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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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My cousin and I love each other, but my family won't let us be together. Help!
Q. i love my cousin; but i have a boyfriend. ma cousin lives with me and my family. my love for him grows every day. i have so much love for him that i dont even know if i love for my boyfriend. i no that my cousin loves me back cause he tells me ...
A. 7 September 2009: love is love adams chick came from his own rib a cousin isnt a big deal. If you like this guy go for it where will your parents be 40 yrs from now when your shacked up with some guy you hat planning your third divorce parents dont no everythng they ... (read in full...)
We're ready to get married but his parents won't consent - is there a way around this?
Q. I am an 18 year old mother of 2 beautiful boys and their father is only 17..we are trying to get married so he can go of to the army but its becoming impossible because his mother does not approve..we have been together for 4 years now and were ...
A. 7 September 2009: its possible probably alot of work why do you want to get married now after all these years. His mom is looking out for her sons best interest and getting marred at 17 usually is a bad decision. but since you have children with this boy there's no ... (read in full...)
Can I repair my relationship with my step sister?
Q. I have massive feeling of love for my step sister. We didn't grow up together and she is alot older than me. I have recently admited to her that i have a crush on her. She doesn't really seem to mind, but i feel arkward around her and i am scared to ...
A. 7 September 2009: you said you told her and she didnt mind so whats the big deal shes your step sister so your not blood related maybe she likes you too ... (read in full...)
Can you harm yourself by masturbating too much?
Q. Hi. I enjoy masturbating and find myself doing it perhaps 2 or 3 times a day. I am 16 years old and i'm extreamly horny all the time. I am worried if i masturbate too much then something might happen to me. Will anything happen and have i got ...
A. 7 September 2009: HMMmm I heard a that it could make you lazy, unless your the lucky guy that happens to have women fall from the sky into your arms Finding and keeping a gf can be hard work it takes some effort but if you just go around whacking it all the time ... (read in full...)
I want to have a Gay relationship with my cousin. Is this ok?
Q. Hai,I have a cousin,just call him kel,he's 21 and he is gay. Recently, he called me, telling me he liked me, and asking me, whether I want to be with him or not, I do admit I like him too,and I want to accept him, but the problem is, we are cousins. ...
A. 7 September 2009: GAY Relationship with cousin, does that sound ok? But hey its your life do what you feel you can live with. ... (read in full...)
I got his attention...Now what?
Q. I hit it off flirting with a really hot restaurant bartender. Before my friend came over I started up a conversation with him and we talked for about an hour. The other servers kind of laughed that they didn't want to interrupt him when they needed ...
A. 5 September 2009: if your In a bar your old enough to stop playng highschool games, just go back and talk to the guy you could just ask him if he wants your number. Either he does or he doesnt you wont know unless you ask.... (read in full...)
Why risk the chance of pregnancy?
Q. If man know when their are cumming, why is it that their still will cum inside? (Especially when they are avioding getting her pergnant)....
A. 3 September 2009: You really should be asking why do the men not wear a condom. Ejaculating is no more a willful act then sneezing.Its like trying not to sneeze in a room full of pepper. The other question you could ask is why does the woman let a man that doesnt ... (read in full...)
Does your body change after first time sex?
Q. Okay I know im 17 and all but I hear so many things and I can't tell if its bullsh and it or not dose your body change after having sex? If so how Do your breast get bigger Hips expand(I think it dose duh!) What happens? Thanks for the h...
A. 2 September 2009: Ive heard theese stories over the years as well, maybe theres some scientific research into this. but for the most part i would say sex doesnt change your body maybe your mind though.... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer small, petite girls?
Q. Do guys prefer small, petite girls? I'm 4'11. Most of my guy friends love short girls, but I have met some who prefer 5'6 and over. What do you think?...
A. 2 September 2009: Every body is different some guys like small women some like big ones. I would say the problem with being 4'11" is well men wont see you as a woman but a child. but if a guy likes you he wont be concerned with your height to much. ... (read in full...)
We used to have a great relationship but now we have a son he doesn't want to see him!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we have a baby together. We had a great relationship,but now that we have our son he dont call he doesnt see him. So i was wondering does he still want to be in the relationship and be there for his son ...
A. 25 August 2009: you really should just ask him. You cant force hm to be involved in the kids life but you can atleast get a slice of the loosers check, take his u kno what to court and make sure hes pays up the child support.... (read in full...)
I want to be sexual with him, are his morals holding him back?
Q. So I love my guy to death even though it's ling distance. We are both from good Christian families and have the same morals and beliefs. However I went through a slump a few months before I met him and lost my virginity and had occasional sex. We ...
A. 25 August 2009: if he liked it he wants it again.
If you can have sex with this guy then you should be able to have this conversation with hm too. talk to this man and find out how he feels instead of analyzing your self to death ... (read in full...)
Sex, sperm and condoms!
Q. Well I went to my friends house and me and my boyfriend slept together and we use a condem, when we were done he dropped it on the table. When i went to grabb it i had sperm on my hands but when i wiped it off i ran my hand down it to make sure that ...
A. 25 August 2009: you can get a home tester theres no age limit to by them their pretty simple and cheap. thats the best way to be sure, but form what you described its highly un likely you would get pregnant.... (read in full...)
Boys say I'm pretty but then they're not interested. Is there something wrong with me? I really want a boyfriend.
Q. ok i know im only 14 and lots of people would say im to young to have a boyfriend but i dont think so. lots of my friends have had boyfriends and stuff but not me. there plenty of nice fella around but none of them seem 2 b intressed in me. is there ...
A. 25 August 2009: There are ugly people and pretty people its a fact of life some would say thats shallow but its true. The thing is even the ugliest person may be attractive to someone. and as they say beauty is only skin deep. If you live long enough you will be ... (read in full...)
Every time I get too close to someone I lie! I'm horrible. What to do about my online friend?
Q. ok this will be long. And i have to clear this first because it's the main reason of this whole thing: I have problems with lying, since i was a younger, i was under treatment but i stopped going, i was raped when i was 13 and i'm pretty much ash...
A. 24 August 2009: You need to tell her the whole truth and see if she will meet you atleast. You have nothing left to loose at this point just be honest this one time with this one person stop letting your past ruin your future. Tell her everything tell her what you ... (read in full...)
My younger cousin touched me in my sleep, and is now threatening to tell her parents that I made her do it!! Help!
Q. I have a problem I'm 18 and my cousin has a girlfriend she's like 40 and she has a lil girl that's about 10 I think I know them about 2 years now they all ways come over to my house and about a month ago the lil girl (madelin) came over the house ...
A. 24 August 2009: well if this is true I suggest you tell her parents its possible they wont believe you regardless and your just screwed.... (read in full...)
He is always saying other girls are cute and hot!
Q. he says he loves me but he will say that other girls are hot and cute when he posts a picture of someone famous he will say shes cute or hot and he does skype with another girl and and he says that im all he wants but idk it makes me feel bad bout ...
A. 21 August 2009: Then atleast a million girls that are as hot and cute as you, theres probably one that looks just like you.. Look your young your proabably not gonna marry this guy so dont worry about it.If my GF told me Brad pitt was hot i would tell her to go ... (read in full...)
Does looking at porn make me a pervert?
Q. I don't understand it, I use to watch porn every single day 2 hours a day blah blah. After I lost my virginity things changed.. I don't even remember the last time I watched porno besides today o.0 I mean I waited till my bf's roommate went to bed ...
A. 21 August 2009: not unless its kiddy porn or your watching it with a kid unless your a kid but that only applies to the last thing... (read in full...)
Now I'm pregnant my boyfriend has started watching porn, and the worst thing is he lies about it!
Q. whos in the wrong? my boyf and i have been together for a year and a half. before i got pregnant he wouldn't look at porn, now im 9 months pregnant he looks at it all the time.. and i can understand why.. i look terrible. but i have told him wh...
A. 19 August 2009:
There may be no fix for this i would suggest getting off his back about it im not trying to sound as if im siding with him but you cant make him change. you will wear your self out trying and worrying for your babies sake.
You dont look... (read in full...)
My partner keeps having sex with me in my sleep, even if we have had sex before sleeping!
Q. my partner and i have a very active sex life, we have been together 14 years, we still have sex 3-4 times a week, however he goes through phases, of having sex whilst im sleepin, my partner is quite a dominate man, and ive let him be, when i start ...
A. 19 August 2009: Hes a jerk stop sleeping in the same room with him maybe that will send him the message. there have been post like this before its really messed up to do that to a woman.... (read in full...)
Wanted more replies for my previous question ..
Q. I posted a question and saw it on the site this morning. I received one response - which was appreciated, but had hoped for more. Now its late afternoon and my message has already been removed from the August 18 list of messages. I have a code t...
A. 19 August 2009: The questions are back logged they can find it under the topic it was assigned to,.... (read in full...)
I am considering losing my virginity to a prostitute. What do you think?
Q. Should I sleep with a prostitute? Well I’m new to this site and thought it might be able to help me with my problem: you see I’m 23 and still a virgin. The thing is, I don’t mind that so much because I’ve always valued my virginity and se...
A. 19 August 2009: i would say not to get a prostitute because of stdssssssss. Women lie alot so when they tell you about there sexual take it with a grain of salt. as for your problem i think that a psychological issue just because your grl had 100 diffrent guys ... (read in full...)
I lied to him about my age and now he wants to visit me, what should I do?
Q. Okay, so, I was on a chat room one day, bored out of my mind, telling people I was 17 when I actually, I had just turned 14. Well, me and this guy (he was 17) got talking and exchanged emails. We got to know eachother and I guess he started liking ...
A. 19 August 2009: I agree with Phil
If he cares about you at all he will forgive you for lying,, this guy could also be somehting other then he said, tell him he has to meet your parents and that youve told your parents about him coming over see if he will stil... (read in full...)
Is there a way to have soundless Fanny Farts?
Q. So I have been trying to find a solution to avoid Queefs (fanny farts, varts, vaginal air...) I came accross this reply to this topic that suggested "As soon as you're done lie on your back open your legs and press your stomach to the air will nat...
A. 19 August 2009: Really i didnt kno that,
you can try playing loud music... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and pregnant! please help me!
Q. Hi. I am Samantha and im in a terrible situation.... I think I'm pregnant. I'm only 13. I have missed my period for about 2 months, and i am really scared. There are 2 possible fathers to this baby... I have not told either of them... What should I ...
A. 19 August 2009: I'm 13 and pregnant! please help me! thats what the virgin Mary said and she was a virgin imagine how she felt.
Relax whats the worst your parents can do, you live in america so they cant take you out back and stone you.
you need to find out... (read in full...)
I find myself sexually attracted to him! But he's 7 years younger!
Q. I'll try to keep this quick and simple. There's this boy I watched grow up.I'm 7 years his senior. We lived in the same building for a few years. His family and my family are very close. And i dated his older brother a few years back. Now time as ...
A. 19 August 2009: You didnt say his age or yours is he 18 and are you 25,
I would say find out the consent laws in your state,
You shouldnt feel your feelings are wrong but your actions could be, if it breaks the law.... (read in full...)
We haven't had any private moments lately
Q. My girlfriend and I haven't made out in awhile, mostly because pda can get you in decent trouble at school and we havent really had any private moments lately. I thought I'd try something new next time. Any ideas on new or better ways to make out? ...
A. 19 August 2009: LOL a baby.
heres an idea go to the beach late at night dont get int he water cuse there wont be a life gaurd on duty but bring a blanket an ipod something to eat and whatever else come to mind.
chocolate syrup that suff that goes on ice crea... (read in full...)
My husband has not called me after an argument more than a week ago
Q. I left the house after an argument with my husband 10 days ago. He does not have an easy temper. I sent him an email with the demands of no more drinking and a couple others. It has been one and a half week and he has not answered my one email ...
A. 19 August 2009: WHOOOOAAAA wait a min you told him he cant drink whyyyyy?
was it a problem you dint say. was he violent was it affecting his job or did you just not want him to.
I would say apologize and ASK him to return so you guys can talk. ... (read in full...)
How can I handle the financial situation between me and my sister? She owes me money from 3 years ago!
Q. Previously i've asked on advice on a money matter, my sister and her family just recently moved in with us and her husband doesn't respect my parents the kids refuse to do chores and my parents are old and on pension my son and i have always stayed ...
A. 19 August 2009: she owes you the money bottom line but if she doesnt have it she cant pay it. you can sue her all day.
hopefully you have all your docuements in order so the court rules in your favor.
stop letting her borrow money
If she wont teach her... (read in full...)
I won't swallow, so now he doesn't want oral, is this really a big thing for guys?
Q. I am deeply in love with my man, was giving him head until a week ago when he suddenly said you don't have to. I asked him what that meant, he said it is because I won't swallow, Is this a really a deciding factor for men, He loves the way I give ...
A. 19 August 2009: If you truly love someone then you would be willing to make this compromise. Thats the way see love is supposed to be unconditional. Im not saying rob a bank for the guy,but if you cant do this small deed for this man maybe you should evaluate what ... (read in full...)
My mom is trying to guilt me into breaking up with my boyfriend- help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 7 months. We have known each other for four years. We get along well, although we have our ups and downs- as most everyone does. But we have one huge problem with our relationship- my mom. She gets ...
A. 18 August 2009: Dont tell her if you can get away with not telling her.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to tell him of the abuse in my past in case I'll be seen as "too much work"
Q. I have just started seeing a guy that I like so much, but i'm held back by two things. I was sexually abused for years as a kid which made me really shy and scared about sex. My last boyfriend -the first I had truly slept with - complain...
A. 18 August 2009: Why do you want to tell him i dont want to sound harsh but we all have our burdens in life to bear if i break my leg i dont want everyone else to break there ankle.
Does this man really need to kno do you think it will make your relation ship bet... (read in full...)
Should I continue to confide in my sister?
Q. I think my sister has seriously thought about killing my husband. My husband is not a good person, and the more i confide in her, i think it just makes her angerier, and if he was gone it really would be better for me and the children. He isn't ...
A. 18 August 2009: You could get an account and talk to people on cupid, maybe you shouldnt tell your sister to mutch killing your husband will make things worse not better he may not be around but neither will you think of your children.
you need to get your sel... (read in full...)
He's 7 years older, is it worth pursuing?
Q. Let's just get straight to the point here. I'm 15, like to think i'm considerably much more mature than the usual for my age, and I'm in like with a 22 year old. See. I notice this huge age gap here, and I do realize it's stupid to hope/wish/thi...
A. 18 August 2009: I think its kool just use your brain about somethings and you wont have a problem. but would your parents accept this relationship.... (read in full...)
16 and pregnant
Q. I don't know wat 2 do should i tell my mom and dad who do i tell help me...
A. 18 August 2009: Tell your parents you can't hide it for ever, you're young and their support may help you come to the best decision. It's really not a big deal if your family sticks by you and you plan ahead more further ahead at least. may i ask where is t... (read in full...)
What does "I miss you more than you will ever know" mean?
Q. Okay so most of you know my story. I'm female and in love with my best female friend. She knows how I feel about her, you can read my other posts to get the whole story. Anyway I want to know why she would sign off on an email the following way? "I ...
A. 18 August 2009: exactly! she just really cares about you when some one says something like that there feelings go beyond words she has a deep love for you she cant explain. dont over anylyze this.... (read in full...)
Why didn't he kiss me then?
Q. This guy and I have been hanging out a lot and we are always flirting with each other. I am really attracted to him and I think he likes me too but I'm not sure, I know he is a really nice guy and a gentleman. Don't get me wrong, he isn't shy or ...
A. 18 August 2009: he was nervous too probably i think he may be torn he likes the relationship the way it is with out to much sexual things. hes not one to rush. maybe he wanted to be sober or he was so drunk he didnt realise could have been kissing a hot girl. i ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. Should I believe my boyfriend claiming he doesn't watch porn? He claims he hasn't watched porn the entire 3 years we have been together. I do send him nude pictures and videos everyday but I still think he must be tired of looking at the same woman ...
A. 18 August 2009: hes probably watching porn thats what some men and some women do. its not that hes tired of you most people loooove pizza but they dont mind having a hamburger now and then. if its not affecting your relationship besides your constant worry whats ... (read in full...)
Sex is just awful for me! Help!
Q. im 16.. iv been to the docter i have no diseases or infections, me and my boyfriend have had sex over maby 30 times.. pretty much every time we have intercourse it hurts its like a irretated feeling an alittle burning sumtimes it hurts really bad an ...
A. 18 August 2009: you might need more lube try some ky or whatever is on the market theese days. is your bf getting checked for stds aswell You should try diffrent positions and clitoral stimulation if you want to orgasm. ... (read in full...)
I have never actually kissed anybody, but I told her I had! Help!
Q. Hi there heres my situation: i really like this girl and we met through a mate and we have seen each other and like gone to the cinema and that like i think its about 5 times now and we are always texting each other and the other day she said she...
A. 18 August 2009: youll be fine if shes an expert kisser at your ages id be worried. you should be honest before you kiss her shell probably like being your first kiss you never forget your first kiss. if you can kiss you can tell the TRUHT! she wont think your ... (read in full...)
I need help to cast off these feelings I have for my friend's daughter!
Q. I am 35yrs old and I am scared that I am falling in love with my girlfriends 15yr old daughter. I adore her so much and I have no sexual intention towards her at all. I am so confused by these feelings because although it seems so wrong it does not ...
A. 18 August 2009: im sure your going to get a bunch of post telling you your a band man and its wrong and immoral and all this stuff. The Bible says not to lust are you lusting or infatuated i think theres a diffrence. Shes young and innocent (i dont mean sexual... (read in full...)
What is this horrible smelling discharge?
Q. I know it's really gross, but I have really vulgure smelling vaginal discharge. It's horrible, I can smell it all the time and I honestly feel like other people can smell it. I sent of a urine sample to the doctor and it came back with "no further ...
A. 18 August 2009: She never even said she was having sex or had a bf, but i agree with going to the doctor part and dont wear tght underwear... (read in full...)
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