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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I would LOVE to go out with her but she only likes me as a friend...
Q. help! i have a total crush on a girl but she doesnt like me like me she likes me as friend but thats it. i love her so much and i just wondered if anyone had any tips for me not to be big headed or anthing but im quite attractive and most people ...
A. 11 December 2009: LOVE thats a big word man to big to be throwing around all willy-Nilly and its your problem, i dont think you no what love means i dont even believe in love but basically you want this girl because people want what they cant have. Theres good news ... (read in full...)
They just sit and talk about people all the time!!!
Q. I'm 15 and at my age in my school people talk about people and i hate being talked about and i never speak up or anything in class because i don't wanna be talked about or at the centre of attention so i avoid participating in class and going to ...
A. 11 December 2009: you gotta get used to it man thats life its not gonna change even after highschool people talk about people look at all the magazines and talk shows people are mean you gotta be strong if your smart thats great get good grades go to a good college ... (read in full...)
Is it at all possible to be attractive and just slightly "curvy?"
Q. I am a slightly overweight 20-year old female and I feel that my weight really affects how men view me. I feel that I'm really ready to be in a relationship, but it seems that absolutely no one is interested. I feel even more discouraged when I go ...
A. 11 December 2009: IM a guy and I admit that i find skinny women more attractive then large ones in fact i think most of my friends agree on that too and seemingly most men. theres something about being lean.I once read that it means the women is healthier overall and ... (read in full...)
I just can't stop texting him!
Q. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago and I still can't seem to stop messaging him and texting him... he always blows me off and says he's busy and can't talk etc... I can't blame him for not really wanting to talk to me but I can't seem to stop ...
A. 10 December 2009: delete his number... (read in full...)
I hate my life
Q. pleasee hellppppppp me..im an 18 year old male that hates his life and everything in it..i think i am veryy uglyy. fat people tell me im ugly all the time and when they do it brakes my heart because i should be used to it by now. i was always t...
A. 10 December 2009: beat the crap out of the next person that calls you ugly thats wha t would have done to the frst person but thats just me. other then that stop all your cryn you should be thankfull you could have been born a starvn somalian you could have been ... (read in full...)
I feel envious at people who have slept with much younger girls...
Q. Ok, This is how it is. I'm 17 years old and I've seen many people around my age have sex. I'm still a virgin and I really feel envy at people who can have sex with those young girls [15 or 16 years old girls] I seem to be a really horrible person ...
A. 10 December 2009: Im confused about something do you want a young girl or a virgin to sleep with? Any way it shouldnt matter theres more important things to be thnking about sex leads to all knds of problems its better to be a virgin then to have an std or to get a ... (read in full...)
I feel so down all the time, life doesn't seem fair
Q. iam so sad wateva i do i feel like is againt me. i try hard to do my uni reports and i always get grades i dont deserve, however my best who dnt try hard she always get better marks then me cuz i feel like she gets my idea. especially when i help. ...
A. 8 December 2009: Maybe you should get an account on here and help people out.Other then that i think i kno what you mean some people seem to have it easy in life like they came from the womb of Lady Luck, lol but hey this may be the only life you have your only ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about having a baby, but I know I'm not ready.
Q. I'm always thinking, "What if I get pregnant?" and my answer in my head is, no matter what i'd keep the baby since me and my boyfriend both talk about it all the time, we cant wait until we're older to have kids. i never had a good mother, she was ...
A. 21 November 2009: It sounds like you want a baby so you can give your baby the mother you didnt have but your not ready because you said you arent ready in about 15 years when you have a husband a car a stable job and your own house then you can consider having a ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like to smell a girl's hair!?
Q. I'm 16 and i was wondering why guys smell girls' hair. I was hanging with one of my guy friends and we hugged and he picked me up and i could tell he smelled my hair. i heard it means the guy likes you. is it true? ...
A. 21 November 2009: he probably likes you if a guy doesnt like a girl he probably wouldnt be tempted to smell her hair in the first place.... (read in full...)
What was this thing I found in my panties?
Q. im 17 years old now... but a few years ago when i was about 14 on holiday i woke up and had this thing i cant explain in my knickers, it was kind of big, it looked a bit like a fetus, but the thing is i was a virgin at the time so i dont understand ...
A. 18 November 2009: maybe it was a fetus its pretty weird you should have taken a picture. Im curious why you think it was a fetus. strange things happen in this world scientist still cant figure out how the pyramids where built and what they are for,but the Bible ... (read in full...)
Is it your opinion that this could be rape?
Q. Ok i know sum one that is 13 and she has a boyfriend that is 18 and they been going out for a while and she lost her virginity too him and they both wanted it and some of her friends says thats rape i don't think its rape if the too people that is ...
A. 19 September 2009: The guy is young At 18 theres alot of things you dont think about, I dont kno this guy i wouldnt call him a creep i just see a young guy thats not thinking. 18 is a wierd age they say your an adult you can go to the army but you cant have a beer or ... (read in full...)
Should I trust that he really will quit smoking weed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years. I just found out last week he has been smoking weed about once/week on and off for the past year and 1/2. Long story short, he told me all about it, and after a lot of crying I gave him the ...
A. 19 September 2009: WEEEEELLLL ok so after four years now you want him to stop smoking weed,you didnt even kno about it before and it wasnt a problem so why is it a problem now your BF has no balls plain and simple cuse theres no way a man is gonna let a chick give him ... (read in full...)
Its hard to keep a positive attitude in life
Q. I expected more out of life... every time i get my hopes up and i have this positive outlook on life i get disappointed every situation i get into just tears my optimism down one more layer. hopefully i won't get down to nothing. slowly day ...
A. 19 September 2009: I have to agree with you, though im not sure what your question is. Sometimes it seems like some people get all the luck some become rock stars some become accountants. It is what it is where not all destined to live an amazing life,if we have made ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old and I've never been on a date...can someone give me advice?
Q. Ok. I'm 20 years, and I never have been on a date. Not even just for hanging out. My whole life I have been a nerd and I often was not seen as very attractive by most people growing up. I didn't date in high school cause all the girls seemed ...
A. 19 September 2009: I think you should take things slow since you havnt had much interaction with women you should start by becoming friends with some but dont become to friendly with girls your interested in or they will see you as just a friend. Go to parties or cl... (read in full...)
Pregnant, cheated on b/f and now not sure who is the father
Q. Hi , im a pregnant teen and like most teen moms out there , i have many problems with my boyfriend. The main problem is , we dont know for sure if he's the father. I admit i cheated on him and i own up to what i did , but we both find it hard to ...
A. 14 September 2009: You need to get a paternity test you can get one before the baby is born once you kno who the father is just move on from there but every choice has a consequence you made your choice so be prepared for your consequences. Im sure you will manage ... (read in full...)
Why is it the woman who has to initiate the communication?
Q. Hi Why is it in relationships....99% of the times, it is the woman who has to inititate the communication. It is said that men are different from women..they are not as emotional and don't spend half the amount of time as we wommen do, dwellin...
A. 14 September 2009: Men have been trained by women we kno that begging crying and calling doesnt bring them back,usually, Just about every guy has been in that situation should i cal should i wait till she calls. the guy usually waits because the girl usually ... (read in full...)
I start twitching when my boyfriend fingers me - what is this?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and I'm a girl. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we dont have sex but I give him oral sex and hand jobs and he has tried oral sex on me and fingers me. We dont really have a lot of time alone because our parents are ...
A. 14 September 2009: YEah its normal just muscle spasms If you ever dropped some candy on a group of ants and seen how crazy they get well thats basically what happens your clit is a major nerve center a central hub probably only your brain has more nerves, the nerves ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've looked through her emails and know of her plans?
Q. I found e mails between my wife and an old boyfriend in which there have been statements of deep love back and forth and in which my wife says to him that he was her first and only love at first sight and they have indicated they plan to meet in the ...
A. 14 September 2009: no!!! dont confront her get more gory details let them meet get a whole bunch of stuff on her. You may want a divorce after this things will go in your favor if you have alot of proof. your wife may even try to kill you so just go along with ... (read in full...)
Help! I can't help crying about my relationship's messy situation and I have no idea what to do!
Q. Dear Cupid, Mine is not the most conventional sort of everyday relationship issues u deal with everyday but I really need your help as am going mad here. I started seeing this guy back in April this year, at first when he asked me out, I turned h...
A. 12 September 2009: ahhh sigh look your driving your self nuts while this guy is livin la vida loca with this other women you new this guy was bad news when you got with him but girls love bad guys, and women are so emotional the should make an ex bf patch like the ... (read in full...)
Is he shy? Not into me? Unsure?
Q. I've 'dated' guys who want to get physical too soon and most often when I say no they just disappear on me. It hurts at the time but I get over it and realize they weren't worth much in the end anyway. Right now I've been on four dates with a guy...
A. 12 September 2009: - is this guy not sure if he can make a move because I'm not giving him signals, or - is he just naturally shy and/or inexperienced, or Its probably a combination of those two, if he wasnt into you he wouldnt let you drag him around like thi... (read in full...)
I can't find someone to be with!
Q. This is really starting to become upsetting to me. I'm almost 19. Ive dated two people. neither for more then a month, but yeah, it's really starting to upset me that I can't find someone to actually be with. I'm not ugly (people always tell me ...
A. 12 September 2009: Your young into college and your age is a crazy time in life you wont meet many guys very mature and on your level yet.If your really into a relationship a serious one i suggest looking toward some older guys say about fve years older. If you fe... (read in full...)
Tired of being the good girl all the time!
Q. Life is to short to have to worry about if and when the right man would come along. I am a single mother of a daughter that is seventeen. I have always tried to do what was best for her. I never brought her around to many men that I have dated. She ...
A. 12 September 2009: your daughter will be out of the picture soon, so you will be free to persue a relationship without it affecting her. "I just need to know what to do to find that special person so that I can be happy." Thats a qestion kno one can answer, you say ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wasnt paying me any attention when we had a threesome but now I think I want to try another one!
Q. so I'm bisexual female and Ive had the same boyfriend for over a year now. a threesome came up in our conversation about four months ago and we'd thought it be fun to try it with one of my friends thats a girl whos also a bisexual, we asked and she ...
A. 11 September 2009: threesomes are usually a bad idea but look your young and probably not going to marry this guy. Every girl i kno regreted the threesome, mostly cause girls young ones especially are jealous emotional immature creatures.
look you cant tell your guy... (read in full...)
I cant move on because I see her every day!
Q. hey guys.. hope u guys can help me out. let me tell u whats the problem.. its something like a love triangle. i moved to this school since 4 years ago. i met this girl. she was a chinese.her name is mary. on the very first day of school i and h...
A. 11 September 2009: I like this post, Are Indians considered black and Chinese white?, just wondering. well kid hers your problem you made the classic mistake of wearing your heart on your sleeve, and becoming this girls friend. If you poured your heart out to her... (read in full...)
This relationship is really promising but I don't want to be a mom to her 6 year old son!
Q. I am openly, and proudly, bisexual, and I make no apologies for that. I have recently started to become involved with a woman, which is nothing unusual for me. What IS unusual, however, is that she has a kid, a 6 year-old son. The father is still ...
A. 11 September 2009: you cant make it work she has a son you dont want to be involved with. this womans child is her first responsibility you come second. I believe in hetero sexual relationships because there's a natural hierarchy its man woman then child, in a fema... (read in full...)
Is it unusual not to have your father give you away at your wedding and have your brother do it instead?
Q. I'm getting married soon (yay!) and I'm worried about that tradition where the father of the bride gives her away. You see, my dad was never around...I think I've met him on 3 or 4 occasions and never had more than a superficial conversation with ...
A. 11 September 2009: It wouldnt be weird your brother has apparently been the main man in your life if hes older probably the father figure when you where growing up , I think your brother should be the one to do it.
your father made his decision to abandon you he h... (read in full...)
Do I turn my back on my sons or raise yet another child?
Q. My 19 year old son just told me that his girlfriend of one year is 4 and 1/2 months pregnant. Her parents have made it clear to her that if she keeps the baby that she can not stay with them. Right now, my husband and I are raising our 2 sons, and ...
A. 11 September 2009: why does your son have custody where is the childs mother is she paying child support.
You need to light a fire under your sons ass and your husbands too what the hell is your husband doing that your son is still breathing to be this irrespon... (read in full...)
I've been too shy to say I like her, so now I think she thinks I'm a weird! Please advise..!
Q. There is this girl in two of my classes and I think I'm in love with her. The first couple of days that schools started she would say hi to me, when ever she saw me looking at her she would smile, but I just didn't have the guts to talk to her. Now ...
A. 11 September 2009: well if you stare at her "all the time" you are a creep.
your not in love stop thinking you are.
would you feel the same way if this girl tell you she is a cannibal. no youd run for the hills.
You are attracted to this girl not love or eve... (read in full...)
Is this a sign of the end of us? Or are my own problems to blame?
Q. how do you know when a relationship has run its course?? me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 3 yrs, its our first proper relationship and i always thought of us as a strong couple. weve had our ups and downs, weve been through alo...
A. 11 September 2009: ending your relationship wont help things much you'll probably be depressed and put on more weight.Your bfs joking is his way of dealing with the stress of the situation.
Your weight gain seems to be an issue for your guy,but hes does not seem... (read in full...)
She's willing to do sexual things, but won't say that she loves me?
Q. !girls please help!!!well im 14 and very nervous because the other day i had the love of my life come over to hang out. and we were laying under the stars and she seemed very happy. so i was happy and i told her i loved her and she said for me 2 ...
A. 11 September 2009: Your girl may express her love differently then you she may not fully understand what love is at her age but she appreciates your love for her and wants to sho you some people say it some people sho love by what they do some people sho love by ... (read in full...)
Why am I single? Can anyone shed some light on this?
Q. Hard to say this. I broke up with my ex in Feb 2005. Yes that long ago! I have been single pretty much since then, no significant relationship since. I moved location mid-2007 (but a non-English speaking country). When I go out with my frie...
A. 11 September 2009: WELL ill do one better then cross my fingers ll pray for you God provides for us all, ask and you shall receive.... (read in full...)
I feel like a complete loser!
Q. im so low in energy, shy in crowds, dumb, nothing ever goes rite with me...i jus hardly talk to any1...or wen i do, they just think i trash man ...im not of their level..get it....rite so i still do try my best to move on u know...been to many ...
A. 11 September 2009: HMM Get a hobby.. I dont like going out unless its for business. In other words I dont do anythng im not going get paid for exept maybe going to church. I ll go to a club if I own it or am the bouncer or the Dj other then that I have about a million ... (read in full...)
When is sex just sex?
Q. when is sex just sex for you,dear men (not talking about one night stands and casual hook-ups with women you don't really care about) and when do you know skip over that hill and make love to your partner? How does your behavior in bed change, ...
A. 8 September 2009: hmm sex is fun its just adding another notch to your totem pole THeres a song about that its first verse is "I wish i could F*** every girl in the world" its played quite frequently on the radio in the states. The other song is called sucesful the ... (read in full...)
What did I do to make this guy back away? Everything seemed so perfect!
Q. I was in a bad car wreck in April i had just broke up with my ex boyfriend about three weeks later. The relationship i was in before was horrible very abusive. I almost died thats how bad the wreck was. Once i was able to see my friends, i met ...
A. 8 September 2009: guy point of view he probably just had a change of heart not regarding his feelings for you but 25 is kinda young to settle down. You should just back off atleast he helped you through those hard times.... (read in full...)
Adults: Were you really in love as a teenager?
Q. I am fifteen years old and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for ten months. We have been in a long distant relationship for seven out of those ten months. Sometimes I feel like I love him so much it's unbearable, and I miss him s...
A. 8 September 2009: GO to school and live your life i dont believe in love its just a bunch of chemicals in your brain but i believe in having an education and getting a good job and getting paid.
the difference between love as an adult is adults have the life exp... (read in full...)
Is 8 years too big an age gap?
Q. Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...
A. 8 September 2009: wow that was the best advice ever on this topic congrats Kc 100 and Twocents, very good advice. I totally agree. Let this girl go, find a woman you can have a future with shes just having a crush it'll fade im 99% sure this girl is not considering ... (read in full...)
I'm so guilty that I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago, I slept with a male friend while my husband was out of town visiting relatives. It only happened, once, i swear, and I did not intend for it to happen. I didn't set out looking to cheat, it's something that just happened. We'd had a ...
A. 8 September 2009: THeres a song about this its by p diddy and mario winans its entitled I DONT WANT TO KNO.
I dont want to kno if your playing me keep it on the lo. first verse.
dont tell him why shatter his fantasy life over one screw up. If my girl told me that... (read in full...)
I feel really ugly and can't make my boyfriend understand
Q. Ok, I apologise beforehand because I truly need to rant, I've been having an awful week regarding this problem! I hate it when people say to ugly people "just accept yourself, love yourself... if you don't feel it, just fake confidence!". IT...
A. 8 September 2009: well beauty is only temporary none of those girls will be so hot in 40 years. Realationships are about more then just how good you look there's gotta be more to it, I have seen gorgeous women with not so attractive men and vice versa. If you feel ... (read in full...)
Why am I single? Can anyone shed some light on this?
Q. Hard to say this. I broke up with my ex in Feb 2005. Yes that long ago! I have been single pretty much since then, no significant relationship since. I moved location mid-2007 (but a non-English speaking country). When I go out with my frie...
A. 8 September 2009: you seem like a fairly attractive and successful woman, many guys can be intimidated by that, men are brought up to be the providers, if they meet a woman that has everything for ex a bigger house then them a nicer car and a larger salary, the man ... (read in full...)
I am 18, she is 13, can we get engaged?
Q. i like a girl in Mansfield but she love me will it be ok to get engaged to her, they are 13 years and i am 18 years old ? ...
A. 7 September 2009: Im late on this but wow, my suggestion talk to the girls parents if they dont have a problem with you being with this girl then go for it but i honestly thnk you two will grow apart in time she will be going to HS surrounded by hundreds of young ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I love each other, but my family won't let us be together. Help!
Q. i love my cousin; but i have a boyfriend. ma cousin lives with me and my family. my love for him grows every day. i have so much love for him that i dont even know if i love for my boyfriend. i no that my cousin loves me back cause he tells me ...
A. 7 September 2009: love is love adams chick came from his own rib a cousin isnt a big deal. If you like this guy go for it where will your parents be 40 yrs from now when your shacked up with some guy you hat planning your third divorce parents dont no everythng they ... (read in full...)
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