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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Why won't my girlfriend touch me?
Q. My girlfriend will not touch me. We've been together almost seven months and I'm depressed every day. We recently started being more sexual, and I touch/please her, but all I get in return is making out. I don't think this is fair, but I don't want ...
A. 1 August 2010: shes lying about something maybe she doesnt like but stays with you cuse she doesnt want to hurt you... stop doing all the stuff you do for her... shell get the hint... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 31 July 2010: hmmm i think women just have more problems... women think more.. most of the problems women have and ask adivce on a man wouldnt ask or need advice for... like how to choose between two women a man will just choose both. I dont think men pretend ... (read in full...)
Do you think this makes me a bad person?
Q. Ohkay,Ive just gotton back from my best friends house and The last time I was there, I had gone half way with her cousin which is 16, Im 13 and yea,half way means he went in me half way and thats all.. I know I made a mistake and Im sorry..DOnt we ...
A. 27 July 2010: If he went in you thats all the way.. this seems to have you worked up quite a bit but dont fret you seem like an average teen not a Bad person,,, bad people hurt others have you hurt any one... ok so you told your mom one thing and did something ... (read in full...)
Bipolar nice guy looking for love. How much bad luck can a person take?
Q. At this point, I don't know what to do anymore. A bit of background: I'm a 22 year old virgin, a nerd in many areas, afflicted with Bipolar Disorder, have had nothing but failed relationships, and a "Nice Guy". So you can kind of see what my pers...
A. 27 July 2010: Maybe you talk to mutch... you seem like the type of guy that talks alot.. when your on a date dont talk just listen if you get to the awkward silence moment say something that will get her talking about herself... women love to yap it shouldnt be ... (read in full...)
We used to have 2-3 X a day and now hardly ever!
Q. Hey i really need some help, me and my boyfriend have been going for about a year and a half, its was fantastic for about 7-8 months thn we started argueing alot. we had the most amazing sex life we did it about 2 3 times a day and it was amazing...
A. 26 July 2010: sounds like your moving into phase two always say relationships are like shoes when you first get them you take care of them tend them wash them take care of them.. take them out to all your favorite places and show them off wear them every day.... ... (read in full...)
He has trouble having sex! Should I give up on the relationship?
Q. We been dating 5 months, he is only 25. He feels like having sex every day or every other day is too much for him. He has been losing his erection lately and has admitted to me his body can only do it 1/2 times a week. His last relationships were ...
A. 26 July 2010: HOld up whattt... wow its obvious your young and at this stage in life sex is the big to do...
"he said about wanting our relationship to be more about us then just about sex and of course I had no ideal what he was going on about and couldn't... (read in full...)
My marriage and my husband are boring me to pieces, what can I do, give up??
Q. My God. The boredom I am feeling these days is unrelenting. Well - I have been married to my husband for 2.5 years and we dated for 10 months before that. We were BEST OF FRIENDS and we got along famously. I've had better bedbuddies - but I ...
A. 26 July 2010: I dont think you should marry someone that you cant tell them there not good in bed... but i guess most men wouldnt take that to well... but you should be able to tell your husband.. atleast this way he can work on things..
it really sounds l... (read in full...)
What does a women look for in a man?
Q. What is one of the first things or characteristics a women sees when looking at a man for the first time(potential boyfriend)?...
A. 26 July 2010: Im all those nice things.... This questions for the ladies but would i be wrong if i said it depends on the woman and her mood at the time... Ive met women that liked really skinny stick and bone guys and other women like large round men. Some women ... (read in full...)
Can men stay without having sex with their wives for 3 to 4 weeks?
Q. can you please tell me can men stay for a long time i mean like 3 or 4 weeks without having sex with his wife? is this true can man stay without touching his wife for more than 3 weeks as my husband never keep attention on me why is that? is that ...
A. 26 July 2010: Hes probably busy and stressed,, maybe you should initiate something the man gets tired of doing all the work... (read in full...)
I'm worried about being clumsy in sex, having had only one partner before her.
Q. I'm starting to date a girl who I have been friends with for a while. I seem to click with her well and we have no problem talking to each and have good fun together. However I'm nearly 26, I have only slept with one girl when I was 20 and sex tbh ...
A. 26 July 2010: Just make sure you leave the lights pour her some wine if shes a little tipsy your clumsyness wont matter.. but really i think you should be up front with her so she wont expect to much... (read in full...)
Can women determine genital size just by looking at a guy??
Q. Can women tell if you are well endowed just by looking at you or a part of you? Or what are some things women look at on a guy to try and guess what size a guy is?...
A. 26 July 2010: NO..... lol thats like asking can you tell anything about a women just by looking at her... (read in full...)
All I want is to meet somebody! Will I be alone forever?
Q. I'm 30 years old and a single father. I've been single for four years now. I'm not good looking - some might say I'm ugly and although I'm not fat I don't have a great body. My ex cheated on me then walked out on me and my kids for another man. ...
A. 26 July 2010: Try praying God brngs the right people in your life if you ask. Trolling dating sites and bars and clubs probably wont get you far... you said your unattractive try changing that... plastic sugery gym whatever it takes.. women do it.. but i really ... (read in full...)
I need Edward...for now
Q. Hello, My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she co...
A. 26 July 2010: Whats wrong with twilght... (read in full...)
I'm big but can't get anything!
Q. Im a 20 year old guy, who has just never been lucky in the dating department. I dont know why, Im not overly attractive but Im not ugly either. And its not like Im not gifted down stairs either. Most girls would love an 8 inch long penis thats 6 ...
A. 25 July 2010: well 20 is a difficult age not quite grown but not a kid.. girls your age probably want older guys. not a immature 20 yr old with nothing to offer.. im not saying your immature or have nothing to offer but a female will see it that way.. my best ... (read in full...)
He cums too quickly, I think...
Q. Ok, so i've been hanging out with this guy (we're both 22yrs old) and i'm still a "technical" virgin... Ive given a blow job before but only 2x previously, and that was back when i was 18 anyways my question is, i only jerked him off, and he came...
A. 25 July 2010: Well technically the faster the better from a biological standpoint while ten second man will be with ten diffrent mates and then on to the next while mr all niter is stuck with the first and when the vikings come chop down his door he wont even be ... (read in full...)
How do you date in this crazy world?
Q. How do you actually date in this crazy world, when guys act so alloof and indifferent that all they want is a quick sex(my experience). I was in 7 year relationship, that ended. It was mutual, as we became so indifferent to each other that it ma...
A. 25 July 2010: If they dont call they didnt like you found some one else had some one allready or didnt think you liked them...To get honest ive asked for plenty of numbers and never call no particular reason... guess your mood changes from the time you ask and a ... (read in full...)
I need Edward...for now
Q. Hello, My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she co...
A. 25 July 2010: Wow.. some People have Jesus or Buddha, you have edward.. hey i say whatever works for you hopefully edward wont tell you to do anything crazy..or run of with Bella.. other then that it sounds like a good deal. ... (read in full...)
Everyone is rude to me!
Q. I live in the Greensboro/High Point area of North Carolina, and I've gotten to the point where I can't stand it. People here are obscenely rude to me on a regular basis, and I don't tolerate it. It happens to me several times a day! For exampl...
A. 25 July 2010: Why did you almost get arrested ... you should have stood your ground... if they charged you $20 and you only got $10 worth of gas screw that... you should have explained to the cop honestly if where you i would get a lawyer and sue.... your 26-29 ... (read in full...)
Moving out of mom's house
Q. I am 24 and looking to move out from Mum's home. We have been having regular arguments and I think it's time for me to move on and be happy. Trouble is, I am working full time as a sales assistant for a small company and therefore have little money. ...
A. 22 July 2010: look online for apartements and rent you can afford... and also look for your own car you can buy a used car to get from point A to B for not mutch just dont get rpped off.. the frst step is moving out .. start packing your stuff... so you dont have ... (read in full...)
Lied to a woman about my age. - 16 dating a 24 year old.
Q. I feel like an idiot. I'm 16 years old and I'm dating someone who's 24. Though, when we met.. I lied about my age and said I was 20. She believes it too because I look and sound 20. We haven't been going out very long, a month at the mos...
A. 22 July 2010: wow you havnt even met her... well a 24 yr old will not want to date a 16 yr old... why cant you pull it off you dont look 20.... well i would say not to tell let her figure it out your happy shes happy the buble will burst on its own eventually ... (read in full...)
I want to change I want to be more social and I want a boyfriend, but I don't know how?
Q. [Mod Note* OP the title you suggested was already taken]ok so i'm a junior in high school and I have never been kissed. it pisses me off. people will tell me i'm beautiful all the time and I have just recently started to love myself and believe it. ...
A. 22 July 2010: just stop thinking so hard... the next boy you see and like go ask hm out... as for how you dress just be appropriate... and be you... life is not as complicated as people make it... (read in full...)
My step daughter hates me and is now trying to turn my son against me
Q. I got married about 11 years ago to the woman of my dreams. In this dream was a 6 day old little girl whom I raised for 8 years. I loved this little girl like she was my own and to this day and she still doesn't know that she's not mine. Over the ...
A. 22 July 2010: I think you should fight for your maraqge and your kds and the girl needs to kno the truth... (read in full...)
Why do people make it like having sex before marriage is so bad?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend of 6 months for the first time 4 days ago. I was virgin. It just kind of happened, with out any planning like I had always wanted. I am 16 I must add. At first I thought I will probably regret this, because people make it ...
A. 22 July 2010: this has lots of answers...
It could be for religious or cultural reasons or even evolutionary... humans seem hard wired to feel virginity especially female virginity is of great importance.. Many people have a hard time dealing with their part... (read in full...)
My family is blackmailing me because they found out I'm dating my cousin!
Q. Ok, so i've been dating my cousin for about almost 7 years an we've managed to keep it a secret until recently. My sister and my brother found out and they been blackmailing me so they won't tell my family. I can't be around him or go out with him ...
A. 22 July 2010: tell everyone and get it over with who are these people to judge you...there not so perfect themselves and the secrets they have let them loose and yours will seem like nothing...so tell them then there can be kno more black mailing relationships ... (read in full...)
Why do men leave pregnant women?
Q. (disregard my age please, i am 21 and the guy is 26) this happened to me with a guy i dated for 2 and a half years and when i got pregnant he said he didnt love me anymore. i'm 7 months pregnant now. he changed his phone number, won't answer ema...
A. 22 July 2010: He bwants the baby hmmm... stop trying to figure out the why... if you want the baby to be born healthy you need to stop stressing.. also dont blame all men for the act of one...you may never know why this guy left accept that.. its time to move on ... (read in full...)
To all the cheaters and heartbreakers out there; start being sincere and stop being deceptive because time waits for no-one!
Q. This is for most men,especially the cheaters and the heart breakers. Women are supposed to be loved not abused or get their heart broken. Men were made in the image of God and to hear how some men treat their wives,girlfriends,significant other or ...
A. 22 July 2010: All sins are equal only the consequences vary... murder fornication and stealing are all the same to God man makes one sin carry more weight then others... Man writes his own laws.. for instance having sex is not illegal... but stealing is... but ... (read in full...)
How can I stop watching hogtied porn?
Q. Hi guys i feel so ashamed of myself, is beacuse i always watch porn and i mean not any. i like to watch bondage and hogtied which it makes me feel like doing it and i like to see the girls going through the pain. how can i stop watching hogtied...
A. 22 July 2010: HMMMM oh put a censor thingy on your computer so you cant go to porn sites... porn is bad and evil... (read in full...)
Should I forgive or not?
Q. K well my girlfriend is out of town for training for her work for 2 weeks. When the weekend came I asked her not to drink and she did I got mad and we faught. She previously mention that everyone else she was with would go to the strip club. So...
A. 22 July 2010: Your mad because your GF went to a strip club and got groped by another girl... and your not mad that you weren't there.... and that you missed the coolest thing that you could have ever seen besides the raisng of the titanic...
my opinion ... (read in full...)
He's not interested so how can I forget him?
Q. I like this boy in my school he is in the same year as me. I told him i like him and he said that why cant we be friends. we dont know eachother much and he is making me crazy!!!!!!! he never talks to himself i know that he is not interested but i ...
A. 22 July 2010: He doesnt like you accept it and move move on it happens... its life..... (read in full...)
Any reason I'm not getting asked out?
Q. Hey there, I'm a little confused right now about myself. I'm going into ninth grade and I've only been asked out once!! I've been called hot and stuff numerous times, but no one has really ever asked me out. Is there something wrong with me? I don't ...
A. 22 July 2010: AWWW... Hey theres nothing wrong with you.. wait check and make sure you dont have a tail... if no tail proceed to check for fur or horns... ok if none of that your perfectly normal probably...
You havnt gotten asked out because 1 your eit... (read in full...)
Can I live up to all the hype and expectations?
Q. This is a very "loaded" question, so if you're in a hurry then I suggest you skip this... answer 1 of the "concerns" or all of them... give you're opinion on the whole matter... or if you had any stories/experiences like/similar to this?... etc any ...
A. 22 July 2010: I think your taking this to far... you have an internet crush.... you gotta let it go... before you get hurt... It seems youve fallen hard... let say this guy is really Rico suave and your Precious.... hes from brazil.... guys are visual ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a spy or something?! Lol.
Q. I don't understand my boyfriend of one year. What's going on?! My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, it's been great...until recently. We've been living together for six months, we have a great sex life, do a lot of acti...
A. 22 July 2010: stop worrying ikno its hard.... but STOP worry will kill you... secondly stop responding... when he text you just say see you when you get back..., stop bugging him about when hes getting back... realize your just a gf not a wife you really dont ... (read in full...)
He didn't call to give me closure on our relationship...
Q. Today is a month from the day my bf stopped talking to me. He hung up promising to call after a trivial dispute that happens between any two. from that day till today he did not call. I tried to call him, he never answered and when I sent him an SMS ...
A. 22 July 2010: wow.... you might be able to sue him actually for mental anguish and some other things... thats probably what i would do if you can get a case against him and its probably possible... then he will get a supeana however its spelled... ive had this ... (read in full...)
What do you think guys... Is it over???
Q. need some advice! i've been seeing angie, exclusively for 8 months, she is on a rebound from a previous ex, last friday we were having some drinks on her porch. this man from the neighborhood showed up, we are both 40, this guy is 27. well she ...
A. 22 July 2010: your a grown ass man call her normally i would say dont but screw it your past the game stage this woman is to grown to be playng stupid games too.. call her and find out whats going on... and if she doesnt answer your call give her a day to respond ... (read in full...)
Marriage doomed...because of one sentence
Q. i think i should be worried. What do you think. Brief history when my wife and i first slept together it was magical. We had strong feelings and were best friends...then her family got a hold of her and we were forced apart for almost two months. ...
A. 22 July 2010: Shes playing games with you... she could have been drunk when you called... maybe some females can give you better advice but my advice dont play her stupid game get a lawyer and get a divorce give her what she wants... women these days actually ... (read in full...)
How can I let him have my son when he follows a totally different routine?
Q. I am at my wits end with my ex-boyfriend. We have a 3 month old son but we split up when i was pregnant. I live alone with our son and he lives with his parents. He pays me maintenance each month and we both do our best to raise him. The thing is, ...
A. 22 July 2010: The kids three months what kind of routine does he need all he does s cry eat sleep and crap... you just seem disgruntled your lucky the guy even comes to pick up the kid it doesnt seem worth t to have to hear your mouth everytime... BUT i agree he ... (read in full...)
How can I emotionally distance myself from him?
Q. About a year and a half ago I started talking to someone online, and she quickly became my best friend and for about a year now, we have been roommates. The problem is that even before we moved in together, I have been in love with her. She k...
A. 22 July 2010: Man you use hes for shes and hims for hers a whole lot i hope she isnt a hypothetical he... she said your like a brother because she has a close bond with you closer then just friends... she probably loves you in some way just doesnt wasnt to say it ... (read in full...)
Breakup over bad past... please help!
Q. Please help... I am 20 years old and I'm in this fantastic relationship. It's been 10 months... I have a rather "dirty" past, I wanted to have fun and did and he feels so threatened by my past that once every 2 or 3 months he brings it up. He says ...
A. 22 July 2010: WOW!... lol yeah past bother some people so deeply,,, This guy probably will not be able to get over this wth out profesional help and even then he wont be able to get over this more then likely hes a weak minded individual... I suggest breaking up ... (read in full...)
What am I to think? Am I being used here?
Q. I have been seeing/dating this woman (in her early 20's)for a while. She says she doesn't want a relationship. I try and try again to win her over by being there for her and supporting her when she needs me. I really like her a lot. We go out on ...
A. 22 July 2010: Are you sleeping with her.? It sounds like shes stringng you along hoping to find somethng better but just n case she doesnt she has you as her plan B.. My suggestion move on... you might be able to work out a friends with benefits deal.. but if ... (read in full...)
I feel less of a man for my experimenting. How can I move forward?
Q. I'm a 25 year old male who experimented with another male a couple of days ago and did not like it. he gave me a bj that was wierd, I then let him give me anal I hated it. That lasted for all of like 2 minutes. I just feel like less of a man for ...
A. 22 July 2010: Wow hmm You kno the Bible says something like that s supposed to happen if to men.. go there your supposed to be repulsed by it or something and feel less manly.. im not making it up... well if you believe in God ask for forgiveness and move on... ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and paranoid about certain things people say to me...
Q. hi im 15 and ive been picked on most of my childhood and it realy effects my mind when people call me gay and i know im straight but when im in bed i am paranoid about what people say about me nd i dnt act feminine or anything, i only masturbate to ...
A. 22 July 2010: people tease you because your an easy target not because what they say is true.. to be honest theres usually only one way to stop teasing.. personally if some kid called me gay i would kick their ass,,, in HS i didnt get teased mutch because kids ... (read in full...)
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