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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Brother and sister playing footsie..too close?
Q. I had a concern and maybe it is not. We were watching a movie yesterday and my fiance was sitting with his sister on the coach. It just was alittle wierd for me they were all bunched up together and were playing footsies but it looked weird and I ...
A. 12 January 2010: lol this is great ... (read in full...)
Crush Verses Obsession
Q. What is the difference between a crush and an obsession. When do you cross that line between having a crush on someone to having an obsession with someone?...
A. 12 January 2010: Thats a good question and some good answers.... (read in full...)
PLEASE! I need an outsider's perspective about this relationship.
Q. I had a bf almost a year ago whom I had broken up with because I found out he was cheating on me. This had hurt me so severely I was depressed for months, had nightmares and developed a phobia on certain things and places. For some reason, my ...
A. 12 January 2010: wow ummm stick to your resolution this guy has nothing good for you, You will regret it if you get back with him. The only way i would suggest staying with him is if he ask to marry you and actually comes up with a ring. on some level i think he may ... (read in full...)
I don't like being a virgin, I hate it in fact...
Q. I just turned 22, and yes, am still a virgin and it gets me incredibley depressed, i haven't had many relationships either, and those few that i have had were... stressful, due to that type of woman that either i attract or the type that i seem to ...
A. 12 January 2010: funny I bet half those other guys are lying like you are. Any way i dont see whats the big deal you will get bored with sex after awhile and even when you have a gf you will spend all your free time watching porn and playing video games.
I don... (read in full...)
I smell trouble from my mum's boyfriend!
Q. My mother's boyfriend came back to live with us after a couple years (yes, years) of taking care of his sick mother. Today, my mother had already left for work, and it was just me and him in the house. He came down for breakfast and sat uncomfor...
A. 12 January 2010: I doubt your mom will believe you it seems shes made up her mind on the issue, even if she beleieves you she wont admit it to herself, a parent should always believe there chils untill there given a reason not to.
I would set up a camera in the k... (read in full...)
I hate my parents...help!
Q. I hate my parents, i get chewed out over anything. Even stuff they have done. They have taught me its not okay to love anyone and that no matter how nice I am I am being rude or a nuisance....
A. 11 January 2010: well move out see if you can find a job and get emancipated, parents arent perfect some are good some are okay and some suck your old enough to stand on your own and not have to put up with mistreatement if thats how they feel about you leave when ... (read in full...)
Our first attempt at sex didn't go well. Was it something I did?
Q. Last night i attempted to have sex with a guy i really like, he was hard at first and then he was only semi-hard, so we couldnt do anything. Then to top it off my friend almost walked in on us and he said "Well that just ruined it all together" and ...
A. 11 January 2010: well if you dont kno what you did no one else could know we wherent there it would have been even more awkward oh im so funny, any who look it was your first time it got a little bungled your guy is probably bashing his head on a wall feeling like ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of his hurtful remarks and lack of remorse!
Q. I have a boyfriend of two years who seems not to trust me.He claims it's because of my past with him,which was when we were dating. When he is upset he makes hurtful remarks and does not apologise after we've reconciled. I do everything there is to ...
A. 11 January 2010: Nice flag swazliland eh well i like it, any way as for your qestion why are you still with this pile of gazelle dung, pack your stuff and leave hes a jerk not worth your time your love or anything you have to offer, you may never find another guy ... (read in full...)
I made out with my teacher ... where do I go from here?
Q. i have been attracted to my science teacher for three years now, but never thought he was interested in me; we've always been close, but only in a friendly way. recently, though, we started texting and it escalated into him telling me how he truely ...
A. 11 January 2010: WOW! ok this is interesting, well first the age diffrence is to mutch he cant even keep his wife happy how long do you think it will work out with you. this guy is an idiot, your almost 18 so legaly he could probably get away with it but oh what ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how upset I am about the comment he made?
Q. When i was talking to my boyfriend about us having sex ONE DAY not anytime soon..and he brought up the fact he wanted it to be the most special thing for me and i couldnt say the same since he is not a virgin...i hurts i know i have talked about ...
A. 11 January 2010: well you can tell him if you want just because hes not a virgin doesnt mean it wont be special for him his first time could have been horrible, lol it couldnt have been so good obviously hes not still with her.
LOOK im a guy i cant tell you the ... (read in full...)
Why does he get so mad when he lies and hurts my feelings?
Q. I know my boyfriend asked this girl I know to send him a naked picture of herself to him. I know because I saw it on his phone when I looked through it. I also saw that when she tried to hang out with him, he turned her down and said they shouldn't ...
A. 11 January 2010: aww well you have the A playboy not a bad boy lol this is actually quite interesting, look i thnk your bf loves having you around but hes so comfortable and familiar with women hes way above graveling if you leave lol hes got the game on lock look ... (read in full...)
Unnaceptable relationship.
Q. just wanted to ask for some thoughts from all over the world. thanks for those who clicked in and willing to spend their time on reading my post and help me. i just broke up with a girl 5 months ago. her reason was, she wants a normal life/rela...
A. 11 January 2010: God gave us free will with out that gift we really wouldn't be alive more like an ant that mindlessly carries out its orders barely aware of anything running on instinct from birth. Just about every person will or has experienced what your going ... (read in full...)
I had an affair while he was in prison. Should I tell him I'm pregnant or have an abortion?
Q. Hello im a 27 yr old female with no kids and have been trying for the past 3 years to consieve with my boyfriend soon to b husband.he gotten in some trouble and had to go to prison at which time i had a lil affair. Now im pregnant and dnt kno if i ...
A. 11 January 2010: Im not a fan of lying or abortion, i would suggest come clean tell him the truth if he doesnt stand by you still then hes not the one, if your gonna be with this guy and he cant get by something like this your future with him will be bleak.
your ... (read in full...)
Was my mom right to give my cat away?
Q. hey i`ve been really upset as today my mum told me that she had to give my cat poppy away i really loved this cat but my mum has a massive fear of birds and poppy brought them in every few days i walked in my room and i saw poppys cat hairs...
A. 11 January 2010: wow thats horrible i would suggest not talking to your mom for a year, well thats what i would do, she was def wrong parents are so stupid sometimes, well guess you have to forgive her well actually i wouldnt spend the effort forgiving that one, ... (read in full...)
Why did he invite his ex to the funeral?
Q. I have just found out that prior to marrying me, my husband who i had been dating for about four monthes asked his ex girlfriend (the mother of his only child who is ten years old) to go to his mums funeral. He emailed her solely and told her first ...
A. 11 January 2010: Older sister has a point thats what i was gonna say... (read in full...)
I'm not educated about sex. Can someone clue me in?
Q. im not very sexually educated but odnt wanna ask paretns or friends.... i have a few questions what does ejaculate mean how do you masterbate what does a blow job feel like for a girl how to give a guy a blow job what are some good ways to ...
A. 11 January 2010: wow satin well everyone elses job here is done, But the last qestion can be a tricky one wwjs?... (read in full...)
Guys: any help for a damsel in distress?
Q. Hello all. Damsel in distress moment here - would love your guys advice/opinions! My boyfriend of 20 months yesterday suddenly decided he didn't want to be with me any more. The reasons he stated were because I'm too insecure and demandi...
A. 11 January 2010: Well you where in a relationship for along time it sounds like he cares about you and wants to make sure your doing allrte i would suggest telling him your a big care and you can manage he doesnt need to keep checking up on you. You can still be ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him out even though he likes another girl?
Q. So, I like this guy and he likes a girl that's in our bio class. We hang out. Until, our friends threw us into a greenhouse together and he was forced to ask me out, but he didn't he pounded the door until a teacher came to let us out. And we didn't ...
A. 11 January 2010: ask him and get it over with... (read in full...)
I want to get a guy and have my first kiss!
Q. I feel like i will never get a first kiss. I want to find out how to get a guy. i mean i just want like a person who i will always feel safe with. im 14 and still havent hooked up with anyone which is pretty pathetic. please don't tell me im too ...
A. 10 January 2010: wow you seem like you kno what you want and i agree, because im sure you have heard it all before you just want to kno how to get a bf. well im a guy so i think i can help, But first let me say your not pathetic this no specific age to start dating ... (read in full...)
He's growing more and more violent but I'm afraid to leave because it will hurt him
Q. im 16 and my bf is 21. we`ve been dating for 3 months. every time we have sex he likes to do it rough and cause me pain. he says its "kinky". he will choke me and bite me and pull my hard and smack me and bite my lips so hard that theyll bleed. ...
A. 10 January 2010: you need to talk to him about it hes abusing you, dont worry about hurting him hes a man he should be able to handle the truth if he cant then you dont need to be with him your the one that is getting hurt... (read in full...)
Is it really love or just a crush?
Q. I'm 14, gay, and a freshman in highschool. I like a 17 year old junior. He (of course) is straight. Yup, I'm officially living the stereotype, unrequited love that can never work out. But I want to know, is it really love or just a crush that'll ...
A. 8 January 2010: Just say no im pretty sure only bad things will come from you telling him how you feel being a teenage dude is hard enough then to find out your dude friend really wants to be your boyfriend trust me it will be all bad. besides have you really ... (read in full...)
Was I the bad guy?
Q. i broke up with my ex because he made me feel like every girl was better than me and i was never enough for him.he left me in clubs and would disappear then come back to me, if i disappeared would demand to know where i was. he didn't like me with ...
A. 8 January 2010: i dont even need to read this whole thing if its this long that tells me enough your not the bad one you made the rite decision now go back to the club as a single girl at pick a better guy this time.... (read in full...)
He says he wont do it again, but then he does ..........
Q. I'm so mad right now i really need some advice! Yesterday i went to my friend's house to watch a movie and talk. Before, I called my bf to let him know where i was going and that i wasn't going to be home, so he should call me on the cell phone l...
A. 8 January 2010: I wasnt gonna answer this post because i didnt really have any advice on the situation besides dump the jerk but it seems something reaks oh its tainted advice.
its wrong to generalize and say this bf is acting like a 13 yr old, any body can act ... (read in full...)
Unnaceptable relationship.
Q. just wanted to ask for some thoughts from all over the world. thanks for those who clicked in and willing to spend their time on reading my post and help me. i just broke up with a girl 5 months ago. her reason was, she wants a normal life/rela...
A. 8 January 2010: Cheer up be thankful for the good things you have respect your friends wishes and do you truly believe you could have a happy life with her you need to understand where shes coming from maybe its good for the both of you, time will help you you wont ... (read in full...)
Marine guy has my number but he hasn't called!
Q. Hi there, On Tuesday I was with my cousin and friend having a couple drink at this restaurant. A group of 6 guys come in and sit on 3 tables behind me. One of the guys that came in was really cute and I liked him. My cousin was sitting in ...
A. 8 January 2010: well im proud of you its not often women take this kind of thye usually wait for the guy to do all the work, any ways i would suggest not waiting there may be a ton of reasons why this guy wont contact you there could be some rule or regulation ... (read in full...)
My partner is verbally abusive and my daughters are disrespectful! Am I being too soft?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've posted here before and found the advice really helpful. I'm in a distressing stressful family situation. My partner of 6 years is verbally abusive and my two daughters (19 and 22) constantly disregard my rules. My ...
A. 8 January 2010: well at your daughters age they really shouldnt have bed times you dont work so why does it matter if you go to bed at a certain time, as for cleaning her room well i dont see whats the big deal if her room is junky she has to sleep in there and if ... (read in full...)
Embarrising question most likely for females to answer!
Q. Ok this is a very embarrasing question to ask, but I told my boyfriend that I had to clean the drain in my shower because it was clogged. And he asked if I shaved my crotch and I told him no i haven't. Reason is because I was taught to wait till I'm ...
A. 8 January 2010: your not supposed to people shave it cause they want to, kno one can see it but you. if you want to shave do it but theres no rule for it ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a stripper any more
Q. When I was 18, I went to jail for getting an ex beat up after he beat me up.. I put myself in a large debt with lawyers, fines, etc... I became a stripper and paid off my debts. After my parole ended I moved out to oklahoma to get away for while.. I ...
A. 7 January 2010: You say God is not all its going to take well surely if God can provide for the smallest insect he can for you ... (read in full...)
My girl said she hates me... but does she mean it?
Q. I'm currently going through a break up with my girl. She ended it and said some things to me that didnt make sense. i tried reasoning and asked for the truth with no reply. i love her so much and after 6 days of no contact i seen her. She's changed ...
A. 7 January 2010: lol why is this funny, dude let her go theres tons of other girls out there., ok honestly this is what i would do i would go find her ask her why shes being a bitch and tell her your not taking no for an answer basically you want closure, But it ... (read in full...)
Does my fiancee have a say about my decision to send my children on a summer trip?
Q. I am a 50 year old WIDOWER with two children - an 18 year old and a 16 year old. I just engaged my girlfriend who is 44 and has an 18 year old. We live in our house - they live in theirs. We plan to marry late 2010, after her 18 year old goes off ...
A. 7 January 2010: shes got a point your marrying the broad for petes sake you could tell her your sending the kids away to Transylvania, maybe she is close to your chilldren and needs to prepare her self emotionaly for their absence.
Dont make a big deal of this ... (read in full...)
Sign over your rights!
Q. I am 4 weeks pregnant. I discoved this on New Years Eve. When I told my then boyfriend he was very excited. I havent heard from him in 4 days. He wont answer my calls, he took me off his FB (how childish is that?). I texed him and asked him to just ...
A. 7 January 2010: dont signh over your rights get child support. chilldren at that age dont care if dady is around or not if you dont make a big deal the kid wont ... (read in full...)
Been dumped by my first boyfriend and my best friend in 2 days. HELP!
Q. Hi. I'll try and keep this as simple as I can. I am 16 years old and recently was dumped by my boyfriend of 9 months 3 days ago. He said he felt that our relationship had "run it's course". He hurt me a lot, but we eventually decided to just be good ...
A. 7 January 2010: shit happens, he probably likes this girl and hes a guy if he could he would have both of you hell if he had any game he would have both of you but hes just a boy hes got potential, oh wait im supposed to be helping you sorry,
well im gonna try ... (read in full...)
Friends... in love!
Q. I'm 14, turning 15 in March who is seeing a 19 year old turning 20 this July. Me and him have known each other since 7\18\09 and since then we been so hooked on each other. I'm seeing him but really we aren't dating we're just friends, we do kiss, ...
A. 7 January 2010: Its a relation ship theres diffrent types but anytime you have an investment with some one your in a relation ship theres family friend business and romantic relation ships.
YOur 14 anything you do at this age will ultimately fall on your parents ... (read in full...)
How can I help him try to get a better job?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a few months but have known each other for years, he works a job making pay that isnt that great and his hours have been cut... he's been looking for another job but "says there's nothing he likes" i pay for ...
A. 7 January 2010: honestly he sounds like a bum people dont work because they like it they do it to make money theres jobs people choose because its better then others but hell i dont care what job you have if you win the lottery you will quit, buy a yacht and sail ... (read in full...)
I need to get out and grow up... help!
Q. Hi there. I'm an 18 year old girl, but feel like a bit of a child. My friend and I still play with barbie toys. Do you think this is really bad? If so, what could we do instead. Also, I've never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. I feel like ive mi...
A. 7 January 2010: You missed out on alot lol, ok I kno plenty of 18 yr old girls heres what you missed out on so far,
Being pregnant, Having a jerk for a BF, getting a DUI, having a hangover, getting raped, crying for days from a broken heart, running up credit c... (read in full...)
Messed up joke
Q. i'm affectionate with all of my close guy buds and even other teachers and some others who are way older than me. but this situation has somehow gotten out of hand. it all started as an inside joke between the two of us. i was kidding around w...
A. 7 January 2010: hmmm interesting, well this mr game is a married man a very weak and stupid man. This is not a joke this s life your life mr games life his wife and childrens lives the reason life isnt a joke or a game is because theres no start overs no contnues ... (read in full...)
Woes with men...
Q. It is a very unfortunate situation so I could use some help. I am 5'9", considerably humourous, intelligent, and a supposedly extremely attractive female, to which I have been offered a modeling contract with a popular clothing chain. Now I have a...
A. 7 January 2010: Good advice satin,
To the poster well if your as hot as you say guys will assume your a stuck up spoiled rotten rich girl born with a silver spoon or you allready have a bf witch in a way you do, you may be broke up but your mind is still on that... (read in full...)
Help needed, please! How to approach a girl to ask her out?
Q. In August of 2009, I met this girl. I quickly began to like her. Every time we saw each other (once every 2 weeks on average) I started to like her more and more. I would really like to ask her out sometime soon but I don't know how to approach...
A. 7 January 2010: You could just ask if her if she wants to have lunch one day.
ok ok look she either will say yes or no so stop pussyfooting around and just ask her, your gonna 1 get rejected or 2 get a gf. Youll never kno if you dont ask. Ask her if shes sing... (read in full...)
How to Say "NO!!" to Depression?
Q. ok here's the deal.. I want to have a better social life and a group of friends that I can confide in and stuff like that. I've been dealing with depression for a number of years and to me life just kept getting worse... I made a resolution to look ...
A. 7 January 2010: WHy do you want friends, just a thought, your rite the older you get the harder it is to make friends but making genuine friends is hard anyway.
Kids make friends in school and you can make friends in college and then theres work the three pl... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he doesn't want another child! How can I make this work?
Q. Ok. My son's father and I got together fall 2006. I knew he had a daughter and they had a good father-daughter relationship. I got pregnant soon after we begin dating. My son is 2 now. His daughter is 11. I don't really care for his daughter because ...
A. 7 January 2010: You sound jealous, Of course he likes his eleven yr old more hes known her for eleven yrs, of course he buys her more stuff she wants more stuff what do 2 yr olds want food and their diaper changed.
he should go half on the baby, and the other ba... (read in full...)
Should I deal with my abusive stepdad or leave home?
Q. Last night, while I was sitting on the couch with my mom and step dad, my step dad and i started arguing mildly. He started to raise his voice, and I asked him to stop, but he didn't, and kept raising his voice even more. He was really getting on my ...
A. 7 January 2010: I think you deserved it, why where you arguing with him, do you pay the bills. You challenged somebody in their house thats bigger and stronger then you that makes alot of sense.
Its time to move ok thats it your not even this guys kid. Your at ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a stripper any more
Q. When I was 18, I went to jail for getting an ex beat up after he beat me up.. I put myself in a large debt with lawyers, fines, etc... I became a stripper and paid off my debts. After my parole ended I moved out to oklahoma to get away for while.. I ...
A. 7 January 2010: You need to look into finnacial aid and see what kind of scholarships and money you can get for school, you ever think about joining the millitary. It would get you out of your parents house plus you need to clean up your record, even with a degree ... (read in full...)
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