoarse?...
A. 17 December 2009: I think you have a reasonable question it sounds like some of the people answering regret having lost their virginity, theres a big difference between a BJ and sex atleast in america you cant get pregnant for one and im pretty sure if your saving ... (read in full...)
Before we married he wanted sex many times a day, after marriage not at all!
Q. I wanted to ask, my husband since we got married stop wanting sex with me from the wedding night and even the honeymoon, in four years of marriage we had little sex, I was always crying for it, yes crying, I am not fat, I am young and I am Latin, he ...
A. 17 December 2009: you said you married him because he wanted sex alot that tells me all i need to know thats gotta be the one of the top dumbest reasons to get married, i understand marrying for money or to unites waring clans but marrying for sex is pretty mutch ... (read in full...)
What is the least painful sexual position for a virgin?
Q. Im 14, and me and my bf are ready for sex for the first time, im kinda scared though, whats the easiest/ least painful position for first timers?...
A. 17 December 2009: LOL OK ill try and stop laughing if you have to ask this qestion maybe you shouldnt be having sex lol any way how about oral... (read in full...)
I asked her on a date, but she said no, now I feel hurt
Q. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. I have never gone out with anyone, and this doesnt help my confidence any. But my friends convinced me that I should ask out a girl that i talk to a lot and am very good friends with. She is in some of my classes ...
A. 17 December 2009: AGZW is a pimp thats good advice lol thats probably why 90% say no because AGZW has all the girls... (read in full...)
How do I attract a guy that doesn't want me for sex
Q. so all my friends have boyfriends and have already lost there virginity. they dont pick on me for still being a virgin but they dont really talk about anything else beside haveing sex. i am really focused on school and haveing a job. im almost 17 ...
A. 17 December 2009: the guys are teasing you so you put out and grls just so there jealous you shouldnt have sex for the reasons you described stay focused on your goals maybe in time a decent man will come your way theres no gurantee on that but having sex is not ... (read in full...)
Husband got laid off, became lazy, after 3 years of this, I want out!
Q. i realy dont know how to start i been married to my husband for 6 years we have 3 children together the frist 3 years he was working hard and i was stay home mam then he got layd off then since i had better experince at work i star going back to my ...
A. 17 December 2009: well its beter of for worst right you husband needs to get his butt kiked thats what he really needs i hate guys like that treating there wives like that well i would suggest telling him your considering a divorce because appereantly he doesnt want ... (read in full...)
I miss my father and scared to confide in my mom!
Q. I,m a 13 year old girl and my father is in the army, so he is always very busy and he is never around to help me. I am scared of sharing things with my mom. My problem is that we have just shifted to anew place and I hate this place. I don't even ...
A. 17 December 2009: aww 13 is sutch a crazy yr i remember being 13 life was surprisingly hard and miserable and there was no internet back then well the best advice i can give you is to hang in there life gets better it really does you will make more friends and find ... (read in full...)
If a guy says he's been really busy, has he?
Q. I met a guy from a dating site. We talked a lot over the span of two weeks. Then I went to go stay with him for the weekend. I even met his friends and family and he bought every meal for me over the weekend. He even told me, before I left, to let ...
A. 17 December 2009: hmm thats a hard question i say that even when im not busy it basically meant for some reason didnt talk to her some times i just dont feel like talking to anyone and ill say that but its possible that he really was busy i dont think you should ... (read in full...)
Two breakups in one year, I KNOW I deserve better!
Q. Please help me. I've been through two horrible break-ups this year. The first was a two-year relationship, my first love, the first guy I ever slept with. The second lasted about 7 months. I wanted it to work so badly. I was in love with him...
A. 17 December 2009: Hi thats sad i was just thinking i consider my self a nice guy but girls still play hard to get well i think you need to start doing that i mean screening the guys that come your way may help but time will heal you i guess cheating seems to be a ... (read in full...)
My friends tell me to be myself, but then they tell me I'm boring!
Q. I have always been a "worry-wart" and very cautious person- I'm introverted and am a homebody. My friends on the other hand are all outgoing, extroverts who like to socialize with everyone and party. Two of my friends have said that I was "boring." ...
A. 17 December 2009: maybe you shouls see a shrink i mean a profesional brain anylyzer pyschotrsy im having trouble with big words today any way maybe your bipolar. i kinda get where your coming from thoug i hate the term just be your self cuse some people are jerks ... (read in full...)
Do girls go on top or on bottom?
Q. I have a question, during sex is the female normally on top? i no its more of a choice thing but generally are girls expected to go ontop??...
A. 17 December 2009: all i can do is say lol the answers are good though ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregant, I want an abortion without being judged!
Q. hi i am really worried that i am pregnant. I have a feeling that i am and i think im starting to look as though i am. i am scared to go to the doctors because I am afraid of being judged and i know it sounds stupid but if i am i want to abo...
A. 17 December 2009: what planet is that flag you have from of course your gonna be judged but you dont hve a choice if you want to get rid of the parasiste growing inside you but yeah like everyone said try the home testing thing before you freak out and if you look ... (read in full...)
Should I end it now and wait until he is 18?
Q. I am going out with a guy that is a few years younger than me (underage). I really care about him and every day I get emotionally closer to him. I’ve never felt this comfortable with a guy before. We have the confidence to open up to each other and ...
A. 17 December 2009: hes a guy he can handle it why do you think the females teachers that sleep with male students get 7 yrs in jail and the male teachers get 20 no one cares about guys just dont even if he tells no ones gonna care, he thanking his lucky stars your his ... (read in full...)
Professor giving us dating and courtship suggestions
Q. Hello,Guys~~ one of my professors is always telling us not to touch g girl even though she probably is you girl friend to protect her and make sure she is clean. Telling this, he also aften do some disgusting actions... The problem is that I ...
A. 17 December 2009: make sure she is clean i agree with the professor or you could go to the sea for lobster and get crabs... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to approach women I find attractive
Q. So I've been hanging out with this girl that I really like. However, when I'm with her I just don't feel "it". She's really awesome and I actually do have feelings for her. It's just that it seems like she is a better friend then a girlfriend. But ...
A. 17 December 2009: ask people you kno how they met there gf or bf, The opportunity comes up alot to meet someone you just have to take advantage of the situation, for example you go to the store theres a really cute cashier start a conversation with her and get her ... (read in full...)
Can you give me tips for being on-top?
Q. Hi, im a woman. I want to please my boyfriend. can you give me tips for being on-top? thanks...
A. 17 December 2009: you could just try watching some videos on it see the difrent positions availible as long as his penis is in you im sure he will be pleased... (read in full...)
My younger brother is caught up in an online relationship with an older woman
Q. My brother is a really shy guy who doesn't like to go out much. He is a cutie pie and I wish he could be around more girls cause he has the looks. He is just too shy for his own good. Well, lately he has been talking to a woman online who I am ...
A. 17 December 2009: you sound like your close to your brother i have alot of siblings and i stay in all of there business you gotta look out for family i think your doing the right and it is your business becuse its your brother i would say just try to keep and eye on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's habit of taking care of "business' himself is creating problems in our sex life
Q. Good morning, I am having difficulties in my relationship with my boyfriend that I live with. One problem that seems to be getting bigger is our sex life. Lately, he has been masturbating before work in the shower and I know this is going on. ...
A. 17 December 2009: wow is your age correct any way let me clear up two things one your man s probably still masterbating asking him not to is like asking him not to breathe its not good for his health eather it would be like if he asked you not to have your period, ... (read in full...)
Since she fell pregnant, my girlfriend has lost her allure
Q. Hi My girlfiend is 6 months pregnant and i dont feel attracted to her anymore. Before she got pregnant, we hardly ever had sex and on the one occasion we did she got pregnant (she said she was on the pill) When we first started dating sh...
A. 17 December 2009: your having sex with this girl even if its limited the least you can do is talk to her about your feelingd, some people need a fire put under them, talk to her and tell her and tell her how you feel what youve said doent sound unreasonable ... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: In my opinion you shouldnt be living with a bf and you shouldnt be paying half a mortgage if your not on the title you can pay other expenses like electric etc if you and your bf split you will be on the street while hes livng in a house you put ... (read in full...)
Please give me some insight on how to get him back...
Q. I'm 18 years old and for the last year and 5 months have been in love with a 38 year old man. I've heard it all before, oh he's too old for you, oh he's only using you for sex. So I really dont need to hear it from people on here who dont even know ...
A. 11 December 2009: just be honest with him tell him how you feel you should call him and talk to him right now tell him what you wrote in here.... (read in full...)
I would LOVE to go out with her but she only likes me as a friend...
Q. help! i have a total crush on a girl but she doesnt like me like me she likes me as friend but thats it. i love her so much and i just wondered if anyone had any tips for me not to be big headed or anthing but im quite attractive and most people ...
A. 11 December 2009: LOVE thats a big word man to big to be throwing around all willy-Nilly and its your problem, i dont think you no what love means i dont even believe in love but basically you want this girl because people want what they cant have. Theres good news ... (read in full...)
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