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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Has anyone ever spent New Year's Eve alone?
Q. Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing ...
A. 22 December 2011: I have slept rite through new years woke up writing the wrong date on everything the next day. I think your putting the holidays on to high a pedestal. For me every day is just another day bills get run up expenses have to be paid trades are made ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this awful family secret of his?
Q. my husband recently(10months ago) told me that he and his adopted sister was having sex as kids and well through thier teen years (9-16)??? / My husband was adopted into a home of well over 13kids, three were birth children to the lady that took him ...
A. 22 December 2011: i guess you should do a pro and con list... (read in full...)
I want my husband to dress as a woman permanently, are there any pro's or con's to my plans? Has anyone else pulled this off before?
Q. A few months ago I talked my 25 year old husband into dressing up in my clothes during sex play. He is a small framed somewhat effeminate, 5'8" 145 pound guy. I was very much amazed and turned on by how much he looked like a real female. Here is ...
A. 21 December 2011: I only see cons. But good luck... (read in full...)
I am so in love and really want to start a life with my Bf, but we are still rather young. Am I being irrational? Should I tell him how seriously I feel for him?
Q. In the midst of a joking conversation, my boyfriend (22) and I (21) of six months somehow got on to the subject of children and I joked that because of one of his dorky, but lovely and endearing traits (Star Wars obsession) we shouldnt procreate, ...
A. 21 December 2011: Well the one today can be gone tomorrow sometimes you cant know nothings certain, you just have to take the leap of luck. tell him how you feel and see where it goes. If he feels the same way hell be there in the morning.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this awful family secret of his?
Q. my husband recently(10months ago) told me that he and his adopted sister was having sex as kids and well through thier teen years (9-16)??? / My husband was adopted into a home of well over 13kids, three were birth children to the lady that took him ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think you have to walk away hes not being completely honest with you and hes not over his adopted sister. They where having sex and formed a bond at a young age it didnt just dissapear its still there. and i doubt you can break it.... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you be awkward about this or let it go and forget about it?
Q. My friend has been seriously pissing me off just because someone asked him if he liked me. He just literally ignores me. He said to me a few months ago that the person asked him if he liked me and he got scared if this person told everyone else. ...
A. 21 December 2011: Intersting when i was in highschool one of my freinds asked me if i liked her of course I denied even though i was madly in love with her. I didnt ignore her though i told her i liked her as a friend and we carried on as freinds.... (read in full...)
How do you get a boy's number?
Q. Okay i like this guy right, well we talk but not a lot. i really want to get to know him and get his number but thats just it, i dont know how to get a guys number! can sombody please tell me how to get a boys number? please and thanks...
A. 21 December 2011: you ask him. if he likes you hell give you his number unless he doesnt have a phone.... (read in full...)
Is he insensitive or am I too sensitive?
Q. My fiance says I'm sensitive, but I think he's just mean. I won't get into a whole lot of background. We've been together for 7.5 years now and I just get upset with him too much I feel. He just does things that get under my skin and it really sucks ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think you should either accept this is how he is or leave him. im sure a woman like you wont have any trouble meeting someone new. Did your decision not to go for your PhD have anything to do with is lack of respect and support?... (read in full...)
Should I proceed with the wedding after having been lied to and cheated on?
Q. In 10months time i will be getting married to my 3years boyfriend. Our first year of relationship didnt started out well (it'll be too long for me to tell the reason as theres loads of it) and maybe probably because of his work as well as it ...
A. 21 December 2011: dont marry this man marriage wont change who he is it will just trap you and make you unhappy. you seem like a caring a and sweet woman you deserve better someone who is truthful and appreciates you. If you marry him he will still continue his ways ... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant but he's still planning to go on with our wedding plans!
Q. I having been dating this guy for 3monts and we are planning to get married early next year. Everything has been going well until myboyfriend's ex come saying she is 3months pregnant and if my boyfriend doesnt want to marry her then she can have an ...
A. 21 December 2011: I dont think your moving to fast. If you love him marry him. Love doesn't have time frames. Adam fell in love with Eve on the first day they met.
Im curious what his religion is. Most religions are against abortions but their also against prem... (read in full...)
Is he insensitive or am I too sensitive?
Q. My fiance says I'm sensitive, but I think he's just mean. I won't get into a whole lot of background. We've been together for 7.5 years now and I just get upset with him too much I feel. He just does things that get under my skin and it really sucks ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think he is jealous. Your working on a Ph.D congrats so im sure you have a masters and are highly educated where does he stand. Maybe your smarter more successful and hes lashing out at you out of jealousy.
I dated a girl whose ex was exac... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with what my girlfriend is doing!
Q. I recently found myself being overly obsessed of my girlfriend's doings. She loves me as much as I love her too but I feel like i'm wasting alot of time talking to her over the phone ! I'm trying to stop the habit of calling her all d time ...
A. 21 December 2011: You still have myspace? you need to just make a conscience effort not to go on all those sites an no to call her. delete her number this way you will only talk to her when she calls you.... (read in full...)
How do I get up enough courage to ask this girl out?
Q. How do i get up the courage to ask out a girl Ive never spoken to in real life? Ask her online and just ask her out so we can talk face to face :S please help :/...
A. 21 December 2011: I agree with blucow. Ask her to hang out with you not as a date because that will put unnecessary pressure on the first time meeting.
invite her to the movies or a park i used to like going down the strip and checking out all the unique stores not ... (read in full...)
So I was wondering, when do I say "I love you" to him?
Q. so I was wondering, when do you say I love you? Me and my bf have been together for almost 5 months. I know it's not like super long but it's like since day 1 we have spent everysingle day together, like literally everyday all day. I practically ...
A. 21 December 2011: if you love him tell him you love you never no how long you have so theres no time like the present.... (read in full...)
Should he come over to my sister's place at all, given how awkward his last visit was?
Q. Okay, so I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year and a half now. He's 24 and I'm 21, and we get along really well and are still quite happy with one another. The only problem with him is that he is incredibly socially awkward, and ...
A. 21 December 2011: does your sister know of his condition? I think she will just have to learn to be understanding and accepting of him. So go to the party and bring your man.... (read in full...)
Should I try to date this girl whether I'm ready or not?
Q. Been talking to someone for a few months now online.. Haven't met yet, hopefully after xmas.. We talk almost everyday and have become pretty close as friends.. I like her and I know she likes me(there are signs such as her liking/commenting on som...
A. 21 December 2011: I agree with Heretohelpyou. Hang out be freinds and see where it goes. Dont rush into it. ... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife find her next husband?
Q. I have decided my wife deserves a new husband. I cannot give what she feels will make her happy. She and I have discussed this subject at length and I am simply not the man for the "job". She does not know I have reached this conclusion but I ...
A. 21 December 2011: I think thats interesting. I can understand what your trying to do youve known your wife along time shes an important aspect of your life so naturally you want her to be happy. Actually what your proposing is not all that uncommon I once read about ... (read in full...)
Is sarcasm a bad trait?
Q. Is sarcasm a bad trait to have? Do guys not like sarcasm? Not bad sarcasm just a mild if-you-ask-a-stupid-?-I'll-give-a-sarcastic-answer kind of sarcasm. Im just wondering because thts a really big trait of mine .. :P...
A. 21 December 2011: Well what determines a stupid question? Obviously the person asking it doesnt think its a stupid question. Sarcasm to me is a lack of respect,especially sarcastic answers.
When I ask a question I want an answer not a slap in the face or to be mock... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't care anymore!
Q. I feel like my husband just doesnt care anymore. He never discusses any problems we are having but will always complian about my son. We havent had sex in over two months and the last time it took alot of convincing on my part. He sleeps all the ...
A. 21 December 2011: Interesting well i doubt he would get much money for any of those vehicles he needs the van for work and i suppose the pickup for other traveling needs The antique truck and motorcycle may cover a month or two of mortgage payments then what.
he s... (read in full...)
Why do girls only want to be friends?
Q. Why do girls only want to be friends. im tried of being led on by them and it sucks. i want a girl that will like me for a long time someone that will care about me.please help...
A. 21 December 2011: females like to keep there options open. every girl you like has a dozen other guys that like her too. Just freinds can mean alot of things.
It could mean shes not attracted to you but doesn't want to hurt your feelings It could mean shes afra... (read in full...)
Should he come over to my sister's place at all, given how awkward his last visit was?
Q. Okay, so I've been dating a wonderful man for almost a year and a half now. He's 24 and I'm 21, and we get along really well and are still quite happy with one another. The only problem with him is that he is incredibly socially awkward, and ...
A. 21 December 2011: Your sister needs to get over her self who the heck is she the queen of sheeba... If this guy makes you happy she should be happy for you and accept him he doesnt have to be perfect or live up to her standards.
Aslong as he is respectful towa... (read in full...)
Why cant my ex just forgive me for cheating on him? I regret my actions yet he's stubborn as hell
Q. I know it's long, hope someone wants to read it though.. I really want to get back with my ex boyfriend who I had 5 years ago (at this time i was 15 and he was 19). He was my first love and I was his, we had a wonderful relationship and...
A. 21 December 2011: I think youve done everything you can its been five years if he hasnt gotten over it he probably wont. You made a choice to cheat on him. Choices have consequences.
I think you tried your best its time to move on if hes going to hold this agai... (read in full...)
I don't know how much longer I can continue before I give up on this relationship....
Q. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. Our first year was great but since then things have seemed to turn bad. He has problems with his finances and ex and maintenance, he had to move away to another job to be able toe earn enough, ...
A. 20 December 2011: if your not married split and call it a day. Your partner isnt ready for a relationship he has to be able to take care of himself first ... (read in full...)
Does he like me?
Q. So there's this boy that I really like, but I'm receiving mixed signals from him, I'd appreciate your opinion on if it seems like he likes me too! I have been friends with this guy for a few years, we have always been reasonably close (because of ...
A. 20 December 2011: ask him then you will know... (read in full...)
My birthday call from my ex. What's his reason?
Q. Right, well... yeah it's my birthday today. Hmmm won't mention my age coz I feel so old... :/ Anyway, about quarter to midnight my ex just called me. Just so everyone knows, me and my ex are good friends and we try to stay in contact even aft...
A. 20 December 2011: hes playing some silly games no one can possibly no what he means just ask him your 21 time to be an adult... (read in full...)
I read my wife's journal and now I am tormented by it
Q. I have been with my wife for 9 years, married for 6. I was a virgin when we met. She told me she had been with three men. Considering her great beauty and how many men were after her I didn't think that was so bad, especially because she is three...
A. 20 December 2011: You opened pandoras box well in this case the box pandora keeps hidden in closets. The truth shall set you free thats what they say anyway and at this point thats the only thing that can help the situation.
What exactly do yo want to talk to her ... (read in full...)
I am no longer religious, but the girl I am interested in, is. Is this a bad road to go down?
Q. For 4 years, I attended a small private Christian college and in my last year, ironically enough, I slowly became an atheist. Well fast forward 8 months after graduation and I'm just working day to day and seeing friends on the weekends. Most ...
A. 20 December 2011: I have some theories on this. It could be Gods way of calling you back to the flock . It could be the Enemy trying to snatch one from the flock and lastly its my understanding that a true christian will have discernment.
If your not talking ... (read in full...)
I have trouble choosing the right guy for me...please help!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 years now. I use to be really happy with him but I don't know if I love him anymore. We never do anything together except sit around and home , and we have completely separate social lives. He is an amazing ...
A. 20 December 2011: I agree with Aliyah end it with your BF the ships been listing for 3 years now its sunk. but dont jump back into another relation ship off the bat especially with a guy you dont find attractive. Slow down take your time you never no whoes behind ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my parents will throw my 24 year old boyfriend in jail!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now despite some pretty tough odds. He is 24 and i am 17. We kept it a secret for a long time but eventually my parent found out and were furious. They wouldnt even take the time to get to know him ...
A. 20 December 2011: parents arent perfect they make mistakes they pass unfair judgments and rules. But aslong as they support you you have to live by those rules.
My question is are you allowed to date ate all? If your allowed to date im not sure what your pare... (read in full...)
Finding that special someone at 17 but I can't
Q. Hey what's up you awesome guys, and ladies. I hope you people are having a good break from the holidays. Anyway, let's get into the topic. PLEASE NOTE: ONLY Matured People / Experience People answer this. Boy Or Girl. Also, I'm 17, my birthday was ...
A. 20 December 2011: When I was your age I was running a business making thousands of dollars US a week. I was never very good with the ladies and had my own sort of learning disabilities, with women not being a distraction I was able to fully focus my talents in other ... (read in full...)
Is this the way that guys joke around?
Q. Hi My bf of two years often talks about how cute his coworkers are and how could he like to spend time with them. Whenver i call, he says if he knows that i am gonna call then he would hv switched off his mobile. If i ask why he is doing this, h...
A. 20 December 2011: If you you dont like it and it makes you uncomfortable he should stop. I had a Gf i did that to all the time didnt really like her that much and was actually hoping she would get pissed and break up with me she didnt though. But she told me she ... (read in full...)
How do I spot a player? I think I may be dating one. Please Help.
Q. Question for the players and former players out there: Why did you do it? And would you tell a girl that you wanted something serious to continue to string her along? And what about when you were caught? Did you fess up and walk away ? Or deny ...
A. 20 December 2011: interesting how all the answers are from females so far. To be honest I hate the term player I guess because Im a logistican i might have made this up) at heart. I like to break things down into their most logical simplest form. In the movie Lio... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for being mad?
Q. To start off, one night my two good friends and I were hanging out. I have a really good friend who i haven't seen in a while that came over and she brought her friend, we'll call him Wes. We all started hanging out every weekend for a long time ...
A. 20 December 2011: Your angry hopefully not mad. I dont think its wrong of you, Emotions have a way of getting the best of us. But now you need to take control. You dont like Wes so there's no loss there. You told him you just wanted to be freinds he probably asked ... (read in full...)
What does this dream mean?
Q. Ok last night I dreamt a girl I used to like was acting like she liked me. By this I mean she kissed me on the cheek and she was really flirty we've never spoken but we both know who each other are. Could anyone tell me what this means or could m...
A. 20 December 2011: Its just wishful thinking, its a dream. Just ask her out she can only say no or yes save your self the trouble. of wondering.... (read in full...)
He is off work for the holidays and starts drinking at 11am! Should I accept this or confront him?
Q. My partner and I have been living together for 6 months. He is on holiday at the moment but I am still working. He starts drinking at 11 am since on holiday, keeps going till 9 pm. When he's working he will only have a glass or 2 of wine in the e...
A. 20 December 2011: If hes drinking up all his money and leaving you to foot the rest of the house hold bills thats a problem. I know folks who drink from sun up till sundown But they still have money for their responsibilities. Its probably not good that he drinks so ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my ex, how do I go about this?
Q. I need some advice. I am 21 and my now ex boyfriend is 24. He has graduated and I have another 6 months. My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me over the weekend. It wasn't too much of a shock, as it was something I had considered myself. His ...
A. 20 December 2011: Well I know exactly where your coming from. I suggest backing off a bit just tell him you would like to be freinds. His studies and his work are his priorities rite now and nothing you do will change that. Try to reamain freinds and stay in his ... (read in full...)
My wife's sister openly flirts with me and "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties!
Q. Do many young girls flirt (and more) with older men? My wife's younger sister has openly flirted with me many times and touches me and last summer she "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties. Ever since I married her sist...
A. 20 December 2011: Tell her to cut it out or you will tell your wife. ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to repair our arrangement or end it?
Q. I got i txt msg from a guy friend i had sex with about 2 months ago just once but i got msg today saying 'i dont know how this is going 2 work, when am free your always busy and when your free am busy' what does he want? is it just the sex or does ...
A. 11 December 2011: sounds like he might just be frustrated and is trying to not let it get to him.. if your interested ask him what would be a good time for him... and accommodate him. of course at some point he should accommodate you as well.
but you shouldnt keep... (read in full...)
Should I leave the door open for my ex?
Q. I'm a 28 y/o m and have a question concerning a past relationship. Im single, never married no kids which is ironic given thats one of the greatest gifts god could bless me with currently. My previous relationship ended 6 months ago, we were ...
A. 11 December 2011: I Think this is one of the best post ive ever read on here. Its a good one because i think alot of people find themselves in this situation...where someone they love just confuses the heck out of them Well this is a tough one youve known this wom... (read in full...)
I push away the guys I'm interested in.
Q. Hi, I'm 15, never had a boyfriend (and believe me, in my school and in this day and age, its a big deal) or even been kissed. Not trying to be conceited, but I'm fairly nice, smart, funny, and i've been called pretty and cute before by a lot of ...
A. 11 December 2011: awww this just reminded me there where no girls in my school.. well i had forgotten about that.. it wasnt much of a school though but a place of higher learning well say any whoo, I say if you like someone go for it embarrassment is temporary ... (read in full...)
Am I too optimistic about rekindling a relationship with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. I feel like I either have the opportunity of a lifetime or am just fooling myself, for the second time, by being too idealistic. Here's the situation: Two months ago, my boyfriend dumped me. His reasons were that he wanted more sex than time an...
A. 11 December 2011: haha wilt chamberlain... who ever he is any whoo.. Part of me wants to say fight for your man... but only a small part like the tip of my pinky. The whole rest of me says screw this guy he dumped you because he wasnt getting enough sex.. I say bull. ... (read in full...)
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