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writes:Why am i so lonely? I mean, I am 14 and I have never been kissed and have only ever had one gf but I dont understand because I think Im a nice guy and im quite sensitive but I just dont know why no one likes me! can u help me please?? Reply to this Question
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reader, the wallflower  +, writes (23 July 2009):
I'm 14 too and I've never had a boyfriend. I only have one really good friend who I met last year at school. She's 14 and single too. (That's a consolation!) There are 2 main beliefs all around the world:1) Some believe that they have to be in it to win it. Therefore they're always looking (rather desperately)for love.2) Others believe that when you stop looking for love, it will find you. I think the second belief is best because it saves you a lot of grief and feelings of helplessness. Yet, sometimes I just can't help being desperate to find love. :)Well, there are many fish in the sea and you'll find your soulmate in time. good luck xxx
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reader, kurtyz +, writes (23 July 2009):
kurtyz is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey i would like to thank all of u but mostly RAINORFIRE,damluvaam[denny] and red green 0289. and i would like to say im sorry because i forgot but i dont like to boast that i am top of all my classes and i read a lot.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (23 July 2009):
Ok, at 14 I'd not kissed a girl and had zero GF's. I was shy and didn't have alot of freinds. My homelife seemed normal from the outside (2 parents, married, Dad was a successful businessman and professional - mom stayed home) on the inside not so good- alcohol and alot a crzy shit. As a result I don't think I had a great personallity. Looking back I've leared that women are attracted to confident men. The guys we all "knew" to be asshole looked "confident" to the women. They loved the attitude...
It took me going to college, getting out of the house - hell, out of TOWN... to meet my first GF, who I dated for 2 years. Today, life is great!
If you're having a hard time meeting folks and making freinds, this is hard, but NOT impossible, to resolve. First, you've got to get out... meet people and learn to mix naturally with folks. Get your confidence up, and with that you'll be SHOCKED how the world will "change" - actually you'll be the one changing...
Here's a thought... when you turn 15, assuming this works in the UK, consider getting a job at an animal hopsital, helping the vet. It could be fun work, and assuming don't live in the country, you'd get to meet people in your area, and pratice relaxing around folks, learning to dialog, make small talk and increase your game. These qualities will make you moer confident and attractive... adding animals into the mix can be a good way to meet girls too!
Finally, be aware that you're at an age where you're going to be feeling fairly weird due to the hormones that are running amuck in your body. We all went through this, but it's crap while your in the mist of it... it will pass, and your attitude will improve - it's hard to know that, no one told me anything, and i just thought I was weird... today I'm watching my nephew go through it and am happy to share my history with him - he's an only kid, and in a 1 parent household... so I do what I can.
Good luck! Trust me when i tell you college will be a blast... do everything you can to get there! It's worth it!
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (23 July 2009):
us girls arent the smartest. we tend to fall for the asshole players. i cant tell you why, thats just what seems to happen.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Girls dont like nice guys they like toughguys and jerks and assholes, The female mind is like a kaleidoscope full of pretty colors but insane They dont even kno what they want, girls wll tell you they want a nice sweet caring aka prince charming type of guy yet everytime a convict excapes hes shaked up with some chick, theres thousands of women who run back to there abusive bf repeatedly till the bf kills them but she loves hm so its ok. The truth is they want the risk taker the robin hood the Genghis Khan they want to take hm home and turn him into the family guy but it rarely works. My advice to you sir is to live your life grow some hair on your chest read a few books in fact alot of books try to become the smartest person n the world the more you know the less you care about being liked a good book can distract you from your loneliness and you may learn some techniques for getting the girl because being lonely sad and desperate only works for babies and puppies.You shouldnt jump to conclusions the only way to kno for a fact if someone doesnt like you is to read there mind.You say youve only been kissed once and your not liked, theres a difference between not being found attractive and not being liked, I just noticed your age should edit my post but i wont any way at your age most of the people your around are confused and have there own issues dont take them seriously. If you want a gf watch and learn go where go girls go learn the game watch how other guys do it i dont mean on tv im talking in the real world, then put your combined knowledge to work start asking girls out not just one all of them start towards the bottom meaning the least attractive but within your standards then work your way up to hottest you get more bees with honey when girls see you with girls they will be more interested n you rather then seeing you alone and sobbing. Play it cool dont sweat theres plenty of fish in the sea dont go trpping over one oyster when theres a clam bed full of pearls ie dont fall n love, good luck have fun and get that first kiss
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reader, Emeline +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Relax, it's just a matter of time. You don't always know when someone likes you or not. People tend to keep crushes a secret. Plus, you're young. Just keep waiting for that special person to come along. It might be toward the end of high school, or very soon.
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